Looking for attention or playing hard to get?

[HughJasolphd]

I'm often in & out of the hospital due to my lung condition & know many of the nurses who have taken care of me over the years. A few years back I even had sex with one while she was on shift at night ( dated a brief period shortly after that encounter).
I met this new nurse a few months back & didn't really go after her because I was super sick during the admission, but a few weeks ago I was admitted for a routine lung clean out (IV antibiotics for two weeks) & she had me as a patient one night. After the first admission we followed eachother on Instagram but never really talked. This night though she seemed far more interested in me &I even made a comment about how much she loved my Instagram page (I post mostly gym pics, shirtless pics & stuff relating to helping other patients with cystic fibrosis). She was very locked in wit the eye contact & would play with her hair & laugh at a lot of the stuff I said. I'm not the best at reading signs, but I took this as slight interest & that I should flirt with her.
Anytime she came to my room I would talk to her & ask her about stuff she's into.. When she talked about my arms p, I told her to flex &I felt her arms & she laughed (didn't pull away). She also mentioned she didn't have any pets, so when I said that I have five dogs she lit up & said she'd like to meet them. I told her when I get out of the hospital that we should get together for some food, maybe go to the gym ( she commented on my body & said she needed a workout partner) & meet the dogs. She seemed receptive & said to message her on Instagram & we will make plans.
I figured cool, maybe this can turn into someone to mess around with since I don't want a relationship at the moment.
Thre after I was discharged from the hospital I messaged her on Instagram & initiated a conversation. She had gone to a Dolphins game that day & I asked if she had more fun at the game or flexing for me & giving me medicine; she mentioned she had fun but also had fun talking to me, but made a point to say that she laughs at everything. Soon after the messages started getting vague & distant. When I asked what her schedule was like, it took her well over 24hrs to respond, yet she was still posting **** on her Instagram. I never like her pics, but I did notice that tidbit of info. When she did respond, she said she was busy all weekend for a friends birthday & would be getting trashed drunk with her friends until she had to go back to work. Didn't say anything regarding going out another time.
I waited a full day to respond (had other **** going on anyway & hung with friends) & said its all good & I made other plans to do something anyway, so maybe we go hang another time. She waits another full day to reply & says "have fun!" With smile emojis.

At this point Im thinking its a dead end & she's just an attention *****. I say this too because when I took long times to reply, she would go & like pictures of mine..maybe trying to get my attention.

How would you go about this? Is it a dead end, or is there something I'm missing here. I know genuine attraction can't be negotiated, so if it's a dead thing I have no problem just cutting off the little contact I have with her. I would like to have sex with her, & I'm pretty confident I could get a good response from her if we were to hangout- I'm just not sure if all she is looking for is an ego boost.

 

[HughJasolphd]

Hard to get doesn't exist in 2018.

same premise as "if she likes you, she'll find anyway to **** you" ?

 

[HughJasolphd]

Yes this is usually the case.

Every time a woman didn't seem very excited it turned out to be low or mid-level interest without a real chance of winning her over.

Too bad, because while I definitely don't like the chase I do like the slow moving so that you can feel each other out more clear-headed.

So it's probably in my best interest to just stop messaging back & forth with her? Last thing I'm trying to be is a text buddy. I know she knows I'm attracted to her, but I'm not the type to persist & become a niusance with the thought that more contact will change her mind. I'm not trying to win her over, I know deep down I have more to value than she thinks that I do.

 

[The Duke]

So it's probably in my best interest to just stop messaging back & forth with her? Last thing I'm trying to be is a text buddy. I know she knows I'm attracted to her, but I'm not the type to persist & become a niusance with the thought that more contact will change her mind. I'm not trying to win her over, I know deep down I have more to value than she thinks that I do.

She is just out for attention......hamster wheel for a brain. It doesn't mean you couldn't fuhk her, but its too much work and the reward isn't there. I'd throw a hail mary pass at her. Tell her covertly what you want.

 

[HughJasolphd]

She is just out for attention......hamster wheel for a brain. It doesn't mean you couldn't fuhk her, but its too much work and the reward isn't there. I'd throw a hail mary pass at her. Tell her covertly what you want.

When she responds to my last msg (again taking well over a day) I'm just gonna sit on it for a few days to a week, see if she starts trying to get my attention other ways (she likes my pics, I never like hers)
I definitely won't put any extra effort towards her unless she initiates it. I think all it'll take is for me to post a photo doing something fun, or out with a girl & she will feel some kind of way that I didn't invite her. I'm trying to talk to other chicks anyway, so it's not like I am losing anything other than a headache here...but I'd be lying if I said I didnt wanna smash just to prove a point.

 

[Glassguy]

Just hit the ball back over the net and walk away while leaving her the opportunity to respond.

"If you want to hang out and grab a drink let me know your availability. Got to run for now. Take care"

If she doesnt respond (as in respond to getting together) stop stuffing her full of attention. Most chicks who really dont want to go out will still be hesitant to turning off the faucet that is supplying the free attention. Its your job as a man to shut that thing off dry if she doesnt make it easy to meet up with her.

 

[marmel75]

When she responds to my last msg (again taking well over a day) I'm just gonna sit on it for a few days to a week, see if she starts trying to get my attention other ways (she likes my pics, I never like hers)
I definitely won't put any extra effort towards her unless she initiates it. I think all it'll take is for me to post a photo doing something fun, or out with a girl & she will feel some kind of way that I didn't invite her. I'm trying to talk to other chicks anyway, so it's not like I am losing anything other than a headache here...but I'd be lying if I said I didnt wanna smash just to prove a point.

Just invite her ovee to meet the dogs and try and bang her. If she doesn't go for it them just drop it. No need to invest anything in this chick at this point.

 

[HughJasolphd]

well it turns out my lungs flared up again & I ended up in the hospital again. I got here yesterday & ofcourse I end up in the same unit as the nurse I was trying to hook up with but figured she wasn't worth pursuing after the last messages I got from you guys here. She was my nurse last night & seemed happy to see me (but I know she's working & has to play nice) she mentioned thst we were just talking & here I am back here again. I've matched her text patterns & rarely reply if she gives **** short answers, which is exactly how her last message went..so I guess she noticed I left her on read by not responding lol.
Since I'll be here for some time for my antibiotics she mentioned she'll be here on X mas & New Years, so I said "good, you can make out with me when the ball drops" like super casually & she started laughing & said she liked my effort. I'm not expecting Jack Sh*t out of this interaction, but I figure if she'll be here while I'm here, she can be useful for some practice with flirting & talking. I've basically thrown out the idea of pursuing her to hangout unless she initiates it because once I make one offer & its curved I generally will chalk it up as a sign to move on to the next. I'm not out to change her mind, I know genuine attraction can't be negotiated..but there must be some ways to push a little & see if she gives any resistance. Anything you guys can think of?

 

[jaymbrs]

Thre after I was discharged from the hospital I messaged her on Instagram & initiated a conversation. She had gone to a Dolphins game that day & I asked if she had more fun at the game or flexing for me & giving me medicine; she mentioned she had fun but also had fun talking to me, but made a point to say that she laughs at everything. Soon after the messages started getting vague & distant. When I asked what her schedule was like, it took her well over 24hrs to respond, yet she was still posting **** on her Instagram. I never like her pics, but I did notice that tidbit of info. When she did respond, she said she was busy all weekend for a friends birthday & would be getting trashed drunk with her friends until she had to go back to work. Didn't say anything regarding going out another time.
I waited a full day to respond (had other **** going on anyway & hung with friends) & said its all good & I made other plans to do something anyway, so maybe we go hang another time. She waits another full day to reply & says "have fun!" With smile emojis.

These comments scream attention *****. The last bold comment might as well have said "I just got gangbanged by 3 guys last night but oh yea have fun with whatever you're doing!" Your last interaction with her at the hospital really fed her ego when you continued to press the issue of hooking up with the "making out" comment. If she takes new years off, don't be surprised dude. I get the whole wanting to be flirty and stuff but unless you're into building women's confidence and making them feel great about themselves, I'd cut it out now.

 

[HughJasolphd]

These comments scream attention *****. The last bold comment might as well have said "I just got gangbanged by 3 guys last night but oh yea have fun with whatever you're doing!" Your last interaction with her at the hospital really fed her ego when you continued to press the issue of hooking up with the "making out" comment. If she takes new years off, don't be surprised dude. I get the whole wanting to be flirty and stuff but unless you're into building women's confidence and making them feel great about themselves, I'd cut it out now.

I definitely agree with you & can smell the attention seeking from a mile away. I feel internally that I don't give a **** about how the interaction goes & that's why I said what I did to her yesterday. I have it set in my mind that she isn't interested, so I am just entertaining myself more or less to see what I can get away with to prevent me from extended periods of boredom in the hospital. Ironically enough, she texted me earlier since she doesn't work during the day & reiterated how funny & "bad" I am for being a flirty patient. Not sure if she works tonight, but Idc anyway..I'm using my time here to read & catch up on some writing. There's a ton of hot nurses in this unit & im making sure I talk to all of them when I see em around. I look at it as practice with my eye contact, offhand remarks, joking around, etc. today I had two of them come to my room just to hangout while on their lunch break to talk about doing psychedelics & stuff. One is in a relationship & the other just got cheated on & is kinda bummed about it. Normally these are girls looks wise that I'd be scared to talk to on the street because of how hot they are but I guess since I'm not dependent on any outcome I'm just winging it & saying what I want. at least if I "befriend" these chicks they will be more inclined to respond to the call button if I need anything lol

 

[lamath]

I definitely agree with you & can smell the attention seeking from a mile away. I feel internally that I don't give a **** about how the interaction goes & that's why I said what I did to her yesterday. I have it set in my mind that she isn't interested, so I am just entertaining myself more or less to see what I can get away with to prevent me from extended periods of boredom in the hospital. Ironically enough, she texted me earlier since she doesn't work during the day & reiterated how funny & "bad" I am for being a flirty patient. Not sure if she works tonight, but Idc anyway..I'm using my time here to read & catch up on some writing. There's a ton of hot nurses in this unit & im making sure I talk to all of them when I see em around. I look at it as practice with my eye contact, offhand remarks, joking around, etc. today I had two of them come to my room just to hangout while on their lunch break to talk about doing psychedelics & stuff. One is in a relationship & the other just got cheated on & is kinda bummed about it. Normally these are girls looks wise that I'd be scared to talk to on the street because of how hot they are but I guess since I'm not dependent on any outcome I'm just winging it & saying what I want. at least if I "befriend" these chicks they will be more inclined to respond to the call button if I need anything lol

Nurse are the best, got hospitalized for 2 days a few weeks back because of an infection after having by wisdom teeth remove.

Feels like 1 in 2 is hot and lots of young nurse too , sadly i mostly got the oldest one and a man nurse grrrrrr

 

[HughJasolphd]

Nurse are the best, got hospitalized for 2 days a few weeks back because of an infection after having by wisdom teeth remove.

Feels like 1 in 2 is hot and lots of young nurse too , sadly i mostly got the oldest one and a man nurse grrrrrr

A lot of them are single (especially the night shift nurses because the overnight hours). A few years back I fu***d one while she was on shift. Was super flirty &I was touching her whole time we were talking..few hrs later I fall asleep & she comes in my room & starts blowing me while I'm asleep..girl was down for anything. I got up, slid the curtain over (had the room to myself due to my lung condition but closed the door & curtain incase anyone tried coming in) & got to business. I'm always on the lookout for the ones who seem down for fun

 

[lamath]

A lot of them are single (especially the night shift nurses because the overnight hours). A few years back I fu***d one while she was on shift. Was super flirty &I was touching her whole time we were talking..few hrs later I fall asleep & she comes in my room & starts blowing me while I'm asleep..girl was down for anything. I got up, slid the curtain over (had the room to myself due to my lung condition but closed the door & curtain incase anyone tried coming in) & got to business. I'm always on the lookout for the ones who seem down for fun

That like a porn story lol

I actualy had to go to clinic everyday for 2 week after for IV antibiotics, again at that clinic i got the older nurses about 10y older than me, but man they were all flirty and almost fighting among themself to take care of me.

I wonder if i could have used that to score with the younger and hotter nurse, weirdly i did not see any obvious signs from those.
But again they where on a different department i had no interaction with them.

Makes me wonder if im just a cougar magnet or are hotter younger women less obvious?

 

[HughJasolphd]

That like a porn story lol

I actualy had to go to clinic everyday for 2 week after for IV antibiotics, again at that clinic i got the older nurses about 10y older than me, but man they were all flirty and almost fighting among themself to take care of me.

I wonder if i could have used that to score with the younger and hotter nurse, weirdly i did not see any obvious signs from those.
But again they where on a different department i had no interaction with them.

Makes me wonder if im just a cougar magnet or are hotter younger women less obvious?

I probably should have just left the one time interaction as is at the time but I ended up dating the chick for a short while after that hospital fling. Sex after that first night was he absolute worst; she gave zero effort, laid there like a dead fish &I was seemingly checked out. The last time I slept with her I was so bored in the middle of the act that I literally stopped &I said I'd rather watch a movie because at least that was better than lifeless sex. Taking it as the ultimate insult, she told me to **** myself & then said she'd been ****ing her trainer the entire time we dated hahahaha. I should have been mad but I honestly felt such a relief because I was really starting to lose attraction to her. It's funny when I see her in the hospital still from time to time, I'm always cordial & say hello if we cross paths, but she still remains bitter to this day over my lifeless sex comment.

Man, these nurses largely deal with old folks who are admitted, so when a young, decent looking fella comes around they literally jump at the opportunity to care for you. None of the old patients talk to them, so the simplest small talk sometimes gets them invested & eager to come to your room. Being in south FL I'm seriously spoiled with the quality of nurses I see..some of them look like supermodels. Its a crapshoot when flirting with them though; some date the doctors, or hookup with other staff members. I'm not sure how common hooking up with patients is, but I'm glad I was able to check it off my bucket list...I want to make it happen again though haha

 

[lamath]

I probably should have just left the one time interaction as is at the time but I ended up dating the chick for a short while after that hospital fling. Sex after that first night was he absolute worst; she gave zero effort, laid there like a dead fish &I was seemingly checked out. The last time I slept with her I was so bored in the middle of the act that I literally stopped &I said I'd rather watch a movie because at least that was better than lifeless sex. Taking it as the ultimate insult, she told me to **** myself & then said she'd been ****ing her trainer the entire time we dated hahahaha. I should have been mad but I honestly felt such a relief because I was really starting to lose attraction to her. It's funny when I see her in the hospital still from time to time, I'm always cordial & say hello if we cross paths, but she still remains bitter to this day over my lifeless sex comment.

Man, these nurses largely deal with old folks who are admitted, so when a young, decent looking fella comes around they literally jump at the opportunity to care for you. None of the old patients talk to them, so the simplest small talk sometimes gets them invested & eager to come to your room. Being in south FL I'm seriously spoiled with the quality of nurses I see..some of them look like supermodels. Its a crapshoot when flirting with them though; some date the doctors, or hookup with other staff members. I'm not sure how common hooking up with patients is, but I'm glad I was able to check it off my bucket list...I want to make it happen again though haha

Man...... nurse imo profession with the most hottest chicks, its like all the younger nurse are hot.





I would have tell her if your doing the same with that trainer guy he is gonna get bored real fast lollllll

 

[HughJasolphd]

Man...... nurse imo profession with the most hottest chicks, its like all the younger nurse are hot.





I would have tell her if your doing the same with that trainer guy he is gonna get bored real fast lollllll

I recently found out they had got engaged & before setting up the big day he decided to end the relationship. She is like 30 now with an 11yr old, so finding a guy who's willing to lock that down is gonna be a challenge. She better start going bra less under her scrubs to get a doctors attention hahaha

 

[Ranger]

To the OP. I used this once and it worked.
She wanted us to go do something for fun. We hadn’t been together yet.

So I said to her...”that would be great. Should we go before or after you cvm in my mouth?”

I’m sure I don’t need me to tell you what happened. True story. A great memory.

Sometimes being bold and direct is the best route. Other times? Not so much. You should be able to tell. I’ve used a couple of variations of it three times and it worked twice. 66% percent is pretty good.

 

[flowtheory]

Crazy that the nurse had sex with you while on shift. Great for you. But, super risky and ridiculously stupid on her part. She could lose her medical license, I’m sure

 

[Chi Town]

So I said to her...”that would be great. Should we go before or after you cvm in my mouth?”

my boyyyy!!! Lol

 

[Chi Town]

Low-lukewarm interest, if you pursue you possibly can get something to work.

Me personally? I wouldn't bother.
Her loss