Okay Sazc.In regards to men who are liars.
My girlfriend met a man who she thought was great. The sex was like fireworks. He told her he was employed, divorced, in escrow on a house, had 50/50 custody, etc, etc, etc, yadda, yadda, yadda.
Over time it came out that he was an alcoholic, felon, still seeing his ex, they were both pill poppers, grandma has custody of the kids, escrow was a lie, theft was the norm as well as bisexuality for the sake of free lodging.
We all have experience with people where one fib eventually gives way to an extremely unsavory life. If we stick around too long, we get lucky if we don't end up enveloped in their drama.
That's one reason why it's a red flag, should be a red flag, maybe even a huge red flag, if someone is totally cool with lying to a stranger - because with some ppl, the first innocuous lie is really a test to see if you will look the other way. A test to see if you will call them out, or let it pass in preference of companionship.
Everyone has to find their comfort
It doesn't matter what you say or how you say it, they will always tell you that you are shaming men with your replies. That's their go to defense. They don't like what you posted, therefore you are 'shaming men'.
Let's for a moment accept everything you just posted as pure fact.
And I hope you'd be willing to accept that OP is being discriminated by women on OLD for being 5'7".
Let's not go and frame it as preferences, because individual preferences can be and most often are influenced by societal discrimination.
Knowing OP's difficulties, what would you suggest he do to increase his chances in OLD?