sangheilios
Master Don Juan
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I'm 6 foot 4, fit and white and very rarely get responses to my messages or matches on tinder.
Maybe you're ugly?I'm 6 foot 4, fit and white and very rarely get responses to my messages or matches on tinder.
I won't dispute this as there's truth there and I too can see it. And yes like you said earlier, I too value your inputs for we both see eye to eye on many subjects.Not Sazc, but I do not believe these height challenged men are being rejected simply, because of heigth. Does it happen? That's undeniable, but it also happens at 6'5". It's just the way it is. The man i work with and sitting next to at this very moment is 5'8", native, average in looks and absolutely slays. He is charismatic and speaks to everyone, regardless of sex or age, hot or not. If he is ever nervous in approaching, it surely isn't noticeable. This is all anecdotal, but i see it day in, day out. Let's be honest. The average guy that visits this site and sites like it are borderline, if not full blown incel, social retards. Guys need to commit to a dozen or so cold approaches a day for several months and then come back.
Exactly.I'm late to the party on this one, but everybody lies. Every business owner lies. Every woman lies. Every man lies. Lies and deceit are a natural part of our a functioning society. If you dont understand when and how to do it properly, then you are likely missing out on many good things in life.
Now the grandeur of the lies are completely subjective. This sort of reminds me of the old saying, "the honor amongst thieves." The basic concept is that people may be thieves, but have a general set of rules they will not break. The key is finding out the rules which work best for you.
A man wants to lie about his height? Who cares! He is going to have to deal with the ramifications of when he is discovered. Sometimes innocent lies are necessary to allow people to accept the things they may not have been originally willing to accept. I've told my boys, "oh no, there isnt any onions in there." In the end, they enjoyed my home cooked meal, far more beneficial than them starving or me having to cook something else.
Each person has to identify their limits for what they are willing to lie about, and find ways to navigate within those limits.
Shouldve ask mom to buy more milk thenPathetic imo, presenting your best side is one thing but I could never tell full on lies about myself like this. It's not worth it just for sex. But I understand that many people don't feel that way, so if it works for a while before women collectively start deducting 5-8 cm from what you say your height is (I think they already do), that's great. Just don't come back complaining about any of their behavior after this
I don't think any poster in this thread has come on here and claimed to never lie.I'm late to the party on this one, but everybody lies. Every business owner lies. Every woman lies. Every man lies. Lies and deceit are a natural part of our a functioning society. If you dont understand when and how to do it properly, then you are likely missing out on many good things in life.
A habitual liar would be someone who is also highly delusional. But yes, they have no credibility.I don't think any poster in this thread has come on here and claimed to never lie.
But let's not pretend lying is the golden secret to success.
Lying now and then is one thing. But if you are a habitual liar, it destroys your credibility.
I've known habitual liars, and I pretty much didn't believe anything they told me. In fact, most of their lies were transparent (as is, I suppose saying you're 6'0" when you're really 5'6"). But I always wondered what it was they hoped to gain from it. I never understood why they felt the need to lie about everything. There must have been some deep seated insecurity there.
Yes that’s true hahaha.In regards to men who are liars.
My girlfriend met a man who she thought was great. The sex was like fireworks. He told her he was employed, divorced, in escrow on a house, had 50/50 custody, etc, etc, etc, yadda, yadda, yadda.
Over time it came out that he was an alcoholic, felon, still seeing his ex, they were both pill poppers, grandma has custody of the kids, escrow was a lie, theft was the norm as well as bisexuality for the sake of free lodging.
We all have experience with people where one fib eventually gives way to an extremely unsavory life. If we stick around too long, we get lucky if we don't end up enveloped in their drama.
That's one reason why it's a red flag, should be a red flag, maybe even a huge red flag, if someone is totally cool with lying to a stranger - because with some ppl, the first innocuous lie is really a test to see if you will look the other way. A test to see if you will call them out, or let it pass in preference of companionship.
Everyone has to find their comfort
It doesn't matter what you say or how you say it, they will always tell you that you are shaming men with your replies. That's their go-to defense. They don't like what you posted, therefore you are 'shaming men'.
What's interesting is that, a fair amount of the time, the ' you're a man shamer ' comment is deliberately tossed out as a manipulation tactic to get the other men on the board to bandwagon with the person making the claim. It's an interesting tactic and creates an interesting follow up dynamic.
I save ALL my texts and I recommend all men do the same in case some crazy lady like you hops on the #Metoo movement.I mean people posting past texts from women that are two week+ old texts. Who saves texts that long lol. And why?
Yeah that’s a actually smart, the metoo movement is crazy. But you do like to show them off here to prove your worth, which is weird to me because I thought men were being advised not to seek validation from women, because that is pedestal placing no?I save ALL my texts and I recommend all men do the same in case some crazy lady like you hops on the #Metoo movement.
You’re not very bright.
There really could be many reasons for it. It sounds like your friends were more sarcastic than liars, especially if their lies were blatantly obvious. Regardless of what they said, their words had little to no impact on your life, so why bother wasting your efforts judging them? I'm sure you accept them for who they are, bit I would encourage you to open your mind a bit, maybe even ask them. You did say you were "always curious"; I doubt they were always curious why you didnt join them on their shenanigans.I don't think any poster in this thread has come on here and claimed to never lie.
But let's not pretend lying is the golden secret to success.
Lying now and then is one thing. But if you are a habitual liar, it destroys your credibility.
I've known habitual liars, and I pretty much didn't believe anything they told me. In fact, most of their lies were transparent (as is, I suppose saying you're 6'0" when you're really 5'6"). But I always wondered what it was they hoped to gain from it. I never understood why they felt the need to lie about everything. There must have been some deep seated insecurity there.
That’s good to know Guru, I shouldn’t have any value to you as a member of an anonymous online forum. It would be weird if I did lol. What we think of each other has no relevance, really, in our personal lives.^^Again. Not very smart AJ. The act of sharing my texts in this forum does not equal the motivation of why I do/did.
Act <> Motivation
Nor does your value to me prompt explaining my motivation for doing so.
However, if there is man/men in this forum who actually learn from these texts, I will be more than glad to share my motivations of why I post here at all.
I would be grateful if you think I'm full of BS.Just reading the rest of the posts. You know, this isn’t a forum full of 5yr old naive children. It’s pretty clear who is more likely being real here vs who is full of BS
And why are you bothered with that ?We have members here who talk as much about their failures and frustrations as they do their successes, then we have members who constantly puff up and brag brag brag then challenge others to prove they are f**k worthy.
Mine is all posted on the same day. It's time stamped. Go check.I mean people posting past texts from women that are two week+ old texts. Who saves texts that long lol. And why?.
How is it transparent when you can't even comprehend the importance of bragging for men or the uses of competition amongst men?It’s transparent. And it makes it hard to take them seriously when they do post something solid. For me personally, I learn more from the members who are keeping it more real, even the ones I have argued with because I take them more seriously and don’t get the impression that they are hiding behind something and projecting an image that they want the forum to believe them to be.
^^ now there is some character fellas. You see, women of character do exist. Which begs the questions why does she have character (of her own accord or forced) and thus does she also have good looks which if she does have challenged her character plentyThat’s good to know Guru, I shouldn’t have any value to you as a member of an anonymous online forum. It would be weird if I did lol. What we think of each other has no relevance, really, in our personal lives.
And you pointed out something that, as a female, I never considered which is the reason why to keep texts from women. I take back my questioning of that logic because that threat is unfortunately real for men and isn’t an issue for women. Thanks for pointing that out.
I actually have a tree growing out of my face. My nickname is Woody.^^ now there is some character fellas. You see, women of character do exist. Which begs the questions why does she have character (of her own accord or forced) and thus does she also have good looks which if she does have challenged her character plenty