You did the right thing, she knew what you didn't want her to do and she did it anyway. It was her way of telling you it was over. That way she gets to say you were being an unreasonable clod... trying to keep her away from her 'friends'. Chicks will always have dudes sniffing around nothing you can do about that, chicks like the attention, when they act on this that is a problem.
Agreed but just for context, after I dumped her she did a lot of begging and pleading, dumped her ex and we started having porn style sex (better sex than we ever had, because during the make up sex I was overly dominant because I was pissed lol). I treated her as a sloot in bed and she loved it. But we both saw it as something physical because the trust was broken and I think she knew it. Then I found out that he was back in the picture about a yr later to at least some extent so I dropped her again...and again she swore up and down again that there's nothing going on and the things we do only happen with me etc etc. When I didn't take her back she started telling me how she saw a counselor and the counselor agreed with her that I'm insecure and possessive. I told her I don't care what anyone says it's disrespectful to me and I don't want to sleep with my eyes open for the rest of my life. I started dating another woman and she (my LTR) found out, she wrote me a 2 page letter how she always thought we'd be together forever and how quickly she was replaced etc etc. Anyway, long story short my point here is that this ex drama can literally f*ck up an otherwise a potential good LTR. Last I knew she was living with her ex 'as roommates' lol
LTRs are all about trust, which once broken is usually irreparable.
Hey mate can you expand on the part where you said They will always have orbiters but the women that entertain them (emotionally or physically) are the problem women?
Not sure how to expand, what I mean is that women will always have guys snooping around them to see if they can get into their pants, to have a relationship, or whatever. Women who will engage them even as 'friends' or 'co-workers' etc are the ones who you can't trust. They'll say you're insecure etc because you can't handle a platonic relationship...it's BS. Edit, I once overheard a woman tell a guy that tried to hit on her 'sorry, I have a bf and he's an MMA champ...' with a crooked smile. I felt the woman basically told this guy to 'fv*k off' in a nice way. That's the type of a woman you'd want for LTRs.
Also there are the garden variety orbiters like the guy from the coffee shop, a boring co-worker etc who don't pose a risk, then there are the exes where the lines can get crossed very easily because there's history/comfort-level etc.
Lastly when screening for LTR I'm not a fan of women who don't have actual hobbies other than going to the bars and dancing etc with their friends. A healthy, secure woman in my experience will have actual hobbies like gardening, baking, reading etc.