So I met up with her and she initiated sex which she rarely does. She's been reaching out the last few days but hasn't mentioned her nephew once. I also noticed that she added a passcode to her phone which she never had before. shes also been saying some suspicious things lately. For example, my roommate is away from his girlfriend for a few weeks. So out of the blue she says that he's probably cheating on her. I know for a fact he isn't but she seems to think cheating is the norm. I guess she thinks nobody has integrity anymore. I don't think I can trust her.
Hmmm, before I reached the third page of this post, i would have tought that maybe , just maybe she was very affected by her nephew, since a 9 months relationship is a long time. That being said if the two of you would have been that close she would defentely need you by her side in those critical moments, women are needy like that.
But right now after reading this third page , and because of the quoted text above it is likely something is up.
My advice is to act like a man and be up front with it, not just let her go, wtf is that? A 9 months thing is not something to just pull the plug and walk away, i suppose you invested time, energy and even money into that relationship.
You can either tell her that she is not being mature, or is acting stange, implying that you know something is up, or just be blunt with it but gentle. I would tell her something like this:
Honey look i know you went through a tough time with your nephew , etc... etc... but i also knoticed that you started to act strange lately and tell her your suspicions, if she is a mature woman and if she is NOT cheating on you she will
try to prove to you that this is not the case and she will become closer to you, any other type of response... well you'll get the picture... especially if she'll flip and start to make you guilty or accuse you of cheating on her, in that chase make her even more angry and as she will become more out of control at some point she will tell you the truth, in shouting and angry format perhaps
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I would do this at her place so you can leave if things turn bad. At this point you really need to stand up for yourself and it can go in either direction, but in the end you'll know for sure what's going on and you can move on with your life.
This is what I would do, now it depends on you, how much of a loose end you want to have with this
Cheers