Guys, Would you still ask this girl out/be exclusive with her?

[daddymonsterpoodle]

If it was clearly a joke, then it wouldnt bother me. I would let you know that if you worked hard you might get almost as high a rating...

 

[MrWood]

you are more interested in playing games than asking for real proper advice here
Rita, we dont need drama, and we advise men dealing with women's created drama out of thin air...

to run away... fast.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So a woman is a wh0re because she's dating multiple guys? Aka not putting her eggs in one basket? OK. A man does it and that's him keeping his options open, but a woman does it and she's a harlet. Well that's not chauvinistic at all...

Whats the problem with evaluating people one at a time and taking it serious. By dating multiple people are always cheated, you can't take a multi-dater seriously.

 

[ritapita20]

So it is his fault that you played a little game on him and it did not work out well?
After he put himself out there and you just treated it like it was some kind of joke...

Still not taking responsibility. Try to consider if it was the other way around and you tried to show you liked a guy only to have HIM brush you off and treat it as if it was some kind of joke.


That sounds like dishonesty. You refuse to answer the actual question by saying you are "not sure"... If he had a harem of women around him I know for a fact you would not appreciate it. No woman would appreciate this.

So just to be clear. You would have a problem with a woman who had a roster with a guy previously?

 

[ritapita20]

Whats the problem with evaluating people one at a time and taking it serious. By dating multiple people are always cheated, you can't take a multi-dater seriously.

No problem with that, but it would be stupid to put all of your eggs in one basket. Not saying to sleep with them, but to keep your options open, what's the problem? I see on here all the time to "spin plates". When a guy is catching "oneitis" he needs to pull back and date other women to keep his emotions in check. I was always told until you're exclusive to keep your options open.

 

[ritapita20]

If it was clearly a joke, then it wouldnt bother me. I would let you know that if you worked hard you might get almost as high a rating...

I thought it was clearly a joke by saying he was 35 on my roster. Who really has 35 people? I'm not sure if it bothered him or not because then he started going on about his 'ranking'. He got drunk the other night and asked how to get to the top spot, asking if his ranking is really that low, said "I'm sure your top person calls your princess", "I have a top person too". "If you talk to other guys that would make me upset". I just chalked it up to him being drunk and that he didn't mean all that stuff. He contacted me the next few days after that but then got silent on me for days. So I reached out to him and I get a text this morning saying he was just joking about the roster thing. So I guess it really doesn't bother him and there's no need to address it anymore?

 

[Desdinova]

No problem with that, but it would be stupid to put all of your eggs in one basket. Not saying to sleep with them, but to keep your options open, what's the problem? I see on here all the time to "spin plates". When a guy is catching "oneitis" he needs to pull back and date other women to keep his emotions in check. I was always told until you're exclusive to keep your options open.

.... and this is the problem with feminism and equality. You think just because a man is doing it, that it's good for a woman to do it as well. Gender differences don't matter because EQUALITY. Being "lady-like" has absolutely no meaning anymore. Staying home to take care of the house and the kids is wrong these days. Having male friends and multiple orbiters is fine because "gender shouldn't matter". And then women like you bytch that no man wants them.

Gender does matter. When a man's gf/wife is hanging around another dude, something naturally triggers in his mind. It's a natural reaction for us to protect the things we invest our time and money into, and that includes women. When another man is hanging around with our woman, that investment is at risk. We want to go beat the fvck out of that dude to keep our investment in our woman, and keep her at high value.

When a woman brags about having lots of other dudes, that is a risky investment, and no man wants to waste his time and money on something that may not to go up and retain it's value. In other words, we don't want to waste our resources on wh0res who won't stick around.

 

[ritapita20]

.... and this is the problem with feminism and equality. You think just because a man is doing it, that it's good for a woman to do it as well. Gender differences don't matter because EQUALITY. Being "lady-like" has absolutely no meaning anymore. Staying home to take care of the house and the kids is wrong these days. Having male friends and multiple orbiters is fine because "gender shouldn't matter". And then women like you bytch that no man wants them.

Gender does matter. When a man's gf/wife is hanging around another dude, something naturally triggers in their mind. It's a natural reaction for us to protect the things we invest our time and money into, and that includes women. When another man hangs around, that investment is at risk. We want to go beat the fvck out of that dude to keep our investment in our woman high value.

When a woman brags about having lots of other dudes, that is a risky investment, and no man wants to waste his time and money on something that may not to go up and retain it's value. In other words, we don't want to waste our resources on wh0res who won't stick around.

What it boils down to is common sense, not gender equality. If a man is out here dating multiple women and I'm just seeing him I may or may not be chosen (gross). It's just hedging your bet. Why sit back and wait to see if someone likes you enough while they have multiple options? That's just dumb. Male or female that would be stupid. It should always be assumed that until you're exclusive you're not the only person because that's what you're supposed to be doing, dating.

 

[Konada]

This is what happens when an honest man meets a manipulative woman, man gets confused, girl gets confused, everybody wonders what the fvck just happened.

I assume every new age girl today is seeing multiple guys at one time. However, explicitly claiming you have a roster and he's the bottom of the barrel is pretty much enough for me to relegate you to fvckbuddy position or moving on.

For your sake OP if you really like this guy, swallow your ego and tell him you were joking. A man asked you an honest question and you threw him under the bus, I'm really surprised he came back after that statement that he's last place.

 

[Asmodeus]

So just to be clear. You would have a problem with a woman who had a roster with a guy previously?

You said to the new guy that you had a roster. Perhaps you said this jokingly, but you did not say you did not have one and he at least seems to have perceived that you did due to his question. Why would he ask you where he stands on your roster of he did not think you had a roster?

As for me? I personally would care nothing anyway because I am not looking for anything. I do not have relationships. I am not just playing the field, I am not trying to be some PUA. I do this because I am psychologically ill and abusive as a part of my nature. I know I will hurt women if I am with them for too long, it is inevitable so I do not have relationships. Your question does not apply to me. Read about me if you want and you will understand.

 

[ritapita20]

This is what happens when an honest man meets a manipulative woman, man gets confused, girl gets confused, everybody wonders what the fvck just happened.

I assume every new age girl today is seeing multiple guys at one time. However, explicitly claiming you have a roster and he's the bottom of the barrel is pretty much enough for me to relegate you to fvckbuddy position or moving on.

For your sake OP if you really like this guy, swallow your ego and tell him you were joking. A man asked you an honest question and you threw him under the bus, I'm really surprised he came back after that statement that he's last place.

I would move on too if the tables were turned but I told him I had done this with a previous person. He then asked what was he ranked (even though it had nothing to do with him) and I made a joke and said "oh you're 35". I thought we were just joking around. I think he might be okay though. This is what I just said to another poster,

"I thought it was clearly a joke by saying he was 35 on my roster. Who really has 35 people? I'm not sure if it bothered him or not because then he started going on about his 'ranking'. He got drunk the other night and asked how to get to the top spot, asking if his ranking is really that low, said "I'm sure your top person calls your princess", "I have a top person too". "If you talk to other guys that would make me upset". I just chalked it up to him being drunk and that he didn't mean all that stuff. He contacted me the next few days after that but then got silent on me for days. So I reached out to him and I get a text this morning saying he was just joking about the roster thing. So I guess it really doesn't bother him and there's no need to address it anymore?"

 

[ritapita20]

You said to the new guy that you had a roster. Perhaps you said this jokingly, but you did not say you did not have one and he at least seems to have perceived that you did due to his question. Why would he ask you where he stands on your roster of he did not think you had a roster?

As for me? I personally would care nothing anyway because I am not looking for anything. I do not have relationships. I am not just playing the field, I am not trying to be some PUA. I do this because I am psychologically ill and abusive as a part of my nature. I know I will hurt women if I am with them for too long, it is inevitable so I do not have relationships. Your question does not apply to me. Read about me if you want and you will understand.

I thought he was just asking as a joke. You really don't think he was joking when he asked that question?

 

[Asmodeus]

I thought he was just asking as a joke. You really don't think he was joking when he asked that question?

Then why did he get so salty if it was all just a joke. He took it seriously at least to some degree.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This is what happens when an honest man meets a manipulative woman, man gets confused, girl gets confused, everybody wonders what the fvck just happened.

I assume every new age girl today is seeing multiple guys at one time. However, explicitly claiming you have a roster and he's the bottom of the barrel is pretty much enough for me to relegate you to fvckbuddy position or moving on.

For your sake OP if you really like this guy, swallow your ego and tell him you were joking. A man asked you an honest question and you threw him under the bus, I'm really surprised he came back after that statement that he's last place.

When she's dating multiple at the same time and you are taking her serious it makes it really difficult. She might not be connecting with anyone at all. Simply having "fun" on multiple guys dime. Acting like she's waiting on getting in a real relationship. I guess it's for us as males to filter this.

 

[Konada]

Pay no attention to this girl, apparently being a jerk the first time wasn't enough, now she's appalled as to the second guy took offense to the same damn thing. Fvcking trash.

 

[ritapita20]

Pay no attention to this girl, apparently being a jerk the first time wasn't enough, now she's appalled as to the second guy took offense to the same damn thing. Fvcking trash.

I am appalled because it had nothing to do with HIM. He asked a question about his ranking which I took as a joke and I joked right back. Why would someone take what happened before him and project onto himself. I thought we were just joking about the entire thing.

 

[ritapita20]

Then why did he get so salty if it was all just a joke. He took it seriously at least to some degree.

Well I think he's fine?

He got drunk the other night and asked how to get to the top spot, asking if his ranking is really that low, said "I'm sure your top person calls your princess", "I have a top person too". "If you talk to other guys that would make me upset". I just chalked it up to him being drunk and that he didn't mean all that stuff. He contacted me the next few days after that but then got silent on me for days. So I reached out to him and I get a text this morning saying he was just joking about the roster thing. So I guess it really doesn't bother him and there's no need to address it anymore?

 

[Konada]

When she's dating multiple at the same time and you are taking her serious it makes it really difficult. She might not be connecting with anyone at all. Simply having "fun" on multiple guys dime. Acting like she's waiting on getting in a real relationship. I guess it's for us as males to filter this.

That is why authenticity is needed here. Saying stuff like I'm dating multiple guys while I already assume so turns me off pretty quickly. Sh!t test or not, that's one hell of a thing to be saying and that alone makes me not take her seriously unless she can prove otherwise.

 

[Asmodeus]

Well it is all over then. If you ask me I think this is not the best way to start off a possible relationship. If the two of you already have some issues and differences then it will only become magnified when you are with each other long enough.

 

[ritapita20]

Well it is all over then. If you ask me I think this is not the best way to start off a possible relationship. If the two of you already have some issues and differences then it will only become magnified when you are with each other long enough.

Why do you say that? He's said he didn't mean that stuff when he was drunk so he's okay.