Young girls, age gaps, break ups, mid-life crisis

[mikedee]

Long post, some of you will relate, at least to some parts. Wroth reading I think.

I met that stunning 19yo Slovak model at university** almost a year ago. When I met her I lied about my age, I told her I was 29 instead of 37, I look like much younger anyway. We live in the same dormitory.

**I went back to school 2 years ago and I live in a dormitory in the Czech Republic.

When we met she had a boyfriend, her first boyfriend from high school, and their relationship was deteriorating. We started to see each other here and there, she resisted the best she could not to cheat on him but after a few months she finally accepted the fact that she was no longer in love with him and left him for me. We then started to date officially, and after a few weeks we had sex. She is quite "traditional", for her having sex is a big deal and makes her anxious, she is not an easy girl. She got an education where sex is considered as taboo and she should be very careful. Her mother always warns her about pregnancy and diseases, etc. I was the second guy she had sex with.

We spent a lot of time together and she was almost like my girlfriend, but not 100% official yet. The girl was just crazy about me, she would text me minimum 30x per day, she was truly in love with me and I could see it. She told me straight I think about you all day I have a hard time to control myself, anyway. We both wanted to be in a relationship, but I decided that I had to tell her the truth about my age before we made the move. I didn't want to start a relationship with her based on a lie. So I took the risk and told her. It shocked her and she pulled back. After a few weeks she slowly came back because even if she knew I was much older she was still very attracted to me. She also accepted the fact that I hadn't lied because I'm a "liar" but because I wanted to give myself a chance with her and not be disqualified from the very beginning. Of course it affected her trust in me but she managed to get over it. I could feel that she was struggling with whether she should keep going with me or move on.

We started to see each other again, but it took time before she allowed any physical contact. After some times we got in bed and I tried to have sex with her again, she just couldn't do it. She told me that she had that weird unpleasant feeling, and just couldn't let her go like before, despite being very attracted to me. Age gap was the problem obviously. I tried several times, nothing. At some point, I told her that it wouldn't work between us, a relationship without intimacy is just not possible, but I stayed with her thinking that eventually this "blocking" would disappear and everything would go back to normal.
We basically had the same relationship as before, but no sex. Very frustrating.

----

A few months ago she told me that her agency would send her to Seoul for summer for modelling. I told her that in terms of work she would waste her time but in terms of life experience, of course she should go even if I didn't wanted her to go. But I warned her about what would happen between us if she went: she would meet new people (models), hang out with them, meet a guy and slowly forget about me/lose interest. She said that it wouldn't happen because she loved me and she is introverted/not that type, etc. But as a guy who has worked as a fashion photographer for years and dated some models, I know what's up, been there done that.

When the academic semester ended, she went back home to Slovakia until she flew to Seoul. During her time at home and when she arrived in Seoul, she kept texting me like before with the same interest and enthusiasm, no difference. At first she didn't like Seoul that much and missed me and Prague. But in the beginning of August, some male models arrived at the model apartment where she lives, she mentioned it to me and said that she could speak Slovak with one of the Polish model. The guy is her age, mulato and she is interested in black people men and women as there are none where she is from, she finds them exotic she kept saying. A few days later she celebrated her birthday (20yo) and shortly after that, text messages significantly decreased, she barely was barely replying.

So after a few days, noticing that there was obviously something going on and seeing on her Instagram that she was hanging with them and followed that polish guy and vice versa, I texted her and said something along the lines of: You're getting distant, if you're losing interest or if you've met someone, just tell me and I will move on. The next day she replied with something like this: I've been thinking about us for a while and yes I feel like I'm losing interest, to which I didn't reply and immediately went no contact, deleted her and moved on. It hit me of course, but I was not surprised. She probably realizes that being with me doesn't make sense for her, and the context makes it easier for her make that decision. Situation is clear, she is having the time of her life with that group of models of her age with the same interests in the street of Seoul, she is seeing that Polish guy every day, by default there will be some connection. Nothing wrong with that, it's just normal. I'm older and mature enough to understand, and as a person who has lived quite a lot of experiences like that, I didn't want to interfere. I want her to live to the fullest what she has to live.

But even if I understand, I can't help to feel rejected. I feel pain of course, I manage my mental state the best I can (not my first "break up"), I'm functional I do my stuff but it affects me way more that I would have thought, way more. I recently entered a harsh mid-life crisis and this situation makes it worse. I feel old even if I still look young and handsome, I'm very pessimistic about my future dating life as I only date 20something, I just can't date women of my age or above 30 they are invisible to me. I also realize that, although I really liked her as a person (she is very modest, shy, introverted, not attention seeking, joyful, funny, she is a very good little girl, etc), I used her (like many other young hot girls before her) to boost my self esteem and feel young by being with a young girls. I'm honest enough to admit it now, I've been avoiding this for years and now I'm taking a good look at myself and I feel I need to fix some "internal issues" but the thing is I just can't fix that, it's like an addiction. I still meet new 20yo girls and it rarely works if I don't lie about my age, as I get older I feel that it's not sustainable anymore. I set myself for failure in terms of dating and this brings a lot of frustration in my life.

She is coming back in a month when the new academic semester starts, I might see her around again. Now it's the honeymoon for her, but I wonder how she will react when she is back in the soviet style dormitory, going to school, struggling with money, her temporary "best friends" and all the excitement gone. When she sees me, how will she react? How will I react? To be honest I would prefer not to see her again, I feel that I might go back to her and enter that now toxic relationship that was doomed from the very beginning. Even if I know she is having an affair with him (99% sure) I try not to be jealous but I'm struggling, I understand that what happens between them is just normal in that context and at that age, but it hurts me to see how quickly she/any girl can move from one guy to another with complete detachment, like you've never meant anything to her really. I can't (i don't want) believe her feelings for me completely vanished in a few days, I want to believe that "out of sight out of mind" is the reason why it's happening. Another thing I realize, deep down I feel envious of her and him, I wish I were young again and be in their shoes.

I don't really know what to expect from writing this long story, but I guess this forum is the kind of place for this kind of thoughts. I just don't know how to deal with this right, I'm down and very confused. I cut down on alcohol, I exercise, I keep myself busy but this mid-life crisis + this break up is tough. It happened yesterday so it's still fresh. I think about it all day, her having the time of her life and me being miserable here. I feel very lonely as I don't have many friends her, she was not only my girlfriend but also a friend, a presence in my life. I'm in a dark place.

Any comments? Discuss

Thanks for reading
Cheers

 

[pipeman84]

When we met she had a boyfriend, her first boyfriend from high school, and their relationship was deteriorating. We started to see each other here and there, she resisted the best she could not to cheat on him but after a few months she finally accepted the fact that she was no longer in love with him and left him for me.

She was actually cheating on him ... and that shows her character.

was just crazy about me, she would text me minimum 30x per day,

literally

despite being very attracted to me. Age gap was the problem obviously.

It's not so obvious to me. It's 8 years, you don't show them, that part is obvious because she couldn't tell, so what's the big deal?

her as a person (she is very modest, shy, introverted, not attention seeking, joyful, funny, she is a very good little girl, etc)

Yeah right. Somehow I don't think that description fits the facts: a woman who is into modelling, cheats on her high school BF, has sex with you then bamboozles you on how the age gap means she can't have sex with you anymore

I used her (like many other young hot girls before her) to boost my self esteem and feel young by being with a young girls.

And she used you for whatever ... if nothing else, to have someone to send 30 texts a day.

IMO, you should just forget about her. Work on your inner issues and need for external validation and then probably you'll meet a quality 20 something girl.

 

[Foe]

let me be real.....

We spent some time together and she wasnt my girlfriend, period. The girl liked me, she would text me minimum sometimes, midly interested and I could see it, but I ignored the signs and went all in. She told me straight I think about you all day I have a hard time to control myself, I believed her. I wanted to be in a relationship, but I decided that I had been weak and I wanted her to know that. I wanted to start a relationship with her based on a lie. So I dived in and showed her my weakness. It shocked her and she pulled back. After a few weeks she slowly came back because she hoped I wasnt the loser that would lie in the first place. She never accepted the fact that I lied because <insert self justification here> . Of course it affected her trust in me but she never got over it. I could feel that she was struggling with whether she should keep going with me or move on.

I could go on.......

 

[Solomon]

let me be real.....

We spent some time together and she wasnt my girlfriend, period. The girl liked me, she would text me minimum sometimes, midly interested and I could see it, but I ignored the signs and went all in. She told me straight I think about you all day I have a hard time to control myself, I believed her. I wanted to be in a relationship, but I decided that I had been weak and I wanted her to know that. I wanted to start a relationship with her based on a lie. So I dived in and showed her my weakness. It shocked her and she pulled back. After a few weeks she slowly came back because she hoped I wasnt the loser that would lie in the first place. She never accepted the fact that I lied because <insert self justification here> . Of course it affected her trust in me but she never got over it. I could feel that she was struggling with whether she should keep going with me or move on.

I could go on.......

Posting under the burner account? lmfao

 

[Gamisch]

Posting under the burner account? lmfao

Ah I see..

Long post, some of you will relate, at least to some parts. Wroth reading I think.

I met that stunning 19yo Slovak model at university** almost a year ago. When I met her I lied about my age, I told her I was 29 instead of 37, I look like much younger anyway. We live in the same dormitory.

**I went back to school 2 years ago and I live in a dormitory in the Czech Republic.

When we met she had a boyfriend, her first boyfriend from high school, and their relationship was deteriorating. We started to see each other here and there, she resisted the best she could not to cheat on him but after a few months she finally accepted the fact that she was no longer in love with him and left him for me. We then started to date officially, and after a few weeks we had sex. She is quite "traditional", for her having sex is a big deal and makes her anxious, she is not an easy girl. She got an education where sex is considered as taboo and she should be very careful. Her mother always warns her about pregnancy and diseases, etc. I was the second guy she had sex with.

We spent a lot of time together and she was almost like my girlfriend, but not 100% official yet. The girl was just crazy about me, she would text me minimum 30x per day, she was truly in love with me and I could see it. She told me straight I think about you all day I have a hard time to control myself, anyway. We both wanted to be in a relationship, but I decided that I had to tell her the truth about my age before we made the move. I didn't want to start a relationship with her based on a lie. So I took the risk and told her. It shocked her and she pulled back. After a few weeks she slowly came back because even if she knew I was much older she was still very attracted to me. She also accepted the fact that I hadn't lied because I'm a "liar" but because I wanted to give myself a chance with her and not be disqualified from the very beginning. Of course it affected her trust in me but she managed to get over it. I could feel that she was struggling with whether she should keep going with me or move on.

We started to see each other again, but it took time before she allowed any physical contact. After some times we got in bed and I tried to have sex with her again, she just couldn't do it. She told me that she had that weird unpleasant feeling, and just couldn't let her go like before, despite being very attracted to me. Age gap was the problem obviously. I tried several times, nothing. At some point, I told her that it wouldn't work between us, a relationship without intimacy is just not possible, but I stayed with her thinking that eventually this "blocking" would disappear and everything would go back to normal.
We basically had the same relationship as before, but no sex. Very frustrating.

----

A few months ago she told me that her agency would send her to Seoul for summer for modelling. I told her that in terms of work she would waste her time but in terms of life experience, of course she should go even if I didn't wanted her to go. But I warned her about what would happen between us if she went: she would meet new people (models), hang out with them, meet a guy and slowly forget about me/lose interest. She said that it wouldn't happen because she loved me and she is introverted/not that type, etc. But as a guy who has worked as a fashion photographer for years and dated some models, I know what's up, been there done that.

When the academic semester ended, she went back home to Slovakia until she flew to Seoul. During her time at home and when she arrived in Seoul, she kept texting me like before with the same interest and enthusiasm, no difference. At first she didn't like Seoul that much and missed me and Prague. But in the beginning of August, some male models arrived at the model apartment where she lives, she mentioned it to me and said that she could speak Slovak with one of the Polish model. The guy is her age, mulato and she is interested in black people men and women as there are none where she is from, she finds them exotic she kept saying. A few days later she celebrated her birthday (20yo) and shortly after that, text messages significantly decreased, she barely was barely replying.

So after a few days, noticing that there was obviously something going on and seeing on her Instagram that she was hanging with them and followed that polish guy and vice versa, I texted her and said something along the lines of: You're getting distant, if you're losing interest or if you've met someone, just tell me and I will move on. The next day she replied with something like this: I've been thinking about us for a while and yes I feel like I'm losing interest, to which I didn't reply and immediately went no contact, deleted her and moved on. It hit me of course, but I was not surprised. She probably realizes that being with me doesn't make sense for her, and the context makes it easier for her make that decision. Situation is clear, she is having the time of her life with that group of models of her age with the same interests in the street of Seoul, she is seeing that Polish guy every day, by default there will be some connection. Nothing wrong with that, it's just normal. I'm older and mature enough to understand, and as a person who has lived quite a lot of experiences like that, I didn't want to interfere. I want her to live to the fullest what she has to live.

But even if I understand, I can't help to feel rejected. I feel pain of course, I manage my mental state the best I can (not my first "break up"), I'm functional I do my stuff but it affects me way more that I would have thought, way more. I recently entered a harsh mid-life crisis and this situation makes it worse. I feel old even if I still look young and handsome, I'm very pessimistic about my future dating life as I only date 20something, I just can't date women of my age or above 30 they are invisible to me. I also realize that, although I really liked her as a person (she is very modest, shy, introverted, not attention seeking, joyful, funny, she is a very good little girl, etc), I used her (like many other young hot girls before her) to boost my self esteem and feel young by being with a young girls. I'm honest enough to admit it now, I've been avoiding this for years and now I'm taking a good look at myself and I feel I need to fix some "internal issues" but the thing is I just can't fix that, it's like an addiction. I still meet new 20yo girls and it rarely works if I don't lie about my age, as I get older I feel that it's not sustainable anymore. I set myself for failure in terms of dating and this brings a lot of frustration in my life.

She is coming back in a month when the new academic semester starts, I might see her around again. Now it's the honeymoon for her, but I wonder how she will react when she is back in the soviet style dormitory, going to school, struggling with money, her temporary "best friends" and all the excitement gone. When she sees me, how will she react? How will I react? To be honest I would prefer not to see her again, I feel that I might go back to her and enter that now toxic relationship that was doomed from the very beginning. Even if I know she is having an affair with him (99% sure) I try not to be jealous but I'm struggling, I understand that what happens between them is just normal in that context and at that age, but it hurts me to see how quickly she/any girl can move from one guy to another with complete detachment, like you've never meant anything to her really. I can't (i don't want) believe her feelings for me completely vanished in a few days, I want to believe that "out of sight out of mind" is the reason why it's happening. Another thing I realize, deep down I feel envious of her and him, I wish I were young again and be in their shoes.

I don't really know what to expect from writing this long story, but I guess this forum is the kind of place for this kind of thoughts. I just don't know how to deal with this right, I'm down and very confused. I cut down on alcohol, I exercise, I keep myself busy but this mid-life crisis + this break up is tough. It happened yesterday so it's still fresh. I think about it all day, her having the time of her life and me being miserable here. I feel very lonely as I don't have many friends her, she was not only my girlfriend but also a friend, a presence in my life. I'm in a dark place.

Any comments? Discuss

Thanks for reading
Cheers

It's Bout time more men start to learn that this manosphere bs that you should be dating young women has a price.

As long as she is with you you are the one winning. But the longer she stays, the stringer the case.

When you lie to a woman you say from.thr get go she won't be long term option. Because you have to break TRUST to get something. If anyone,man or woman breaks my trust it's OVER. I will never look at that person the same.

I did the same last year. Changed my age (.just a few years) on OLD ,BUT unfortunately this specific lie prevented me from really being myself around these women.

I won't even talk about her moving because it was AFTER the lie. Everything happening after that imo is irrelevant.

A man should be fecking proud, iam sorry, PROUD of his age because he spent all those years gaining experiences, knowledge ect. Especially when you look younger this will actually benefit you dealing with these broads. I also look significantly younger and the combination of looking young while being my age = ME. I also have a child who constantly reminds me that I'm aging.

I am sorry for your loss but I have to be real with you bro...next time be honest. Especially about simple stuff like this. Or lie and accept that it will last untill the truth comes out.

 

[Foe]

Posting under the burner account? lmfao

what does this even mean?

 

[Chow Mein]

Posting under the burner account? lmfao

I thought the same, didn’t want to call it out though

 

[mikedee]

Ah I see..


It's Bout time more men start to learn that this manosphere bs that you should be dating young women has a price.

As long as she is with you you are the one winning. But the longer she stays, the stringer the case.

When you lie to a woman you say from.thr get go she won't be long term option. Because you have to break TRUST to get something. If anyone,man or woman breaks my trust it's OVER. I will never look at that person the same.

I did the same last year. Changed my age (.just a few years) on OLD ,BUT unfortunately this specific lie prevented me from really being myself around these women.

I won't even talk about her moving because it was AFTER the lie. Everything happening after that imo is irrelevant.

A man should be fecking proud, iam sorry, PROUD of his age because he spent all those years gaining experiences, knowledge ect. Especially when you look younger this will actually benefit you dealing with these broads. I also look significantly younger and the combination of looking young while being my age = ME. I also have a child who constantly reminds me that I'm aging.

I am sorry for your loss but I have to be real with you bro...next time be honest. Especially about simple stuff like this. Or lie and accept that it will last untill the truth comes out.

Hi Gamisch, thanks for your reply.
I agree with you. But let me explain something.

As a 37yo who only cold approaches, when I meet a very young girl, my goal is to get laid. I don't think about a relationship. I just want to satisfy my desire for sex with a young hot girl. If I tell my age right off the bad, she is gone. No sex, end of the story. Desire is not satisfied, I'm pissed off and it sucks.

Some won't care, but very very few. If I want to reach those who don't care I have to approach tons of girls, it really becomes a number game. It's a lot of work before, during and after the approach. I approach when I'm out and about.

I've banged quite a lot of 20yos and most of the time I don't get attached. We see each other once or twice or a few times (for sex) until she realizes that there won't be anything serious with me, then she moves on. I look for another one. Desire satisfied, I'm happy, next.

But sometimes we along very well, we both get attached and we start to spend a lot of time together. And then, I'm struggling with whether I should tell her my real age or not. And that is the problem.

That's true, we should be proud of our age, I'm not ashamed of my age, I'm proud of my life experiences. Of course I wish I were younger for some reasons, I won't lie.
But I know that age with young girls plays against me, it's just a fact, it's reality.

Imagine a firefighter or soldier who got badly injured while accomplishing his duty (disfigured or disabled), women won't be attracted to him even if he is proud of condition. Extreme example but you get the point. Being proud of your age won't make 20yo attracted to you if they think you're too old.

 

[mikedee]

Posting under the burner account? lmfao

What is this burner account thing?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I don't want to go into the @mikedee and @Foe are the same person, but what I read from the original post is that you think the age gap is the problem. I'm sure the difference was not in the age gap, but more in the expectation of maturity that was lacking.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I don't want to go into the @mikedee and @Foe are the same person, but what I read from the original post is that you think the age gap is the problem. I'm sure the difference was not in the age gap, but more in the expectation of maturity that was lacking.

Welcome back how was the ban?

 

[BillyPilgrim]

what does this even mean?

That's what she said.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Welcome back how was the ban?

Restful.

It was wonderful to see the evenhandedness of the moderators in banning me twice as long as the other member that got banned.
Still, members who wanted advice could reach me through PM, so the only people who suffered from my ban were the forum members who missed my presence. I'm sure there were plenty members here who rejoiced that I 'temporarily' wasn't able to call them out on their bs.

 

[mikedee]

I don't want to go into the @mikedee and @Foe are the same person, but what I read from the original post is that you think the age gap is the problem. I'm sure the difference was not in the age gap, but more in the expectation of maturity that was lacking.

The same person? I dont know who Foe is, first time I read something from him. I have only one account, mikedee.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The same person? I dont know who Foe is, first time I read something from him. I have only one account, mikedee.

IDGAF, that's why I said 'I don't want to go into that', but you both don't understand the burner account reference.

If you want to quote me and respond to something, maybe you want to put more attention to the second part of that comment.

 

[mikedee]

IDGAF, that's why I said 'I don't want to go into that', but you both don't understand the burner account reference.

If you want to quote me and respond to something, maybe you want to put more attention to the second part of that comment.

I have no idea what the burner reference is, I have no idea who Foe is and I have no idea why people would think I'm Foe and vice versa. I don't really care to be honest.

The reason I didn't reply to the second part of your comment is because it's not worth replying. Like 99% of everything you post here. You made an assumption about me, about her and about a one year relationship based on absolutely nothing. Same thing for pipeman84's and Foe's comments.

If you insist I will reply, but it's going to be a long post, and a harsh one, for you and for a lot of people on this forum. It's up to you. I don't have any animosity toward you or any other members of this board, I just want to make this clear. But it's time that somebody speaks up a stop that freak show.

Why would I care about you telling me that I lack maturity when you are the perfect example of a guy who's has no maturity at all. Why does a smart person like you spend his entire life posting on this forum hiding behind a ridiculous persona in order to get some validation of people who also do the same thing. You don't look like you have much going on in your life, you sit here all day pretending to get laid with pretty young and hot yoga teachers, models, etc. You talk about your vixens and your instagran flooded with girls begging for your attention and everything. One has to be either very very very naive and inexperienced with women or straight up retarded to believe that a 60 something retiree who looks like a clown (I'm talking about the whole outfit, the cat, the pirate eye, your below average face and your bald head), who spends his whole life on a seduction (borderline incel forum) forum can pull such girls, and pull such girls on a regular basis. It's just a joke. That is the definition of immaturity, you obviously suffer of some kind of personality disorder and you should seek professional help. Sorry man, you're a smart guy but you are a total loser. I know it's harsh but the comedy has to stop. What even more insane is that some people believe you and worship you. It just blows my mind, wow.
That's why I didn't reply, I just didn't care.

If you say that I'm immature because I said that I use hot young girls to compensate for self esteem issues, well I got new for you, it's the case of 99% of men. Not only I'm brave and transparent enough to expose quite personal issues and weaknesses hoping that you guys would comment with something constructive and helpful like @Gamish did, you instead go full on bashing mode for no reasons, assuming this and that based on nothing.
I don't play the tough guy, I don't put any persona and I've have never lied about anything since I'm on this forum. I don't want to sound pretentious but I'm one of the realest on this board. I'm the one who goes for it, I'm the one who pulls the 19yo models, I'm the one who cold approach at the grocery store, I'm the one who gets rejected, I'm the one who fvck up, I'm the one who struggles despite being 6.2, model look, handsome, extremely experienced with all the approaches and failures I have. I've travelled the world and approached women in Russia, Japan, NY, Serbia, Finland, Czech Republic, Canada, Estonia, etc. I even learned Russian and lived in Moscow to be able to pull the hottest girls in the world. Result? I dated countless of models, HBs 9, etc. Got laid quite a lot but rejected like no one here. Feel free to believe me or not, I don't give a damn. There is one member here who knows me personally, and he would tell you that I'm not bullsh1tting. Just today, 2 days after being flushed by a girl I really liked, with pain in my chest, I approached a solid 8, max 19yo, long hair, smooth legs, tight body, juicy lips, perfect breast on a crowded street outside the metro, in Czech, a language that I'm currently learning, it was awkward, but I still managed to get the info, texted her later and got blocked immediately. It pissed me off but I took my shot and made things happen, and I failed, failed like a fvcking champion, not like a fvcking keyboard jockey who doesn't know what I'm talking about.

So when I post a thread asking for help (I never post anything) I get premium bashing treatment by a bunch of 5.6 bald guys who have never been and will never be with the type of girl I date. To be honest, I don't care I just have pity for those guys, it's sad. I remember a few years ago, I started a cold approach thread, I was the only one approaching and posting the pictures of the girls I had approached, most of them were 8s and 9s. I'm the only one who had the balls to make a move. I'm not perfect, I have issues, shortcomings, like everybody else. I'm weak sometimes, I get hurt sometimes, I get attached to the wrong person sometimes, I ignore the red flags sometimes, I'm an azzhole sometimes, I put girls on a pedestal sometimes, I'm sad sometimes but I never lie about my lays, approaches, dates. I never bullsh1t. Im real. 100% real.

There are some very good posters here and that is the reason why I stay, I dont agree with all of them but I still think they have something to contribute: @characternote @Bokanovsky @Hoodie @SW15 @Gamisch @oldmanofthesea @RangerMIke @Velasco @Bigpapa @taiyuu_otoko
@Giovanni SouthSide
@Millard Fillmore I can't name everybody. Can't say the same thing about the rest, a bunch of phoneys, envious and ignorant people with very or no experience at all.. And you hear them saying "pull hotter and younger girls" when one get ghosted and is vulnerable, disappointed and need supports. Like pulling hot 20yo was as easy as buying a carton of milk at the supermarket, those clowns never pulled any "hot young girls" in their whole life. Ridiculous... and some mods shouldn't be mods. No.

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I don't know if my reply satisfies your endless craving for validation but thats what I had to say.
You can reply whatever you want now, I won't read. If I can give you a good piece of advice, shut up for once, stop trolling and take that cat off your shoulder you just look like a weirdo man. I have nothing against you, actually I think you a very smart person, good culture, and you look like a good person, a good jack. Just stop that sh1t, it's dumb.

@ Mods you can lock the thread, ban me, delete my account. Make my day! If you do, it will just prove that I'm right. We should help each other, go out there and get girls, one night stands, LTRs, whatever. Not whine like a bunch of little b1tches.

On a more positive note, I'm feeling a bit better today, it still svcks but that's life, at least I had to chance to be with a nice and beautiful girl like that, Im grateful.

 

[characternote]

what does this even mean?

i think solomon mistakenly thought that your post was written by the OP? If so, he probably didn't read your post properly and only skimmed it (because if he had have, he'd have realised that the post was a kind of satire of the OP's post with you putting your own spin on it as if written by the OP in a self depricating way. People here are kinda dumb lol)

But yeah, whatever. Mikedee is one of the very few legit posters here. The forums is largely a bit of a laughing stock tbh. I don't think it would be wise to ask anyone here for advice about the kind of things that he's asking, and he's probably realising that now!

 

[Foe]

i think solomon mistakenly thought that your post was written by the OP? If so, he probably didn't read your post properly and only skimmed it (because if he had have, he'd have realised that the post was a kind of satire of the OP's post with you putting your own spin on it as if written by the OP in a self depricating way. People here are kinda dumb lol)

But yeah, whatever. Mikedee is one of the very few legit posters here. The forums is largely a bit of a laughing stock tbh. I don't think it would be wise to ask anyone here for advice about the kind of things that he's asking, and he's probably realising that now!

Well at least you got it. It is also a reference to how we deceive ourselves in situations like this.

 

[Bokanovsky]

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Thanks for reading
Cheers

As you get older, it's natural to be interested in something more than fleeting encounters with random chicks. And you are right, it is nearly impossible for a man in his late 30's to get girls half his age without lying. There are only two exceptions to this general rule: a) being a celebrity and b) being a sugar daddy. It's safe to assume that you're not a celebrity and it doesn't sound like you have the desire (or the financial means) to be a sugar daddy.

But that doesn't mean you have to go for women your age. A man who is 6'2, attractive and confident enough to cold approach should be able to attract women in their mid to late 20's. Unfortunately, women in that age category tend to be some of the most difficult and disagreeable. By the time they reach 25, most attractive girls are old enough to lose their youthful energy and innocence and become jaded but not old enough to feel pressured by their biological clock. Perhaps that is why you gravitate towards very young girls.

As for the Slovak girl that you wrote about, her future doesn't seem very bright. You may have been the first man to "use" her but you certainly won't be the last. Attractive women get used, period. That's just a fact of life (and the reason why they become so jaded by their mid-20's). And the fact that she's in the modelling industry makes it ten times worse. Despite her upbringing, she has no chance in that kind of environment. It sounds like she has already been introduced to the c0ck carousel this summer. It won't be long until she gets introduced to drugs. Tens years from now, she will be a typical jaded 30 y.o. with what people here like to call "the thousand c0ck stare". You don't need me to tell you how the modelling industry works. She will have to return favours to keep her career moving in the right direction. And if/when her modelling career hits a dead end, it wouldn't be unusual for her to become a stripper or an escort. That is a common path for many aspiring models.

On a final note, you really need to think about what the rest of your life is going to look like. While there is nothing wrong with being a student at 37, I get the impression that you're doing it primarily for the opportunity to live on campus and meet young girls (if I'm wrong in that assumption, I apologize). But you are now at an age when women expect you to be financially established. The older you get, the more difficult it becomes to get by on good looks and height alone.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

If you say that I'm immature because I said that I use hot young girls to compensate for self esteem issues, well I got new for you, it's the case of 99% of men. Not only I'm brave and transparent enough to expose quite personal issues and weaknesses hoping that you guys would comment with something constructive and helpful like @Gamish did, you instead go full on bashing mode for no reasons, assuming this and that based on nothing.

Thank you for your tirade, it was very illuminating.
Well, I'm glad you managed to get all that anger off your chest, but I guess you misunderstood that I blamed the lack of maturity on your part, where I meant on the girl's part. When you date younger people as a mature person, you hope they mature, but I found that many young women just enjoy the lack of responsibility and accountability when you're there to lead.

I don't know if my reply satisfies your endless craving for validation but thats what I had to say.

As far as your mocking characterisation of me, I truly DGAF. My turnaround moment was when I almost took my life at sixteen for believing too much in other people's opinions. From then on, I stopped craving the validation you think I'm seeking and only accepted feedback from my closest friends. And you're definitely not one of them. What you think of me is irrelevant.