If you don't mind, I'm going to ask you to stretch your mind just a little bit again.
While I don't think that it's beneficial to the site, I think that it may be beneficial to certain people. The primary objective of this forum is to get people out into the "real world", and to overcome any fears, shynesses, or weaknesses they might have. These same people, if they find out how completely non-threatening picking up girls is on the internet, might be tempted to use this as their sole source of conversation to someone of the opposite sex. However, someone who already knows what they're doing, and isn't afraid to go and make an approach in real life who uses the internet isn't going to fall into the habit of using nothing except the internet.
A few ideas I have about this.
1. It's not really that easy to pick up women on the internet. Get a few emails here and there sure. But actually find a decent girl to hang out with. Not that easy, it's actually difficult to get that part of your game fine-tuned. And trust me it took a lot of trial and error to be able to convert the initial emails/IM's into actual decent interactions IRL. Fell flat on my face many times before I got the knack of it.
2. There seems to be this prejudice that unless you make a cold approach, then you're "not a real man". So, that means anyone you work with, they are out. A social circle target, out. And obviously internet, out.
3. After you've been dating/screwing someone for a month, is it somehow better if you ran a perfect game on her, with some SS mixed in, and the perfect kino. Or is it somehow worse because you actually were introduced by your cousin? Or GASP met on the internet.
4. Reality is there are going to be some people who will never go out and do a cold approach. But, if they are achieving what THEY want. Not what I want, or what you want. But, what
THEY want, then who are we to say they are wrong. I think SS is pretty much crap, but I'm not knocking anyone who uses it, as long as they are getting what
THEY want. As the internet dating trend continues, it will become more and more popular. There will be guys who only use online dating services. But, if they are getting all the women they desire, does that somehow make it less meaningful. Online dating is just a technology, nothing more, nothing less. This site (in my mind) has always been about getting what YOU want, regardless of technique used to get it. Observe the health forum, and the discussion on developing a financial forum. I'd like to see this continue.
In my own opinion (which I seem to be giving a lot in this thread), if someone can't hold a decent conversation with a girl over the computer, and is asking for help, the odds are great that he can't do it in real life. Thus, we would be reinforcing his behavior of settling in and getting comfortable meeting girls only through the computer.
If he can't handle a decent conversation over the computer, guess what, he gets to get better. Just as he would if his approaches weren't working, or his numbers technique was for ****e. It's just a skill like any other, no more, no less. I have yet to see anyone want to just get good at having meaningless conversations in IM with girls. And every discussion has been ultimately about how to meet the girls, and get what ever it is that they want. I'm never going to give someone advice from the lessons I've learned online that is going to convince them to stay at home, and not meet any girls.
Thanks for the input Diablo. It was nice to see what the moderators actually think.
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