WTF??? What's going on here?

[MRomeo99]

I am going to agree with Vincent people. This isn't the first internet dating thread. Do a search and find an active one. I believe there is one in The Archive.

Ok, and how many threads are there about "When should I kiss her?", "Does she like me?", etc.

There are thousands of threads about every particular question anyone can have. So what? It's the nature of the beast.

So, let me get this right, as moderators you have chosen that online dating threads are to be arbitrarily closed. The only reason because you don't like them.

So, threads like this still exist:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=63666

I met a girl, hung out with her on Thanksgiving and want to tell her that I like her. That stays. Anything to do with online dating goes?

It's not that I'm in love with Online dating. But, I have found a way to add it to my arsenal of dating techniques. I have gotten good at it, and have been pretty effective using it to increase my levels of interaction with women. I've been doing it for years. But it is not my only tool. I meet women IRL as well. In between LTR's I will date 10+ women at a time, and eventually be really selective about who I'd like to spend more time with. It's just another tool. It's no different than anything else you can use.

So, what's next if you decide that the best place to pick up women is in Bars/clubs does that mean any other place that you can possibly pick up women is stupid and shouldn't even be discussed? The problem is your rule is arbitrary. I suggest as Moderators, you discuss amongst yourselves, and if you choose to ban online dating discussions, then make a public announcement and add it to the rules and guidelines. But, don't become power mad, and ban/close arbitrarily.

And what as an 18 year old would you know about what is possible as an older male? I'm 34 years old, I have a career, plus two businesses that I run on the side. I'm very busy, I'm not going out 5 nights a week to meet girls. Yet because online dating is something I'm good at, I can usually get at least a date a week from someone new. At 18, you're still obsessed with getting laid. At 34, I've slept with more women than I care to admit, and realize that getting laid is SO easy, meeting someone I'd want to hang out with after we're done is SO MUCH MORE DIFFICULT.

I would agree with you that if you're 18, and you're using online dating instead of hitting college age chicks, then you're right, you're a loser. Although I can see how online dating is like dating on training wheels. But, at 18, there are so many other ways to meet women that just aren't available to the 30+ crowd. If I was 18, I would never deal with online dating. But, as a 30 something, it is a pretty darn good tool. And you'd be surprised how many 18-21 year olds I've gotten dates with online, little hotties too. That's part of the problem with online dating and being a guy at 18, most of the 18 year old girls, are going to be dating guys like me, and not guys like you. You need to be about 4-5 years older than them which seems to be ideal, although you can go 10-15 pretty easy as well.

I'm not into a Bash the moderator topic. But, I would like some definition of what is and is not going to be banned/closed. I feel I have information to offer, and not just about online dating. But, if I'm going to have to worry about any topics I contribute to being arbitrarily closed, that will make me less likely to contribute.

Is it your intentions as moderators to close down any topic in reference to online dating?

 

[jonny football hero]

No, they just enjoy the rush of power, that pretending that their lives really dont suck because they made moderator of a internet board gives them.

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

Eternal wrote:

Also, if you want to whine about something, PM the mod that closed it. If I had gotten to this before Gio, I would have closed it and told you all to PM him. No need to try and call him out in internet public.

So let me get this straight, it's ok for you and Vincent to call out people publically for being "idiots doing online dating" yet it's not ok for us to point out how ridiculous it is to arbitrarily close internet dating threads just because you don't like the topic.

It's a good thing you two don't have the admin powers to shut down suggestions and feedback threads. Geez....

 

[Wyldfire]

This is SO uncool. Internet dating sites are NOT about chatting, IMing or cybering online. It is a mere TOOL to meet available singles in your area. You make initial contact online, and then you set up a time and place to meet. Anyone who is of the belief that only unattractive people and losers join these sites don't know what they're talking about. I met a guy I dated for around 3 months on a dating site.

Banning ANY tool or method used to meet members of the opposite sex is the equivalent to banning the use of the DJ Bible or the Tips section.

It's fine to discourage people from continuing to talk to women online who refuse to meet in person. And frankly, those who use those dating sites are NOT going to stop using them and if you don't allow the subject to be discussed openly then there are going to be a hella lot of guys going about utilizing this tool in the WRONG way.

Those wishing to outlaw this topic is dead wrong, period.

 

[Eternal]

While I don't condone Vincent for calling everyone there "idiots," it's a mod judgement to close something.

This issue is being taken care of by the rest of the mods right now anyway.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by jonny football hero
No, they just enjoy the rush of power, that pretending that their lives really dont suck because they made moderator of a internet board gives them.

I AM TEH WINNAR WITH MY AWESOMESS MODDING POWERZZ!!!!1

BTW, I never called anyone an idiot

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by Cesare Cardinali
So let me get this straight, it's ok for you and Vincent to call out people publically for being "idiots doing online dating" yet it's not ok for us to point out how ridiculous it is to arbitrarily close internet dating threads just because you don't like the topic.

It's a good thing you two don't have the admin powers to shut down suggestions and feedback threads. Geez....

Wait wait wait, when did I say it was ok for me and Vincent (or any mod) to call people "idiots" publicly?

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Originally posted by Eternal
Wait wait wait, when did I say it was ok for me and Vincent (or any mod) to call people "idiots" publicly?

I don't have a problem with calling people idiots publicly. Who wants to go first?

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
I don't have a problem with calling people idiots publicly. Who wants to go first?

PICK ME OOO OOO PICK ME.


(wait everyone else already did )

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

You called them "losers" (not idiots...my bad) and called the topic pathetic and stupid. Guess that makes it ok then.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Cesare Cardinali
You called them "losers" (not idiots...my bad) and called the topic pathetic and stupid. Guess that makes it ok then.

I called the people who used Online Dating services losers, I never called anyone specifically a loser.

If they were so cool, would they be using an online dating service?

 

[Eternal]

Vincent, Gio, knock it off...You are making this fun, which according to some posters, we aren't allowed to do.

Cesare - I'll look back and read that post.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Eternal
Vincent, Gio, knock it off...You are making this fun, which according to some posters, we aren't allowed to do.

Crap I keep forgetting that. Us mods are apparently supposed to lose all personality when we get that word under are name...

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by Vincent
Crap I keep forgetting that. Us mods are apparently supposed to lose all personality when we get that word under are name...

Or become mindless drones. I know why a lot of these people complain about not getting girls...They can't make up their minds.

"Mods are supposed to just move and close things and be under the radar."

Then we have...

"Mods only move and close and delete things, they never post anymore because they are on a power trip."

Tell you what...I'll just keep doing things the way I'm doing it. If you don't like it, do what the other dozen or so people have done...PM Allen about it.

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Eternal
Tell you what...I'll just keep doing things the way I'm doing it.

yup all 4800 posts of the way you do it

 

[MRomeo99]

Little boys. [Shaking my head]

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by MRomeo99
Little boys. [Shaking my head]

Old men [Shaking my head]

 

[Sato21m]

Vincet get a Girlfirend

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Vincent
Sorry gents, but as I said, I hate online dating/flirting/attempts to get into a chicks pants through a website that much.

If you want advice to getting chicks online, you'd better find another forum because this forum is about becoming a Don Juan, not some Internet loser. Success != skill.

Consider your thread to be a model for whats gonna come.

Vincent, have you actually read the threads that are out there about Net dating? I seriously don't think so. I am one of the main proponents of using the Net as one of several mediums to sarge women and in each of the threads I posted to, I expound the core practices of true DJism.

There's a handful of us DJs who have enough skill to successfully traverse the Net and sarge the on-line women offline. Not all of us are players (cough) but we readily approach and engage women. I'm hoping that a couple more of us will step up and speak to this.

Look, I don't know why you feel the way that you do about the Net and truthfully I don't care. It's your right to have your opinion as do each of us and I respect that your right to even though I do not agree with it.

The fact is that I enjoy this site a lot. If it is decided that posts about Net dating are taboo such like those about politics, I as the rest of us will have to accept that or choose to go elsewhere. Until that is decided, I feel that its unfair and truly fvcked up that you are unilaterally closing threads because of your perception and judgment of others.

$FD

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Vincent
I love that people use threads instead of PMing.

Oh well, I guess its much cooler to bash instead of having a conversation




Here I'll tell you what, Give me 1 legitimate reason/benefit online dating has on a person, and I'll just ignore the threads.

If you can't, then I guess I'm right.

Think about why people denounce Net dating, they are actually excuses. They say that they can not read a woman through an email, that all they would do is waste time IMing or emailing back and forth, that the women online are all hags, the list is endless...

There's truth to all of that but its mainly the truth for AFCs. I've been able to turn up my face to face game easily to 110% because its a piece of cake compared to the skills needed online. On-line you have to have your qualifying skills on high, you need to be able to gain rapport and IL of the woman WITHOUT kino! Another well known fact is that it's much more difficult to emote through emails than face to face.

Given that, take the DJs that are able to do all that online AND carry it over into the face to face meetings with these women. Do we ever complain about not having anything to say to them when we meet? Do we complain about not knowing what to do on the date? Do we complain about the woman being a professional dater just wanting a free meal and a couple of free drinks? Not those of us that are DJs.

The fact is that we successful DJs have used the Net to make those skills among others very acute. Read the posts of mine about meeting women on the Net AND face to face, you will see that I am successful in each and I have given 'mostly' sound advice from my experience in each.

So how about you? I'm curious, what have your experiences been with sarging on-line?