romangod said:
Exactly! It seems like many marry out of a fear of loneliness and when they realize that they are lonelier and unhappier by marrying for the wrong reasons it's usually too late to get out of the mine field. The chickens come home to roost.
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yep. and the problem is ALWAYS 100% of the time the same thing. its ALWAYS people who don't really know who they are.
you see, as a man, if you know, to the core of your being, who you are, its very very simple to 'read' other people. you can see through them like syran wrap. no matter how they try to cover up who they are, you are able to see / sense their true nature.
i always laugh when men on here say that women are good actresses. yes, they are, but only with the veil of p*ssy power to hide their true selves. in as much it is actually the mans desire that blinds him to the true nature of the woman in question.
men (and women) so desperately want to be 'saved' from life that they are prepared to believe in any costume their significant other dawns for them.
but i can tell you right now, i could take any woman out there and within 10 minutes tell you how suitable she would be as a wife. a simply myriad of questions would reveal her true nature - even if she were to lie in her answers, it would be evident (to me at least) that she were hiding 'something' in her responses.
in life you never get screwed. you always screw yourself. i watched a movie recently where their was a quote by morgan freeman where he says 'the end is always in the beginning if you look for it.'
the problem is that people have a very poor understanding of human behavior. men have an even poorer understanding of female behavior. and on top of all this people have a vested interest in seeing what they want to see, instead of what is actually in front of them.
but i re-iterate, unless you know who you are, its impossible to know who someone else is. because your view of them will take place as part of a process wherein you are trying to more fully understand who you are. you will interpret their behaviors against an unformed mind, and your locus of focus will be more on what their presence in your life tells you about you.
but when you know who you are. when you know what you believe in. when you have a set of principles that are agnostic of outcome - which is to say that you place them above all else - then others cannot fool you. you become a force unto itself that others must either join with or reject.
no matter how crafty a woman may be, she can never fool a tree into thinking she is one thing or another - because a tree does not react, it cannot be manipulated, it simply is what it is.
when a man has become pure, and is a 'thing in itself', like a tree - when his nature is solid like a piece of steel, instead of pliable like silly putty - a woman will either accept his nature and be loyal to it or walk away from it.
this is not to say that a man will not change and grow as time goes on. but it is to say that when he reaches of stage of being at peace with who he is and what he believes in, when he is able to withstand anything life throws at him without falling to pieces, it is then that he is ready to assess a woman in terms of her marriage potential.
until then, he is but a man with cataracts, stumbling about half blind, and easily lead astray and fooled into thinking he is on the right path when in reality he has no clue where he is being lead.
