Originally posted by princelydeeds
I would agree that no woman should ever be forced to have an abortion or not have an abortion. But please explain the unequal protection of from the law. If a woman decides she doesnt want to be a parent she has the right to decide, post conception, that she doesn't want to be a parent. She can have an abortion, give the child up for adoption or simply abandon the child. Why shouldn't men have the same options? If there are good reasons for a woman not to want to be a parent, why aren't there good reasons for a man not to want to be a parent?
Men and women DO have equal protection. A man cannot force a woman to have an abortion, nor can a man force a woman to carry a pregnancy to term. Likewise, a woman cannot force a man to get an abortion, nor can she force a man to carry a pregnancy to term. Completely equal. The reason why you think it is unequal is because women are able to make choices about what happens within their own bodies (which is where most fetuses grow). When the day comes when men carry fetuses within their own bodies, then the men can make the final determination about what gets done with their bodies and the fetus growing inside it.
Aside from the abortion issue, a man has a say in giving a child up for adoption, or abandoning the child, just as much as a woman does. If a man wants to give a child up for adoption, but the woman doesn't, she can keep the child and raise it (and get child support from the man). If a woman wants to give up a child for adoption, but a man doesn't, he can keep the child and raise it (and get child support from the woman). If that's not equal, nothing is. The same applies with "abandonment". I know plenty of guys who won full custody of their kids and collect child support from the mothers. One of my best friends has three young boys from two different mothers and he has full custody of all three of them, and receives child support from both mothers.
Do you also support the right of men to do what they want with their bodies? For instance, as a man I can be forced to work more than one job so that I can give a woman an $800 a month paycheck (also known as child support), doesnt that constitue involuntary servitude (covered by the 13th amendment)? How does the rights of men to do what they choose with their bodies, differ from a womans right to do what she wants with her body?
Everyone's situation is different, and I believe that there is much about child support laws that need to be addressed differently than how they are now. However, with that said, if you are just as involved in your child's life and get truly joint custody (50/50, which the courts will often award if the father wants it and is not abusive, etc.), then child support is very little, if anything.
I acknowledge that there are some problems with the way child support works in many areas of this country. It can be very unfair for both men AND women. But that's a little too far off on a tangent from what the original topic was for even me. If you want to discuss it further, I'd recommend starting a new thread about it.