Originally posted by drixsa
so NO LTR unless you wanna be Giovanni Casanova
Hey, there's nothing wrong with being Giovanni Casanova. I enjoy it very much, actually.
Now, let's talk about single mothers for a minute. I used to be one of the loudest voices against single mothers on this forum. I'd had some really bad experiences with single mothers and so I used to warn guys... stay away from them.
I changed my mind after I started dating a girl named Sandie. When we first started talking to each other and seeing each other, I didn't know she had a kid. By the time I found out, I didn't care. She had already shown herself to be a really great girl, kid or no kid.
Eventually, we decided to stop seeing each other, although we remain good friends. By that time, I had realized that single mothers were not inherently bad.
As many know, the girl I'm engaged to has a daughter. She has everything I wanted in a girl; she's smart, nice, funny, and beautiful. She also has a daughter; that was a bonus.
As for not being #1, I don't really think that matters. I think that if you get married and have kids at any point, your kids are going to come first no matter what anyway. But I certainly don't feel neglected, or as if I'm not loved. I think it all comes down to this: I'm secure enough to not feel jealous of a 2-year-old.
I don't see this little girl as a problem, or an obstacle, or an "issue" that I have to "deal with". She is part of the total package; you can't love the mother and not the kid in an LTR.
Bottom line: this single mother has been far greater than most of the "regular" single girls I've been in relationships with and/or have dated, and this relationship has been far greater than any I've ever been in. I highly recommend it, if you can find the right single mother.