Advice from the old lady:
I refer to myself that way precisely because at my age and status (late 40's divorced mother of 3) I must inherently be garbage, right? So I make the reference tongue in cheek because I actually am having a good experience at my age and place in life. Ups and downs of course, but I'm pleased with my journey thus far, am enjoying success, enjoying motherhood, enjoying my relationship (with a hot slightly younger man), have options and I will never be, I assure you, a cat lady, lol. Cats are much more trouble and much less fun than a good man
Red Pill encompasses so much that it is not an easy thing to explain to a woman who isn't already aware of the way things actually are between men & women. Feminism is a lie in many ways, promising happiness in independence (that is not how humans as social creatures are wired) and thus feminism does women a disservice in the realm of romance, dating, bonding and human relationships because it ignores biology and historical societal structure & function. From the standpoint that the TRP points out the lies of feminism I think it is a positive thing. There are great virtues and rewards to be found as a faithful wife, mother, and life mate to a worthy man. And therein are some of the inherent problems. There are few worthy men these days, few virtuous women, few parents teaching their sons and daughters how to be good partners, have decent morals and solid character, and the adverse consequences of behavior that doesn't conform to this value system.
The red pill theory from that standpoint has been quietly taught in upper class circles forever. Namely that sons need to have ambition and make something of themselves while being gentlemen and that daughters need to have grace, beauty, manners, feminine character, be a good hostess and exhibit class in their personal conduct as worthy wives & mothers. And the two complement each other and therefore make a good choices as a romantic partner. In certain circles women have always been judged by their ability to reflect well on their man and their family. Men have always been judged on accomplishment and status, whether inherited or earned of their own merit. Upper class circles retain the patriarchal structure even in Western cultures. I think the appeal of Eastern European, Asian and even Latin women derives from the fact that those cultures remain patriarchal in nature as well.
When you get into the masses however, at least in Westernized societies, where being naturally raised in a red pill way is not the norm in the present generation, then the meaning of the term morphs into something else. It's a way for men to grossly categorize women, judge them on appearance above all else rather than character, and it's an excuse for the mediocre man's shortcomings and failures. Its AWALT, hypergamy, SMP, LMS, SMV, the wall and all this other nonsense that sees all people through a filter that allows no one individuality, particularly not women, irrationally hopelessly emotional creatures that we must be (if you believe the generalization applies without exception.) This creates a jaded view that can't see individual variation and is therefore in my mind under developed and immature. And no, I do not think exposing a woman to this immature and jaded view is a good thing.
My father for example was red pill before anybody called it red pill. He thought women ought to be wives and mothers as top billing because that is what women are built to do (biology much?) and men cannot bear their own children...and men ought to pass on their lineage. That's grossly oversimplified of course, but that was at the core of my father's deeply help beliefs. He also held that men should lead the marriage and men should lead the family. Period.
There is good information out there on how to lead a relationship (good red pill advice), how to choose a woman of character to be one's life partner (good red pill advice), and how to be the best man you are capable of becoming (good red pill advice), and why you should not make women (or a woman) your end all be all in life (good red pill advice).
But there is also jaded information out there that lies to men the same way feminism lies to women. Some of the lies out there are:
1. Women are emotional never rational
2. Women are washed up after age xyz
3. Hypergamy drives all female behavior
4. Single mothers are always garbage
5. Hotness is all that matters
6. Marriage is never a good idea under any circumstances
and the biggest lie going IMO:
7. Sexual abundance is the goal and will solve all your problems
NONE of the above statements are true to the degree much of the manosphere would lead you to believe, and in fact the manosphere itself is made up of people who experienced hardship or failure in relationships along the way. The happily married men as a general rule do not end up finding the manosphere...they don't need it. So the manosphere has it's slant but like Pandora's box, it also has Hope and a means of self transformation.
So I think it is wise to understand the bias inherent in red pill perspective, and understand where the schism happens between encouragement toward positive self growth and dealing in reality where women are concerned and the darker side of TRP that tries to soothe mediocrity with AWALT theories and other things rather than handing people the unvarnished truth that the majority of people are average and to become above average without God-given endowment (a la Lebron James or George Clooney or Giselle) requires a tremendous amount of work (that relatively few people are willing to undertake).
There is nothing inspirational in telling the public the truth, which is that people fall on a bell curve. Most people fall under the bell of the curve where the average person is. Accept that and find another average person and life will do OK. Instead TRP for men (and feminism for women) try to tell everyone in their respective audiences that YOU are EXCEPTIONAL! And therefore YOU are ENTITLED to the best of everything. Consumerism maybe? At any rate both are misleading their audiences.
Those who truly are exceptional in some way are going to rise to the top in their respective arena. That is what exceptional people do. And that is why it is said that for the "high quality" segment of the SMP, hypergamy is dead. But statistically speaking few people are objectively exceptional. Everyone should therefore strive to be the best they can be and to reach a place of self satisfaction along the way. From there quality relationships with a suitable partner become viable.
I personally find some of TRP utterly silly but some of it of great value. One of the biggest things I see is just how much men CARE about stuff I didn't really realize men cared about...and that is useful to me as a woman because it helps me better understand my man in particular and the male mindset in general. But expecting the average feminism indoctrinated woman to see past all the gooble-d-gook to the meat of the matter is asking a lot.
Better to lead by example as someone mentioned above.
