their interests are not in conflict with ours?
As surprising as you may find it...
No, they're not in conflict with ours and not just on a conceptual level. Actually, I will be very down to earth so you can understand.
Ex: I go to a club with some male friends, girls a re dancing on the dance floor. We join them and end up chatting up at the bar. A friend of mine hooks up with one of the girls and goes back to his place with her where they smoke a bud and do it doggy style. The next morning, they have breakfast together and exchange phone numbers so they can do do that again sometime.
I would have to think long and hard to see how her interest and his are conflicting in this situation...
Ex2: My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year. On Friday, we're planning on going to the beach for the week-end. When we get there, we'll want to eat lobster, drink French wine, tell each other stupid stories, laugh and make love. At the end of the day, I'd say she makes me happy and I make her happy too. We entertain each other, we please other sexually and we support each other...
I still fail to see what makes her the enemy or how her interests are conflicting with mine. And if and when that will happen, I will deal with and see if it can be solved or not. If not, I will move on...
What's so hard to understand about all this?
Oh yeah! I get it! You're a troll who gets no attention from the ladies because you're so pathetically bitter and jaded, and you found an outlet for your hatred and frustration on this forum.
Well, beware of fallacious generalizations! I think it is safe to assume that your life is miserable and that you're at the very bottom of the pile so I am sorry to break the news bro: it may be a war for you but it's not that bad for everybody.
Good luck though...