Wife attempted suicide, what do I do now? Please help

[way2smart]

OP, I just have something I wonder about this:

1. How was she when you first got to know her?
2. Are you the only one who use this Sosuave's account? By that I mean all the threads created before this by this account were yours also, is that right?

Hope you answer.

No one has access to my account. When I first met she seemed okay, but now looking back I think she held back lot of information about her health.

 

[ChrisFloyd]

No one has access to my account. When I first met she seemed okay, but now looking back I think she held back lot of information about her health.

I do not want to be nosy, but based on your posting history, your wife just appeared out of no where in the picture.

What I mean is that by June 2015, you were still talking about your plate and how you allegedly got her pregnant. However, by Oct 2015, you were suddenly talking about your wife. I can only interpret this as you were big on cheating based on your posting history. Or it took you only a few months to marry this woman (your wife) without proper considerations.

 

[Black Sunshine]

If you took traditional marriage vows literally, there would never be any situation to justify divorce though

Adultery...

 

[Yewki]

Adultery...

Which marriage vows say that?

 

[way2smart]

I do not want to be nosy, but based on your posting history, your wife just appeared out of no where in the picture.

What I mean is that by June 2015, you were still talking about your plate and how you allegedly got her pregnant. However, by Oct 2015, you were suddenly talking about your wife. I can only interpret this as you were big on cheating based on your posting history. Or it took you only a few months to marry this woman (your wife) without proper considerations.

When i was talking about my plate in June, I have already ended my relationship with her long before then. It's just that my plate appeared out of the blue in June claiming that she is pregnant, which I found out later was a lie.

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

I have no history of cheating whatsoever and I have no reason to lie to strangers.

 

[LiveYourDream]

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

 

[Tictac]

I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

This is the understatement of all time.

 

[LiveYourDream]

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

This is an example of oneitis blindness, and it's destruction, on the fast track. Signs of oneitis blindness include, the loss clear perception and the subsequent loss of rational decision making.

Never think you are immune. Always keep yourself in check. If your friends suggest you are not seeing clearly, listen, and truly consider their input, as it could save you big time.

 

[way2smart]

This is an example of oneitis blindness, and it's destruction, on the fast track. Signs of oneitis blindness include, the loss clear perception and the subsequent loss of rational decision making.

Never think you are immune. Always keep yourself in check. If your friends suggest you are not seeing clearly, listen, and truly consider their input, as it could save you big time.

I agree it was a bad decision on my part. But all my friends liked her, in fact she did all the chasing and stuff.

 

[LiveYourDream]

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

OP, my intent is not to shame or blame. In my view, that does not serve anyone. Please do not take it that way. You are paying for your choices now, in ways that are bigger than anyone here will ever really understand.

This is a great learning opportunity for all. What was your experience, perspective and thought process, that led you to decide to marry so quickly? What do you see in retrospect that you wish you would have paid attention to, or you realize now, was a red flag, but you minimized it at the time?

I am curious, have you been married before? For how long? Any LTR's? How long were they?

My personal recommendation, if anyone is going to legally marry someone, spend at least a solid two years together first.

 

[Speculator E]

way2smart, would it be possible for you to tell your wife she has BPD and suggest she go into therapy?

 

[LiveFreeX]

If she is a trump supporter then maybe you two can work things out. If she's in favor of piggary ****on then you need to leave her ass in the dust.

 

[devilkingx2]

When i was talking about my plate in June, I have already ended my relationship with her long before then. It's just that my plate appeared out of the blue in June claiming that she is pregnant, which I found out later was a lie.

However I did get married quickly, I met my wife in March, got exclusive in May and married in August. I should have spent more time to screen her better.

I have no history of cheating whatsoever and I have no reason to lie to strangers.

is this real life?

 

[way2smart]

is this real life?

Yes, as stated multiple times. This isn't some kind of tribunal where i stand before judges and defend myself. I know what I did and I don't care what others think. What's done is done, nothing can change that.

I am open to any other suggestions or advice as to what I can do in the future, but stop criticizing for what I already did. It gets old, fast.

 

[way2smart]

way2smart, would it be possible for you to tell your wife she has BPD and suggest she go into therapy?

That's too risky, I haven't heard any success stories anyway.

 

[LiveFreeX]

This isn't some kind of tribunal where i stand before judges and defend myself.

Actually it is.

I am open to any other suggestions or advice as to what I can do in the future.

Asia? South America? Central America? Get your money and go go go.

 

[devilkingx2]

Yes, as stated multiple times. This isn't some kind of tribunal where i stand before judges and defend myself. I know what I did and I don't care what others think. What's done is done, nothing can change that.

I am open to any other suggestions or advice as to what I can do in the future, but stop criticizing for what I already did. It gets old, fast.

sometimes you need criticism to drill your mistakes into your mind so you never ever forget it. that's some life ruining **** you just did there and it would do you a favor if we nailed you to some wood for a bit here