Why So Many Young Men Are Single and Sexless

[BadBoy89]

Article:

- Relationship trends are jeopardizing intimacy skills
- Men must prioritize real-life relationships, attuned to the shift in priorities women have already made.
- Men could have increased their relationship skills to close the effort gap during the pandemic
- Men could have confronted their relative avoidance and challenged the gender norms that made them so anxious about intimacy
- Between an energy-intensive, highly competitive dating environment & the low-effort rewards of porn, men appear to be taking the path of least resistance.
- Men can choose to focus on developing the necessary relationship skills to be more successful in dating

Why So Many Young Males Are Single and Sexless

Young men have never been more single and sexless in recorded history. Learn what's contributing to this trend and what's necessary to change it.

www.psychologytoday.com

My Thoughts:

If women were virgins before marriage, divorce was shameful, and women were not allowed to cash out, men’s relationship skills would improve instinctively.

Thoughts?

 

[Redwood]

This is kind of beating a dead horse right now

 

[MatureDJ]

No, it's due to there being less decent (i.e., slender, childless, tattless) women that would be satisfied with a sub-Chad. IOW, it's a supply problem, not a demand problem. And yes, watching porn is more enjoyable than porking a fatty.

 

[corrector]

Yeah, I'm 47 years old and I must be a gen-X outlier that completely resonates with the gen-Zs in this regard. It's not just about porn though, you have these sub-varients like onlyfans which is 10 times more addictive than porn when you factor in d-ratings, ego-vested interactions, makes it even more penetrative because you are interacting with hb9s or that type of lady you want. I doubt if we were talking about slow-internet 90s porn it would be the same thing. With these types of connections you can make, even if you know it's fake on some level, you feel good about that. Also in Toronto, there are just so many choices of escorts, that it is mind-boggling. It gives you a feeling of abundance and like being rejection-proof because there are just so many available girls out there that you can just fap on it.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Article:

- Relationship trends are jeopardizing intimacy skills
- Men must prioritize real-life relationships, attuned to the shift in priorities women have already made.
- Men could have increased their relationship skills to close the effort gap during the pandemic
- Men could have confronted their relative avoidance and challenged the gender norms that made them so anxious about intimacy
- Between an energy-intensive, highly competitive dating environment & the low-effort rewards of porn, men appear to be taking the path of least resistance.
- Men can choose to focus on developing the necessary relationship skills to be more successful in dating

Why So Many Young Males Are Single and Sexless

Young men have never been more single and sexless in recorded history. Learn what's contributing to this trend and what's necessary to change it.

www.psychologytoday.com

My Thoughts:

If women were virgins before marriage, divorce was shameful, and women were not allowed to cash out, men’s relationship skills would improve instinctively.

Thoughts?

I agree with your main message but given your expectations I believe you're still in your 20s or possibly early 30s.

When you get to your late 30s you no longere care about virgings before marriage or even their ho past..a simple decent looking woman that gains her own money and leaves you enough space would probably be enough given that you enter relationships already with a stop loss in position.

I'm talking about relationships of course since marriage is an outdated procedure for all most men care.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Article:

- Relationship trends are jeopardizing intimacy skills
- Men must prioritize real-life relationships, attuned to the shift in priorities women have already made.
- Men could have increased their relationship skills to close the effort gap during the pandemic
- Men could have confronted their relative avoidance and challenged the gender norms that made them so anxious about intimacy
- Between an energy-intensive, highly competitive dating environment & the low-effort rewards of porn, men appear to be taking the path of least resistance.
- Men can choose to focus on developing the necessary relationship skills to be more successful in dating

Why So Many Young Males Are Single and Sexless

Young men have never been more single and sexless in recorded history. Learn what's contributing to this trend and what's necessary to change it.

www.psychologytoday.com

My Thoughts:

If women were virgins before marriage, divorce was shameful, and women were not allowed to cash out, men’s relationship skills would improve instinctively.

Thoughts?

“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.”
This quote never gets old.

I think one of the main reasons is above.
Most men in the after Gen X are weak men, especially when it comes to
Gen Z. If you cannot cope with the resistance life gives you, but moan, cry and complain of "how hard it is"; well then.. You have already set yourself up for failure.

We all have to cope with the challenges of the dating scene and adapt to the changes in both female mentality and the new technology that has been introduced since the introduction of the internet about 20+ years ago. Some of thrive in the environment while others let's call them the 80 percenters do not. A weak frame of mind which most of these guys have set them up for direct failure and thus produce mediocre results or none at all.

 

[Solomon]

“Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times.”
This quote never gets old.

I think one of the main reasons is above.
Most men in the after Gen X are weak men, especially when it comes to
Gen Z. If you cannot cope with the resistance life gives you, but moan, cry and complain of "how hard it is"; well then.. You have already set yourself up for failure.

We all have to cope with the challenges of the dating scene and adapt to the changes in both female mentality and the new technology that has been introduced since the introduction of the internet about 20+ years ago. Some of thrive in the environment while others let's call them the 80 percenters do not. A weak frame of mind which most of these guys have set them up for direct failure and thus produce mediocre results or none at all.

Totally agree with this, this is why I have no sympathy for Incels
Adapt or die

With the rise of AI inceldom will continue to rise while the men who adapt are going to not only be able to navigate it but also become wealthy

This is like the 90s tech bubble. I was pre-teen then but now as an older man. What a time to be alive!

 

[CornbreadFed]

Your average female pound for pound is better than her male counterpart. Females are socially driven and given experience at a younger age, dress themselves better in public, and have better chances in education institutions/stable white-collar jobs at a younger age.

 

[SW15]

Women are the gatekeepers to sex. Increased female hypergamy has kept more men outside the gates of sex.

Your average female pound for pound is better than her male counterpart. Females are socially driven and given experience at a younger age, dress themselves better in public, and have better chances in education institutions/stable white-collar jobs at a younger age.

In the United States, there's been the development of a gynocentric social order. That phrase gynocentric social order was coined by Rollo Tomassi. The gynocentric social order came out of 1960s-1970s era feminism.

In combination with the gynocentric social order, there were also structural economic changes that were less friendly to men. More and more manufacturing jobs were outsourced to foreign countries. Those jobs were typically male jobs. Additionally, more females entered the workforce and entered white collar spaces. Prior to the gynocentric social order, both blue collar and white collar work were completely male spaces. Women entered the workforce and re-made white collar working spaces into a gynocentric environment while the economy at-large also became more white collar oriented. Additionally, there have been incentives favoring women too. Women get preferred hiring status in white collar work and in college admissions. Organizations will do everything they can in layoff situations to prevent female layoffs.

There are a lot of reasons why the average female now seems to have her life more together than the average male.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Your average female pound for pound is better than her male counterpart. Females are socially driven and given experience at a younger age, dress themselves better in public, and have better chances in education institutions/stable white-collar jobs at a younger age.

You do realize that most women would just curl up and die if all men put down their shunned (non white-collar) jobs for a month and didnt gave a shyt on women. Thats how much better your average female pound is.

The only thing more overrating women then the gynocentric society these days are women themselves.

Stop simping so hard for christs sake, it wont do you any good in the long run.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You do realize that most women would just curl up and die if all men put down their shunned (non white-collar) jobs for a month and didnt gave a shyt on women. Thats how much better your average female pound is.

The only thing more overrating women then the gynocentric society these days are women themselves.

Stop simping so hard for christs sake, it wont do you any good in the long run.

You are literally living off an emotional fantasy tale. Your average man in public is an overweight NPC that knows more about the 3rd strings on the local football team then knowing the basics of anything masculine.

 

[CornbreadFed]

In the United States, there's been the development of a gynocentric social order. That phrase gynocentric social order was coined by Rollo Tomassi. The gynocentric social order came out of 1960s-1970s era feminism.

In combination with the gynocentric social order, there were also structural economic changes that were less friendly to men. More and more manufacturing jobs were outsourced to foreign countries. Those jobs were typically male jobs. Additionally, more females entered the workforce and entered white collar spaces. Prior to the gynocentric social order, both blue collar and white collar work were completely male spaces. Women entered the workforce and re-made white collar working spaces into a gynocentric environment while the economy at-large also became more white collar oriented. Additionally, there have been incentives favoring women too. Women get preferred hiring status in white collar work and in college admissions. Organizations will do everything they can in layoff situations to prevent female layoffs.

There are a lot of reasons why the average female now seems to have her life more together than the average male.

My GF is a careerist woman that benefitted from these platforms that elevated her to her position. She still thinks men have it way easier and points out the good ole boys and Chads that she has to compete against for jobs. I had to inform her that those guys do not represent 99% of men and that even us men have to compete against them without any stepping stones or platforms given to her by the gynocentric work environment.

 

[nismo-4]

Women are the gatekeepers to sex. Increased female hypergamy has kept more men outside the gares of sex.

There are a lot of reasons why the average female now seems to have her life more together than the average male.

The average female lives life on easy mode. Dime piece females live life on God Mode with all weapons and spells, plus infinite ammo, magic, and health.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, very true. Many are also gatekeepers of commitment because they know sex has to happen first and simps who will commit before sex are actually commonplace. If a man isn't high value, he's not a gatekeeper of sh*t.

Men watch porn more since you don't need game or charm to turn it on. Just a working tv, laptop, dvd player, or internet connection. Of course you can't tell a group of invisible incels that if they stop watching porn they'll then have the Miami Dolphins Cheerleaders wanting to offer them blojob's and pink space a month later.

And men can't just wait to be high value or multimillionaires to meet women. I sure didn't wait because men do meet women at all levels.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Your average female pound for pound is better than her male counterpart. Females are socially driven and given experience at a younger age, dress themselves better in public, and have better chances in education institutions/stable white-collar jobs at a younger age.

Females are simply more fit to a society that is built around them.

That's like saying that a red fish is better than an eagle only cause you sprayed water everywhere.

Their entire strenght exists in terms of collectivity and group support, none of them would last a week if they had to work on issues the same way men do.

 

[SW15]

Females are simply more fit to a society that is built around them.

Gynocentric social order in both the USA and Western Europe.

Their entire strenght exists in terms of collectivity and group support, none of them would last a week if they had to work on issues the same way men do.

Correct

 

[CornbreadFed]

Females are simply more fit to a society that is built around them.

That's like saying that a red fish is better than an eagle only cause you sprayed water everywhere.

Their entire strenght exists in terms of collectivity and group support, none of them would last a week if they had to work on issues the same way men do.

I agree, but we can only acknowledge the world that we live in. Yes, my careerist GF can handle anything that can be read in a book, but she completely fails at things that requires strength, sharp awareness, reactionary, and keen senses. This is where I have to come in lol.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Gynocentric social order in both the USA and Western Europe.



Correct

Think about our public school system.

It's all based on sitting behind a desk and mindlessly reading and memorizing information with no reasoning or analysis needed.

All you reward is compliance and sheep minded behaviour.

 

[SW15]

Think about our public school system.

It's all based on sitting behind a desk and mindlessly reading and memorizing information with no reasoning or analysis needed.

All you reward is compliance and sheep minded behaviour.

Yes. I think there's a good argument that K-12 public schools are designed to build beta males. Unfortunately, beta males have been useless to women in the sexual marketplace since at least 1990.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

I agree, but we can only acknowledge the world that we live in.

The world that we live in is still kept running by men and only by men. Gender studies dont fix plumbing and dont keep nuclear power plants working. They dont build tractors and they dont build even the wooden pallets your "careerist GF´s" next ceramic toilet gets stored on in a warehouse that is operated by men and the light in that warehouse is running because of men that work the electricity grid.

The only problem is that men do not get the credit they deserve for their work.

But as western society goes down the drain, this is about to change again.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I can only chalk this up to lack of strong male role models. I was on a path of despair in that regard until I met someone who took me under their wing, treated me as if I was his own and lead firmly and clearly by masculine example. Changed my entire life. Shudder to think of how it would have gone otherwise.