Based on my exhaustive introspection that I have been conducting for half a year, I think I have some of the characteristics that can shape this class of men (at least in my case).
- Dysfunctional families, narcissistic and manipulative/absent parents (like mine) can affect their perception of themselves, affecting their self-esteem.
- Too much **** to be distracted today. Pornography, video games, absurd videos on the networks, dating applications that only match you with people just as dysfunctional as you because of the algorithm.
- Absence of masculine figures in its development, in my case, although I had girlfriends when I was 15, I almost only had female friends. At this age, he turned dishes in a brutal way without knowing the system of it. I saw something threatening in masculinity, which today has been completely reversed. I have improved my relationship with men in a very positive way.
This can screw you up enormously, I was lucky to have a womanizing friend who guided me a bit in behavior and how to communicate with potential suitors, after losing his friendship, I went into a picture of depression and anxiety so severe that I suffered attacks panicked all the time and anxiety ate me up all ****ing day, I fell into drug use. I went through years of loneliness, right now I would consider mine "solitude" so as not to be so abrupt.
- I think that the worst of all is the distorted perception of relationships, when one is in that well, one is blinded by ideas and erroneous reasoning patterns of reality. Little by little I have been recovering.
The issue is quite complex, I don't blame the men who go through this, but I don't feel sorry for them, since they don't try anything to improve their situation and only look for excuses to justify their mediocrity.
After all, nature is wise and will continue to mislead those who are not in accordance with it, I think.