The next time someone on here wrongfully calls me a feminist I'm seriously going to post links to this forum on every feminist forum google turns up so you can see what REAL feminists are really like.Originally posted by ketostix
Wyldfire's just trying to push her pro-female, feminist belief system on us. Like another poster said, all women are feminist since society is feminist. Plus she likes attention and to argue. Here's a tip, most guys don't like opinionated, argumentative women. There's another strike against Wyldfire.
Anyway every time she post something I find a bunch of holes in her theory and points I disagree with, and when you counterpoint she either ignores the points or just goes on a tangent twisting the argument around. It sounds like she's making sense but it's really just her rambling, illogical, unrelated and never-ending arguing to prove herself right. That's what discussing something with a women gets you. I got to give her credit for at least trying to discuss an issue, she isn't quick to get nasty and she's patient, most women are even that..Point is women can't stay on point and they personalize evrything., so like the other poster said you can't reason with women.
Most women my age who are raising children by themselves are fully capable of doing that by themselves. It's a myth that older women with children are looking for someone to take care of her. We're typically quite capable of taking care of ourselves and our own children, thanks. Hell, I have 4 kids, don't get any child support at all and we live in a very nice two story home in one of the wealthiest towns in my state. Oh...and NO, nothing my family has was in any way, shape or form provided (or even financially contributed to) by anyone other than myself.Originally posted by Tboner
And what, exactly, does a 38 year old man have in common with a girl whose still all giddy about her high school prom? - Wyldfire
They may have more in common that he does with a 38 year old women searching for a provider to help raise her 4 kids.
I have found a few young women to be responsible, caring, mature, willing to learn, hardworking. If a 38 year old guy is looking for a LTR or wife, it's wise to be open to any age. At age 20, virtually none of the women are married, so it's easier to get a quality one. By the time they get to his age, the available ones are usually available for a reason.
Same can be said about the young men you claim to attract.Originally posted by Wyldfire
A word of warning about the very young women...
even ones that appear to be "high quality" at a young age haven't yet had a chance to go through the "growing up" phase that every woman needs to experience. This typically doesn't happen until a woman is 25 or later. I'm speaking from experiencee.
Originally posted by Gangster Of Love
Same can be said about the young men you claim to attract.
I'm saying that 18 and 19 year old girls typically aren't emotionally mature enough for a man considerably older than she is. She's still a kid and isn't even old enough to legally go out for a beer or have a glass of wine with dinner. Physically, there is not a significant difference between females who are 18 or 19 and ones who are 21. There is a significant EMOTIONAL difference, though. Much older men, especially those 30 or over who pursue 18 or 19 year old girls are pursuing them rather than the 21 year olds BECAUSE of that emotional immaturity. Those young girls are easier to take advantage of and trick. I've seen MANY 30+ men who go after these girls come right out and say that the reason they want to get a girl that age is because they want to "mold" her into what he thinks she should be. Sorry...but that IS predatory and taking advantage of a young person and it's quite gross. It also says an awful lot about the type of men who seek to do this. They always have control issues, low self esteem and a serious lack in the morality department. A 6 year difference isn't that bad. It's probably not a great idea for you to date 18 or 19 year olds at your age unless they are very mature for their age and you aren't looking to rush them into marriage and having babies.Originally posted by PoS
dont listen to this dried up, bitter old hag. my cousin's 33 and he's engaged to a 24 yr old. he met her when she was 22. and you are full of ****. are u telling me that in 3 years, i'll be too old to date 19 yr olds????? are u crazy? i was born in 1983. 1983 vs 1989 .. 6 years difference. hell, we're both born in the 80's too. big ****ing deal.
I have said nothing about older men being attracted to 18 and 19 year olds. However, there is a huge difference between attraction and pursuit of those girls. And again...most much older men who pursue those girls are just as attracted to a 21 year old woman as they are an 18 or 19 year old girl. However, those men even put the 20 and 21 year olds in a different category themselves because they KNOW there is a significant difference. They go after the TEEN ages because they view it as some kind of "conquest"...breaking in the little girl, "training" her, "molding" her. THAT is what makes it so perverted and gross.Originally posted by ketostix
That's pure BS wyldfire. Explain to me how a guy that's say 30 is in anyway necessarily being more predatory or more wrong for wanting to date an 18-21 year old than a guy her age would be? On second thought don't try to explain it. You're generalizing males and your passing that tired ol' anti-male belief system,i.e., you're saying essentially that what most males are naturally attracted to is some perversion. I'd say people who argue against nature are the ones perverted.Also you said there's a reason (insinuating something derogatory) that guys are single with no kids in their 30's..Yeah the real reason usually is they were nice decent guys. If some older guys want an older barren woman that's fine, but for you to disparage every guy that wants a younger woman just shows your biases.
Originally posted by Wyldfire
Just some interesting facts about those who marry young.
I'm sure the percentages are even higher now, ten years later. Doesn't look so good for anyone looking to marry women under 25...especially those 18 and 19 year olds.
Percentage of people that married under the age of 20 who eventually get divorced as of 1995:
40%
Percentage of people that married over the age of 25 who eventually get divorced as of 1995:
24%
Percentage of people who have ever been married by the age of 25:
Males: 32%
Females: 50%
I just had to bring up this old thread to make another point.Originally posted by Wyldfire
I don't even look at the job or income. This is the basic order of what I look at...
1. photo
2. marital status
3. age
4. distance away from where I live
5. make sure they don't list "intimate encounters" as what they are there for.
6. their attitude towards children
7. body type
8. drinking, smoking and drug habits
9. what they write in the essay section
The following things on a profile will lead to a definite rejection:
1. I don't find them visually attractive.
2. they are separated, married or in a relationship
3. Under 27 or 28 or over 45
4. lives over 30 miles from where I live.
5. if it in any way sounds like they are trolling to bed as many women as possible.
6. They make any negative comments about kids.
7. If they are fat (a few extra pounds is ok but I've seen seriously obese men list themselves as "a few extra pounds"...so MY version of a few extra pounds, not theirs.)
8. If they drink regularly, do any drugs or chain smoke.
9. If they can't spell, use "women" when they should use "woman" (big pet peeve), don't write anything at all, don't punctuate or form paragraphs...or are painfully boring to read. Oh, and if they come across like a jackass...
I honestly don't care how much money a guy makes or what he drives or does for work.