Yo Troops!
The OP states in his original title:
Why can't girls just admit that they have everything easier when it comes to dating?
In general, I'm inclined to agree with him. But it's only when you get into the specifics of the nature of dating and RELATIONSHIPS where thing start equalling out, and perhaps start moving into the man's favor------------but only if that man is of a certain caliber.
Usually time, a man's rising social stature, his growing control over his sex drive, and the increased attitude of competition that older women feel toward other, YOUNGER women all act as equalizing elements in the dating WAR.
I know it's popular to call this all "a game", but I disagree. I call this shyt "a WAR" because of all the LASTING heartaches, hurt feelings, financial hits, emotional damage, and spiritual devastation that's often left in the wake of one "or both" sides deciding to arbitrarily and WITHOUT WARNING--------"change" the rules.
And this happens MOST of the time.
Now, moving on:
From my experience and subsequent viewpoint, women do have it easier than men in dating "AT THE BEGINNING" in these ways:
Women do the final choosing, even though the man may do the initial picking.
Attractive women (and EVEN women who only "think" they're attractive) sit in the position of power in that they get a multitude of date/dinner/Dikk invitations---------just for having physical attractiveness alone.
In this sense, most women's expenditures of self-improvement need only be of a superficial nature initially. Whereas, after they've made sure that they've presented their "goods" properly---------all they have to do is sit on the throne like non-warrior princesses and give either thumbs up or thumbs down to the men who run up to them enamored by their looks.
Women have it easier than men because they are catered to by a society full of feminist sympathizers that let them get away with playing the
"I'm the fairer sex" card AND the
"I'm no different than a man" card whenever they want.
Usually they accomplish this by flying the flag of political correctness and running under it into whatever territories they desire in order to TAKE what they want. But if this doesn't work, what they'll do is make their attack more personal towards whatever man they're dealing with by using shaming tactics designed to make him
"give up" his viewpoints or goods to her of his
"own free will".
Women also have it easier, as has been said, because men are more visually influenced and more obviously and unashamedly sexually driven in their attraction. And it's because women can successfully dangle the carrot of the promise of potential sexual gratification and fulfillment to men that KEEPS them in a power position for long periods of time.
No one on this site would be shocked to realize that there's a wide range of horny single guys, horny guys in relationships, and horny guys in MARRIAGES that are still allowing themselves to be "controlled" because they're dealing with a kind of woman who "rations" out THEIR sexual meals to them.
Now, having said all that. As I mentioned in the beginning, women tend to start losing this percieved monopoly over mating as time passes.
Men have it easier than women in dating when they have advanced themselves in all areas of life.
When a man betters himself physically, he becomes more attractive to a wider range of women------thus increasing his capacity of getting a "Yes" from the women he choose, or getting actively recruited by women himself.
When a man betters himself economically and socially, he becomes more attractive to a wider range of women and he increases the pool of the women he meets simply BECAUSE he has become more well known as a result of his access to MANY different social circles.
Like it or not, most women love money and everybody loves "a winner". Though a lot of these women will mean him no good ultimately, still he'll have put himself in the same "choosing" position that "the HOT Chick" usually inhabits.
Lastly, but MOST importantly: When a man betters himself mentally and spiritually, he will not necessarily become more attractive to the average woman------but he'll become more attractive to HIMSELF.
What do I mean by this?
What I mean is that a man who builds himself up ON THE INSIDE is a man that is less controlled by external forces and more influenced by his long term best interest. Also recognize that a man's ability to change his life through self-improvement can oftentimes be limited in the context of relationships due to the "caliber" of women he's meeting and dating.
How fine a woman is, how sexy she is, and other factors will become less important to him than question like:
"Will this woman add to my life or detract FROM my life?"
"Will having sex with this woman be worth the potential drama I'll have to deal with the moment it's over?"
"Is this woman's physical attractiveness ALONE going to be enough of a trade off for me to IGNORE her fukked up attitude, her selfishness, her lack of loyalty, her constant attention whhoring, her financial greediness,
her lack of willingness to assume a gender role, and her general INCOMPATIBILITY with me in so many other areas of my life???"
You get the idea.
So the bottom line as I see it is that women DO have it easier than men when they're younger and the men are dumber, more sexually desperate, and financially destitute. But as time passes, and as men become more MEN of standards, ethics, self-respect, and honor who hold fast to their self-respect with an iron grip---------things start leveling out and eventually starts giving us the edge.
Until then, we must remember that all women are not the same, and neither are all men. Every interaction with women must be allowed to unfold as it will. Treat every woman with the deference OR LACK THEREOF that that woman shows you she deserves-----based on how she treats you.
Your mission should always be to BE the man "today" that you'll be proud to remember tomorrow.
The man who finally reaches the realization that his life's mission on earth is MORE than JUST an endless pursuit of pussssy is a man who is TRULY powerful.
Soldier on.
VU
