Fatality,
I think you are absolutely right on about Tommy's AFC-type behavior. It is probably what is really behind all of the dysfunctional aspects of his personality. But, you have to admit, that guys like Tommy Lee are comfortable with their unique masculinity. They are themselves, not trying to fit into some ideal mode of what women like. They are what they are take it or leave it (and I'm not talking about the abusive parts). Women like that. Look at Woody Allen for example. I think we could safely say that he has probably gotten mad poon in his day. And not just because he's rich, but because he never tried to become "Hollywood handsome." Look at Ben Stiller with his gorgeous wife...shall I go on?
Some men just need to understand that a man wields extraordinary power in this world. It is your birthright. I am a womanist, but I have found this to be true. Masculinity is POWERFUL and it doesn't matter if you are an alpha male or a beta male, you'll always find a woman who will have no choice but to submit to you.
A man is sexy when he realizes and accepts his masculine power---his own unique masculine power!
SO, who's a sexy b---h?! I can't hear you!
Seabreeze