Who "enjoys" approaching women?

[soulforge]

I quite enjoy approaching chicks even if they reject me.

The way I see it is, the alternative to approaching, is being a sad pathetic loser sat at home depending on onlyfans and porn hub to meet his sexual needs. Or having dating apps with 90% fat over the hill skanks as an option.

It's a numbers game, yes at times it's extremely difficult and disheartening, but we shouldn't be afraid of facing difficult things.

Obviously if you look like chit, fat, ugly, badly dressed, then you will have a difficult time.

This is why we promote gym/fitness so we get that extra edge in succeeding with women.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Yet still guys are to this day so afraid of being rejected. AFC's are pissing in their pants over the thought.
Your post is not surprisingly still relevant .

AFCs don't exist anymore... now it's some kind of bastardized version of a metrosexual.

 

[YourGreatestFear]

Guys need to learn how to amuse themselves, how to enjoy yourself and have fun while speaking to people. If the only reason you talk to a girl is because you think that you NEED to do this to get laid and you hate every second of it, then you aren't going to have any significant results.

 

[SW15]

AFCs don't exist anymore... now it's some kind of bastardized version of a metrosexual.

AFCs still exist. They have mostly been re-named as beta males.

 

[Borknagar]

I hate it with a passion, cause I have hardly any experience in even having female friends let alone girlfriends.

I'm afraid she'll reject me and embarass me, or I'll screw up.

Or 23 years later a body count close to 80.

 

[Isildur1]

I love cold approaching women, it taught me a lot of brutal lessons about human psychology and the importance of a strong work ethic and persistence. I also met my girlfriend of two years now from cold approach so Im immensely happy to have taken part in doing it

 

[Isildur1]

I quite enjoy approaching chicks even if they reject me.

The way I see it is, the alternative to approaching, is being a sad pathetic loser sat at home depending on onlyfans and porn hub to meet his sexual needs. Or having dating apps with 90% fat over the hill skanks as an option.

It's a numbers game, yes at times it's extremely difficult and disheartening, but we shouldn't be afraid of facing difficult things.

Obviously if you look like chit, fat, ugly, badly dressed, then you will have a difficult time.

This is why we promote gym/fitness so we get that extra edge in succeeding with women.

exactly, the alternative is what exactly? Women are never going to come for me- its a man's job to pursue and lead . I met my girlfriend after 500 approaches/ a lot of iffy dates and bad break ups but the experiences moulded me well if I hadn't gone through all the pain id just be single and alone now and that wouldn't have been the life I wanted. If you can't take the rejection you don't deserve the success in my eyes.

 

[Isildur1]

Maybe you should focus on approaching one that would be aligned with your values and interests.

Then it could be more pleasurable.

If the approach is only for sex, or for amount of girls... its a bit exhausting. And maybe you should focus on quality.

If you find a good one and are enjoying your time with her, might be also a good idea to focus only on her... even if it doesnt get into LTR. If it doesnt work just move on.

you need options in order to find one that's aligned with your values and interests- approaching is a numbers game and it takes time for men but that's the way it is- it's hard to "fast track" all aspects of dating sometimes its just grit and numbers that makes the difference.

 

[woffelskota91]

Used to hate it as a teenager and almost never approached any girls.

In my early 20s I just slowly started getting into it, although I still used to be afraid as hell each time I did it. Usually made it happen at parties when I had already had some booze.

Towards my mid 20s I started getting somewhat addicted to the adrenaline rush and really learned to enjoy it.

Now, in my early 30s, I haven't done any cold approaches for a couple of years, as I'm in an LTR. But that's another story.

TL;DR:

You can start off not enjoying it and being afraid as hell and eventually getting addicted to the feeling it brings you.

 

[MajesticOne]

It's perhaps my favorite thing to do ever and when you get good at it, it becomes addicting. I think it's a genuine problem for guys who get good at cold approach as once you are great at it you can find fantastic gf/wife material women quite easily but you will miss approaching random hotties and that feeling never quite goes away.

When I'm in a relationship, I usually miss the chase more so than the actual sex with randos.

 

[BPH]

I think it is the single best skill you can learn.

It bridges the gap that things like money, looks, and status can't. Women will rarely make the first move, so if you have the confidence to do that for them, you open up so many possibilities.

Developing true confidence and not being outcome-dependent allows you to be relaxed in situations that most other men would choose to avoid.

 

[makhamochi]

i love 4 marriges only

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

exactly, the alternative is what exactly? Women are never going to come for me- its a man's job to pursue and lead . I met my girlfriend after 500 approaches/ a lot of iffy dates and bad break ups but the experiences moulded me well if I hadn't gone through all the pain id just be single and alone now and that wouldn't have been the life I wanted. If you can't take the rejection you don't deserve the success in my eyes.

yup there never has been and never will be a way around this for guys men, men will never have the luxury of women pursuing them or hitting on them, shooting their shot with them, making advances on them.

As for me, i look at rejection from a different perspective now, its not rejection that hurts, i'm aware that i won't be compatible with every woman, obviously not every woman will like me and i won't like every woman either.

Its mainly the risk of being labeled or thrown the creepy label, getting perceived as weird or making the woman uncomfortable, thats the part i mainly hate the most about men always having to approach women, it also angers me a lot because it seems people and society have always expected men to just naturally have the social intuition, the social calibration, they expect us to have common sense for knowing what is creepy weird behavior around women and what is not.

Reminds me of a certain comment that was kinda moving.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Its mainly the risk of being labeled or thrown the creepy label, getting perceived as weird or making the woman uncomfortable, thats the part i mainly hate the most about men always having to approach women, it also angers me a lot because it seems people and society have always expected men to just naturally have the social intuition, the social calibration, they expect us to have common sense for knowing what is creepy weird behavior around women and what is not.

Reminds me of a certain comment that was kinda moving.

It is all in your imagination, homie.

I've approached close to probably 200 women in the past few years and less than 5% of them have ever shown obvious signs of uncomfortableness or looked at me as weird.

What about the rest of the 95% of the time?

The rest of the times have been filled with complimentary remarks on my boldness, and even my rejections are done with politeness and flattery.

Confidence is the key.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I've approached close to probably 200 women in the past few years and less than 5% of them have ever shown obvious signs of uncomfortableness or looked at me as weird.

So you creeped out 8-10 women in the past few years. How many did you creep out before you started cold approaching?

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

It is all in your imagination, homie.

I've approached close to probably 200 women in the past few years and less than 5% of them have ever shown obvious signs of uncomfortableness or looked at me as weird.

What about the rest of the 95% of the time?

The rest of the times have been filled with complimentary remarks on my boldness, and even my rejections are done with politeness and flattery.

Confidence is the key.

"you gotta break some eggs to make an omellete. im sure i creeped out tons of girls over the years".

That was a powerful quote or statement I heard from another guy, a dating coach, who gives advice to men, it's in regards to men getting better at just approaching or interacting with women. I just want to be sure I interpret it or have the right mindset and that is, men even have to risk getting labeled creepy or just even screw up and mess up interactions, that results in getting negative reactions from women as in the woman is uncomfortable from the man's presence, makes her feel uncomfortable As in its part of the journey of getting better, do I have the right mindset or not?

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

So you creeped out 8-10 women in the past few years. How many did you creep out before you started cold approaching?

Let me shed a little light on your bullshiit sarcasm.

I think I shared this before, but a few years ago I was active in softcore erotica (light porn).

Not on screen, but off screen (cameraman/director) of my own produced content.

Before I even began cold approaching for hook-ups, I had to grow balls big enough to be able to approach women and ask them if they'd like to perform on cam if they were paid a set amount.

Those women were included in that less than 5 percent thing I mentioned.

What does this mean?

It means that from my experience, I barely even got negative reactions from women that I propositioned for business-related porn activity...and you'd think that this would have "incoming negative reactions" written all over it...but it didn't.

So it is extremely less likely that those reactions would be given in a typical cold approach situation.

In other words, it doesn't happen often...or not often enough to be concerned about.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

"you gotta break some eggs to make an omellete. im sure i creeped out tons of girls over the years".

That was a powerful quote or statement I heard from another guy, a dating coach, who gives advice to men, it's in regards to men getting better at just approaching or interacting with women. I just want to be sure I interpret it or have the right mindset and that is, men even have to risk getting labeled creepy or just even screw up and mess up interactions, that results in getting negative reactions from women as in the woman is uncomfortable from the man's presence, makes her feel uncomfortable As in its part of the journey of getting better, do I have the right mindset or not?

I think messing up interactions is more of a concern...and I am one to advocate short interactions rather than long ones (day game).

And I am a firm believer of women not being creeped out by guys they find attractive.

You get better by building confidence.

Hit the gym, build muscle, lose fat.

Then approach one woman per day, and see for yourself.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

I think messing up interactions is more of a concern...and I am one to advocate short interactions rather than long ones (day game).

And I am a firm believer of women not being creeped out by guys they find attractive.

You get better by building confidence.

Hit the gym, build muscle, lose fat.

Then approach one woman per day, and see for yourself.

yeah, i just wonder if its inevitable for most guys or just many guys, to mess up or screw interactions when approaching, to either creep the girl out or make her feel uncomfortable, awkward or weirded out, as in, its part of the processs of getting better, as in, learning from our mistakes? i wonder if you or many guys out there, who became better with women, had interactions with women in which they got thrown those labels or perceived that way.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

yeah i wonder that is part of the process