When Another Lover Brings Her Closer

Bayne05

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Why you still talking to her? She cheated on you, or let me put it this way, She spread her legs for another dude and he fvcked the sh!t out of her and when she did that she was definitely not moaning your name.

She's chasing after you because you the guy who's willing to date her, the other guys pump and dump her. She doesn't love you mate, you just good enough for her at the moment.
 

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Why you still talking to her? She cheated on you, or let me put it this way, She spread her legs for another dude and he fvcked the sh!t out of her and when she did that she was definitely not moaning your name.
Winner! Lamest comment in the history of SoSuave. Congratulations Bayne05.

Wow, the way he gets graphic shows how much it hurts him to think of what his women have been doing all his life.

Men like Bayne05 who obviously have a seriously hard time getting laid have this attitude that they don't want any woman who doesn't offer a commitment by the end of the first event where he pays for dinner. And what a coincidence! They don't have any woman. In reality, as the female posters here have noted, while men spin plates, so do women. When you are dating the hottest women on the planet, they tend to have opportunities to get laid. It takes a few months before they fall in love and are ready to commit. The idea of telling her at the 5 month mark that something she did in the second month disqualifies her is frankly preposterous.

Are people here forgetting I have 10 other women at my disposal? This girl can't be that bad if I stay with her.

Until the woman says "I don't want you to have sex with any other women and therefore I promise not to have sex with any other men" then both of you are not only free to have sex with other people, but to share stories.

Men like Bayne05 really shouldn't date hot young women in their prime, he can't take it. He needs an arranged marriage. Someone who likes him for him (as he plays XBox and eats a Snickers in his dorm).

I have been on dates with 6 other women, spent the night with 5 and had sex with 2 other women since I started dating her. Should she dump me for cheating?
 
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This is the problem.
Huh? You are in love and think being hurt means losing a certain amount of money? You make no sense dude.
Her being an HB9+ hot enough to work in Las Vegas is a problem? For members here, clearly. Not for someone who has dated models for 30 years now.

Why don't you make sense and describe how she can hurt me, dude?

 

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Her being an HB9+ hot enough to work in Las Vegas is a problem? For members here, clearly. Not for someone who has dated models for 30 years now.

Why don't you make sense and describe how she can hurt me, dude?

Do you even read what you write? You are contradicting yourself left and right. Now you're twisting around words. Her being hot is not a problem; you making excuses for her because she is hot is the problem. You just wrote that you are willing to tolerate things you are upset about because she is hot. And then you try to pretend you are not upset, which clearly you are, otherwise you would not be here posting about it. You don't care about losing money; you care about losing her to another man.
 

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Do you even read what you write? You are contradicting yourself left and right. Now you're twisting around words. Her being hot is not a problem; you making excuses for her because she is hot is the problem. You just wrote that you are willing to tolerate things you are upset about because she is hot. And then you try to pretend you are not upset, which clearly you are, otherwise you would not be here posting about it. You don't care about losing money; you care about losing her to another man.
No, you are trying to say she needed to be faithful 3 months ago before she had fallen. I try to pretend I'm not upset? The point of the post was that it bothered me, but the idea of turning down sex with my favorite girl is ridiculous. I try to be her best option. Yes, human behavior 101 dictates that males worry about losing their female to other males. But to humor me, given that I am good looking, make good money and love her, describe the man who will take her away from me.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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Most members missed the point. Sometimes when you sleep with someone else, it actually makes you miss someone more. That would require they had ever slept with someone to begin with, let alone someone else. The idea that some members are pretending they have 21 year old supermodels 25 years their junior who not only f*ck them for months and confessed falling in love, but who are also 100% committed from day one? It's laughable. These members don't even pretend this, they instead pretend being single is better. They are usually guys who are 21 and hate the idea of my sleeping with women their age who they fantasize about while they masturbate in their mommy's spare bedroom.
 

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closer to what? Multiple orgasms?
 

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It's sort of amazing when you think about it.

This forum pretends to help men get phone numbers and dates.

Then when you actually find the hottest girl you ever saw, 25 years your junior, and she has sex with you for 6 months and tells you she loves you and apologizes for the one time she wasn't perfect, and people say "Aha! She wasn't perfect that one time! Dump her and be single and lonely again!" It's like people saying "Tom Brady threw a pick 6 and cheated!" or "Donald Trump spanked a ho once!"

Until I find an HB9+ who is 100% faithful, I'll settle for the one who is 90% faithful.
you keep saying that questionable faithfulness is the price you pay if you want to date a young girl who is a 9 or higher as if you don't see the ridiculousness of that statement

if you go to get your car painted and the guy tells you that the only payment he is willing to accept in exchange for his valuable blue paint is your daughter's virginity, do you try to explain to your daughter that pimping her out was a necessary price for getting the car to be blue or do you just tell the guy to paint your car purple instead?
 

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I notice that you are saying how only now it is bothering you how she had an affair. Why is that? This shows issues more with yourself than it does her. Perhaps you should look into yourself to try and seek the answer. Intuition is normally correct.
 

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Her ONS didn't pay her enough to tell him she loves him. Perhaps she's learned her lesson.
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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.... it's also killing me to know the exact timing of when she met this person (note her recollection is likely not as accurate as my photographic calendar memory).

Am I better off not bringing this up?
This was the point of you starting this thread. Read it again. You revealed something about yourself and now that you have honest feedback you are trying to rewrite the situation.

Who could she leave you for? Plenty of people. She's a 20 year old stripper? Keep having sex with her while you can. Good for you. Im not one of the people telling you to drop her. But stop spending money on her and see what happens. Ive had plenty of good looking women of all ages who never expected anything from me financially. And I had no problem nexting then when things didn't meet my standards.
 

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I notice that you are saying how only now it is bothering you how she had an affair. Why is that? This shows issues more with yourself than it does her. Perhaps you should look into yourself to try and seek the answer. Intuition is normally correct.
I've noticed that sometimes I couldn't care less about her and other men, and sometimes I do. So it's a good observation that this can be a reflection of ourselves.

It's worth noting that before she told me she was with someone else, I told her I was with a 19 year old girl. When I did, it made me miss her (her vagina didn't smell nearly as good for example). She has reciprocated nearly 100% at every stage, so she might have been simply reminding me how it feels.

As a 46 year old man, I don't expect 21 year old beauty queens to instantly fall in love with me and be committed. That seems like a high standard.

In a forum where most members write things like "I was at the movie theatre 2 months ago and a girl might have maybe glanced at me in the reflection of the popcorn machine as the opened the door", my saying I met the most beautiful girl I ever saw 6 months ago and have had one issue doesn't seem like grounds for dismissal.

Summary: I've decided to go ahead with the lingerie photo shoot and to bring up details only if she does. Thanks to those who contributed.
 

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Anyhow, I have another date coming up with her. Also, this event happened 3 months ago now. She has literally been dream-like in her behavior lately. I don't want to rock the boat but it's also killing me to know the exact timing of when she met this person (note her recollection is likely not as accurate as my photographic calendar memory).

Am I better off not bringing this up?
Dear lord please don't bring it up. If you're game was tight, you wouldn't be worried about losing your woman to another man.
 

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:D

I actually thought this was going to be a thread about being a cuckold or something.

What are your plans long-term for this slvt, Neil?

Fvck her until the wheels fall off? Or something more serious...?

Seems like you are tailoring your entire game to suit her. And that is starting to lead to some rationalizations.
This week I had a date with the aforementioned HB8+ bartender (about to turn 25). She fell in love with me reading the text messages from, seeing photos of, and seeing in person this stripper (she was dating a friend of mine and has been my confident). Her description after seeing us on 3 dates? "I'm not bisexual, but if you ever wanted a three way..." and "I don't see this as having a fairy tale ending, however, you can't deny she has been awesome lately and seems to really be in love with you". I literally have every girl I know at my disposal but none compare to the stripper (but this bartender is close, her 3 photos rated 91, 92, 93). Meanwhile, the stripper is texting me as I type this. There is no woman on Earth I would rather have sex with at this moment than her (nor has there ever been).

So the plan is: see whether she falls in love to the point where she wants me to commit (she started hinting at that last time). If she doesn't, I have to keep shopping around for another girl, who I will gain by leveraging this babe.
 
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