Wasn't the breaking point but it was the ramp leading to the jump.SickAgain said:I realized something was wrong when I went through college without getting any ass.
The actual point was after the worst bout of oneitis I'd had in years over a girl I went to college with. Suddenly after being being single for a long time she grabs herself a boyfriend, a rather AFC guy who she pretty much told to date her as the story goes. Of course I'm pissed as I was "working up my courage" at the time but so is another guy who was a mutual friend. Came out later that he had been her secret f**kbuddy for some time and had been tossed away when she wanted a "real" boyfriend. And yet having this boyfriend she continued to try and attention ***** both of us.
What's interesting is how our paths diverged from this point.
The other guy apparently had a bit of natural in him and proceeded to become quite the manwh0re over the course of a year while at the same time cheating on the girlfriend he gained during that time. The guy constantly lies to girls with low-esteem, has nearly gotten at least one girl pregnant, and appears to be defining his life around how many notches he's added to his bedpost. It is mostly all he talks about on the occasions that we speak, like he has something to prove. Despite this, when the first girl came back to town after a long absence it was clear that she still has him wrapped around her finger.
I on the other hand took a look at myself and decided that the first thing I needed to do was to make myself into a better man, women would come later once I became a male they would desire. I got a better job, started dressing better, got more serious about working out, and forced myself to go out more and expand my social circles. Women did start to approach me more often but I still had issues dealing with them and after searching through so many pages of PUA material and what not I came across this forum and felt that it fit my style. I lurked for months before making an account, trying to absorb everything I could.
Has the other guy gotten more lays than I over this amount of time? Yes, but I'm not bothered by that. He's going for quantity while I seek quality and I can tell that he's just trying to prove something to everyone and probably to that first girl while I don't feel the need to prove anything. To me he reeks of insecurity and rather disgusts me with his lack of pride and integrity, apparently still not truly over a girl whom I've long since lost the ability to care about, especially after replacing her several times over.