what to say when she rebuffs your date idea as 'cheap'?

[big weezy]

I know they advocate cheap dates on here for several reasons, however if you make a suggestion of ice cream walking through the park/mall and she says you're being 'cheap' what do you respond with?

Either way you look at it you are being 'cheap'

Give me some good comebacks.

 

[xdreamz]

i'd buy her the ice cream and peace out.

 

[Tesl]

Tell her if she wants money spent on her shel have to earn it first!

 

[SandHawk]

"What are you, a golddigger?". Seriously, if a girl claims you're being cheap, that usually means they're spoilt little brats, and therefore you should watch out. They want you to buy them sh*t, which you should never ever do.

Alternatively, you could tell her "What do I look like? A f*cking ATM? I want to have fun and do something that's amusing, not just spend spend spend money because I have to. If you think I'm cheap, then take me out on a date".

 

[Igetit!]

I know they advocate cheap dates on here for several reasons, however if you make a suggestion of ice cream walking through the park/mall and she says you're being 'cheap' what do you respond with?

Did that actually happen to you? You asked a girl out,and she told you that your date suggestion was "cheap"?

Wow.


I'd be like,"Yeah it's cheap,I don't know you yet. Why would I spend a lot of money on a stranger? Hey,if I could,I'd get it down to zero. I got to get to know you first and see what you're all about. Don't get me wrong,I mean I like the way you look and all,but I could get to know you and not even like you. Then I'd be done spent a lot of money on some girl I don't even like.

I ain't doing that".



Hopefully she was just joking around,but if she were to try to make some kind of issue out of it,I'd tell her to just go date somebody else.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

You sure she meant "cheap" money wise? Because getting an ice-cream and walking through the park sounds incredibly lame. Couldn't you get Wally to spot you his wheels so you could at least go to Make-Out Point?

I suppose if you really want ice-cream and ask her if she wants to go with you its cool, but calling that a formal date just sounds so 'internet.'

 

[Jitterbug]

Igetit gets the general idea, but he always gets too wordy. Chicks don't stand there and listen to all that crap. I wonder if he actually talks like that to them, or just imagines it in his head. Wordy lectures scream angry beta louder than anything.

Anyway, if she complains that your date is cheap, suggest an even cheaper one. Like cutting the ice cream part out, or buy her some M&M instead. If she doesn't like it, tough, stop talking to her, walk away laughing.

Talk less, demonstrate what you want to say with actions.

To Forty0ztoFreedom:

Big fella, cheap "lame" dates are perfect first dates. If you made a good enough first impression and she liked what she saw & heard, she will come to that date. You don't give a girl a super awesome date from the get-go, she has to earn it. That's the entire DJ mentality of the Bible that you're supposed to read.

 

[Forty0ztoFreedom]

I get that mentality but personally I would never "Get an icecream and walk through the park" so why the hell would I do it with a girl? Just feels like a show to me.

 

[big weezy]

The problem is I'm picking up hot women in rich areas, the 1s who wear designer clothes, classy types and have rich AFCs buying them stuff taking them expensive places so they get spoilt and accustomed to that lifestyle. How would I counteract this? I give off an image that I'm comfortable financially with strategic placed items of clothing and what I say however I'm wary about being taken for a ride. They'd normally tell their gf's after that I was being 'cheap' or she'd counter offer with an expensive alternative.

Hopefully she was just joking around,but if she were to try to make some kind of issue out of it,I'd tell her to just go date somebody else.[/QUOTE]

 

[Igetit!]

Igetit gets the general idea, but he always gets too wordy. Chicks don't stand there and listen to all that crap.

I assumed that the date was already a foregone conclusion,that the op is not trying to secure a date with the girl,but that they are just trying to decide WHAT TO DO for the date.

If that's the case,then the attraction has already been established.

Another thing is we don't know if she was serious or not,only the op knows that. So if she was serious,then I'd say EXACTLY WHAT I SAID in a serious tone,but if she was joking,I'd say the same thing,but in a joking tone.

I wonder if he actually talks like that to them, or just imagines it in his head.

You think I make stuff like that up?

Again,I assumed that this all took place AFTER THE APPROACH,AFTER he has already gotten her interest,after she's already agreed to go out with him.


Yeah I talk like that. I do it ON PURPOSE too. It helps to build comfort quicker. If I talk like that to her,then she'll feel comfortable talking like that to me. It helps to get pass all the "being nice" and being "polite" crap down to the real person.

Wordy lectures scream angry beta louder than anything.

Didn't seem wordy to me,but like I said,if she doesn't like it,she's free to go date someone else.

Anyway, if she complains that your date is cheap, suggest an even cheaper one.

Well isn't that what I said?

Let me quote myself from my first reply....

Why would I spend a lot of money on a stranger? Hey,if I could,I'd get it down to zero.

It's just a neg dude.


I know I seem a bit harsh at times,but I do that INTENTIONALLY,and there is a reason why I do that,but it'd take too long to explain.

 

[Lucifero]

I know they advocate cheap dates on here for several reasons, however if you make a suggestion of ice cream walking through the park/mall and she says you're being 'cheap' what do you respond with?

Either way you look at it you are being 'cheap'

Give me some good comebacks.

Say "I dropped something important outside, wait here while I go get it."

And by the time she realizes that you arent going to come back you'll be long gone laughing your ass off.

 

[HolyG]

Someone already said it "What are you, a golddigger?"

You want to put women on the defensive - it creates attraction.

 

[big weezy]

I think I need to make it clearer what I mean, she says what we have planned is cheap when I call for the first date meeting etc not actually when we're on a date. I know its cheap but there's a reason why cos if I'm taking out a lot of women I need to keep the cost down to a min. Is it possible to lose a girl cos you're being 'too' cheap? There must be a line drawn somewhere I'm talking about spending like 5 bucks max haha

 

[Lucifero]

I think I need to make it clearer what I mean, she says what we have planned is cheap when I call for the first date meeting etc not actually when we're on a date. I know its cheap but there's a reason why cos if I'm taking out a lot of women I need to keep the cost down to a min. Is it possible to lose a girl cos you're being 'too' cheap? There must be a line drawn somewhere I'm talking about spending like 5 bucks max haha

Ok, let me explain this clearly. If the woman is concerned about the cost of the date then she IS a HOE. She is not interested in YOU, she is interested in what you can do for her ie spend loads of money on her/give loads of money to her.

If this is the kind of woman you want, good for you...but quit pretending that this is not the case. Stop living in fantasy land---this woman wants one thing from you and its those little green bills in your pocket.

Now you can dump her ass or do what she requests, its your choice but let me tell you one thing--She will ALWAYS want your money, there is NO WAY you can change her mind.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Do you know about frames weezy?

Like if you say: Hey lets go on an ice cream date?
And she says: That's too cheap
And you say: Well, i like to get to know women before i spend money on them, etc.

That's you buying into their frame. You responded to her neg with justification.

This is horrible for building attraction; great for killing it.

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If on the other hand
You say: Hey let's go on an ice cream date.
And she says: That's too cheap.
And you say: Yeah (said in a way that says, "i don't care what you just said")... do you like sprinkles? You seem like a sprinkles girl.

That's you ignoring her frame and creating/continuing on with your own.

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That's what i suggest you do.

I like what Jitterbug suggested too:
"Oh ok... How bout we go get a bag of m&ms and split it then? (and i'd add) Which color is your favorite?"

or

"Oh ok... Well we can cut of the cream part and just get some ice. Take turns.... sucking IT."

You're still not buying her frame. You're also showing her you could care less that she thinks it's cheap.

What she's expecting is you to get defensive and/or justify yourself and/or suggest a better date. None of those are the thing to do.

so anything that is not one of those things - gets the

 

[loveshogun]

The problem is I'm picking up hot women in rich areas, the 1s who wear designer clothes, classy types and have rich AFCs buying them stuff taking them expensive places so they get spoilt and accustomed to that lifestyle. How would I counteract this? I give off an image that I'm comfortable financially with strategic placed items of clothing and what I say however I'm wary about being taken for a ride. They'd normally tell their gf's after that I was being 'cheap' or she'd counter offer with an expensive alternative.

Hopefully she was just joking around,but if she were to try to make some kind of issue out of it,I'd tell her to just go date somebody else.

"Well, girl, if I were rich, first thing I'd get you is some manners - but, I can only afford the ice cream right now."

Let her wonder if that was a joke. Don't even waste your money on the ice cream.

 

[The Experience]

'You think it could have been cheaper? I forgot my coupons.'

 

[Lucifero]

'You think it could have been cheaper? I forgot my coupons.'

lol nice.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I know they advocate cheap dates on here for several reasons, however if you make a suggestion of ice cream walking through the park/mall and she says you're being 'cheap' what do you respond with?

Either way you look at it you are being 'cheap'

Give me some good comebacks.

Her: You're beinng cheap.

You: What did you have in mind.

Her: A nice dinner and drinks.

You: I only wine and dine women when I know they are good in bed.

Alternate:

Her: A nice dinner

You: How much do you weight?

Her: 120

You: I don't feed women over 115 (or whatever number right below the weight she claims to be)

Yes, I've used those exact lines and other similar attitude responses. It has never hut my chances with anybody who was ALREADY into me, and has actually escalated with girls on the fence. If she really makes it a big issue, then I that is not somebody I am interested in. I quickly reply, "Do you know how to cook?", by then they get what is going on.

 

[Iceberg]

I know they advocate cheap dates on here for several reasons, however if you make a suggestion of ice cream walking through the park/mall and she says you're being 'cheap' what do you respond with?

Either way you look at it you are being 'cheap'

Give me some good comebacks.

If someone ever...

ever

ever

referred to your GIFT of offering to spend time with them as cheap, then the only comeback is to walk away. Why waste time with some "cool line" or witty retort to someone who you'd never want to involve in your life again?

F that.

I've had to bring a couple girls back to reality after trying to upsell the dating venue, (i.e., instead of cool bar, let's do fancy restaurant), but I couldn't imagine one of these chicks having the audacity to call me cheap.