What are your dating Red Flags that no DJ should ignore

[soxfan52]

Hopefully we can can get a good list.

She has kids living at home.

She has pets which she treats like kids. Dresses her dog, ect.

She will only text you, never calls.

She hates exercise of any kind, even just walking.

She has no hobbies

She is on Facebook all the time.

She says "your not even listening to me are you" a lot!

She believes in Ghosts and watches those Ghosthunter shows.

She is taking meds for anxiety/panic

Her car is always filthy inside and out

She was abandoned by her Dad

She was sexually and or physically abused by ex's

Her Mom has been married more than twice

She hates sports

She is absent minded won't make any decisions

Tells you " my kids are my life"

 

[blueline]

-she has kids
-doesn't have many female friends
-has no career or isn't very actively working on educational goals
-has been to a mental hospital
-has been diagnosed with bipolar, borderline/narcissistic personality disorder, depression, or schizophrenia
-can't hold her side of a conversation
-virgin (has no idea how to please a man, etc)
-unstable interpersonal relationships

All of the above of course do not matter for an ONS.

 

[Tesl]

These are good.

Add in religion too

 

[Atom Smasher]

She says that most of her friends are men.

Talks about being attracted to this guy or that.

 

[badboyjmm]

-Having a 1000 pics on Facebook of herself (attention *****)

-Talk about unnecessary and random stuffs

-Insist on texting, chatting rather than a simple phone call

-She always out with her friends at the club/bar (slvt)

-Cannot keep her hand from her cellphone for 5 mins

-Relationship hopper (cannot stay single for a while)

-Asking advice on another man (Friendzone coming up)

-Calling all the time

-She's sleep around but insists that she needs to be romance in other to have sex (b!tch)

-Talks about the best friend too much

-Always late

-wants to have dinner, go out, a massage before have sex with you (doesn't like it that much)

 

[FortunateSon]

Has self entitlement issues!
Wears fake tan!
Acts like a Playmate!
Is religious!
Is the village bike!
Isn't punctual enough!
Doesn't give head!
Doesn't take care of her body!

 

[Darth]

-Always on Facebook
-Swearing all the time
-Texting all the time
-Any kind of Mental disorder
-Smokes a lot
-Lazy
-Slutty
-Piercings (not ears) in weird places
-or just plain stupid

 

[pipe007]

nice thread

- she disrespects any or both parents, constantly.
- does not have a career or does not like to work.
- doesn't like to pay for a date every now and then. (reciprocate)
- drinking problems, or likes to get drunk when she drinks.
- is overly friendly with strangers, or guys, and treats them as best
friends since the beginning.
- takes a loooong time to text back, call back, etc, or she always seem to
be doing something else when you are calling her to talk.

HUGE RED FLAG: she treats you one way when you two are alone, but when
you are in a social setting with HER friends or people she knows,
then she seems a bit indifferent and distant from you.

- lives with a guy friend, or a guy around her age (roommate)
- any type of lying, disrespect, and gut feeling that you can't trust her.

 

[Myrrdin]

keep them coming and we can all turn to each other and bend over, cuz there will be no more women left (edit: my ex has 16 of these w00t?!)

 

[Swift Shadow]

Damn my ex falls under a lot of your guys lists....
No wonder it didn't work out :crazy:

- Is on Anti-depressants
- Self harms

 

[PectoralisMajor]

1) won't put out on a first date
2) doesnt swallow
3) wears granny pants
3) wont do bondage / anal
4) loose as a wizards sleeve (down below)
5) can't dance
6) won't shut-up
7) unreliable
8) bad make-up
9) a tattoo of her mums name on her bum
10) only drinks water

plus all the others said earlier.

 

[GameOfNoGame]

Seems just like you
Guys swarm her but you beat the odds
Seems normal despite a dysfunctional family
Constantly taking up new hobbies that don't go anywhere
You don't know how she gets money
But she's only available at specific times
Has few real friends
Has a housemate but never introduces you
Says she's never been the one to be dumped
All her exes are either abusive or AFCs
Gives vague answers/changes the subject when you ask about inconsistencies

I thought, Why question meeting a girl just like you? That's why she likes you over the other guys right? What does it matter if her family's ****ed up when she's so sweet? It's good to try new things in your free time & how she supports herself isn't my business if she doesn't share. I'm often out at regular times too. It's hard to make friends when you've been out of work. Says her housemate doesn't like people. Hey good for me I'm just a regular dude who's not too ****ty or wussy. Ok if she doesn't want to talk about it then we can talk about something else.

Wrong. She was pretending to be like me & is pretending to be like others with them too. She's the craziest of them all, she is flaky & probably exploiting cash from somewhere. She doesn't have friends because of this and is unavailable at times because her housemate is some rapey ex. She dumps him & gets back together when she feels like it and can't go for a normal guy because god forbid she could have a happy drama free life. And she can't give straight answers because she doesn't know herself why she does it because she is so F'd in the H.

Watch out, I saved a friend from like the exact same scenario already.

 

[betheman]

good thread this an not to be ignored.

my ex ltr!
in her teens, druggie boyfriend, he played the field, she has years of contracting stds (she says from him and his infidelity!)
was seriously in love soon after with someone else...then cheated on him, got pregnant, couldnt fathom out who the daddy was, had an abortion and pissed off out of town.
met another guy, married for convenience, had a child, lasted 17 years, opnely admitted she wanted to cheat on him but the new town was small and she would have been found out. She did then have a bit of a thing.."but nothing happened" with a guy she worked with, who had a partner who was due to give birth in a few weeks time!
she owned up to this 'kiss', hub blew his stack and threatened to kill her?????
they divorced, she hitched up with a criminal, she knew him for years and knew he was dodgy, whirlwind romance, they buy a place together, moves in with her son...this all goes tits up after she thinks he has mental health problems, she packs him off to MH services...who pack him back off home with a clean slate.
then enter me stage left...the quintesential afc, brand new suit of shiny armour, then two years of head battering, emotional bull****, jealousy possessiveness and so clingy...and of course I was to blame for everything, and somethings I was but not once did she ever take responsibility for anything she did wrong.
Now, was I wise to hook up with her?
answers on a postcard to....

 

[PokerStar]

some people's standards are just too high.

 

[Masculinity]

She believes in Ghosts and watches those Ghosthunter shows.

This is dumb. Paranormal activity exists all around. List universal ideas because this particular one seems to be biased by your own belief. :cuss:

I agree with the rest of the red flags.

-virgin (has no idea how to please a man, etc)
.

Completely disagree on this flag. Being a virgin is associated with purity and superior quality; she isn't a slut and knows sex is a big deal. Not only is the pvssy tighter, but you can also be the pioneer in her sex life and get her to do many things.

Is religious!

A girl who is religious isn't necessarily bad. If anything, she has higher values and beliefs. On the other hand, if she's VERY religious then that's a huge red flag, especially for the whole "no sex 'till we're married" beliefs.

1) won't put out on a first date
2) doesnt swallow
3) wears granny pants
3) wont do bondage / anal
4) loose as a wizards sleeve (down below)
5) can't dance
6) won't shut-up
7) unreliable
8) bad make-up
9) a tattoo of her mums name on her bum
10) only drinks water

plus all the others said earlier.

:crackup: Awesome!

 

[MurdocNiccals]

My entire list:

She's fugly
She's fat
She has kids
She is an outcast

End ... I think :s

 

[perseverance]

I try and steer clear of women who portray this "I'm a cold, callous b*tch facade, because really I am an emotionally broken person with a few mental deficiencies".

 

[betheman]

the fragile, broken victim..step away from this thing, they will bring you down

 

[Hakuna]

Feminists.

 

[MurdocNiccals]

Feminists.

I forgot this one...

It's okay if she's very hot and feminine though. Ironically most feminists are closer to being men.