I think this is a very important topic that really needs to be addressed.
The vast majority of woman you will go out with will "test" you. Speaking from limited experience and what I've picked up, a woman tests you by purposely throwing a monkey wrench in the relationship to see how you react. She does so (I believe) to see if you have a backbone and whether you are worthy of her feelings for you (at least that what she thinks).
Here are some activities I have picked up:
A woman will purposely put you down or humiliate you to a certain degree to see if you'll put up with it or not.
She will change her mind at the last second and want to go somewhere else or eat somewhere else.
Will flirt with other guys in front of you.
Will try to get her way and try to boss you around like a slave. Or she will ask you to do something that she can obviously or easily do herself.
Will ask you to go out with her and another guy "friend."
Right before going to a movie or other event where you can't talk, she says, "we need to talk, to see where this relationship is going."
Will make a ridiculous argument just to see if you'll agree with her on anything.
Will talk about other guys she goes out with past the first date.
Will not other to pay for anything and expects you to *always* pick up the tab.
Try to force you to promise something so she can test to see if you follow through with the promise.
Try to committ you to do something that is not in your best interest and soley in hers.
Can you guys come up with other activities from your own experience? It would be good to compile a list so we can try to "catch" these test when they are occuring so we can act appropriately.
Besides being able to identify these "tests" what are the correct way to deal with them?
It seems to me that you need to stay calm and controlled while either throwing the same thing back in her face (for example, if she starts flirting with other guys, you go find some other women and flirt with them) or simplying telling her "no" (in the case of wanting to change dinner at the last minute you say, "we are going to dinner where we agreed earlier or I'm taking you home.) Finally with the most disrespectful testing, I think the response is just to get up and walk away -- literally.
The key (help me here guys) is you must stay calm and controlled (loosing your cool will "fail" her test) and tell her through actions or words in an agressive fashion that you will not put up with it. I believe you must convey the fact that you will not put up with it, and if she wants to continue, you will walk out on her and the relationship.
Guys, what do you think are the best ways to "pass" these tests?
The vast majority of woman you will go out with will "test" you. Speaking from limited experience and what I've picked up, a woman tests you by purposely throwing a monkey wrench in the relationship to see how you react. She does so (I believe) to see if you have a backbone and whether you are worthy of her feelings for you (at least that what she thinks).
Here are some activities I have picked up:
A woman will purposely put you down or humiliate you to a certain degree to see if you'll put up with it or not.
She will change her mind at the last second and want to go somewhere else or eat somewhere else.
Will flirt with other guys in front of you.
Will try to get her way and try to boss you around like a slave. Or she will ask you to do something that she can obviously or easily do herself.
Will ask you to go out with her and another guy "friend."
Right before going to a movie or other event where you can't talk, she says, "we need to talk, to see where this relationship is going."
Will make a ridiculous argument just to see if you'll agree with her on anything.
Will talk about other guys she goes out with past the first date.
Will not other to pay for anything and expects you to *always* pick up the tab.
Try to force you to promise something so she can test to see if you follow through with the promise.
Try to committ you to do something that is not in your best interest and soley in hers.
Can you guys come up with other activities from your own experience? It would be good to compile a list so we can try to "catch" these test when they are occuring so we can act appropriately.
Besides being able to identify these "tests" what are the correct way to deal with them?
It seems to me that you need to stay calm and controlled while either throwing the same thing back in her face (for example, if she starts flirting with other guys, you go find some other women and flirt with them) or simplying telling her "no" (in the case of wanting to change dinner at the last minute you say, "we are going to dinner where we agreed earlier or I'm taking you home.) Finally with the most disrespectful testing, I think the response is just to get up and walk away -- literally.
The key (help me here guys) is you must stay calm and controlled (loosing your cool will "fail" her test) and tell her through actions or words in an agressive fashion that you will not put up with it. I believe you must convey the fact that you will not put up with it, and if she wants to continue, you will walk out on her and the relationship.
Guys, what do you think are the best ways to "pass" these tests?
