What’s the policy when under the influence? What the hell do I do?

[nicksaiz65]

For the vibe - find a vase at your crip or talk to a tv, why the fvck do you drink if you don't got a handle on your ass!

I’m supposed to say that to her or were you referring to me? Lol

 

[backseatjuan]

Yea that's what you can literally say to her. That's what the vibe should be, that's how you talk to her. It's her fault, she got fvcked up and she can't handle her ass. She should be greatful it was you this good, with some other dudes, she'd get fvcked, get an std, get pregnant.

 

[Infern0]

Honestly and this may be just me but I don't do anything with a girl who is not my GF if i'm anything more than slightly tipsy.

It's too risky in this day and age, if you are sober or only slightly buzzed you will have enough sense to avoid potentially bad situations with drunk chicks.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Honestly and this may be just me but I don't do anything with a girl who is not my GF if i'm anything more than slightly tipsy.

It's too risky in this day and age, if you are sober or only slightly buzzed you will have enough sense to avoid potentially bad situations with drunk chicks.

That’s a good mentality. I’ve heard the phrase “too drunk to drive, too drunk to give consent.” How do you feel about that? Or am I just being a Blue Pilled Cuck when sex is being thrown at me? Lol.

 

[Infern0]

That’s a good mentality. I’ve heard the phrase “too drunk to drive, too drunk to give consent.” How do you feel about that? Or am I just being a Blue Pilled Cuck when sex is being thrown at me? Lol.

What I think and what the courts will think may be two different things, but err on the side of caution is my advice.

 

[Infern0]

What I think and what the courts will think may be two different things, but err on the side of caution is my advice.

Let me just clarify this

Once or twice i've been pretty damn drunk and a girl at the club who i usually wouldn't touch with a barge pole has convinced me to come home with her, which I have done, because i'm drunk off my head and suddenly she doesn't look that bad

I obviously regretted it in the morning

As a male, what do you do? get out of there and meet a buddy for a hair of the dog and laugh about the fact that in your drunken stupor you got snared by some gross chick and need to go get an STD test

As a Female in the same exact situation? well if it's the wrong female you could cop a rape charge

So again, err on the side of caution

 

[nicksaiz65]

Let me just clarify this

Once or twice i've been pretty damn drunk and a girl at the club who i usually wouldn't touch with a barge pole has convinced me to come home with her, which I have done, because i'm drunk off my head and suddenly she doesn't look that bad

I obviously regretted it in the morning

As a male, what do you do? get out of there and meet a buddy for a hair of the dog and laugh about the fact that in your drunken stupor you got snared by some gross chick and need to go get an STD test

As a Female in the same exact situation? well if it's the wrong female you could cop a rape charge

So again, err on the side of caution

Right. That’s exactly what I’m worried about. I’m not having any rape charges in my life. Thank you for the advice.

 

[Serenity]

I guess I need to just play it cool. So I totally explain what happened?

I can't see how trying to hide anything won't look extremely suspicious, you don't want to risk escalating this to a full blown investigation.

Just honestly with no tricks?

Yes, do not lie! If you lie and in the off chance this goes to court it won't help your case of they can show you have lied. If you're going to tell, then tell it as it is. The true story is fine, nothing illegal in it.

As in “you started hugging me, so I started making out with you, you were moaning and fingering yourself, I wanted to fvck you but then you didn’t, so I stopped right then and there?”

I couldn't have compiled it better myself, that's perfect! Short and descriptive of all the important elements.

I guess the question is should there be a point where if a girl’s super drunk, I say “no I’m not fvcking her?”

Yes, when she's obviously too drunk to respond or make any resistance. I'd say if she could finger herself she wasn't drunk enough to not respond. She also did respond when your tried progressing to sex, so again clearly conscious enough to say no. The fact that she doesn't remember doesn't mean she was incapable of making decisions.

I've been blackout drunk a few times, asked my friend what I did, apparently I just looked drunk still enjoying the party every time. So you can totally be yourself while drunk, but not remember sh!t the next morning. I'd say it's worse if you didn't remember and she suspects something happened that shouldn't have. My father got into a mess like that a few years ago, he couldn't remember sh!t and some b!tch reported him for sexual assault. I know my father, he's the same kind man even if extremely drunk. He ended up getting like 3 months, which is way less than he could have gotten because the judges were in doubt, he also didn't have to pay her anything which she asked for. That entire thing sucked, he doesn't know what really happened and he was fairly depressed for a long time because of this, probably afraid he did do something bad, not because of punishment but because he has a heart. All they found were skin cells near her pvssy, nothing inside. But it could have ended up there a number of different ways which were non-sexual, like the toilet seat. He could have passed out and SHE could have rubbed his hand down there to frame him for money or something like that. Anyways, it ended fairly well despite this, he has good friends who know him for the man he is and my stepmom is still married to him, nobody believed that b!tch was speaking the truth.

I already asked this question, but is there any chance of me ever Banging her after this?

Easier to answer this after you've had a talk, I wouldn't rule it out. Don't assume the worst, this could be a really small and simple matter. Just have a talk, see where it goes, tell us how it went. Again, don't panic, don't worry, you did nothing wrong. She was conscious enough to not consent to further advances and you conscious enough to respect it.

 

[marmel75]

You made it sound like something really bad happened...now her hamster is in overdrive

 

[nicksaiz65]

You made it sound like something really bad happened...now her hamster is in overdrive

Yeah I definitely did. I’m just gonna have to sort this out today. I’ll keep y’all updated

 

[marmel75]

Yeah I definitely did. I’m just gonna have to sort this out today. I’ll keep y’all updated

Personally I'd turn the tables on her and let her know you felt violated and didnt appreciate how she tried to rape you.

 

[nicksaiz65]

Personally I'd turn the tables on her and let her know you felt violated and didnt appreciate how she tried to rape you.

Yeah, I feel you. I’m not going to outright accuse her but she was hugging all over me on the couch. I don’t think I’m really in the wrong for making out with her and then escalating by sucking her tits. Especially since she didn’t push me away or tell me to stop. Although I really didn’t mean to give her a hickey smh

 

[nicksaiz65]

I swear women make no sense. She calls me like a million times yesterday saying we need to talk. I call her back saying it’s late but I’d be happy to after my classes tomorrow. I call her at the time we agreed on then she just ignores me. Call her back an hour later, ignored again.

Like she was the one who told me to call her!

Women are so illogical. I guess all I can do is follow that Corey Wayne advice and let her come to me. Chasing her will do me no good. This, gentlemen, is why we restrain our emotions and spin multiple plates.

 

[lamath]

I swear women make no sense. She calls me like a million times yesterday saying we need to talk. I call her back saying it’s late but I’d be happy to after my classes tomorrow. I call her at the time we agreed on then she just ignores me. Call her back an hour later, ignored again.

Like she was the one who told me to call her!

Women are so illogical. I guess all I can do is follow that Corey Wayne advice and let her come to me. Chasing her will do me no good. This, gentlemen, is why we restrain our emotions and spin multiple plates.

The fact that she is not anwsering can be bad imo, she might have made up her mind on what happened

This can get serious especialy in college.

Hopefully its nothing

 

[The_411]

Hey guys. I never thought about this before, but what’s the policy for hooking up with girls while under the influence? I might be in serious trouble, and I don’t know what to do.

Me and a girl and a friend hung out last night. So with the girl, I had made out with her before. We were all really drunk, and hanging out. I decide to escalate things. So I’m making out with her, and we eventually move to the floor. She seems to be enjoying it. I eventually lift her bra and start sucking her tits and she’s moaning so I think she’s enjoying it. She’s also fingering herself at the same time and moaning so I had no reason to suspect anything was wrong.

At one point I try to move her hand to have sex with her but she doesn’t let me. So I stop because I don’t want to do anything if I don’t have consent.

But then I get a call the next day with her asking me what happened. She says her ribs are really sore and she has a hickey on her boobs(I did not mean to do that at all. I was extremely drunk.) She asks what happened last night. I ask her where she is because I want to talk in person. But she sounds like she’s about to cry and says she has to go, then hangs up in my face.

What even happened? Did I do anything wrong? I didn’t think I did. What do I do from here? What do I say to her? I’m so bad at these things. I need you guys’ advice really badly. I don’t want her to think I assaulted her, and as stupid as this might sound, I don’t want to lose our friendship.

Please give me advice guys. I’m confused and I don’t know what to do.

Frankly, I would not recommend hooking up with a drunk woman in today’s society.

Society has becoming overly involved in adjudging actions and it is far too easy to levy blame when someone’s feeling are hurt.

Mixing a woman’s response with accountability is a Molotov ****tail.

An accusation or rape of assault is a massive stigma and carries implications. False claims carry little to no punishment.

No woman is worth a sexual assault or rape indictment.

In this case you need to be extremely careful to not agitate the woman or give her any idea that something wrong took place.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The only thing that’s really bugging me is is there a too drunk to consent? I never really thought about the ethics behind this. I mean, we were both drunk, but still.

One can also ask whether you were too drunk to consent? How do you know that it was you who initiated, rather than there, If you were so drunk?

 

[sazc]

Meh, she's feeling like a slut and decided that avoiding the topic is the quickest way to move past it

 

[nicksaiz65]

The fact that she is not anwsering can be bad imo, she might have made up her mind on what happened

This can get serious especialy in college.

Hopefully its nothing

Yeah I sure hope so too man. I will be very very wary

 

[nicksaiz65]

One can also ask whether you were too drunk to consent? How do you know that it was you who initiated, rather than there, If you were so drunk?

I was very drunk but not blackout drunk. I do remember a good chunk of the details.

 

[lamath]

Meh, she's feeling like a slut and decided that avoiding the topic is the quickest way to move past it

Its prob this but some women will turn this into molestation. And dont txt anything that could be turn agaist you