Usually I am very calm and either just respond to these types of messages with "Okay, no problem" ot just ignore them. I even told her about another girl just to spite her.
You have to know what your power is, though. Not everyone here knows how to stand in their power.
I'd say be disagreeable, but in a mature way. No drama allowed into the argument. No sidetracking, no excuses. And don't show anger or exasperation.
You mean offer friendship because you're worried about rejection someone?
No, I don't offer friendship. I meant as in I was getting needy and a case of oneitis so I'll learn from next time. I'll also learn not to react badly and be calm.
Who?
OP should have agreed, disagreed, or ignored the text. Anything but coming off a butthurt. Not saying your option is wrong either, some options are just more manipulative than the others.
I don’t know about the “worried” part. The idea is that people often remain stuck in their own perspectives. When you complain about their insensitivity, they might appear to understand but usually resist change. By mirroring their behavior instead of confronting them directly, you give them a choice: to ignore you or to reflect on their actions. Even if they choose to ignore it, you plant a seed of awareness that can grow over time. Please see @RickTheToad post to see an example of how this strategy works.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Yeah, I reacted badly for sure. I should have just ignored it. It is what it is now.
There are many of women like this... They collect 'male friends' like dysfunctional old ladies collect cats. Not only is it IMPOSSIBLE to date them... it's almost impossible to actually be friends with them, since they are by and large unreliable. You make plans and you never know if they will show... they are easily distracted and addicted to their smart phones... they also actively try and change plans almost every time.
I wish I took this route when my last girlfriend broke up with me. I should have just cut her off straight away.
Yeah, good point. She would say that her exes would be bad people as well.
I said some nasty things to this one which I deeply regret. But I've learned thankfully.
In addition to this, she said that there was Italian guy (she's Italian) where we live who originally tried to get with her, but she only uses him as a "friend" for his car. So that speaks volumes.
That's all true. At least I had some fun.
Anytime things go sideways with a couple... according to the woman it is NEVER her fault. ONE TIME in my last 5 years of dating did a woman actually say "Yeah, he was a great guy and I just fvcked it all up." ONCE! Usually your get:
Yeah, she said that the last one "changed" and got tired of him always stopping when they went for walks (she's obsessed with hiking and visiting new places. Does it every weekend).
Harsh, no... Brusque and unspecific? Absolutely. A reply like: "I appreciate the offer, nonetheless my goal has, from the outset, been to make you my lover. If you're not eager to do likewise, it's not wise or honest for us to keep palling around. I wish you sunshine and serenity all the same" would've been far more precise and direct
That's not just women, that is people in general.
Or blame porn for turning them into a sadistic necrophiliac serial killer.
I wouldn't chase after that FWB assumption if I were you.
Fair enough, but in this case I got to smash her loads of times so there was at least attraction on her part
