thecurtainfalls
Senior Don Juan
Hello all,
I haven't posted on SoSuave in 2 years. Before that, I mostly lurked since about 2002, gaining as much information as I could. I started out reading this board as a shy high school student who had major approach anxiety and difficulty manning up to actually make a move. My first girlfriend broke up with me when I was 16, and I feared that I would never be able to get another girl again. Hell, I could barely even figure out how I'd managed to get one in the first place. I thought that my fear/anxiety problem when gaming beautiful women would be a challenge for me for the rest of my life. Luckily I gleaned so much good advice, and was so inspired from my visits here that I actually improved and developed more wholly as a person psychologically. I forgot and got over the couple of girls who I had BAD one-itis for in high school, and I started dating a little bit again after I graduated. Before I knew it, I had actually built up the most impressive track record of all of my friends.
Things were firing on all cylinders. In my first few years in college I managed to bed or at least hook up with a handful of girls, all while using the principles preached on this site. My social proof was creating a self sustaining, endless cycle. Since I actually HAD options, I was never desperate or needy. I went from being the guy in high school who secretly pines for the girl he's in "love" with while she bangs the quarterback, to doing pretty damn well for myself. Needless to say, this was an unexpected and pleasant development in my life. I thought that I had it all figured out, that I had cracked the code (with the help of SoSuave) and made myself different from the AFCs out there. I'm a short guy (5'6" - go manlets!) and had finally figured out how to use this to my advantage instead of mentally tearing myself down for being short and talking myself out of the approach.
In short (no pun intended), I was feeling great. I had a couple of relationships that lasted maybe 2-4 months each, which I ended when they proved to have run their course. In the meantime, I kept meeting new women and working on my game, and before I knew it my biggest problem was figuring out how to completely reel in an HB 8.5 whose tittays I had already sucked on (hence, the other two threads I had created here in '06/'07). I was never and still by no means claim to be a pimp or the most successful PUA in my zip code, but nor did or do I want to be. My reputation among my friends was notable not for the quantity of my conquests, but their quality. I have been extremely blessed to be able to cavort with some very beautiful women in my life (living in Cali has its perks). And yet, my goal had never been to get as much strange pvssy as I possibly could, but rather to develop the game/ability to land a beautiful, high quality woman in an LTR.
And so it was that I received some very good advice here when I posted about the HB 8.5 that I was pursuing at the time (two and a half years ago). Victory Unlimited and a couple other experienced DJs advised me that rolling my interest level WAY off, and being emotionally prepared to NEXT if necessary, was my best chance moving forward with this girl.
How ironic, that the tactic used to try and get the girl more interested in me (spinning plates, disinterest, scaling back of communication) actually led to me finding the longest and biggest relationship of my life thus far with someone completely different... one that ended four days ago. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
While I was spinning plates and, frankly, probably at the height of my DJ mindset as far as combining techniques with actual genuine healthy perspective on my love life, I ended up meeting "Laura" (as we'll call her). Since HB Perfect Tittays needed to be on the backburner for a while, I ended up taking a trip across the country to visit my friends and family in another state. On this trip, a friend of mine wanted to meet up to go bar hopping. He mentioned that he had a surprise that he was bringing -- it ended up being Laura, a girl who I had never met, but I had actually talked to online/on the phone before on account of her being friends with my buddy.
Even though my primary "plate" I was spinning was with HB Perfect Tittays back home, Laura blew me away immediately. She was even hotter than the other HB, she was fun, smart, sexy, brunette, huge tittays, great body, gorgeous face, the whole package. Of course, being in full DJ mode at this point (or at least as close as I ever got to it) I literally completely forgot all about HB Perfect Tittays back home. Not an easy feat considering I wanted to **** that girl so bad that at the time, I broke a 4 year lurking streak on SoSuave and registered just to get personalized advice about my situation with her. But that night, in the city with Laura, the girl back home was as good as chopped liver.
Long story short, I ended up kiss closing Laura that night, after kino escalation including holding her hand or walking arm in arm-- I had qualified with kino early on and gotten nothing but positives, but even more than that, Laura and I just had an immediate chemistry and attraction that neither one of us tried to hide. I found out she had broken up with her only boyfriend (of 5 years) about 6 months earlier, and now she was looking to transfer universities out of state... to California (where I live). I was shocked. How cool would that be?
But I didn't think anything else of it -- I had a flight home in the morning. We parted ways that night, and I felt a weird pang come over me like it was painful to watch this girl who I felt this connection to walk away in a city 3,000 miles from home. And yet, I simply pushed aside this feeling and urged myself to toughen up and keep spinning those plates.
Time went by, and I ended up feeling so disrespected by HB Perfect Tittays' mixed signals that I NEXTed her. I found out later that this was driving her wild, by the way. Meanwhile, I stayed in friendly, flirty touch with Laura, letting her know that she could even come stay with me one time while she checked out the city and visited potential schools. She seemed to like the idea but neither one of us took it too seriously. But we continued to talk, and I found a connection with her that felt like what I had been searching for thus far. Here was an extremely beautiful woman who also possessed the qualities that I wanted in an LTR -- or at least, that was the impression I was getting from our regular (and increasingly flirty) phone convos and IMs.
She ended up taking me up on the offer to come visit (her first time out here) and check out schools. She stayed with me for two weeks. I banged her the second night, and we never looked back. We had the most passionate, sex-filled, memorable two weeks imaginable, and I showed her the best of what my city has to offer. At this point it was a slam dunk for both of us, and it was a very very hard goodbye for both of us when her trip was over.
She visited twice more, and I visited her again, before she decided that she wanted to transfer out here for sure. We weighed many options and in the end, decided that if she stayed in the dorms she would probably A) end up hating it and feeling like she made the wrong choice by transferring or B) just end up sleeping at my place every night anyway. And so I offered to let her move in with me.
I know what you guys are thinking, that being 22 and moving in with someone who you have only known for 6 months and spent maybe 2 of those months with together total is a bad idea -- but even with how things worked out, I still maintain that I would have done this over again, for two reasons. Firstly, I had never lived with a girlfriend before and had access to the frequency and quality of unprotected sex that this provides. I probably had had sex about as many times total in my life up til that point, as me and Laura banged out in her first couple of weeks here. The other reason moving in with her had to happen was because of money/logistical issues to make everything make sense for her because of all the other costs associated with moving and out of state tuition. We mutually agreed upon an escape clause, though -- if things didn't work out, she would either bite the bullet and move to the dorms, or move back home with her parents. Although this all seems a little sudden, we had established a very strong connection over the prior 6 months before she moved, and we both felt we were very right for each other.
As I continue telling this story, you may notice a distinct erosion on my part of DJ actions, mindset, or thoughts. This is entirely relevant and will tie in nicely with the moral to this incredibly long story.
When she moved here, I flew out with her so that we could drive her car and all her belongings cross-country. This trip was huge -- it let us know we really could be in close quarters, constant company, under stressful situations, and still be compatible. On top of that, it forged some life-changingly good memories and experiences for me that I had been missing up until then. Right away I knew my relationship with Laura would be my first "big one".
Continued.....
I haven't posted on SoSuave in 2 years. Before that, I mostly lurked since about 2002, gaining as much information as I could. I started out reading this board as a shy high school student who had major approach anxiety and difficulty manning up to actually make a move. My first girlfriend broke up with me when I was 16, and I feared that I would never be able to get another girl again. Hell, I could barely even figure out how I'd managed to get one in the first place. I thought that my fear/anxiety problem when gaming beautiful women would be a challenge for me for the rest of my life. Luckily I gleaned so much good advice, and was so inspired from my visits here that I actually improved and developed more wholly as a person psychologically. I forgot and got over the couple of girls who I had BAD one-itis for in high school, and I started dating a little bit again after I graduated. Before I knew it, I had actually built up the most impressive track record of all of my friends.
Things were firing on all cylinders. In my first few years in college I managed to bed or at least hook up with a handful of girls, all while using the principles preached on this site. My social proof was creating a self sustaining, endless cycle. Since I actually HAD options, I was never desperate or needy. I went from being the guy in high school who secretly pines for the girl he's in "love" with while she bangs the quarterback, to doing pretty damn well for myself. Needless to say, this was an unexpected and pleasant development in my life. I thought that I had it all figured out, that I had cracked the code (with the help of SoSuave) and made myself different from the AFCs out there. I'm a short guy (5'6" - go manlets!) and had finally figured out how to use this to my advantage instead of mentally tearing myself down for being short and talking myself out of the approach.
In short (no pun intended), I was feeling great. I had a couple of relationships that lasted maybe 2-4 months each, which I ended when they proved to have run their course. In the meantime, I kept meeting new women and working on my game, and before I knew it my biggest problem was figuring out how to completely reel in an HB 8.5 whose tittays I had already sucked on (hence, the other two threads I had created here in '06/'07). I was never and still by no means claim to be a pimp or the most successful PUA in my zip code, but nor did or do I want to be. My reputation among my friends was notable not for the quantity of my conquests, but their quality. I have been extremely blessed to be able to cavort with some very beautiful women in my life (living in Cali has its perks). And yet, my goal had never been to get as much strange pvssy as I possibly could, but rather to develop the game/ability to land a beautiful, high quality woman in an LTR.
And so it was that I received some very good advice here when I posted about the HB 8.5 that I was pursuing at the time (two and a half years ago). Victory Unlimited and a couple other experienced DJs advised me that rolling my interest level WAY off, and being emotionally prepared to NEXT if necessary, was my best chance moving forward with this girl.
How ironic, that the tactic used to try and get the girl more interested in me (spinning plates, disinterest, scaling back of communication) actually led to me finding the longest and biggest relationship of my life thus far with someone completely different... one that ended four days ago. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
While I was spinning plates and, frankly, probably at the height of my DJ mindset as far as combining techniques with actual genuine healthy perspective on my love life, I ended up meeting "Laura" (as we'll call her). Since HB Perfect Tittays needed to be on the backburner for a while, I ended up taking a trip across the country to visit my friends and family in another state. On this trip, a friend of mine wanted to meet up to go bar hopping. He mentioned that he had a surprise that he was bringing -- it ended up being Laura, a girl who I had never met, but I had actually talked to online/on the phone before on account of her being friends with my buddy.
Even though my primary "plate" I was spinning was with HB Perfect Tittays back home, Laura blew me away immediately. She was even hotter than the other HB, she was fun, smart, sexy, brunette, huge tittays, great body, gorgeous face, the whole package. Of course, being in full DJ mode at this point (or at least as close as I ever got to it) I literally completely forgot all about HB Perfect Tittays back home. Not an easy feat considering I wanted to **** that girl so bad that at the time, I broke a 4 year lurking streak on SoSuave and registered just to get personalized advice about my situation with her. But that night, in the city with Laura, the girl back home was as good as chopped liver.
Long story short, I ended up kiss closing Laura that night, after kino escalation including holding her hand or walking arm in arm-- I had qualified with kino early on and gotten nothing but positives, but even more than that, Laura and I just had an immediate chemistry and attraction that neither one of us tried to hide. I found out she had broken up with her only boyfriend (of 5 years) about 6 months earlier, and now she was looking to transfer universities out of state... to California (where I live). I was shocked. How cool would that be?
But I didn't think anything else of it -- I had a flight home in the morning. We parted ways that night, and I felt a weird pang come over me like it was painful to watch this girl who I felt this connection to walk away in a city 3,000 miles from home. And yet, I simply pushed aside this feeling and urged myself to toughen up and keep spinning those plates.
Time went by, and I ended up feeling so disrespected by HB Perfect Tittays' mixed signals that I NEXTed her. I found out later that this was driving her wild, by the way. Meanwhile, I stayed in friendly, flirty touch with Laura, letting her know that she could even come stay with me one time while she checked out the city and visited potential schools. She seemed to like the idea but neither one of us took it too seriously. But we continued to talk, and I found a connection with her that felt like what I had been searching for thus far. Here was an extremely beautiful woman who also possessed the qualities that I wanted in an LTR -- or at least, that was the impression I was getting from our regular (and increasingly flirty) phone convos and IMs.
She ended up taking me up on the offer to come visit (her first time out here) and check out schools. She stayed with me for two weeks. I banged her the second night, and we never looked back. We had the most passionate, sex-filled, memorable two weeks imaginable, and I showed her the best of what my city has to offer. At this point it was a slam dunk for both of us, and it was a very very hard goodbye for both of us when her trip was over.
She visited twice more, and I visited her again, before she decided that she wanted to transfer out here for sure. We weighed many options and in the end, decided that if she stayed in the dorms she would probably A) end up hating it and feeling like she made the wrong choice by transferring or B) just end up sleeping at my place every night anyway. And so I offered to let her move in with me.
I know what you guys are thinking, that being 22 and moving in with someone who you have only known for 6 months and spent maybe 2 of those months with together total is a bad idea -- but even with how things worked out, I still maintain that I would have done this over again, for two reasons. Firstly, I had never lived with a girlfriend before and had access to the frequency and quality of unprotected sex that this provides. I probably had had sex about as many times total in my life up til that point, as me and Laura banged out in her first couple of weeks here. The other reason moving in with her had to happen was because of money/logistical issues to make everything make sense for her because of all the other costs associated with moving and out of state tuition. We mutually agreed upon an escape clause, though -- if things didn't work out, she would either bite the bullet and move to the dorms, or move back home with her parents. Although this all seems a little sudden, we had established a very strong connection over the prior 6 months before she moved, and we both felt we were very right for each other.
As I continue telling this story, you may notice a distinct erosion on my part of DJ actions, mindset, or thoughts. This is entirely relevant and will tie in nicely with the moral to this incredibly long story.
When she moved here, I flew out with her so that we could drive her car and all her belongings cross-country. This trip was huge -- it let us know we really could be in close quarters, constant company, under stressful situations, and still be compatible. On top of that, it forged some life-changingly good memories and experiences for me that I had been missing up until then. Right away I knew my relationship with Laura would be my first "big one".
Continued.....