BPH
Master Don Juan
This is why I don’t normally do relationships. No emotional investment, no drama.Lmao and women complain about men treating them like shvt. This is exactly why, as soon as you do anything nice, they start pulling back!!
This is why I don’t normally do relationships. No emotional investment, no drama.Lmao and women complain about men treating them like shvt. This is exactly why, as soon as you do anything nice, they start pulling back!!
You good with being alone for the rest of your life?This is why I don’t do relationships. No emotional investment, no drama.
Well every time I think I've found a decent woman and allow them into my life for more than just sex it ends up costing me a lot of time, money, and emotional investment.You good with being alone for the rest of your life?
Oh I'm redownloading the dating apps tonight, whether she comes around or not. I'm not waiting for that.You need to always be at the point where if you had to leave the chick you would be perfectly fine. The minute you have stopped talking to other women, and have becoming emotionally invested in one chick you have already lost the game. I would break up with her. The only way to salvage the relationship is to becoming a different man, a man you can respect. The minute a chick starts tossing the drama yours has sent your way she should be out of your life, or at worst soft nexted. Don't message her for 2 days, absolutely don't cave in. Then after those two days if she contacts you resume your relationship as if nothing happened but have the mindset of you leading the relationship and it's your way or the highway. Things should change. If she doesn't call you hit the dating apps and get your d wet bro.
Lmao!!! I like the remix version better tho...I just texted the GF Happy VD!; but she didn't find it very funny.
@BPH why are you gushing your feelings like that. Less = more. Stop doing that sh!t
Follow Sweet Brown's advice dude:
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
@oldmanofthesea has provided us with some real good here. Read this several times and profit from it.Well, this for starters:
Though I never argue with a woman period. There is simply no need. I challenge anyone to give me one situation that requires argument. Instead you listen to what she says, make your own opinion/decision based on what she says and what YOU think, then you tell her how you feel about it and that's the end of it. There is no more debate/argument/discussion to be had. If you need provide an ultimatum then you do it and you mean and you walk. You didn't walk. Not only did you not walk......
.....you also:
.... and also:
In response to her disrespectful unappreciative attitude, you said:
If a guy punches you in the face, do you respond by saying, "Listen man, I'm not upset or anything, I still really value you as a friend, but I don't like that you punched me in the face" and then engage him in debate about it while he tells you that you are a worthless POS, and all this over a favor you did for him?
You are communicating like a woman, not like a man, and as a result, it turns women off and they start testing you like this.
How to not communicate like a woman 101:
It is ok to explain yourself, but you NEVER re-explain yourself (unless she genuinely doesn't understand and she's asking a respectful follow-up question which is different from a challenge), and YOU are the one to explain yourself in the first place - not in response to any challenge a woman makes to your explanation.
Another way to phrase that is: Never let a woman try to invalidate your beliefs, opinions, boundaries, or desires. A man forms these things on his own and is confident enough to have conviction about them. Your coming here asking us if you are an a-hole tells me right there that you are not confident in your beliefs. This is the root cause of one of your main problems and it causes you to let a woman debate you over the things that you must intrinsically know and trust in yourself. The second you let a woman challenge your beliefs/boundaries, it is game over.
Stop over-engaging and over-communicating. Women want to talk-talk-talk problems to death - men do not. Learn to employ silence and distance, and learn to say, "I've told you how I feel, it's not up for debate, and you can either accept my feelings or not" and if she doesn't, you soft or hard next her based on a number of factors.
Actually be willing to next her for boundary violations.
When a woman is disrespectful, you do NOT shower her with loving affirmations and statements of assurance. You cool things off, employ some silence and distance, and state how you feel, ONCE, and what you will and won't tolerate. You don't say **** like: "I'm not mad" and "I still love you" and "I'm not trying to make it a big deal". That is weak AF and it disgusts women. A girl being b*tchy doesn't deserve you showering her with all this.
Take control. Then you will always know. There will be no guessing or confusionJust to provide another update...
Texted back and forth while I'm at work here today. She doesn't really see it from my perspective, isn't conversing respectfully, likely breakup.
We'll see, I never know with this one.
Go 100 % zero contact from here.Further update...
Yeah she basically said we should probably break up over text if my ego is this fragile. I told her I'd come up on Friday and have a face to face conversation about it since I respect her enough to not do this **** over text.
She told me not to bother, and I said I'd check in and see if she fells the same way by then, otherwise I'm done talking about this until then.
Whether she changes her mind or comes around is no longer my concern. So we'll see, but yeah it's probably just over.
Look at that timing.
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
That’s a question you should know the answer to.One question I do have…
Let’s say she does come around after going no-contact and sees me face to face and apologizes.
What does that conversation look like from my end as far as what you guys think I’d have to tell her needs to change if she wants this relationship to continue?
Well what I'd demand is respect, to be taken seriously, to be treated like a man and her equal rather than somebody subordinate to her because of where she's gotten to in life, at least financially.That’s a question you should know the answer to.
You haven’t demanded anything of this woman. It sounds like you don’t even have expectations.
You can’t make that demand of her because you haven’t shown you can walk away and mean it. I don’t think she will care at this point.What I'm more asking is what is the line between "here's how it's gotta be moving forward for me to stay" versus "this relationship is about what I want and not you"?
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
Her "i am sorry because of blah blah blah, word salad, word salad and more blah blah blah."One question I do have…
Let’s say she does come around after going no-contact and sees me face to face and apologizes.
What does that conversation look like from my end as far as what you guys think I’d have to tell her needs to change if she wants this relationship to continue?
Learn this :Well what I'd demand is respect, to be taken seriously, to be treated like a man and her equal rather than somebody subordinate to her because of where she's gotten to in life, at least financially.
What I'm more asking is what is the line between "here's how it's gotta be moving forward for me to stay" versus "this relationship is about what I want and not you"?
The problem is your actions show that you are willing to continue to be disrespected. She just broke up over text with you and you then say "well I will still check in with you here in a few days just to be sure this is what you REALLY want." Come on, brother. All you are doing is just feeding her validation at this point while making yourself look like a clown-show. I guarantee she is gloating to her friends about how you are like a sad little puppy dog that keeps checking in with her.Well what I'd demand is respect, to be taken seriously, to be treated like a man and her equal rather than somebody subordinate to her because of where she's gotten to in life, at least financially.
What I'm more asking is what is the line between "here's how it's gotta be moving forward for me to stay" versus "this relationship is about what I want and not you"?
When you say to keep chatting with other girls, I assume you mean as backups and not cheating, correct? I feel like cheating would only make it worse if we do continue after this.I don't think verbalizing this will gain you the respect you seek. You'll sound like Fredo in Godfather II.
Just say, "let's see how things go." Wipe the slate clean but move forward with your new self-respect. That is, one strike and you walk...also, keep chatting with other girls. But don't verbalize it. She will still test you, so it's up to you whether you have the fortitude to 1) avoid stupid arguments and 2) walk away.
Personally I would just next her now. No need for more conversations/drama.
Learn this :
You can't demand respect from a person who doesn't respect you. You can only cut them out of your life.
I'm gonna quote the two of you at the same time because I thought the best advice here would be to go no-contact unless she was willing to be face-to-face with me and apologize. Is that no longer the suggestion?The problem is your actions show that you are willing to continue to be disrespected. She just broke up over text with you and you then say "well I will still check in with you here in a few days just to be sure this is what you REALLY want." Come on, brother. All you are doing is just feeding her validation at this point while making yourself look like a clown-show. I guarantee she is gloating to her friends about how you are like a sad little puppy dog that keeps checking in with her.
Here is another thing I have come to realize having been in an LTR with a woman who is a couple of years older than me -- they typically always think they wear the pants because you are younger than them. Don't be an in LTR with an older woman unless it is like barely older than you (less than a year).
Move on. You can do better. And stop giving this woman so much satisfaction at your own expense and go NO CONTACT. And do not respond if she reaches out to breadcrumb you.
Forgot to quote you in that reply. I've walked away and meant it twice so far in this 6-month relationship we've been in. Both times she came around, apologized, etc.You can’t make that demand of her because you haven’t shown you can walk away and mean it. I don’t think she will care at this point.
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.