Re: Damn...I Leave For A Year and Come Back To This?
Originally posted by Hirez
I read through this whole damn post because I am bored as **** in class and just wanted to point out a few things since I am officially back...
1. Jet - You are not a DJ'r and I would appreciate you stopping calling yourself that...you have not as of yet demonstrated sufficient aptitude nor character of a DJ'r...
2. Jet - You are not an Alpha male...you are not even a Beta male...your lack of strength and character is abundantly evident...even after you gathered the strength to next her...
Enough Criticism...we all start our DJ'ing career from various points...so some constructive advice...
1st...you really need to look in the mirror Jet and determine what kind of guy you are currently and what kind of guy you want to be...you are obviously manifesting a substantial amount of weakness other wise the woman would not DARE to tell you she was going to see another guy...that is how I know you are not an Alpha Male...
2nd...The strength of a true DJ'r is not in the techniques that they use but their psychological strength and the courage to make a tough decision RATIONALLY that may not be the happiest emotionally...YOU HAVE STARTED ON THIS PATH...congratulations...
3rd...You really need to find an individual to model...and begin to act like you are an Alpha male...although this forum is nice you can only learn so much from typing on a screen...look for some one you want to be like and model him until it becomes natural for you to be an Alpha male...
Your fundamental problem is that you are approaching life from a position of inferiority, now this may be subconscious but back pedalling through life will keep you getting your ass kicked...
Good Luck, Keep Working Hard...
Hirez...have you ever been with a chick and broke it off because of her substandard behavior? Of course you have, everyone has. The woman DARED to tell me she was going to do this shyt anyways, because she turned out to be a flake. When I met her, she seemed to be pretty sound, and rational, and LTR material. That is why we all date them before we marry them...it gives us a chance to see what they are going to be like. Just because she is a squirrel, does not make me a squirrel lover or anything. LOL My point is, I may or maynot be a DJ in your eyes or anyone elses, but I really don't care. I was Firm, Fair, and consistent with this chick. In other words, I gave her a chance to be whoever the hell she really was...and you saw the outcome. I am not with her cuz I did not want that in my life. Yet, I was fair. Nobody ever said being a DJ means you have to be UNFAIR.
I was fair, because i made my opinion and wishes known to her, and if she had been LTR material, that would have been enough. In this life, not everyone is going to do what you want, I don't care how good you are at "pyschological control". Bottom line is..she wanted to do something. I did not want her to do it, because it was disrespectful to me. She did it anyway, so of course there are consequences she must pay. I no longer wish to be around her, since she obviously can't keep her legs together, and I don't share. Its pretty cut and dried isn't it? Or is it?
I also am not on a quest to "dominate" be a alpha male ( I am not in a dog pack ok!) My main concern, is that I show decent morals, soundness of character, and be fair, but at the same time I take no crap. I have plenty of confidence there dude! I don't next every chick that has a friend, ( a sign of insecurity if I did) because, if the chick has no friends, then what does that say about her? BUT....If a chick has a friend that wants to be more than friends, and she goes for it..see ya, bye bye! Chicks are very good at that, have there cake and eat it to shyt. Well she got a shyt pie didn't she!! LMAO.
I would also tell you, that before you question whether or not I am a DJ'r, or a "Alpha" ya might want to look in that proverbial mirror yourself. I am probably more Alpha, than you know, cuz I really don't give a shyt, what the situation is..I have a calm cool and collected confidence that i can get myself right the hell out of anything I get myself into! As a matter of fact, my approach to life is a simple one. I know i can do anything i set my mind to, and that includes getting that HB9 sittin over there in the corner etc. I have proven that many a time..but that doesn't prove a thing. Some things aren't worth it! Just because you can get it, doesn't mean its what you really want or need. I could have kept this chick, she certainly realized what she lost, but why would I do that? She can't be trusted! Now if I was AFC, I'd be letting her come back. That will never happen.
No, hirez, you are barking up the wrong tree with your post. It ain't no big thing. I figure you post on a board like this, there is always gonna be somebody, gonna have more hindsight than me. But hindsight is 20/20. Even I have that. point being, we all live and learn. I don't need a "role" model as you suggest. experience is the best teacher, and I'll bet I have a little bit more than you do. Once in a while, we all run into a chick that turns out to be a "mirage" , meaning she isn't what she appears to be. I think I have handled this situation well, but first I gathered the facts, carefully thought it thru, and acted on it. The fact that I made the right choice, is proof enough that i am on the right path. I think most here would agree.
Hirez, so tell me what you would have done diffrently? What would a "real DJ" have done? same scenario......and don't give me any BS about "well I would have never been with a chick like that to start with." You have never been with a chick that had friends? I would hope the chicks you see would have friends. Which gives it potential for the chick to pull exactly what his one did. There was no early warning here, no red flag until right before it happened. And even then, I needed to find out what the true situation was, not just freak out. You don't next a chick based on your own insecurities, or what something "looks like" until you have the info about waht it is! As you noticed, as soon as I got the complete picture of what she was doing, I did what had to be done. If it took awhile, then no skin off my azz, when I do something, such as next a chick, the decision is usually irreversible, which means I better damn sure have my facts straight! At first I was wanting to out DJ this guy, but i was mistaken..he is no DJ, merely a opportunist. Hell even the sun shines on a dogs azz once in awhile LMAO.
So to answer your post, If I was surrounded by Alpha males, and trying to score with some chick, it wouldn't affect my game whatsoever. I never claimed to be the biggest baddest DJ of them all, but you don't NEED to be. Common sense goes a long way bro. If I really wanted her, I could have her, but I think I'll leave her with him and that can be his punishment for his part in all of this. As far as inferior, naw I don't think so. I approach things from a angle I imagine you've never seen before. Nothing inferior here. If you meet a chick that turns flaky, it does not make you inferior. You are not inferior unless you let yourself get pvssywhipped, which I certainly did not. Oh by the way... I did meet this guy today. She said she would be out to bring my Dogtags and pictures back, and i said great ( this way she has to drive etc, I can actually have more control over what goes down if its my property) She shows up with dogface in tow. He gets out, stomps up like he is the gestapo or something. I put out my hand shook his hand, being sure to squeeze VERY hard until you could almost feel his fingers crumble. He looks at me introduces his self... I tell him who I am. he proceeds to give me shyt about hurting her feelings blah blah blah, and I interrupt, saying "look dude, You wanted her, you got her, shes yours have fun". I said this so she could hear. I said" if she is gonna cheat on me, she is going to cheat on you...get it"? It got real quiet..I said "why did you come anyway are you gonna try to beat me up"? If your gonna teach me a lesson, better bring it on! He says "no man, I don't want no trouble with you, its cool, everythings cool". then he jumps in the slutt mobile and they ride off...Good fvcking riddance. I look for him to think about it, shyt he already knows....she will not have him either. oh well another consequence. LOL
