Hello!
This is freakin' LONG, but please bare with me, cause it's very important!
So here's my story:
I'm from Slovenia, but were born in another country (Belgrade, Serbia). The point being - my hometown mentality is a lot warmer and open to new contacts & dating than the mentality of people living here. So I was always labeled "special" in this country which came in VERY handy after reading Weapons of Mass Seduction by Senor Fingers
I was a hopeless romantic before i was presented with it but now I'm a romantic with hope! I'm doing just fine in my home town, but still I have problems with slovenian girls, cause they are usually very shy and closed. Maybe this will explain it better: If you have a GREAT time with someone, or you have a really massive conversation one night, chances are that they won't even recognize you the next day.
So, I met this girl at my high-school newspaper, which I am the main editor of. At our first newspaper meeting, I must say I made myself look very good, I was leading the whole thing, making people laugh, making some great, crazy, rebelious ideas for the newspaper, but still keeping it on a very professional level. She was looking at me with such glare in her eyes, so I figured I should give it a shot.. It just so turned out her aunt lives in my neighbourhood, so we walked there together. Then I went travelling and we didn't see each other for like 5 months.
One month ago, we met at a cafe and she asked me to tutor her in physics. So we started hangin out and things started looking pretty good.
One week ago. She came back from a trip, and wanted to meet me. After successfully NOT finding a cafe to go to, she suggested to go to her place. She invited a few more friends and we all had a GREAT time. A bottle of vino and two jah-shards later, she managed to send all her friends home, so now it is morning, we are both still a bit st.n3d and we agreed to go to bed.
As we came to her room, she lay down on her stomach, took her shirt off and gave me the body lotion. So I did my magic with her back for like 1,5 hour, and it was very enjoyable for both of us. Then she dressed up & kindly asked me to lay down next to her, so I did. The problem was that she kinda turned her back on me! So I hugged her in a spoon-like position. No convo. Cuddling. I started kissing her neck, gently biting her ear, stroking her back and she reacted very well and didn't resist at all. Actually, returned some kino. So far so good, wouldn't you say? But what the f* do I know, right? Then things got strange - I told her to turn around, and she kinda ignored me. But she smiled. So I started tickling her until we were somehow face-to-face. Then I kissed her, and she kissed back. And she did it VERY good! I'm like bursting of happiness, tongue action is going well, and suddenly, she just said she was tired and wants to sleep.. She was right, now it is 10 AM, we are both depleted, so we went to sleep. I made the whole transition comfortable with a great line I can't remember now but we laughed and went to sleep very cosy togheter.
So we woke up, and she rushed to the bathroom to take a shower. I made us some coffee and we had to clean up the apartment, and the whole time she acted as if nothing happenned.. I'm confused, but going with the flow.. slowly escalating it to the moment when we made out in the kitchen. And again, she coldly snaped out of it and went on cleaning.. I'm like, wtf.. we had to go to the city again and meet a friend of her's, we had another coffee and split up with a mere HANDSHAKE. Yes, you read it right.
Two days later we met again. Went walking, having a great time, but I'm like a bit detached... didn't want to push anything cause the tension was in the air. So she was relaxed by the time I walked her to the aunt's house, where we hugged & kissed goodbye. So I was like, ok, this could be something afterall. We met two more times after that and it was all kinda undefined.. the convo is going great, she's laughing, I'm having fun, actually being the life of the party whenever her friends are around.. but still there is some tension between us. Some times she would kiss me back, sometimes not, so I think she is VERY confused.
And she told me she was confused about it all, but keeps on calling to see me. And averything is so vague.. She is like OK with it all, but there is no passion or initiative from her side. She wrote on our forum that a guy broke her heart recently and she couldn't stand anything serious right now.. So I'm thinking she's afraid I'd do such a thing to her.
The problem here is that I want to have a relationship with her cause I've really fallen in love. And this makes it impossible for me to detach completly.
I could talk about it with her. Like, oh, please tell me wht's going on, and be a total wuss!
I could just leave her alone for a few days, but I fear she might think I'm just "one of those guys" OR she could think it was just a oneNighter, which would be even worse.
I could.. OMG, I don't know anymore.. please help, THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME, cause she is the first girl after MANY I am seeking advice for.. no really, I can't afford to f*ck this one up with some stupid trial&error move.
I sincerely thank anyone who took the time to reply.. he just might be saving my life!
just kidding, it's just a girl, right? ( not actualy kidding... )
This is freakin' LONG, but please bare with me, cause it's very important!
So here's my story:
I'm from Slovenia, but were born in another country (Belgrade, Serbia). The point being - my hometown mentality is a lot warmer and open to new contacts & dating than the mentality of people living here. So I was always labeled "special" in this country which came in VERY handy after reading Weapons of Mass Seduction by Senor Fingers
I was a hopeless romantic before i was presented with it but now I'm a romantic with hope!
I'm doing just fine in my home town, but still I have problems with slovenian girls, cause they are usually very shy and closed. Maybe this will explain it better: If you have a GREAT time with someone, or you have a really massive conversation one night, chances are that they won't even recognize you the next day.So, I met this girl at my high-school newspaper, which I am the main editor of. At our first newspaper meeting, I must say I made myself look very good, I was leading the whole thing, making people laugh, making some great, crazy, rebelious ideas for the newspaper, but still keeping it on a very professional level. She was looking at me with such glare in her eyes, so I figured I should give it a shot.. It just so turned out her aunt lives in my neighbourhood, so we walked there together. Then I went travelling and we didn't see each other for like 5 months.
One month ago, we met at a cafe and she asked me to tutor her in physics. So we started hangin out and things started looking pretty good.
One week ago. She came back from a trip, and wanted to meet me. After successfully NOT finding a cafe to go to, she suggested to go to her place. She invited a few more friends and we all had a GREAT time. A bottle of vino and two jah-shards later, she managed to send all her friends home, so now it is morning, we are both still a bit st.n3d and we agreed to go to bed.
As we came to her room, she lay down on her stomach, took her shirt off and gave me the body lotion. So I did my magic with her back for like 1,5 hour, and it was very enjoyable for both of us. Then she dressed up & kindly asked me to lay down next to her, so I did. The problem was that she kinda turned her back on me! So I hugged her in a spoon-like position. No convo. Cuddling. I started kissing her neck, gently biting her ear, stroking her back and she reacted very well and didn't resist at all. Actually, returned some kino. So far so good, wouldn't you say? But what the f* do I know, right? Then things got strange - I told her to turn around, and she kinda ignored me. But she smiled. So I started tickling her until we were somehow face-to-face. Then I kissed her, and she kissed back. And she did it VERY good! I'm like bursting of happiness, tongue action is going well, and suddenly, she just said she was tired and wants to sleep.. She was right, now it is 10 AM, we are both depleted, so we went to sleep. I made the whole transition comfortable with a great line I can't remember now
but we laughed and went to sleep very cosy togheter.So we woke up, and she rushed to the bathroom to take a shower. I made us some coffee and we had to clean up the apartment, and the whole time she acted as if nothing happenned.. I'm confused, but going with the flow.. slowly escalating it to the moment when we made out in the kitchen. And again, she coldly snaped out of it and went on cleaning.. I'm like, wtf.. we had to go to the city again and meet a friend of her's, we had another coffee and split up with a mere HANDSHAKE. Yes, you read it right.
Two days later we met again. Went walking, having a great time, but I'm like a bit detached... didn't want to push anything cause the tension was in the air. So she was relaxed by the time I walked her to the aunt's house, where we hugged & kissed goodbye. So I was like, ok, this could be something afterall. We met two more times after that and it was all kinda undefined.. the convo is going great, she's laughing, I'm having fun, actually being the life of the party whenever her friends are around.. but still there is some tension between us. Some times she would kiss me back, sometimes not, so I think she is VERY confused.
And she told me she was confused about it all, but keeps on calling to see me. And averything is so vague.. She is like OK with it all, but there is no passion or initiative from her side. She wrote on our forum that a guy broke her heart recently and she couldn't stand anything serious right now.. So I'm thinking she's afraid I'd do such a thing to her.
The problem here is that I want to have a relationship with her cause I've really fallen in love. And this makes it impossible for me to detach completly.
I could talk about it with her. Like, oh, please tell me wht's going on, and be a total wuss!
I could just leave her alone for a few days, but I fear she might think I'm just "one of those guys" OR she could think it was just a oneNighter, which would be even worse.
I could.. OMG, I don't know anymore.. please help, THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME, cause she is the first girl after MANY I am seeking advice for.. no really, I can't afford to f*ck this one up with some stupid trial&error move.
I sincerely thank anyone who took the time to reply.. he just might be saving my life!
just kidding, it's just a girl, right? ( not actualy kidding...
)