Espi said:
And do you really think you're better for it? I mean--has monogamy made you "happy"?
It did for me, when I was married. I am also not religious, but I legitimately enjoy being with one woman and one woman only. After 13 years I never got tired of her physically and was just as attracted to her as I was on day 1, and even though she wasn't as sexual as I wish she was, the thought or urge to cheat never crossed my mind. I didn't even have to fight it, it was never there. I was extremely happy being completely monogamous.
Committed relationships like marriage are supposed to be reserved for people who want and enjoy exactly that -- one partner only. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping with many different partners if that's the kind of life you want to lead, but when you swear an oath to remain committed and faithful to one person you bring dishonor upon yourself and them when you violate it.
Honor. A word long forgotten to not only Western society, but the world in general. We as humans are supposed to rise above our base biological functions using the intellect we are endowed with, for the greater good. These days animals display greater honor than humans, and tragically so.
The fact that many people can't seem to grasp is that there is no NEED to commit to somebody if you want to sleep around. You can alternatively commit to an open relationship with a like-minded partner and both engage in that behavior. But why dishonor yourself and your family by cheating and breaking your oath when said oath and/or marriage is not necessary in the first place?
Leave the sanctity of those things intact for the people who truly want them... like me.