Right but the distinction here needs to be made between ATTRACTION and INTEREST. Again, you're a sexual masucline man. You see a physically attractive woman. It's NORMAL to want to jump in bed with her, it's normal to send out those subconscious vibes, and it's normal for her to want the same and send the same non-verbal signs to you. THIS IS HOW WE MAKE BABIES. To HIDE that part of you, is to hide your masculinity. To hide your sexuality. It doesn't work.
Now I struggled with this as well. It's subtle. How do you "show her" that she doesn't "own you" and still be in that sexual "I like you pretty girl" at the same time. I mean if you're totally hiding your attraction, and you end up having sex, that's called rape. This communication HAS to be happening, although you don't need words for the communication.
INTEREST is totally separate. It's actual INTEREST IN HER AS A HUMAN BEING--the things she does, her opinions, her interests, how she treats other people, is she kind and caring, is she laid back and casual, each man has certain traits he'd like from a girl who he is going to spend time with beyond sex, to make it worthwhile. And since people are so different, no girl or man is going to fit the other's requirements all the time. And since your time is VALUABLE, you want to "cut to the chase" and see if she and you are on a similar level. So you CHALLENGE her, in the way you act, the way you speak, the way you monitor her behavior towards you. So you monitor shyt tests. If she resorts to jealousy because your interest seems to be tentative. All that stuff, you look for, take note of, and hold her accountable for (and you do that by subtly showing, you will indeed walk away). She knows it. She knows you're "on to her games" and she's going to love you for it.
She is s a sexual being, you acknowledge that. You are a sexual being and you acknowledge that too. But INTEREST is the next level from that, and I believe women if they are attracted to a man WANT THE MAN to actually HAVE that interest, and they get off on qualifying to you and to EARN that prize from you--that prize being your genuine, (if sometimes elusive) interest in her as a PERSON. NOT because she's hot, or has a nice body, or any of the other things. She wants to CONNECT, to a man she perceives as a masculine man with standards. That's the guy she'll feel safe with, that's the guy that's going to push all her buttons, and that's the guy she's going to obsess over. It is intimidating, but the good kind.
Wow I'm really on a roll here, but it helps me to clarify what I'm learning and experiencing.