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You guys have to work on YOU and learn some social skills with EACH OTHER and grow as men. That's not really happening here. Men who have their act together don't act like victims, blame others for their own mistakes or bad choices. Men don't act like women. Women are emotional, catty, hysterical, complain, and obsess over stupid little things. Most of them do, anyway. The majority of the men on here are behaving like women. You've got to get beyond that and become mature men who act like men. No, that doesn't mean acting "alpha" or being a jerk or ass. It means being dignified, having a life of your own, goals, setting yourself up for success in all areas of life.
THAT's where I agree.
Men.
Boys.
First, being a victim IS not manly. And fvck being manly, it's not even positive. It's not productive.
PLEASE, someone tell me something I do not know? That there might be an agenda? That men go unappreciated by all but the close few people in their lives? That newspapers report nothing but BAD news and BAD emotions?
It's like doing a report, but offering no suggestions, no conclusions, no improvements. Perhaps the main reason most guys here was the symptoms of the preceeding 20 posts or so.
The victim mentality IS not attractive. The blame mentality will not get you ANY girl. The "get-even" or "fvck-chicks" mentality is negative. Do you realize, that to harbor bad attitudes REQUIRES you to be negative?? That you must be bitter?? You cannot be POSITIVE (happy) and be NEGATIVE (pissed, upset, depressed) in the same state. You can achieve anything, while being hamstrung by issues with women, secret corporate agendas, or a hoe that hurt you 5 years ago.
THAT is my point. Wyldfire pointed it out, i'm driving it home. That...maybe you're right...say you are in fact 1000% right. What now? Reenact fight club and dismantle society? Overthrow the country? Out of 300,000,000 who'd move it an inch. CHANGE COMES FROM WITHIN.
That's not just some NEW AGE MUMBO JUMBO. That's real. Because your positive or negative vibes are INFECTIOUS. Right now the post you wrote, the negative connotations surrounding this issue must create negative feelings and energy in you. So as I said, YES karma DOES come around.
How?
To be negative, to spit virtriolic posts at others REQUIRES you to be negative. And negative likes negative. Negative people like negative people. Therefore, you don't elevate your energy levels, you drag them down and keep them down. And it becomes a vicious cycle that YOU GET WHAT YOU WANT.
ON the surface, you might SAY "I want hot chicks, good friends, and blah, blah" but if you're deeper energy level, and deeper feelings speak differently, you'll get what those deeper feelings hide.
It's said, because most people can't see it unfolding...they can't see that IT's THEY who are their worst enemy. While it may or may not occur, it only matters WHO it bothers. We're all guys part of 1 site and many others. Yet some of us are getting results, and other's aren't. Why is that?
Attitude. Not some fake self-defense shield that you carry around you along with your "Don Juan Membership" firmly entrenched in your brain giving you greater heights of arrogance, BUT a positive attitude that you KNOW YOU CONTROL YOUR OWN EMOTIONAL STATE. That's control.
A crisis only gets worse because people run around with their heads cut off and their emotions loose.
Fights get worse because someone elevates it. Things get worse when we counter negative emotions, engage in them, and act back with them.
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I'm sure it was a well-written post, well-researched, too. But tell me, pointing out the flaws about society or movements or women, don't advance us 1 bit. In fact, it drops us several levels in positive energy, AND drops the respectability of the site.
NOT all girls are bad...you guys are so stuck in your own mess and mud and excuses that you can't get out of your own way. Plus, if you're following the TRUE pua community into bars and clubs, WHAT DO YOU EXPECT TO GET?
You think a girl who CARED about her body would waste 5+ hours boozing, smoking, and doing drugs? I mean CARES...
FARK no. She might SOCIALLY drink, but she's no booze-aholic that spends hours @ those places, otherwise she'll look like a beat pair of leather shoes.
You think a girl who's into TRADITIONAL RELATIONSHIPS or MAN-in-charge type stuff would be found there?
HECK no! You may luck out and strike the lottery and find her...but you're elusive HB10 , or even 9, or maybe even 8 will be there. She WILL have SOME fvcked up problem with her. Believe me. Some turn off, or some character flaw that will be the DOWNFALL of your relationship. Mark that down.
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Clubs and bars require 1 thing of a woman: looks. That's it. So tell me, any woman who invests heavil in her looks, does she have any OTHER redeeming qualities that balance her out? Make her worthwhile?
Eh, no. She's investing in looks, and KNOWS guys accept women on looks, so she can weigh that out. Guys...if you know you could get the girl of your dreams but just being @ the gym. No decent job. No personality. No money. Just your appearance...what would you do with yourself?
You'd get some 'roids, get a crappy part-time job to pay for them, and live at the gym and tanning salon. You'd buy inexpensive designer clothes @ Marshalls and just go to places where lots of women are.
Isn't this what women, a good portion of them are REACTING to? I mean...for as long as I know, women have always been what they thought men liked. Otherwise, they'd probably go out in sweat pants and t shirts. For real. But they don't. Magazines and tv shows SHOW women how to be like the stars we oggle over, and then they got, dress like them, and WALLA! They're empty, vapid, but beautiful! Yay! Get your rocks off, then you find out she's a mistrusting, asset-stealing, lying, cheating, useless, talentless, bytch. OF COURSE! Any woman who ONLY works on her outerself will have no inner self worth being with!
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The SUMMARY of all posts, from 00kevin, Rollo, Westcoaster, and myself is as thus....
You CONTROL your emotional state. Nobody else does. Negative begets negative. Positive begets positive. You can only be one emotion at one time. The longer you're one, the less likely you'll be the other.
Empty, vapid, useless, beautiful women exist, and most men are trained to go after them, BUT USE CAUTION! You claim to be a better man, a DJ, but who cares if you score, if the game, or prize is meaningless??
Picking women up represents EVERYTHING wrong with it. That alone should motivate you NOW, to not only get off the site for awhile, but get a life. Stop obsessing OVER women. You can't THINK and DO at the same time. You can't be working your game and USING it.
Gaming people is philosophically and spiritually OPPOSITE of universal law. Meaning, if you're trying to "one up" me, like you would getting a woman, you just imbalanced EVERYTHING. Energies. Power. Respect. That'd be like God screwing with your life, when he already has immense power. It'd just be wrong. That's what men do and they wonder WHY. How can you simultaneously try to score a GOOD woman with BAD emotions inside? You know it, you feel it, you sense the evil and the bad, yet you act, and wonder why nothing good is born. OF COURSE...good only comes from good!
The purity of life is to NOT be motivated by past actions. Do NOT let past BAD gf's or flings or FWB's motivate you to become someone you're not. That's paying it BACKWARD. What kind of progression exists if you're hurt, and you seek to hurt people, too? Who have you become? Are you better than who you were? Are you better than the person that hurt you?
The focus is on you...UNTIL you committ, then it's on US (You/she). Right now, it's you. Most guys make it on her...well from now, because isn't that why the site exists? Most of you guys BYTCH about no results, not enough PUA...but that's all about HER. Being about you is doing your own thing, and if a woman seeks to make plans, or seems worth your time AND committs, she won't beat around the bush! You guys tolerating flakes are dumb. Sure, you might reschedule, but come on...she flakes now, what happens in a year? In a month? During a holiday? SEE IT COMING!
He might have been scripted well and played by a decent actor, but Van Wilder's ATTITUDE and IMAGE is a perfect ideal of a DJ (at least for the young). He wasn't a gamer. He didn't one up anyone. He was pure to the moment. He was honest and genuine and laid-back. Isn't a book the same way? Don't they seek to paint ideals? Haven't we done the same with relatively UNPROVEN DJ methods? A DJ method isn't even a method.
A group of you guys should be able to get together, go out have fun, and meet chicks OR NOT meet chicks and be ok. You know how many times I went out with friends and they met someone, or I met someone, or we both did?? TONS of times. But I never went out with the explicit purpose of GAMING anyone. For me, that's when it happened most. Buy into it or don't. Maybe there are positive PUA's with sophisticated skills that make women feel things they want to feel, and don't fvck up the universe in the process...I've yet to me one and I hear nothing but BAD things about dudes like that.
Done.
A-Unit