The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)
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Day 43
Today is her Birthday. Happy Birthday! What ever you are doing, I hope you are having a great day! Really do!
Me? Well I've started dating someone, been dating for a month now, had a few rough spells, but in general we are getting along well. Shes very different to the type of women I normally go for, but maybe this is for the best. Starting to spend more time together, so hopefully this will be the start of the relationship I need.
Today is her Birthday. Happy Birthday! What ever you are doing, I hope you are having a great day! Really do!
Me? Well I've started dating someone, been dating for a month now, had a few rough spells, but in general we are getting along well. Shes very different to the type of women I normally go for, but maybe this is for the best. Starting to spend more time together, so hopefully this will be the start of the relationship I need.
rawson-1992
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What happen if the girl you broke up with goes no contact with you!?
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
rawson-1992
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I didn't want to break up...Dtsm3 said:
logicallefty
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Yes, it did actually. And yours too.Colette said:
smell of fish probably comes from your ex's pvssy
Read this: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=217034
Backwardsman
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Hey all, hope you are all doing ok...
Ive, decided if anyone wants to talk via skype, im available PM me, feel its better talking person to person, i believe i can help
"Your relationship is over, not your life"... enjoy it
Ive, decided if anyone wants to talk via skype, im available PM me, feel its better talking person to person, i believe i can help
"Your relationship is over, not your life"... enjoy it
logicallefty
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:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:Colette said:
So...my ex who dumped me after an abortion 6 months ago has a boyfriend now. I haven't talked to her in months so how do I know? She updates her twitter with how much she is in love with him and how perfect he is.
I can't stop looking. I've tried, I really have. But its just so dark right now. I am utterly alone. I have no women in my life, no friends nearby. No opportunities to meet women. I go to work, rot in traffic, and then try to pass the time when I get home. When I go out I end up sitting at a bar alone looking pathetic.
She doesn't even know I look at her twitter feed. She has just completely tossed me out, like I was nothing. How can this be? I honestly don't understand it. I feel like I'll never be OK again.
I've been so lonely and isolated for so long that I really think I'm losing my mind. I read about death cults, man-eating lions....I drink hard alcohol and pass out on my floor. Anything that will just help me get through the day. I applied for volunteering positions at local nursing homes...none of them responded back. I am completely invisible to the world.
Why am I such a faggot? Do I just kill myself? Become a monk? Bank robber? Sail the Amazon and gather a collection of skulls then die penniless in a Portugese mining town?
I can't stop looking. I've tried, I really have. But its just so dark right now. I am utterly alone. I have no women in my life, no friends nearby. No opportunities to meet women. I go to work, rot in traffic, and then try to pass the time when I get home. When I go out I end up sitting at a bar alone looking pathetic.
She doesn't even know I look at her twitter feed. She has just completely tossed me out, like I was nothing. How can this be? I honestly don't understand it. I feel like I'll never be OK again.
I've been so lonely and isolated for so long that I really think I'm losing my mind. I read about death cults, man-eating lions....I drink hard alcohol and pass out on my floor. Anything that will just help me get through the day. I applied for volunteering positions at local nursing homes...none of them responded back. I am completely invisible to the world.
Why am I such a faggot? Do I just kill myself? Become a monk? Bank robber? Sail the Amazon and gather a collection of skulls then die penniless in a Portugese mining town?
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Sailing the Amazon and gathering skulls sounds like a pretty sweet deal. I suggest you talk to people about it at the bar over a game of pool.Cheeks said:
Got dumped Sunday.
Went a day without talking.
7/1 -- Texted her my frustrations and felt like I was being taken for granted. She said "If it makes you feel better say it, then respect that I want space from you"
7/2 - 7/3, no contact. Joining a gym. Went for a run earlier today.
Got an event all day tomorrow, just going to focus on that.
Went a day without talking.
7/1 -- Texted her my frustrations and felt like I was being taken for granted. She said "If it makes you feel better say it, then respect that I want space from you"
7/2 - 7/3, no contact. Joining a gym. Went for a run earlier today.
Got an event all day tomorrow, just going to focus on that.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Cerwin Vega
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Day 67
Having some weird dreams lately. Going to hit the bars tonight, still not ready to date though, I'm only sharpening my skills.
I'm starting to remove harmful people from my life. this includes those who constantly update me about my ex. It hurts to know about her, but it hurts even more that they continue doing so even after I told them to never mention her again.
Remove those people who call me only when they're bored/need something. I hate them deeply anyway.
Remove those people who whine and are total losers in life, every time I'm having and interaction with them I feel like I'm becoming a sludge.
Remove negative people, those who dump all their troubles on me - I'm yet to think of somebody, but I bet there is someone like this in my life.
Removing them = No contact. I shouldn't be resentful, as if I meet them in person I'll just smile, shake their hand and continue walking. No point on being angry with those people.
Having some weird dreams lately. Going to hit the bars tonight, still not ready to date though, I'm only sharpening my skills.
I'm starting to remove harmful people from my life. this includes those who constantly update me about my ex. It hurts to know about her, but it hurts even more that they continue doing so even after I told them to never mention her again.
Remove those people who call me only when they're bored/need something. I hate them deeply anyway.
Remove those people who whine and are total losers in life, every time I'm having and interaction with them I feel like I'm becoming a sludge.
Remove negative people, those who dump all their troubles on me - I'm yet to think of somebody, but I bet there is someone like this in my life.
Removing them = No contact. I shouldn't be resentful, as if I meet them in person I'll just smile, shake their hand and continue walking. No point on being angry with those people.
cerwin.....I here what you are feeling mate........I have just done something very similar to you , its in your own interest to surround yourself with positive people , I don't have lots of friends at all really , but the ones I have are awesome people , and don't drag me down......
like attracts like always remember that........
things will improve mate trust me , yeah sure the pain an ex can cause is an awefull shytty feeling , but its a process we all have to go through to make our lives better.........it just takes time that's all and positive actions.
good luck
like attracts like always remember that........
things will improve mate trust me , yeah sure the pain an ex can cause is an awefull shytty feeling , but its a process we all have to go through to make our lives better.........it just takes time that's all and positive actions.
good luck
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2q5AWN81-3E
"The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it"
I can only recommend the vids from Corey Wayne.
They helped me a lot within darkest times I went through...
"The strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it"
I can only recommend the vids from Corey Wayne.
They helped me a lot within darkest times I went through...
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Well, you can talk to us. Twitter's gay. Go to the gym.Cheeks said:
Day 16
NC. Got a girls number yesterday. An old "plate" (what a funny term) sent me some nude pics of herself (without requesting them), despite having a boyfriend. But she's in a different state. Though I may be visiting her area soon. So good to know she's still around. Told me her boyfriend is feminine. I'm guessing she doesn't like him too much.
I had a dream about my ex last night. It was very vivid and I woke up feeling like I'd just held her/been held by her, & everything else that happened in the dream. Sh*tty-feeling, really. Lingering sh*tty feeling. Worked out shoulders this morning. Gym was empty.
Recorded some music. Just doing the deal. Onward and upward my friends.
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Hey all,
Just a little story which happened recently, regarding NC.....
went out with a girl for a year, she still lived with her ex, after countless times of me asking her to sort it, kept distant during the relationship because of this, didnt give her 100%.
Finished her in feb, went NC - She text me 4 weeks ago, asking how i was etc, called me up a few times, and eventually i met up with her 4 times over the 4 weeks.
Banged her twice, then finished it again last night, although she had moved out and went to live back at her dads, things were the same, didnt get the vibe, what im saying is, if you have broke up with your ex, it wont be the same again, best to move forward and not backward... I only went back as i was completely over her and just wanted a bang pretty much....
Below is a copy of what i posted back in january, hopefully it will help a few of the new people here
A few pointers i have learned over the years -
Your relationship ended because it was meant to, If it wasn't, you would still be together.
A breakup should be viewed positively, learn from it, better yourself for the next one. Think of it as a lesson for yourself.
Most, if not all relationships these days are some form of emotional attachment to someone, like a drug, when the drug (girlfriend) is available you are happy etc, when the drug is removed (dumped etc) you want it more and are unhappy - Is this love? i dont think so......
further to my point above, NC is like going into rehab, getting clean from the emotional attachment you had with this person, and is the best way to heal and make you stronger - Be the man and walk away!
Better yourself, become active, go out with friends, staying in waiting by your phone for a text/call is wasting your life, put your self first, not an ex.
Always look forward, never backwards, you will have plenty more relationships in your life time, trust me.
A quick story before i go.
My first proper girlfriend, went out for over a year, did loads together etc thought she was the one (naive). She ended it, and i was all over the place, texting, showing up at her house, when she went out to clubs i would be there - What do you think this looks like ? loser right.... i cringe looking back at my actions, but in a way gave me lessons on how not to behave after a breakup....
Fast forward to now, my last ex i actually finished 4 weeks ago, going out a year, but she still lived with her ex and no matter how much i asked her to sort it, nothing got done, so i simply ended it, deleted her out of my life and walked away, best thing i have ever done and i feel empowered doing it - She texts from time to time, but i simply ignore, delete and get on with my life.
In a nutshell, Your relationship ended, not your life....... Hope you all get on ok, any questions please ask
Just a little story which happened recently, regarding NC.....
went out with a girl for a year, she still lived with her ex, after countless times of me asking her to sort it, kept distant during the relationship because of this, didnt give her 100%.
Finished her in feb, went NC - She text me 4 weeks ago, asking how i was etc, called me up a few times, and eventually i met up with her 4 times over the 4 weeks.
Banged her twice, then finished it again last night, although she had moved out and went to live back at her dads, things were the same, didnt get the vibe, what im saying is, if you have broke up with your ex, it wont be the same again, best to move forward and not backward... I only went back as i was completely over her and just wanted a bang pretty much....
Below is a copy of what i posted back in january, hopefully it will help a few of the new people here
A few pointers i have learned over the years -
Your relationship ended because it was meant to, If it wasn't, you would still be together.
A breakup should be viewed positively, learn from it, better yourself for the next one. Think of it as a lesson for yourself.
Most, if not all relationships these days are some form of emotional attachment to someone, like a drug, when the drug (girlfriend) is available you are happy etc, when the drug is removed (dumped etc) you want it more and are unhappy - Is this love? i dont think so......
further to my point above, NC is like going into rehab, getting clean from the emotional attachment you had with this person, and is the best way to heal and make you stronger - Be the man and walk away!
Better yourself, become active, go out with friends, staying in waiting by your phone for a text/call is wasting your life, put your self first, not an ex.
Always look forward, never backwards, you will have plenty more relationships in your life time, trust me.
A quick story before i go.
My first proper girlfriend, went out for over a year, did loads together etc thought she was the one (naive). She ended it, and i was all over the place, texting, showing up at her house, when she went out to clubs i would be there - What do you think this looks like ? loser right.... i cringe looking back at my actions, but in a way gave me lessons on how not to behave after a breakup....
Fast forward to now, my last ex i actually finished 4 weeks ago, going out a year, but she still lived with her ex and no matter how much i asked her to sort it, nothing got done, so i simply ended it, deleted her out of my life and walked away, best thing i have ever done and i feel empowered doing it - She texts from time to time, but i simply ignore, delete and get on with my life.
In a nutshell, Your relationship ended, not your life....... Hope you all get on ok, any questions please ask
You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.