The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Backwardsman]

Haha, nah I'm all good brother. It's day 7 for me tomorrow (I was planning to post up then). Trust me, I ain't calling her or chasing her. One of my mates yesterday was talking about how upset she was when he spoke to her about the break-up. Her biggest fear is that I'll come out of this a completely different person and my next gf will have the 'new and improved me'. Being totally honest though, I do keep telling myself there is hope for us (I guess this is natural). It is hard as well keeping NC. I keep thinking back to how b!tchy she was when we broke up and it's helping me stay in NC.

I've been studying the bible over the past week as well. It's BRILLIANT!

The bible is certainly amazing keep up the good work, this is for you and you are certainly not alone - gain your power back

 

[adam225]

Man it's a nightmare. I'd find it sooo much easier if I knew she was feeling exactly the same. I can't stand the thought of someone else having their hands on her (and this is my problem). I keep getting thoughts of seeing her with someone else. Man, god help them if I did. I'm off out Saturday night anyway. Hopefully I can pull myself a hottie to take back to mine. If I do, I might send her a video of my banging the life out of her lol. haha

P.s. and send it to my ex

 

[Backwardsman]

Man it's a nightmare. I'd find it sooo much easier if I knew she was feeling exactly the same. I can't stand the thought of someone else having their hands on her (and this is my problem). I keep getting thoughts of seeing her with someone else. Man, god help them if I did. I'm off out Saturday night anyway. Hopefully I can pull myself a hottie to take back to mine. If I do, I might send her a video of my banging the life out of her lol. haha

It is a nightmare i agree, but with NC she will be thinking the same with you, if you are with another girl etc, silence is golden

If you was to text her and call her she will know that you arent seeing anyone and this will give her attention and power - Dont let it...

I have been where you are before, after each relationship it gets easier - Relationships are just experiences in my eyes, a way to better yourself for the next one until you find "your" ideal partner...

Dont give in, and like i said in an above post, its your thoughts that are doing this to you, not her - Where do your thoughts belong? inside your head only...

 

[adam225]

Thanks man. You're right though. It is just in my head... Completely !

I find reading over this thread as well as the " just got dumped thread" helps. I just don't understand why I'm so bothered about her. I wanted to split up with her after all. She was doing my head in !

 

[Backwardsman]

Thanks man. You're right though. It is just in my head... Completely !

I find reading over this thread as well as the " just got dumped thread" helps. I just don't understand why I'm so bothered about her. I wanted to split up with her after all. She was doing my head in !

Lol, that last bit made me laugh of loud, literally...

It does help, everytime you feel down etc, come on here, it will pick you up - If you have time, read the relationship part of the book i just posted (PDF Format), Its chapter 8, very interesting and im sure you will relate to most, if not all of it

 

[fuko2007]

Thanks man. You're right though. It is just in my head... Completely !

I find reading over this thread as well as the " just got dumped thread" helps. I just don't understand why I'm so bothered about her. I wanted to split up with her after all. She was doing my head in !

man its all in our heads. I read a post to you from backwardsman and he said think about her right now with another guy etc..and see how you feel. You feel like hell. But they are all thoughts we can learn to control. It just takes time man, and im the same way. I guess you could say im jelous but i know her type she is wondering right now prolly. But you cant think about it to much or it will really start to get to you. thanks for the link backwardsman im going to check it out right now. Yall stay strong and hang in there ill post up again tomorrow before i head to the beach.

 

[OhDamn]

Still Day 3, just got another text from her saying hi. I'm more tempted to text her back this time but I won't. This is tough.

 

[Backwardsman]

Still Day 3, just got another text from her saying hi. I'm more tempted to text her back this time but I won't. This is tough.

She is testing you, she wants attention, if you text back you give it her...

NC will show her that you are strong, and it will make her go crazy wondering why you aint texting back..

Think about it, have you ever text someone you have been with and they dont reply for ages - you start to worry why they aint texting back and when they finally do you are relieved..

By not texting she will be going out of her mind wondering whats going on... keep it that way - it will make you stronger

 

[adam225]

Women= the real life side affect to crack cocaine...

 

[OhDamn]

She is testing you, she wants attention, if you text back you give it her...

NC will show her that you are strong, and it will make her go crazy wondering why you aint texting back..

Think about it, have you ever text someone you have been with and they dont reply for ages - you start to worry why they aint texting back and when they finally do you are relieved..

By not texting she will be going out of her mind wondering whats going on... keep it that way - it will make you stronger

Thanks for the encouragement! I get the psychology behind no contact and I've been through it before - thank god - still doesnt make it any easier at first!

 

[fuko2007]

Thanks for the encouragement! I get the psychology behind no contact and I've been through it before - thank god - still doesnt make it any easier at first!

It will ease man. Keep yourself busy and try not to think about it. You will have bad days and good days but after a while you will see you are having more and more good days. Just stay the corse and dont quit.

 

[OhDamn]

The script is officially flipping. Just got yet another text from her with an excuse as to why she hasn't contacted me the past few days. (She would text me practically everyday)

I feel like a d1ck for doing this, but fvck it. Delete. Time to show her who wore and always will wear the pants.

Edit: A few questions.... I didn't warn her about dropping off.... Said we couldn't be friends and then softened up on that. Yes, I know, it was a mistake. But being as we're "friends" now, what would the proper response be if she asks me if I'm mad at her or if she contacts me elsewhere (facebook) asking if I got her texts? Would a simple Nope/Yeah suffice or should I just continue to ignore? I would like some opinions. Thanks guys

 

[Backwardsman]

The script is officially flipping. Just got yet another text from her with an excuse as to why she hasn't contacted me the past few days. (She would text me practically everyday)

I feel like a d1ck for doing this, but fvck it. Delete. Time to show her who wore and always will wear the pants.

Edit: A few questions.... I didn't warn her about dropping off.... Said we couldn't be friends and then softened up on that. Yes, I know, it was a mistake. But being as we're "friends" now, what would the proper response be if she asks me if I'm mad at her or if she contacts me elsewhere (facebook) asking if I got her texts? Would a simple Nope/Yeah suffice or should I just continue to ignore? I would like some opinions. Thanks guys

Ignore her, it will seem harsh but its the right thing to do - staying friends will just keep your emotions attached to her and you will find it harder to move on... NC

 

[adam225]

1 week today .

 

[fuko2007]

Day 10.

Getting ready to head out to the beach. No bad thoughts today. A plate i went NC on because she flaked was in town lastnight. she came over and i banged her. But hope yall have a good weekend and have some fun. Stay strong brothers! ill post up again when i get back..hopefully with some good stories.

 

[adam225]

I had a good night last night other than the fact she was constantly going through my head. I kept speaking about her to people all night long like a complete idiot. Man this **** messes with your head. I wish I could just delete the bytch out of my mind. I'm not even with her and she's really pissing me off.

 

[fuko2007]

Day 13.

Had a good time at the beach. Got a good tan and cought some fish. But my whole trip was ruined when i got home. I had to stop by the office and when i left the ex was turning onto the street right next to it. I happen to know two single guys live on that street that she knows so looks like shes already out fvucking. But i cant sayanything really bc ive fvucked 3 diffrent girls this month. But for somereason it really upset me. I wanted to turn around and see what she was doing but i kept on going had to force myself to do that. Adam225 been there done that. You were probabially drinking. Not a good idea. You will slip up and say something mean about her and it will get back to her. Then the next thing you know you got here trying to call you and figuer out why your s#it tslking. As far as running thru your head i kniw how you feel. This bi#ch hasnt crossed my mind once untill lastnight. I could go forever without seeing her. But just try and occupy your mind with something. Im trying to right now thats why im on here. but i almost gave in and texted her lasnight. But i didnt. so stay strong no matter what. you might find out she is sleeping with someone or dating, or sittitng in a dark room, but dont give up.

 

[adam225]

Yeah I was man. The thing was as well is that I had the chance to pull at least 5 different girls throughout the night. For some reason I just felt bad in doing so because of her. I just feel like I don't know what to do with myself.

 

[fuko2007]

Yeah I was man. The thing was as well is that I had the chance to pull at least 5 different girls throughout the night. For some reason I just felt bad in doing so because of her. I just feel like I don't know what to do with myself.

Hey man. You cant feel bad about doing that, thats called beating yourself up. And in the end it gives you a false sense of hope that things might work out. The reality is that in our cases our to ex's are not sitting at home on the couch eating ice cream. The know what they want and are out getting it. This is a time we need to stand up and be like FVck this i;m a man with needs that need to be met!...SEX. Sol dont beat yourself up over getting with another girl. Its the best cure my man. When you start undressing her the last thing that crosses your mind will be your ex tust me. But atleast you didnt pass yours at 930 at night knowing where she is headed more than likely. Needless to say i almost lost it but hey..nothing i can do about it right. Your FREE man enjoy it!

 

[adam225]

Thanks you two. You're both right. It's all in my head... I know. My main problem is lack of experience and the fact that I'm such a loyal person. I just need to get my head straight and snap out of this BS.