The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

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Emailed her last night while drunk "I miss you kind mad"
No offence, but why in this world would you write such embarrassing love crap in the first place? I won't say "learn from it" because I am very confident that you knew before that she won't read that and - in a moment of ecstasy - hop on an Uber and rush over to your place to smash with you all night long. So all I can say is: just stop using your smart phone while drinking for the next few weeks :)
 

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No offence, but why in this world would you write such embarrassing love crap in the first place? I won't say "learn from it" because I am very confident that you knew before that she won't read that and - in a moment of ecstasy - hop on an Uber and rush over to your place to smash with you all night long. So all I can say is: just stop using your smart phone while drinking for the next few weeks :)
I know it's so cringeworthy, I think I got it out of my system though and happy to move forward.
 

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I know it's so cringeworthy, I think I got it out of my system though and happy to move forward.
Yes, it’s easier to act on an impulse while under the influence. As you discovered, remnants of feelings and alcohol don’t generally mix well together.
 
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I think she probably blocked my gmail account so most likely did not even see the email thank god.

Day 20 - thought about her last night and this morning. What’s wrong with me?
 

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I think she probably blocked my gmail account so most likely did not even see the email thank god.

Day 20 - thought about her last night and this morning. What’s wrong with me?
Wrong is that you don't go out and eat some ass. Stop this stupid "feelings" crap already! You have wasted 20 days so far, this must end!
 
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Let me do an example.

LTR broke up because she thought she misses out on some random dudes **** (of course she framed is as "struggling for some excitement that only a new, fresh love can bring").

Day1: Put her on the plane back home, started enjoying my new freedom. I value myself too much for that kind of bs.
Day2: Had an escort come over, then I smoked a cuban cigar, had some kick ass scottish whiskey and set up Tinder
Day3: Relaxing on the beach, recovering from hang over of last night. Damn, that feels so good to do whatever I want
Day4: Tinderdate, kissclose, no smashing
Day5: Second try on that chick from Tinder, this time ... crazy ass eatery
Day6: Went clubbing, did a lot of chit chat to get back into the game. Got a few numbers, no kiss close tho
Day7: Met a chick from the "3some" app lol. No kissclose, no fc - however, she is bi and totally into threesomes and other kinky stuff. Hopefully i can work out something with this girl at a different time. For the moment, we're just buddies!
Day8: Sitting here and telling you: Don't let some stupid feelings eat away at you. Be dirty, be a dirty wh0re, be something but promise me to not feel "in love" while she is getting ready for the c0ck carousel.

Footnote: Just my personal experience: Tinder usually does not work so well. Why it probably (!!) works for me is because I am personally going for an aggressive DHV money game. I am totally aware that I am probably reeling in gold diggers, but then again ... I couldn't care less. 3some works better, if you are creepy f*cked up and have some crazy fetishes, chances are definitely in your favor.
 
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Bro you obviously don’t read my posts here, I have been on dates, I’ve fvcked girls, I’ve cold approached girls, I’ve chat to numerous on OLD - pretty much every avenue I have explored in the last 20 days.

I didn’t even want to spend my future with this girl.
 

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I didn’t even want to spend my future with this girl.
Sorry, seems I have just read the tip of the iceberg then. Well, you seem to be on the right track then. You just have to understand that she is probably testing the waters with a new guy already (easy branch swinging). That is, a woman will never break up with or leave a man if she doesn't have another branch firmly in her grasp. Be aware of the fact that she will not be your LTR ever again...Let that sink in and move on. No need to "miss her hard".
 
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I know she was planning to branch as she even went on a date with some nerd during one of our breaks and she was arranging to go for a drink with another guy, “third time lucky” - we kept getting back together so she didn’t go but I know by now she will be searching for new d1ck. I called her out on that and she’s said of course she’s trying to find someone that will treat her right - I couldn’t argue and didn’t really care as I know I’ve been doing worse the whole time behind her back and not really doing nice things her - romantic gestures etc

I am the prize, I am admittedly the best s3x she has had and made her O more than anyone else.

She needs to be happy I treated her like sh1t - she slapped me on 3 occasions and in December I backhanded her in her mouth and cut her lip - toxic. I never want to be that guy - we brought the worst out in each other. But no new guy will be better than me, I’m already trying to bang a hb9 I cold approached a few days ago.

But something about this girl has got me, maybe before it didn’t end on my terms despite me agreeing to the break.
 

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Don't let some stupid feelings eat away at you. Be dirty, be a dirty wh0re, be something but promise me to not feel "in love" while she is getting ready for the c0ck carousel.
Pretty much my outlook the past few days.

Was considering breaking no contact to wish her happy birthday on Thursday but then I thought **** that. Whilst she's reading it she'll be out with that other guy and end up ****ing. So **** moping about.

Hopped back on Tinder and Bumble. Set up a date for Thursday. Started talking to a milf that asked the "so what you looking for" question and instead of doing what I'd normally do and say I want to see where things go, I told her I want nothing serious. Thought that would be the end of it but she replies back saying she wants the same and to come over this weekend. Okay.

Also just had an offer accepted on a flat so there's something to keep my busy
 

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Day 22 -

She added me as a friend on snapchat last night. I woke up this morning for work and checked my phone in shock. I can now message her. I won’t. I have too much going on now in my life. I just feel a tiny bit of victory here.

The journey continues.
 

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Day 1)

Right after we broke up you were already in another relationship. You tried to lie about it but got caught. You are a pathetic loser and I don’t ever want to hear or speak to you again. I hate you so much. You are the most repugnant person in the entire planet. I am better than you in every way. Words can not describe how much I hate you. I wish you’d fall off a cliff. My family and friends hate you. I’m the only one that likes you out of everyone I know
 

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****. I already ruined no contact. I sent her a message saying sorry I was busy when she responded to a message I had sent earlier about having a girl here with a tramp stamp. Now she’s going to respond. I’m going to delete her response and never talk to her again.
 

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I’m sorry. I just love you so much and want you here right now. I miss you every time you’re not around and life just isn’t the same without you. You are my angel. You’re like the sunrise to my morning, the light to my day, without you, life isn’t the same. I sent you a message earlier about a girl with a tramp stamp, even though I wasn’t with one, because I wanted to **** with your head you stupid *****. You hurt mynfeelings
 

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Sorry guys. Just broke up with my cheating *****. I’ve got a better job, better teeth, better family, better vehicle, more money, better heart, better mind, really she doesn’t compare in any way. She is below me. It should’ve been me scrapping her off my boot. Somehow I tucked up. I made mistakes. I uknkwlingky became the weaker party. She tried to keep me as a question mark but I became a period. She will be nothing to me in weeks from now. She is nothing. She is a lie.
 

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There was no girl with a tramp stamp. I made that **** up just to **** with you. I want to crush you, but I won’t. I keep switching to you trying to send this. I can’t though. You are my everything. But I can’t tell you anymore. I keep thinking to say that one day I’ll show you. But I will never. I can’t send
 

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I just cheat messaged her again. I’m not very good at this. But it’s hard to picture life without her. I truly cared for this girl, and she ruined it. I try to be mean but always end up nice. Why can’t I get her off my mind. Why can’t this breakup be easy. Why couldn’t she have not been such a *****. I have to end it, for myself. But I can’t at the same time. I hate his.
 

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MELTDOWWWWWN
 

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After two weeks of no contact she text me saying, "Still don't wanna be my pal no?".

Things didn't end badly, didn't burn any bridges but I clearly told her I don't see her as friend. I'm guessing the other guy isn't as invested as she is into the relationship she built up in her head.
 
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