The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

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HBK said:
Day 20Im not thinking about contacting her, however if she does in contact, which is usally by text, i would like to get some closure on the breakup.
What are you some kind of pu$$y?? Can't you just take it like a man and move on???

John Wayne would be rolling over in his grave if he saw your post. Brother you're 27 year's old you're a big boy I think you can take it.
 

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5 Months here, still stings a little now and then, we work in the same field so names get mentioned in passing but no contact.
really bad case of oneitis, was married for over 20 years before this one, I was sooo fcking Naieve and really let myself down during the breakup, complete and utter wuss, Im struggling more with that now than the breakup, I mean ffs I let my dignity and self respect slip sooo badly!
no more, Im looking after me fist and foremost now.
 

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So its been days 22 of no contact i dreamt of my ex (yeah I know) i woke up at about 5:30 AM, feeling misrable and having feelings of nostolgia. its funny how just a dream can ruin your entire fu**ing day :/
 

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Day 1

Just been dumped 2 days ago from a 3 year relationship by phone... wouldn't even see me after I drove to her house and waited for hours.

Today I sent the 'I have deleted all forms of contact with you, do not contact me' email.

Wish me luck.
 

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This thread helps you realize how women have zero sense of loyalty. Devious little b*tches eh?
 

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27 days and 22 hours since I started NC.

She texts me:
"Hey I feel bad about our last convo. [blah blah why she was uncomfortable] Anyway, just wanted to say that. In [city where we had a hot romantic escape together] now and thought of you. Hope all is well."

We dated (w/ good sex) for less than six months. Haven't replied to her last text. Since NC started, I lost 20 pounds, gained muscle, eat better, moved, new job prospects in finance, new city, more plates... But the sex with her was so good. I haven't responded at all -- should I? If so, how?
 

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piday314 said:
This thread helps you realize how women have zero sense of loyalty. Devious little b*tches eh?
agreed 100 %

im on day 38 of zero contact .. Its still eating me up.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Has anyone ever successfully gotten over a girl WITHOUT no contact? I do think that no-contact is ideal because what you are trying to get over is an ADDICTION to someone else.
I would say I managed to get over a chick without strict NC. Sure, the idea helps one simply move forward, but I found the premise a bit childish. I still contact my ex, but its all good now. The best thing for getting over it is just good old fashion time. I was with a good number of women since than, and that didn't help as much as people claim ( it didn't hurt either). Once you start having fun again, you enjoy the single life and the chase a bit more. I am at the point where my actions and NC look stupid in my read view mirror.

Go out there, get some new tail, throw back a few brew and enjoy your time! Who knows when the next relationship will claim your soul...errr happen!

It was no doubt more painful during the onset, but when you look back its just a joke. No one is worth that much mental anguish! Its amazing how our minds completely blow things out of proportion.
 

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day 1 just reading that thread and article is making me feel better, i think i might be able to do this!!
 

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Might be joining you guys again soon, haha. I don't really care about this chick that much, though. It shouldn't be so hard to cut her loose.
 

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day 2 and im doin good didnt even make eye contact at school, havent texted her she hasnt texted me! if she does i refuse to reply! ive got this
 

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How about go one further and delete her number her email her address and remove her from facebook (if you use it).

Its a hard road when someone you trust stabs you in the back, worst part is you always knew it was going to happen sooner or later.

Think of it this way whatever happens in 10 years time she will be married to a average guy who will be providing a normal life for her. He wil be fat sad and depressed thank your stars that you won't be that guy.

You can now save all that time energy and money and in 5-10 years time go buy a Ferrari :)

BTW NC is the only thing that works when your dealing with a low quality woman, they just don't get what they done wrong so its pointless to keep talking to them as they now have no value or meaning to anything you do.
 

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Day3! its gettin harder :/ i wanna talk to her so bad she hasnt texted me or even looked at me at school maybe she dont want me back, im startin to think about her more!!! :/ i need to keep myself busy im goin out with the boyz this weekend and partying tho so that might get my mind off of her
 

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Well damn. That instantly makes me feel better about my crappy relationship with broads
 

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mmmmm ok guys 75 days of NC now and guess what i am still missing her like crazy still loving her yeah my pain is not like the 1st month but i am still in pain she didn't even try to call or text or email me i can't believe how someone was so deeply in love with me is very happy with a jerk and don't give a **** about me can't wait to get over her may be one day :(
 

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prince of darkness said:
mmmmm ok guys 75 days of NC now and guess what i am still missing her like crazy still loving her yeah my pain is not like the 1st month but i am still in pain she didn't even try to call or text or email me i can't believe how someone was so deeply in love with me is very happy with a jerk and don't give a **** about me can't wait to get over her may be one day :(
If you still miss her, you're doing it wrong!!!!
 

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Day 1

I despise selfish b!tches like you. You deserve everything that's coming to you, again. I smile to myself when I think about the abusive guy that you're probably gonna end up with. Make sure you call me after the first slap so I can tell you to die in a fire.
 

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Im on day 76 still miss the *b!tch. I have tried everything nothing seems to work, i guess i will die with these feeling.
 

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I'll guess this will be my day one. I will give you guys back story. I feel she keeps using me. She divorced me got back together with me told me to leave called police on me mutliple times. Tell people I'm lame tells people I don't pay child support.All because I broke a laptop and watched porn. I think she was just using me until she got her tax money and a car.She won't be getting that back for a while though.We actually had sex today and she asked me to go the club tonight but I work 7 days a week she works 1. Anyways She keeps texing me she loves me and calling me saying she loves me. I'm really ready to move yes I'm a pvssified chump but I'm tired of her games with my mind so I'll just forget her for now and focus on my mma career. Day 1 no contact
 
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