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Good luck. I will predict another failure, but that is just my prediction. Anyways I will be waiting for your report.

Delicate said:
Define 'failure'.
You have defined it here before. So lets go with that.

Delicate said:
Quote me on it.
You seem to be very delicate!

Delicious said:
Have fun reading my every post, I won't be reading yours anymore because you just failed to answer, therefore you are not worth my time.
No need to follow my post. They are nonsense. But I will enjoy yours, Delicious!
 
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Olivia said:
Good luck. I will predict another failure, but that is just my prediction. Anyways I will be waiting for your report.
Define 'failure'.
 

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Olivia said:
Good luck. I will predict another failure, but that is just my prediction. Anyways I will be waiting for your report.



You have defined it here before. So lets go with that.
Quote me on it.
 

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Olivia said:
Good luck. I will predict another failure, but that is just my prediction. Anyways I will be waiting for your report.



You have defined it here before. So lets go with that.



You seem to be very delicate!
Have fun reading my every post, I won't be reading yours anymore because you just failed to answer, therefore you are not worth my time.
 

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Haters gonna hate, Dedication. Don't pay ettention to this cvnt Olivia, I don't understand why you take the bait and even respond to it's (dunno if it's a guy or girl) remarks.

You da man :up:, and you are gonna reap great rewards from this mission you're on. Even if you don't actually kiss/fvck/etc. with a girl in the coming time, you are still gonna improve your game throughout this period. And those improvements will last for the rest of your lifetime and will eventually lead to more succes, whether it's this month or next year. Keep it up!

I did a cold approach yesterday, which I rarely do! Sure, I flirt a lot with women in daily life, on the street, in the store, in the bus, wherever. But I rarely try to push on and get her number. Well, I did that yesterday and I felt fvcking proud of myself. I texted her later that evening but she ignored it and still does today, so I think I'm no gonna get anywhere with her. But what the fvck do I care?
I pushed myself out of my comfort zone, I felt quite nervous when I went up to her and felt a big urge to chicken out and just walk past her, but I approached her anyway. The end result with the girl is not that important, it's about the PERSONAL VICTORY, my PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT, the IMPROVEMENT OF MY GAME. I decided that I'm gonna do a lot more cold approaches the coming weeks/months, yesterday was the first step and that makes it an important experience, regardless of the fact that she is ignoring my text and I probably won't get anywhere with her.

Just keep moving forward, dude. And believe in yourself! Fvck haters like Olivia, he/she/it is nothing more than a piece of sh!t that you flush down the toilet...
 

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Yes. Haters gonna hate, even this cvunt Olivia is being hated. Why did you even bother writing something about her.
 

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Day 6

I went out to a wedding today, pretty awesome party.

- I got ****ed with a couple of times to the point were even a 17y/o made me doubt myself a little. Awesome! Can't wait to recover from this miserable state.

- A friend of mine came up with a good business idea, I think I'm going to work it out and see what happens.

The night:
After the wedding I went out to a club, 30 minute drive and a 15 minute walk. Put me out of state. Inside the club: Male to Female ratio: 6-1. I got rejected twice and a couple of sets didn't even hear me while I was trying to open them.

Right now
I'm sort of frustrated that I'm so bad at this ****, other people who are pretty stupid and incompetent seem to do this almost effortlessly and yet I'm struggling to open a girl a loud dance floor. Tomorrow I'll reflect on the entire weak and set some focus on my goals, plan of the week and individual improvements that I can do.
 

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No. Goals wont do. Without goals, yes.

"other people who are pretty stupid and incompetent seem to do this almost effortlessly and yet I'm struggling to open a girl a loud dance floor."

That sentence is contraditory.

Trust me. - Be a stupid and incompetent, and you will get girls. Otherwise just frustations.
 

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Dawn of the second sunday

Reflective observations:
- I’m going to the wrong places, all of the pubs and bars I’ve visited were pretty empty and had a ratio of at least 3 males to 1 female, and that’s a good night! Were the **** are all the females?
- The mentality I’m using while entering these deserted places is off. I notice that I’m like *BOOM* Answer my question! The **** now! Instead of being chill like: *Zoof! Yeah* this is me having fun.
- I know I’m on the right path because I feel uneasy (It’s FEAR!) to open groups and sets on my own. I feel uneasy walking at 02:30 on a street I’ve never been before while passing by groups of guys all drunk and messing with objects on the street, especially when they begin talking to me, **** off! (lol :p)
- I have no idea what specific areas I’m improving right now, I feel unfocussed.
- I don’t know how to open girls that are floating and hovering around me. All in these situations:
o When I’m dancing in a club, girls notice and start dancing around me.
o When I’m chilling somewhere, girls hover around me.
o When I’m talking to strangers, girls start listening and liking the conversation.

I usually do not open these girls, but the (rare) times that I did, I always **** it up. My mannerisms must be off. I suspect that I’m not being chill but direct. I wish I had a wingman who could help me with these blind spots.

More goals!
(Aside from game. Deadline: Have it in place at the end of this week.)
- Start another school project, plan it out and work around 2 days during the week and get ahead in school.
- Get a strabismus operation. My eyes are (slightly) off, when I look at pictures of myself it bothers ME so I want to get it fixed.
- Get braces for my teeth, let’s fix this **** inside my mouth. I’m also interested in gaming with bracers.
- Making my room girl friendly, I know (actually, I think) that I’m not ever pulling to my room, but just in the very slight off-chance that it does happen. I want it to be possible.
- Get a plan for starting a company. I’ve been talking with a couple of different people bouncing different idea’s. I think that I can make something happen so at the very least, I want to spend time on this.
- Getting my books sorted, I’ve got hundreds of books and I know that I won’t be reading a lot of them. I want to focus on a few that will help me with my current goals.

My approach changing
At first I wanted to go out 7 nights a week solo, but I notice that I must learn how to be chill and the places I’m currently visiting are unreliable as ****. So to handle this I can get a social circle going, **** it, If I must learn how to have fun let me do it with that I like. I’ve never created a social circle from scratch so I’ll be very interested in doing this. It’ll be a valuable learning experience anyway.

For now
I’m going out right now to the beach and clear my head. Let me think about this ****. I NEED to create structure and learn to let go when it can't be helped. Last week has been totally not what I expected and annoyed the **** out of me.
 
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Dawn of the second sunday! Post 2

I’m going to focus on specific parts of the game. Firstly open! That is all that matters. Any open is a success.

Including new habits
- Meditating every night for 20 minutes. (If not, for whatever reason, first thing in the morning)
- Reading aloud for at least 15 minutes (Thank Frayzer for this)
- Body language, get it handled.
- Focus on positive thoughts by cutting off negative thoughts. A mini version like the positivity challenge.

Cutting all that doesn’t help
- No porn
- No masturbation
- Bad body language, especially at home I’m sitting in bad postures.
- No internet entertainment. Like youtube video’s, random forums and reading threads that are useless. (With an exception on reflective Sunday).

Side thoughts:
I want to learn how to flirt, use playful banter and how to make her (actually, people in general) feel comfortable around me.

I notice that my brain is thinking way to much about this stuff. Compared to the action I’m taking there is a lot more thinking and feeling going on. Not really all that manly if you ask me. At the same time, I understand that this is how my brain functions. It likes to begin with the end picture in mind and start processing every little step that has to be executed get there. Every day I have to be careful to not live inside my head. While my decisive actions are usually well thought out, when I’m thinking consciously about it I’d rather make a few too many mistakes than leave some opportunity’s untouched.

My verbal game consists mostly of asking closed questions, exchange of factual information, getting frustrated if the other person doesn’t understand me and with a goal to take action in mind. I’m going to have to not do that anymore and I’m going to do that by showing a lot of patience towards the other person, because not everybody is as awesome as me, and by enjoying the moment in the present. Because I know that once I’m playful that I can use my Introverted Intuition to rock the set with imaginary stories. Stories off the wall so bat**** crazy and wild that other people can’t help it but want to converse with me.

A list of random things I eventually want to focus on:
- Voice tonality:
o Trying for rapport
o Neutral rapport
o Breaking rapport
Voice projection
Eye contact
Self amusement
Sharing self amusement with others
Comfort (with sexuality, physical as well as banter)
Escalation & Physicality
Being awesome in bed
Verbal game
Leading
Inner game (Kind of a big one, my focus is always at least somewhat on this one)

I know that there is a ton more, but for now I’ll leave it at this.
 

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Dawn of the second sunday! Post 3

Weekly habit tracker: Each day I’m going to track the following habits:
- 20 minute Meditation
- 15 minutes of reading.
- Body language check.
- Monday, Wednesday, Friday specific: Gym – workout.

I will not track bad habits, simply because I don’t desire any focus on them. I will however report whenever I do engage in a bad habit.

Next Sunday: Will also include a status rapport on my non-game goals.

Focus on:
- Verbal game! Time to read some articles about verbal game. This week my key of success is the following: Did I communicate verbally? Did I reflect on it with the day post? If the answer is yes for 7 nights in a row then I just completed this week’s focus.
- Being present! (This will show in my actions)
- Showing emotion (For now, any kind will do)

The minimalistic plan:
Go out and talk.
 

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Thanks for the shout out and keep at it bro! You'll be there in no time :up:

I personally think you're over analyzing the art of conversation by the way, just ask one question or make a comment and branch it out based on her reply. And stop getting frustrated! Part of being a Don Juan is being able to interact with any situation whether thrown or given, negative or positive, in a calm manner that may or may not escalate into a higher interest level. DJ's embrace the situation in short. I KNOW you're a DJ you just need to be reminded on some stuff. :rolleyes:

Just relax, you're not doing this for anyone but yourself and it should stay that way. And whatever happens, just know at the end of the day you learned from it and it can only make you a better person. You don't need to impress anyone.

A tree has a lot of branches, you just have to reach out to them. If you need further help with conversation, the DJ Bible is a great reference and bradd80's thread as well or even ask here in the thread :up:
 

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Hehe, well, the thing is that my brain usually has the following thoughts when other people talk: "Jesus Christ, this mother****er is stupid. X and Y don't add up", "If killing was legal you'd be dead right now", "incompetent piece of ****, I don't give a **** about you and your problems, quit your whining". So usually when other people talk I just walk away or interrupt them and start asking them (deep and very personal) questions so I can expose their weaknesses. For them it feels like an interrogation.

I've done this my entire life, so all that "over-thinking" is something that my brain does automatically. It is effortless, it requires a great deal of effort for me to stop my mind and relax. Relaxing, being chill and having patience with other people is SO ****ING HARD for me.

Write out my thoughts helps me a great deal in relaxing. So I can appear to be over-thinking but in reality in doing so it helps me to relax when I'm out.

I'd like to add that while I'm focussing on verbal game, it is only from an outer-game perspective. My innergame will be set at being relaxed and making them feel comfortable with me.
 

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Day 7

Sunday
Since It's sunday I can't take public transportation, I decided to take a walk around my town (lasted around 2 hours). I had this imagine in my head were I'd be pulling a girl into a little forest and do her there. So naturally I visited the place and checked if it could be made reality, bad news, not really. It's very open and it's very hard to spot other people while they can spot us easily.

A fated meeting
After walking out I randomly met my natural friend who I lost contact with 4 years ago. The **** are the chances? I ask the universe for a wingman and it gives me exactly what I need. No more, no less. Anyway, we had a brief conversation talked about going out together and I added him in my phone.

While walking back my mind started planning out possible dates, what to talk about and how to enjoy a date if she brings 2 friends along. Since that is pretty much a worse case scenario that I want to experience I'm hoping it'll happen someday.

My mind also gave me a surge of insperation while walking past a pretty huge bush. (No, not a ****oris you horny basterd) I could actually slash out a path for me to walk in, create some room, place 2 big rounded stones and cover that with a soft blanket. Perfect! It's also exactly on the way to my sisters house so it's the perfect excuse to walk past it and pull her into my secret hidout.

My habits:
-Check- 15 minutes of reading.
-Check- Body language check.

X I used the internet for entertainment
X I jacked off, felt pretty good actually. (I was holding it in for about a week)

20 minute Meditation will be done right about now.

The approaches

Set: Talked to a girl who was walking with her dog, I laughed because she was pulling the Dog, she liked the teasing and I started walking again.

Set: An old lady who was walking with trash, I had a conversation with her and she was pretty interesting, I kept teasing her that I would trash the place and that she'd be constantly picking it up. Man, old people really are so easy to talk to.

Set: I was walking on the left side of the street, I saw 4 boys and a girl being loud and fooling around on the right side. My mind thought "thank god I don't have to deal with them" well, tought luck mind! If that's what you fear that is what you get. So I switched lanes and walked right through the group. I saw them getting nervous and they stopped talking only to eyeball me. After I passed them they proceeded to talk again.

Now that I just wrote the above, this happens constantly, I always use fear as a guidance for what to do. I won't be writing more little fear concering moments unless I think that they add something to my approaches.

Time to meditate!
 

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That is not very good - according to the facts that they teach in game..
You must do something! Maybe learn to eat delicously.. also don't forget to be delicate!
 

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Day 9

Set on my way to my sister, Set on the beach and having fun on the beach with my friend's dog while talking to some old people.

Thats it, I'm going for my oneitis. I know that I can get her, I only have to get her out to meet me. It'll probably happen next week, we'll see what happens. Either a massive rejection which is going to hit me hard or a solid GF who also likes to have threesomes.

My habits:
-Check- 15 minutes of reading.
-Check- Body language check.
X I used the internet for entertainment

I'm going to make it possible to pull back to my room. Only my parents can get in the way, but **** it.
 

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Day 10

Started a new project to get ahead in school. Unfortunate business made me travel by car, not much socializing going on in terms of game.

After I came home I started cleaning out my room, it took some hours but now it's pretty neat, clean and all the mess is gone. My room is easily the best compared to the entire house, I'd say it's enough for pulling. Not really girl friendly though, it'll require a bit of tweaking to make them feel comfortable.

My habits:
-Check- Body language.
-Check- Gym
-Check- Mediation
X I used the internet for entertainment

Damn, tracking my habits feels a bit draining because I know I'm not doing as well as I wanted.

I'm thinking about starting day game. It'll be awesome to force myself to take numbers.
 

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Day 11

I started an online dating account... Spend the entire day researching on how to do it correctly and started applying it. 5 minutes later I looked at the clock... It was actually 16 hours later. I'm confused, where did the time go?

My habits:
-Check- Body language.
-Check- Gym (A fourth day is coming up!)
-Check- Mediation
X I used the internet for entertainment
 
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