The importance of sexual discipline

[johnrambo]

Lets say you're binge watching gang bang porn where women get pissed on, spit on, and all that other good stuff.

That kind of porn turns me off actually. After watching those, I won't be looking for sex

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I only watch masturbation vids made by my lovers.

An Ex-had me send her videos of me fapping.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Lets say you're binge watching gang bang porn where women get pissed on, spit on, and all that other good stuff.

Yikes!

 

[Gamisch]

Yikes!

No lie, lately porn got more and more extreme. I'm talking front page on the hubs, no niche searches.

Vanilla missionary to doggy is played out. Meanwhile it does SOMETHING to your brain, right? You are what you consume.

The only "good" thing about it is it might have an RP element to the fact you see that SHE is apparently willing to go much much further than YOU...but ..yeah..NO

 

[Hamurabimbi]

And you sent her masturbation videos?
Are you a submissive?

yes.
No.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

ok

I wouldn't send anyone a masturbation video, no matter how many vids she sends me.

It was my Zoomer GF and she was horny. She wanted a booty call at 3 am. I was tired & had to get up for work. She said she’d finger herself and wanted a vid of my J&Vking off.

 

[corrector]

No lie, lately porn got more and more extreme. I'm talking front page on the hubs, no niche searches.

That is precisely why OF makes more sense (when I was an actice subscriber and user in the past). Normally no extreme stuff, no homo or trans either along the mix of hub thumbs on the first page.

 

[EyeBRollin]

It is hard. I avoid beautiful women as much as I can. It’s like putting a filet mignon in front of me that I can’t eat.

 

[corrector]

ok

I wouldn't send anyone a masturbation video, no matter how many vids she sends me.

I sent a couple of pics to two OF women. That is my "anyone". There is something very personal about sending those types pics or videos out. You do get an ego boost.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I sent a couple of pics to two OF women. That is my "anyone". There is something very personal about sending those types pics or videos out. You do get an ego boost.

To girls you know. Who ask for them. And who have already seen your junk. It’s no big deal.

 

[corrector]

Sounds like a fragile ego to need a boost from sending wank vids.

You have way more exposure to women then I do so that is not a fair statement.

 

[corrector]

Life isn't fair. Deal with it.

Okay, you are on ignore.

 

[manfrombelow]

Now looking back, I invested way too much into women, or to be exact: the pursuit of women.

While there's no denying the pleasure of the act, however, as I was driving back to my work this morning after banging this cute pilates teacher, I was thinking about this thread and got a revelation at the same time: The sexual pleasure, for the sake of sex, is not worth it after all.

I had to call in sick for this morning just so I could bang this chick. I came twice. I ate her pvssy like a thirsty kid eating watermelons in a hot summer day. So what? I got no discipline. I let myself consumed by pvssy (for a few hours of course). For what?

Nothing.

The pleasure of sex is not long term. It was never meant to be. I never felt as much satisfied banging chicks as hiking with my buddies, or completing an online course for something I truly like to do.

Now looking back, all the time and money and energy (both physical and mental) that I invested into women and the pursuit of sexual experiences with women could have been used to make myself way better than I am now.

OP, again, hats off to you. This thread is even way more important than you could have imagined.

 

[Gamisch]

Now looking back, I invested way too much into women, or to be exact: the pursuit of women.

While there's no denying the pleasure of the act, however, as I was driving back to my work this morning after banging this cute pilates teacher, I was thinking about this thread and got a revelation at the same time: The sexual pleasure, for the sake of sex, is not worth it after all.

I had to call in sick for this morning just so I could bang this chick. I came twice. I ate her pvssy like a thirsty kid eating watermelons in a hot summer day. So what? I got no discipline. I let myself consumed by pvssy (for a few hours of course). For what?

Nothing.

The pleasure of sex is not long term. It was never meant to be. I never felt as much satisfied banging chicks as hiking with my buddies, or completing an online course for something I truly like to do.

Now looking back, all the time and money and energy (both physical and mental) that I invested into women and the pursuit of sexual experiences with women could have been used to make myself way better than I am now.

OP, again, hats off to you. This thread is even way more important than you could have imagined.

Thank you for writing this.

I completely understand that this is probably the LAST thing a man seeking for guidance wants to hear.

Your case as well. First I was like "atta boy". We are here to bang bang bang like automatic pistol.

But as you say: it's gonna add up. Time and money spend on basically nothing. In my personal life the adding up really became visible.

I am glad someone understands what I mean with this thread. Sexual discipline is an extremely difficult topic to grasp. Saying no to short term pleasures in order to gain long term benefits sounds counterintuitive.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of relationships.

What power remains with a woman if you take sex out of the equation? Right! She can go pound sand!

My wife went nuts when i stopped chasing her pvssy. Its a fundamental loss of power/leverage on her side.

That said, this only works as long as she thinks you are the best that she can get or she will be getting her dik somewhere else.

So, the point of this excercise is not to stop fvcking her, but to fvck when and how YOU see fit. You need to control the sex-frame.


I have made this experience in other non-marriage LTRs as well, as soon as you stop being needy, their behaviour changes and your (sex-)life becomes easier.

The goal is that your wife/gf chases you for sex, not the other way around.

 

[Stoic]

No lie, lately porn got more and more extreme. I'm talking front page on the hubs, no niche searches.

Vanilla missionary to doggy is played out. Meanwhile it does SOMETHING to your brain, right? You are what you consume.

The only "good" thing about it is it might have an RP element to the fact you see that SHE is apparently willing to go much much further than YOU...but ..yeah..NO

look up the website and book your brain on porn.

I’m convinced porn is awful for your brain. I know this first hand. If I’m acting out with porn, I become more insulated and disconnected with people.

when I’m acting like a man, I’m connected and disciplined and getting important stuff done.

i

 

[Rainman4707]

Sexual discipline is one if the most important things to have nowadays.

Especially in this environment where a man can satisfy his every need through virtual reality. You can buy an online gf and "be satisfied ". You can jerk yourself into oblivion and "be happy" . You're one search away from whatever satisfies you. It takes HUGE discipline to ignore that rabbithole.

Sexual discipline is the ONLY way to get that egde over women. Its strips them from their main power: the p00sy. Eliminate that and see what's left.

Sexual discipline will give you more time, and focus on the things you actually should be doing in order to yield the results you want. Its like taking two steps back in order to make four steps forward.

Everything you do that keeps you sexually hostage is obviously a no go: watching porn, paying for porn, paying for prostitutes, lusting after everything with a hole in it.

Your thoughts, gents?

I would be FAR from HAPPY having a virtual GF or jerking myself into oblivion. I NEVER accepted that.

 

[Rainman4707]

I think guys who get laid regularly automatically place a lower value on it and guys who don't place a higher value on it.

Simple supply and demand, nothing more.

Those that have none want it badly and those that have plenty place little value on it. No different than anything else in life

Agree. I've had sex roughly every day since febuary. Those women in yoga pants and bras dont have the same affect on me anymore. I'm sure my GF keeps me satisfied so that my eyes don't wander. Women are very clever.

 

[Rainman4707]

Thats why sexual discipline is probably the end boss of The Game.

Think about it: all it takes is a bra and some yoga pants to lure you in. But what does it takes to lure her in? The one wearing the bra and yoga pants?

Sexual discipline is the most difficult part of the game. To find a way to take advantage of your surplus of testosterone, but to yet never let it lead you.

I don't fap, so i would sleep with a lot of women that were below my standards.

 

[corrector]

I don't fap, so i would sleep with a lot of women that were below my standards.

Brownie point for you.