The importance of sexual discipline

[corrector]

Life isn't fair. Deal with it.

Okay, you are on ignore.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Okay, you are on ignore.

Oh wow, your ego is really frail. You may need to work on that.

 

[manfrombelow]

Now looking back, I invested way too much into women, or to be exact: the pursuit of women.

While there's no denying the pleasure of the act, however, as I was driving back to my work this morning after banging this cute pilates teacher, I was thinking about this thread and got a revelation at the same time: The sexual pleasure, for the sake of sex, is not worth it after all.

I had to call in sick for this morning just so I could bang this chick. I came twice. I ate her pvssy like a thirsty kid eating watermelons in a hot summer day. So what? I got no discipline. I let myself consumed by pvssy (for a few hours of course). For what?

Nothing.

The pleasure of sex is not long term. It was never meant to be. I never felt as much satisfied banging chicks as hiking with my buddies, or completing an online course for something I truly like to do.

Now looking back, all the time and money and energy (both physical and mental) that I invested into women and the pursuit of sexual experiences with women could have been used to make myself way better than I am now.

OP, again, hats off to you. This thread is even way more important than you could have imagined.

 

[Gamisch]

Now looking back, I invested way too much into women, or to be exact: the pursuit of women.

While there's no denying the pleasure of the act, however, as I was driving back to my work this morning after banging this cute pilates teacher, I was thinking about this thread and got a revelation at the same time: The sexual pleasure, for the sake of sex, is not worth it after all.

I had to call in sick for this morning just so I could bang this chick. I came twice. I ate her pvssy like a thirsty kid eating watermelons in a hot summer day. So what? I got no discipline. I let myself consumed by pvssy (for a few hours of course). For what?

Nothing.

The pleasure of sex is not long term. It was never meant to be. I never felt as much satisfied banging chicks as hiking with my buddies, or completing an online course for something I truly like to do.

Now looking back, all the time and money and energy (both physical and mental) that I invested into women and the pursuit of sexual experiences with women could have been used to make myself way better than I am now.

OP, again, hats off to you. This thread is even way more important than you could have imagined.

Thank you for writing this.

I completely understand that this is probably the LAST thing a man seeking for guidance wants to hear.

Your case as well. First I was like "atta boy". We are here to bang bang bang like automatic pistol.

But as you say: it's gonna add up. Time and money spend on basically nothing. In my personal life the adding up really became visible.

I am glad someone understands what I mean with this thread. Sexual discipline is an extremely difficult topic to grasp. Saying no to short term pleasures in order to gain long term benefits sounds counterintuitive.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of relationships.

What power remains with a woman if you take sex out of the equation? Right! She can go pound sand!

My wife went nuts when i stopped chasing her pvssy. Its a fundamental loss of power/leverage on her side.

That said, this only works as long as she thinks you are the best that she can get or she will be getting her dik somewhere else.

So, the point of this excercise is not to stop fvcking her, but to fvck when and how YOU see fit. You need to control the sex-frame.


I have made this experience in other non-marriage LTRs as well, as soon as you stop being needy, their behaviour changes and your (sex-)life becomes easier.

The goal is that your wife/gf chases you for sex, not the other way around.

 

[Stoic]

No lie, lately porn got more and more extreme. I'm talking front page on the hubs, no niche searches.

Vanilla missionary to doggy is played out. Meanwhile it does SOMETHING to your brain, right? You are what you consume.

The only "good" thing about it is it might have an RP element to the fact you see that SHE is apparently willing to go much much further than YOU...but ..yeah..NO

look up the website and book your brain on porn.

I’m convinced porn is awful for your brain. I know this first hand. If I’m acting out with porn, I become more insulated and disconnected with people.

when I’m acting like a man, I’m connected and disciplined and getting important stuff done.

i

 

[Rainman4707]

Sexual discipline is one if the most important things to have nowadays.

Especially in this environment where a man can satisfy his every need through virtual reality. You can buy an online gf and "be satisfied ". You can jerk yourself into oblivion and "be happy" . You're one search away from whatever satisfies you. It takes HUGE discipline to ignore that rabbithole.

Sexual discipline is the ONLY way to get that egde over women. Its strips them from their main power: the p00sy. Eliminate that and see what's left.

Sexual discipline will give you more time, and focus on the things you actually should be doing in order to yield the results you want. Its like taking two steps back in order to make four steps forward.

Everything you do that keeps you sexually hostage is obviously a no go: watching porn, paying for porn, paying for prostitutes, lusting after everything with a hole in it.

Your thoughts, gents?

I would be FAR from HAPPY having a virtual GF or jerking myself into oblivion. I NEVER accepted that.

 

[Rainman4707]

I think guys who get laid regularly automatically place a lower value on it and guys who don't place a higher value on it.

Simple supply and demand, nothing more.

Those that have none want it badly and those that have plenty place little value on it. No different than anything else in life

Agree. I've had sex roughly every day since febuary. Those women in yoga pants and bras dont have the same affect on me anymore. I'm sure my GF keeps me satisfied so that my eyes don't wander. Women are very clever.

 

[Rainman4707]

Thats why sexual discipline is probably the end boss of The Game.

Think about it: all it takes is a bra and some yoga pants to lure you in. But what does it takes to lure her in? The one wearing the bra and yoga pants?

Sexual discipline is the most difficult part of the game. To find a way to take advantage of your surplus of testosterone, but to yet never let it lead you.

I don't fap, so i would sleep with a lot of women that were below my standards.

 

[corrector]

I don't fap, so i would sleep with a lot of women that were below my standards.

Brownie point for you.

 

[SW15]

I don't fap, so i would sleep with a lot of women that were below my standards.

No porn and no fap is the way to go.

NoFap is a good life practice and it can help with some things. The super powers thing is a bit overstated though there is a period in the early stages of NoFap where a man is super motivated to approach due to excessive horniness. As NoFap continues, there's sort of a baseline that gets established. It does help in some social situations.

And I could understand this to an extent. I am at a point where I am generally very outgoing with most everyone around me so I don't notice a major difference in the approach department. It is almost strictly measured by performance in the sack.

I think what you say does have merit and do think for the less experienced DJs it could give an extra bit of motivation.

Performance in the bedroom is a key part of Game overall. A good performance in the bedroom can keep women coming back for more and reduce the need to regularly approach. Being good at sex has a lot of benefits.

I agree that no porn and no fap will help sex performance.

 

[corrector]

No porn and no fap is the way to go.





Performance in the bedroom is a key part of Game overall. A good performance in the bedroom can keep women coming back for more and reduce the need to regularly approach. Being good at sex has a lot of benefits.

I agree that no porn and no fap will help sex performance.

You said you regularly approached.

 

[manfrombelow]

One more thing regarding the concept of "sexual discipline."

This also includes the resistance to masturbating AND watching pornography.

Yeah. So basically. The ability to control our hornyness dictates whether or not we are truly discipline, sexually.