The importance of sexual discipline

[Barrister]

There used to be a lot of "No Fap" posts a few years ago where guys acted like it bestowed these super powers on them. Personally, I can tell if I go a few days without sex and masturbation. When I do have sex after that, I can go longer and perform better overall. However, I think it is generally pretty overrated to go No Fap (assuming you aren't having sex) for days and days on end. All that happens is I start to feel like I need to nut at all costs.

To me, if you are having to do either of those things (No Fap OR the opposite: beating off every day) to control your urges as they concern women, your problems run deeper than something anatomical. Sex with beautiful women is great, but it can't be the driving force in why you get up each day and define you. Your best sexual discipline is to have a rich life outside of women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Perhaps that's the reason why so many men opt out of the game nowadays.

I'm always horny. Needed to discipline myself drastically.

No, that's a side effect of the root cause which is plastics and pesticides that have wreaked havoc on the male endocrine system since the 1950s

 

[SW15]

There used to be a lot of "No Fap" posts a few years ago where guys acted like it bestowed these super powers on them. Personally, I can tell if I go a few days without sex and masturbation. When I do have sex after that, I can go longer and perform better overall. However, I think it is generally pretty overrated to go No Fap (assuming you aren't having sex) for days and days on end. All that happens is I start to feel like I need to nut at all costs.

NoFap is a good life practice and it can help with some things. The super powers thing is a bit overstated though there is a period in the early stages of NoFap where a man is super motivated to approach due to excessive horniness. As NoFap continues, there's sort of a baseline that gets established. It does help in some social situations.

 

[Stoic]

Agreed having sexual discipline does give you an edge.

Have any of you read the classic think and grow rich?

the chapter on sexual transmutation is worthwhile for all here to read.

just like it sounds, it’s about transmuting sexual energy into other pursuits. Career, higher level interests.

 

[Barrister]

NoFap is a good life practice and it can help with some things. The super powers thing is a bit overstated though there is a period in the early stages of NoFap where a man is super motivated to approach due to excessive horniness. As NoFap continues, there's sort of a baseline that gets established. It does help in some social situations.

And I could understand this to an extent. I am at a point where I am generally very outgoing with most everyone around me so I don't notice a major difference in the approach department. It is almost strictly measured by performance in the sack.

I think what you say does have merit and do think for the less experienced DJs it could give an extra bit of motivation.

 

[Gamisch]

I think my biggest problem is that I find women absolutely fascinating

The different ways their minds work , the intracies of getting them to submit to my will

Having a woman who's like 50/50 into you then submiss to you and start becoming sexual with you is far more rewarding than the actual sex itself

Seduction truly is a form of art and its where I often find myself wanting to express my creativity

What this means is women become a prime interest in my life and I spend a LOT of time engaging and studying them.

Some guys obsess over their jobs , or their cars or their sports team

Good write up as usual.

This is my issue. I LOVE women. I love women and sex more than anything else in life.

But there's this point where I said like " this is TOO much". Women (to me) are an endless addiction like all the others. Likewise this addiction had some real consequences, like getting a crazy woman pregnant and now having to carry the child because moms is crazy.

I agree tho. Women are fascinating, the hunt and the conquest is fascinating.

 

[Gamisch]

There used to be a lot of "No Fap" posts a few years ago where guys acted like it bestowed these super powers on them. Personally, I can tell if I go a few days without sex and masturbation. When I do have sex after that, I can go longer and perform better overall. However, I think it is generally pretty overrated to go No Fap (assuming you aren't having sex) for days and days on end. All that happens is I start to feel like I need to nut at all costs.

To me, if you are having to do either of those things (No Fap OR the opposite: beating off every day) to control your urges as they concern women, your problems run deeper than something anatomical. Sex with beautiful women is great, but it can't be the driving force in why you get up each day and define you. Your best sexual discipline is to have a rich life outside of women.

Yeah,like no contact. Most men completely misunderstand the idea behind it.

I geuss that when you are "using" these things and make it about women, you're on the wrong track. E.g nofap so women are more attracted to you.

I personally use it now to create a more healthy relationship with my perception of women, love and sex.

Best example I can come up with is the fact that fapping lead me to low quality women. Think hb5, think hookers ect. (Haven't we all done that at some point?). Now I feel much more content with not fecking if its not possible. A hunter I will always be anyway.

 

[corrector]

Yeah,like no contact. Most men completely misunderstand the idea behind it.

I geuss that when you are "using" these things and make it about women, you're on the wrong track. E.g nofap so women are more attracted to you.

I personally use it now to create a more healthy relationship with my perception of women, love and sex.

Best example I can come up with is the fact that fapping lead me to low quality women. Think hb5, think hookers ect. (Haven't we all done that at some point?). Now I feel much more content with not fecking if its not possible. A hunter I will always be anyway.

How does it change your perception about women?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’ve been a low to no fapper for years. My first GF & I would have marathon make-out & dry hump sessions. Unfortunately. It backed all up. Had to get a cystoscopy. Have to balance. I’m still pretty much a minimalist when it comes to fapping. Being horny all the time has resulted in some interesting adventures.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Most women aren't worth the attention given to them. Why contribute to their validation?

I’m a dog. It’s fun.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Agreed having sexual discipline does give you an edge.

Have any of you read the classic think and grow rich?

the chapter on sexual transmutation is worthwhile for all here to read.

just like it sounds, it’s about transmuting sexual energy into other pursuits. Career, higher level interests.

Had a friend who was heavily into martial arts. He used no fap/no sex in his practice. He said it was brutal.

 

[corrector]

Yeah, I am staying away from porn, and I've found that even when I wanted to look at something recently, I just have been unable to bring myself to look at anything. Something within my system itself just feels different or weird. Maybe I'm subconciously picking up something major is on the horizon in the world scene, or perhaps the interaction in the past with an OF Filipina escort lady has re-wired me, who knows? When I think of porn, I just feels like a blur, don't know what to even look at even if I wanted to. Whatever the reaosn, my commitment is to stay away from this until at least the end of September this year. In terms of fapping, there is the "morning wood" that is the biggest issue and sometimes, I get flashbacks in my mind from a familiar escort pic I may have remembered in the past. However, I'm self-disciplined in this area as well.

 

[corrector]

I’ve been a low to no fapper for years.

I don't think anyone who is able to get women should fap because it's just unnatural.

 

[johnrambo]

Had a friend who was heavily into martial arts. He used no fap/no sex in his practice. He said it was brutal.

Kind of like Shaolin monks

 

[johnrambo]

Everything you do that keeps you sexually hostage is obviously a no go: watching porn, paying for porn, paying for prostitutes, lusting after everything with a hole in it.

Your thoughts, gents?

It's basically a monk life. If monks can do it, so can you.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Discipline is for dogs and children

 

[Hamurabimbi]

It's basically a monk life. If monks can do it, so can you.

Sexual discipline is one if the most important things to have nowadays.

Everything you do that keeps you sexually hostage is obviously a no go: watching porn, paying for porn, paying for prostitutes, lusting after everything with a hole in it.

Your thoughts, gents?

I'm pretty good for the above, except the last. In particular, if I have a flirty conversation with an attractive woman. It makes me out of control. I read that men, who talk to attractive women, get a big boost in T. I can really feel it and my aggression and horniness get exponetnaily largrer. I was to meet some friend at a cafe to play some card (CCG) games. As I entered the cafe, a girl jumped up and started complimenting my pants. We did the whole hand measuring thing (I have big hands, and girls love to put thier tiny hands up against my paws). I suspect they think it is a proxy for a big dck. We exchanged numbers and I introduced her to my friends. I could feel my T and aggression through the roof and proceded to a smasing vicitory in our game. ONe of my friends said: ':he gets the girl and he wins the game.'

 

[manfrombelow]

Can't agree more with the OP.

All it takes to make a man with stable income and decent look loses his mind is some tight azz in legging pants and yoga bras.

But what does it take to make a 6/10 babe with tight azz in legging pants and yoga bras fall for you? I'd say whatever you have is not enough.

The scale is set to be unfair before the game starts. So sexual discipline might be the key, even the only one, to balance the game.

 

[Gamisch]

How does it change your perception about women?

Lets say you're binge watching gang bang porn where women get pissed on, spit on, and all that other good stuff.

After busting a few nuts watcha gonna think about women? You'll become what you consume.

Is porn all bad? Nah. I learned many things about sexual postitions, dominance and I've literally seen every type of woman in a porn movie at least once. All of the things mentioned above learned me tons of stuff.

But unfortunately, like smoking pot, you won't be satisfied with "just 1 puff" after you get used to the high. You want more and more and more.

So how do we look at women then? As a groupie who hates his favorite artist? The one thing you fantasized about is walking outside all day long. You can pay and get that favorite ,but yet hated thing called women /sex.

You see how it all starts with your D in your hand? After month 5 ,week 5, nut nr 5 a day you will be desperately searching for a way to get some.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I only watch masturbation vids made by my lovers.