The Game Continues, my approach journal

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School again: Week 3 night 2: A 180!?

Saturday Night

This party was a bit different. The environment was a bit crazy. Was at the basement and darker. I felt nervous to start opening, so I relaxed myself for a minute. So then I see a freckled maroon haired brunette girl I really liked…around campus. I go up to her. She’s looking down at her cell phone.



#1 As I’m standing in front of her she says hi while there. I then say hi back and then talk in her ear, “I find you very sexy…and I want to talk to you” she says, “No”. I think she walks away afterward. The rejection hits me for a minute, as I was hesitant to open more girls. But then I relaxed myself for another minute. I didn’t want to acknowledge her afterwards. But then as I realize now, don’t take that as a grain of salt. It could’ve been a knee jerk reaction…to where after they realize what happen…they think rationally. Its happened to me a bunch of times. A girl will act negatively at first…but then look at me afterwards. She might've done that.

#2 I saw another girl walking down the steps. She was cute, had a thick body I liked. She was excited when I was talking to her. Looked at her provocatively up and down and said, “You…look nice tonight ;-)” She giggled and I was touching her hair around and what not. Asking, ‘This had to take about 3 hours, right?” She said, “Yep :-D” haha. I keep feeling her hair and playing with it a bit and she's eating it up. I then tell her I’ll be right back. I’m just so much into the party that I could’ve stayed with her. I then see her dancing with a cool ass dude I know. She’s not really looking as interested as before when I get eye contact again(Prolly cuz i didn't quite come back as soon as i thought). But I do talk to her friend instead and just talk for about 10 minutes with her, she’s receptive but looks bored most of the time. So I decide to move on.

Huge Lesson Learned: When u meet a girl, stick with her a bit if you seriously have no where to go.

I opened up more girls, most were in a group and I assumed again that night, “I won’t be able to isolate her….her friends will not leave with out her.”

But guess what, you never know. Try before you assume.

Huge Lesson Learned: Take action. Don’t let the past hold u back so much.


Another approach was a cute girl in a group. I flirted with her pretty well...had pretty good rapport…kept things interesting…had good kino…after 10 minutes of talking to her…her friends and her go to the bathroom.

Huge Lesson Learned: I def realize now, if a girl is interested….isolate her from the group. The truth is when u experience it…not assume it. Don’t wait too long…after a few minutes…and she’s liking you…go move her away… have it be u and her….away from the friends.

Another approach was an HB8 Brunette, she was with a couple of other people though. I went up to her, introduced myself. She showed an IOI...but she didn't really respond afterwards. I kind of lost motivation to continue talking to her as i wasn't sure of myself to continue. I did talk with a couple of other people in the group.

After quite a while, I see the party is dying down and then I hear of another party. My roommate is gaming one girl and tells me that he’s going to be with her for a bit. I then understand as I don’t want to mess it up for him.

I go to another party…wasn’t that good…so then I go to the final one of the night.

It was much different than the previous. I got a different vibe. The girls were amongst themselves. There were rarely any girls just idle…most were dancing…even when I tried to dance with some…the friend tried to drag them away. While others were already dancing with other brothers. I’m like, “You got to be serious? Haha”. In the past, I would’ve been discouraged…but I just smiled and said to myself, “So this is a KS Fraternity Party? I guess its just not popping as it prolly can at times.” Even some of the “Aright” looking girls were in that mode. “I did fine tonight! Remember…u don’t have to try to get girls who aren’t feeling ya. If they’re not…go for the ones that do. They're not above you by any means”

I do manage to talk to a hot sorority girl with a black dress, her body is sexy. Really good body. But then her friend is right there telling me, “She’s mine tonight” And then one of the brothers, ‘Comes to their rescue…so to speak’ It was funny…I’m like to myself "Well i'll be damned” haha. I forgot what he tells me, but instead of walking away easily…I decide to stay there asking him where one of the other brothers is.

I then leave but realizing i still improved.

Analysis:
1) The basement at the frat was a different experience compared to the night before
2) Go for the number anyways. I use to believe, 'What's the point?' But more often than not...there's still a 50% Shot of meeting up with them another time.
3) At the end of the night at the 3rd party, i was like, "Got a homefield disadvantage" But then i realized...don't let it stop you. You're learning. You're getting better.
4) Recently i'm going back to the basics, just attempting to meeting up with girls the regular way but still revealing my intent that i want something non-platonic.
5) As the day before, be more dominant, lead, and escalate.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School again: Week 4 night 1: Hmmm

Hey guys, went to another frat party tonight. Before i got in there tho, i was nervous because i assumed that the vibe would be weird, but when i get inside...all the brothers are chill as ****. And i was a little more relaxed. The ratio was perfect. 3: 1. I see ton of girls. I'm with me and my roommates.

#1

Went up to a girl i direct approached at the cafeteria, getting introductions again. I was teasing her a bit with like "Oh u forgot my name " and she was somewhat receptive. But then bam after a minute or two....hit a blank. I couldn't think of anything else to say, a problem i had in the past. Yea, i was drinking but even sober it would've been the same. But i do believe i knew why, i wasn't confident in what to say next. Usually when i "know" a girl wants to listen to me more, i'll keep rolling and be very relax and things will just come, but if im not sure and they're not that responsive(eventho that doesn't indictate that they're not interested, its natural for us to talk most of the time at the start)...then i'd fall short with nothing to base on.

#2

Another hot girl i've seen and met before as well. She remembers my face. I talk about her dyed hair and we talk about that for a minute. Meet her just as hot friend. I hold her by the waste, but then bam....got the blank again. When they stopped talking, i couldn't think of whatever else.

#3

Was a blond with a nose piercing. I go up to her smiling, saying i found her cute. She's giggling and i notice her nose piercing. I tell her that i ike nose piercings, i truly find it sexy. Her friend is giggling too. I get introductions with them. Do ask them a question or two. I then decide to sit next to them but then bam, at a blank yet again.

Lesson Learned So Far: Tonight it wasn't quite clicking compared to other nights. Even when i tried to say something my mind was so clouded

During each of these approaches, i'm just going back to my friends and talking with them for a couple of minutes.

Another one, was a girl i saw that same day i met before, and i say "Sarah!" she says, "The name's Katie! " And ya know, bam...got a blank again.hahaha.

It was pretty funny, girls i've met/direct approached/seen during the day on campus, i saw quite a few of them tonight...it was the weirdest thing.

I went up to other girls and the same thing happened.

Later around the end of the night,
i meet this short haired blonde thick girl. She seeking rapport with me and it goes well for a couple of minutes. I'm touching her hair and what not(Asking if it was long) and we talk about Dave Matthews..not sure of whatelse i was saying. then i touch her face and she's like "Don't touch my face". But i keep talking to her but it dies down.

Analysis:
1) I talk to a friend and he tells me that i was not focused enough at the girl as i was so distracted with other things going on. Also, i was too worried of what to say next. Also he said the reason why im not relaxed is most likely because im still deep down afraid of not getting to where i want to be in a specific time. I shouldn't quite care as much about that and realize: You don't remember what u couldn't do. U only remember what u can do now.
2) I have been thinking quicker on my feet
3) Plow Plow Plow. Work on it. Say anything to keep things going.
4) I'm getting better with kino at the start just keep it going.
5) Care less of what u say and just go with it. Thats what i was noticing, the guys were rolling it was cuz they didn't care of what they were saying or not...even if it was alcohol...they still didn't care...hence why the girls were into them.
6) I believe i found i am afraid of rejection during an interaction. Its why i'm holding back and at a blank. Nothing but the lacking of self assurance and fear.
7) Did have a funky good time tho.
8) Keep talking more about her. Ask questions. I didn't do that. I totally forgot to.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School again: Week 4 nights 2-3: A new found improvement?

For the 2nd night, i was at another party. Talked to lots of girls. Was drunk as hell. Most of them were either with their friend or whatever. their friend usually tried to ****block me. It puzzled me for the longest time. Either:

A) They're jealous that ur not gaming them and don't want to feel left out.
B) The reason why the mother hen is letting other guys talk to her friend, is because they're not flat out seducing the girl...while u are.
C) They don't trust you.


THE SOLUTION: Get the girl's number to then where u won't have to even worry about obstacles. I see her around all the time, so i can get it the next time i see her. If the mother hen tries to say "no". I aint gonna care, its the girl's choice and from what it looks like...she's feeling me as much as im feeling her

The next night
I'll make this short and simple. First party, the vibe wasn't as friendly as the previous times i went over there. There weren't that many people. The party was "meh" and most of the girls there were gf of the brothers. Girls are funny. one girl i had approached before like 2 weeks ago. I saw her there act disinterested and didn't return eye contact. Next thing u know, when she's seeing me talk to other girls...she's trying to give me eye contact, but i don't look at her. She was cute, but there are more girls i need to focus on.

After that party, we go to another one and its POPPIN! Lots of hot girls there!

#1 Was a blonde girl standing up. I see her, i look her deep in the eyes and say "Hi " she says hi very receptively. We get introductions. I take her hand and rise up to the chest area and caress it. She looking at me and asks my name. I then comment on her hair playing with it and she's eating it up. I forget what else we talked about but we were going at it for a bit. Eventually she's sitting down. So then i grab my hand out and tell her, "Hey..stand up for a second" So then she takes my hand, i switch places with her and then im the one sitting down and i put her on my lap. She laughs and then gets off it and then she's talking in my hear and everything. My memory is fuzzy afterwards but eventually, that "lull" comes again. But i decide, this time to just go for it. So then as we're standing up, i ask, "Do you like surprises?" I forget the look she gave, but she says "not big surprises" After that, she's about to leave...i tell her to give me her number...but she declines.

Lesson Learned: After she said "Not big surprises"... flirt with her somemore then try again. It could be just resistence"

#2 Was a 1/2 black girl. I touch her by the waste, she's receptive but kind of idle. She said she got stuff on her shirt. I then help her rub it off. I touch that area(between the breasts and neck) and then she has some on her tit. I rub that a little but she's not resisting. I then ask her if she's 1/2 black. She faces me and asks me how i knew. i touch her hair and tell her that her roots are black girl hair. I'm touching her somemore and aim to dance with her but she says she's gotten nautious. I think she goes back to her friend a little bit. She doesn't seem disinterested at all.

Lesson learned: She was receptive to me, just in a laid back way. Next time, if u get a vibe from a girl like that....go for taking her back to ur place. I could've done that.

#3 Was an italian looking girl. I go up to her. She says, "I don't want to dance" I tell her, I don't want to dance, i want to talk to you. Her body language is as if its about to leave, but after 20 seconds. She stays. I use the ethnicity card and she tells me she's 1/2 indian. I tell her she looked greek and i was trying to figure out. She's showing even more interest. So then we hear the beat...and we grind with each other. Before i can do more, her friend finds her and then i think drags her away or something like that.

As before it was a funny situation, another girl i approach...im talking with her...one of the guys on the rugby team or wherever else was telling me, "I'm with her tonight" So then i see her friend, try to game her. he says the same thing. Funny thing, after that they see me talking to more girls.hahaha.

Lesson Learned: I'm glad i've learned this lesson well. When one interaction doesn't work out, just move on to the next. .

#4 this is a girl i've met before...but didn't really talk to her much. I still gamed her like i would any other girl. We're enjoying ourselves...i joke and tell her, "I'd so take you home right now...but we can't get ahead of ourselves" She cracks up, but her friend quickly takes her away when she spots her. haha.

After all this, i went to another place...but it really wasn't popping much. It was pretty much over.

Those were the approaches i want to mention. i did others but my memory isnt' good with most of them.

I did get a number from a cute blonde girl later on during the night that i met before.

Analysis

1) I'm getting closer to the point of escalation...the biggest fear i had
2) The ratio was good, hence, more chances u'll get laid.
3) I have made a very drastic improvement. I'm finally starting to achieve the party vibe i had lacked.
4) Next time, go farther with attempting to escalate.
5) My kino is improving. Its more strong. :-D
6) The black girl had a certain vibe. A relaxed, not caring vibe. If u feel that, try to have her go back.
7) I am definitely proud of myself so far for improving.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School again: Week 5 nights 1-2: Honesty?

Well this won't be long but here's an update of the two nights and how i've progressed

1) Finally went up to the girl i was so attracted to, yet didn't want to mess it up...but she was taken...but she showed quite a bit of interest. Gunwitch's quote is truly right, "The girls u most desire tend to be the ones who desire u as well". I've started to notice that.

2) Plowing i'm starting to do more, but i don't want to always have to do small talk in the beginning of an approach at a party.

3) So far, if a girl isn't feeling you....don't stand there like an idiot...u leave...and move on to the next girl. All i did was sit there looking discouraged.

4) I've realized i'm afraid of there being conflict gaming a girl in the group. My frame has got to be greater than the girl's friends. If you are unfaised and continue to talk to her...you'll be fine. Don't step down.

SCENARIOS:
1) If the target's friend says-I'm her friend but in a way its like trying to ****block you...

SOLUTION:
Acknowledge her, but continue talking to the girl

2) If the target's friend says-She's mine today

SOLUTION:
Just act aloof and not caring about that comment. And continue talking to the girl.

3) If people in the group say-Oh, he's just trying to get laid

SOLUTION:
You don't deny it. You just say, "Yes". I acted sarcastic saying, "oh...why would i ever do that?" but thats still kind of beating around the bush. Be proud, be honest with it. If they try to start something(at all)...u walk away.

4) If someone touches ur arm and is like, "Hey...thats my friend"

SOLUTION:
Just say that u like her so far...and continue talking to her.

5) If the friend tries to drag her away

SOLUTION:
u keep hold of her arm as well telling her friend, "Just one more minute".



HAVE THE BIGGER FRAME. DON'T COWER DOWN. ITS THE GIRL'S CHOICE, NOT THE FRIENDS.

6) If ur tense and aren't relaxed...get relaxed...enjoy yourself first...then regame.

7) Don't eject with a girl ur talking to...stay there still.

8) Remember, eventually isolate with the girl from the group. If they decline, just tell them that u'd be like 5 feet away.

9 Don't give a **** what any of her friends think. Its the girl's choice. She's grown up enough. So what if the friend is protective, doesn't matter...its the girl's choice in the end. Its our job to have the better frame and realize we do what we want

10) When i was gaming one girl, her friend was making drama about other stuff...hence i guess it distracted the other girl. A good buddy of mine told me , "Don't even worry about that ****." That quote has stuck by me. Thats right, i don't need to worry or care about that.

11) I've been starting to get seduction help from an experienced guy over the phone, and im realizing more of the mistakes i'm making. I'm progressing 30X more than without any person to give me feedback.

12) If a girl is touching you and responsive...she likes u...she wants to ****. Don't leave. Stay there, flat out escalate at some point. If she's looking at another guy, don't get discouraged or be less motivated....keep talking to her. Don't care about any other guys, just be focused on her.

13) If a girl u think is cute on some level, is saying something to you...game her...seduce her...don't just let it be....talk to her.

14) Being honest about what u want to talk about with a girl...i'm starting to realize it

Example
One ethiopian girl i was talking to. I then finally ask her if she was quiet, she said she was shy. I then decided to continue and i told her, "This outfit...its sexy but did u wear something that'd show ur ass more?" She was shocked i was talking about it, and then says "Yea" I then tell her that i've been checking that ass. She looks even more shocked and then she says she has nothing to say about that. To keep going i then ask her if i have a big ass. haha...and demonstrate how people i've bumped..have told me that haha. But then i decide to stop since wasn't sure how i was doing. Next thing you know, she keeps looking at me. Which pretty much sums up that she still was into me, just no other guy has probably been that honest with her. I'd say it felt good for me. I just have stay self assured that she's still uped for being seduced.

15) Don't try to have "Everyone" like you. That will limit my growth in the game. If people don't like me for picking up girls, let them not like me. There are too many tons of other people who aren't even bothered by me with that.

16) I realized another reason why i'm at a blank. Its all just fear. I'm just afraid of what to say next. At that point, i'm not sure of myself that whatever i will say, will be cared for or be listened to. The key is to just say it w/o caring.

17) I'm gonna make that balance to where im being playful with a girl and being honest. I think sometimes i'm teasing too much, that it seems like its beating around the bush. I don't want to always have to do that. The original reason i have lately is because i feel like "I HAVE TO" in order to keep their attention. Well...you know what...i don't have to...only in my terms.

18) I did get a number of a girl that was on the dance team...i'm gonna see where that goes.

19) My kino and flirting have gone up. I would say im def get better

20) If you know of a girl who's quiet and doesn't say much...talk of ur intentions. Don't hold back.

21) Don't assume that if a girl isn't responding so excited while talking to you that she's not into you, if she's still responding...she's into you...cuz if she wasn't...she would seem standoffish or just flat out not say much.

Well these are the things i've learned so far and in the past 2 party nights. Still got one more at the end of the week and i know that i'll touch that star and then i know...that potential and confidence will go up a **** load when i reach it.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

I haven't spoken much of day game lately. But i'll mention it:

1) Was a cute girl in the cafeteria. I direct approach her with stop and the cute line. Me and her sit with each other. Turns out she had a boyfriend. She was religious too, so nah...don't like religious girls.

2) Did an approach at the gym for the first time. The girl was cute, had an ass to die for. Turns out she was an aerobic instructor, commented on her eyes, but it became mostly small talk tho which then nothing came of it.

3) Got a number from a girl i direct approached last semester. We had some talk and what not, then i invite her to luch, or aka eating with me at the cafeteria. She says, "really?" with a wisecrack intrigued look. I tell her that it would be two days later and at 6. She says "doesn't matter what time" Two days later, one hour before i call her just to see if she remembers or whatever. She doesn't reply back. So then a friend of mine tells me to go anyway...i arrive 15 min after just to see and yea...she wasn't there. So i move on.

It was funny though, i called a couple more girls i had numbers from to eat instead but they either were eating later or they just ate.haha.

That's all really for day game. Haven't done it much as of late, but i plan to.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School again: Week 5 night 3: O_O

Well tonight i got to a frat party at 12 AM.

1) Was a blonde girl i've seen at parties now and then. I go up to her and her 3 friends. As i'm trying to talk to her, she seems to just be dancing and not responding much when im talking to her...like she's unbelievably distracted. She's extremely drunk...so i decide to let her.

Lesson Learned: Persist with this. Just keep talking.

2) Was a girl sitting down. I was being more honest talking to her here. I told her, "I'm taking you home tonight". She says, "No your not" I then say, "I am...but we can't get ahead of ourselves yet. we have to talk first." She looks at me for a second, i smile. She laughs in disbelief. I learn instead of asking questions, you do statements. I tell her, "You must be a virginia beach girl" She's like, "Nah...im from northern virginia" and we go into that for a few minutes. I have my hand behind her back. The interaction went well, as she was just sitting there...eventho she was still talking with me. She said i was funny and laughed 1/2 the time. But then after 2 minutes, i tell her that i have to go to the bathroom. So i take a piss, and when i come back, she's gone.

3) Was the hottest girl there. I walk in and tell her, "Ah! Yes! You're the hottest girl in this party!" She says that she gets it all the time. I tell her "it doesn't matter " Then we get introductions, but her friend tries to drag her away to talk to some of the frat brothers there, but i tell the friend dragging her away..."one more minute with her" but she goes with the friend

Lesson Learned: I know what you guys are about to tell me, "AFC's say it"...yes but do they say it right? I was being honest...plus she seem interested at the beginning

4) This approach i got to mention. Was a girl with a body i liked. I said hi to her she said hi back. We get introductions. Then i whisper in her ear: "So...how long did it take you to have ur ass look like that?" Hahaha.
Her friend next to her asks, "What did you say to her?!" I tell her...:"It doesn't matter what i said to her." The friend didn't say anything after that. So then im continuing talk to the target girl till a guy friend of hers tells me, "Hey man...she's got a boyfriend...and she's just here visiting...but u'll get laid tonight buddy" I give him my full respect.

Lesson Learned: I don't know if he was making it up or not, but i believed him. Lately, i've realized...that the majority of guys who are just grinding with the girl u just gamed..most of the time...they don't get the girl. Cuz at the start of week 1, i really felt that everyone was doing better than me...but i then realized that its further than the truth. Sure, some of them have gotten laid at party...but i know i will too!

5) I did some more through out the night. But there were some more i remember. Like for one, i told the girl that i was shy and can't talk. She's like "Shut up " and told me that i was talking to a lot of people throughout the night. I did fine with her, except i forgot her name(there were so many i remembered)...so then she was about to not talk to me...but i still kept talking saying, "I always remember it the second time" So then she kept testing me if i remembered it and funny...i did. I forget what happened with that afterward...i think i had to leave for a second to take a 'piss' then when i came back...they were talking to another guy. The friend of the target kept repeatedly looking at me when i was returning. I decide to come in the group and i mimick her body language, just to be funny but the guy who standing there at the wall then told me that it was his girl, i asked when's the wedding and she said 5 days. i knew it was bull**** so i left, and i decide to go to the next girl and they were watching me do it. haha Also, the guy that said it was his girl(Eventho it def wasn't) he didn't get anywhere with them.

Lesson Learned: I've started to realize something again. The power of there being too many opportunities. When one girl doesn't work, go on to the next. U keep going till u find the one who accepts ur intentions.

As the night winds down...

6) Blonde girl sitting down upstairs. I talk with her for a bit. I do a little kino here and there. I don't think she was recprocating but she was starting to a little bit. Just as i was talking to her somemore....a girl i direct approached...sits next to her and tells me, "You're not gonna win tonight" I tell her, "There's no winning or losing at all". She says, "ur not winning" I smile and continue talking to the blonde girl. The other girl then leaves. She and me are doing some rapport with each other some more, till "so and so" comes aback and then tells her some of the frat bros wanted her to come down. So then she leaves. I then go downstairs, and the obstacle girl then tried to hide her away from her...haha...but then i was like to myself, "Funny..."

7) Afterward, i see a blonde girl near the bar area. We introduce ourselves and then i tell her, "I'm taking you back...c'mon lets go " She looks right at me with a disblief look, she laughs and says, "nah". She then says its getting late. I tell her, "Yea...lets go" lol. She looks right at me again with that same look and i give her a "thats right" smile. I forget what else was said but i think i was more relaxed and was rolling with whatever...and it was helping me improve.

Analysis:
1) I didn't get really the opportunity to number close much that i wanted to, as i feel it should be a last resort.
2) I'm starting to be firm if there are friends of the female of them. I'm getting a higher frame.
3) I think quite a bit of people are chill with me and i just want people to have a good time.
4) I'm starting to be more persistent
5) I feel much better being honest with what i want to say. Sure i didn't get some tonight...but i felt a feeling of satisfaction that i'm getting better.
6) My party vibe is getting better
7) I'm starting to let go of the girls who don't feel me. I just tell myself, "Let her go" and thats it
8) As before, i'm still reaching for that star!

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Day Game thus far

Double post. whoops.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

I just realized something. When other males will say, "Hey...thats my friend's girl btw" Usually there are a few ways to get around this...

A) Keep talking to the girl. Ask her if this is true or not. With the one girl on the first night of week 5, she was still talking to me...but i kinda lost motivation to talk to her, because i assumed she was taken...but it could've been just the guy liked her who said it or wanted his friend to get laid and wanted to eliminate any threats.

B) The girl will most likely say yes no matter what. If it takes time for her to think about it, then that means she's most likely faking and u continue to game her.

C) Some girls when u meet them will automatically say they have a boyfriend at a party to fend off the "average guy" as they're only making assumptions. Cause if u think about it, if the bf really was there at the party, more often that not...u'd see him with her at some points or not. They aren't aware that u aren't an average guy. The key is to keep persisting....as when i went to the club...two different girls said they were lesbians but as i stayed to talk to them...it was of course a lie. Something like that.
Just something i've noticed.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Week 6 Night 1: The Spirit That Never Gives up

The Night Before Spring Break



This night i can't really say much. The first party i went to got busted, so i decide to go to the Crowded Bar as the back up. Let me just say i just froze. I was completely unsure what to do. I couldn't think of anything at the start. I was so use to doing parties for so long i lost track of gaming at a bar.


#1 Well firstly i do see a hot girl whom i met before but she didn't remember. I just did that as opening, but i don't think she was interested. I didn't think there was a need to open direct like that, if u've seen the person before. She was distracted with her friends, so i ejected. I see her again sitting by herself watching her friends dance, and i decide to sit the opposite side of the table. But then another guy was gaming her and he sat right "next" to her. So i let him do his thing. At the end of the night i see her tired and i decide to "Go for it" So then as the bar closes...as everyone's about to leave...i tell her "Lets go/i'll come with you" She says, "sorry...im tired" I then tell her, we could've had some fun lol. She says, "sorry" again. Hey can't blame a guy for trying.



Lesson Learned: Remember to believe ur the **** and keep talking to her. Just cause a girl might not respond as well as u want, doesn't mean she won't be interested later. Give the effort and persistence



#2 Was a girl i've seen before again. Had a rack i liked. I open her, she remembers me. I convey that i'm into her sexually I "Evaluate her outfit" she's liking it/laughing. She seems receptive and interested, but maybe not as much as she was playing a pool game. For this, i be more dominant and persist more. But i couldn't find her after i let her play.



This situation i have to tell you. To get myself in the social mood, i talk to a couple of girls(not even seducing them just talking to them) and then a dude i remember i had conflict with freshman year tells me, "Stop hitting on this girl. These guys over there and myself will kick your ass" I just flat out tell the guy, "Why would i hit on her?" he repeats himself, I repeat myself. It goes on for a couple of minutes, and i just straight up walk away. I knew deep down, he was just tryin to make threats and try to look cool but he failed. I held my ground compared to back then. I won't take **** like that and i knew he was a tool. He was trying to scare me but it didn't work. I was proud for being smarter over the years.



Throughout the night, im wondering, "Does it really take all this just to get laid? Seriously? Do i have to go through all these obstacles?"



#3 Was a girl standing there bored, i tell her that she'll be bored no longer. She's not a bad looking girl.She had a little gut but it didn't matter. She had pretty eyes tho. I take her by the hand and grind with her. I turn her around and we dance, i try to kiss her but she turns her face. I tell her, "Could be later " so then after dancing, i "isolate" her to the bar. Since she's being a good sport, i buy us both shots. I treat her to one and tell her, "I normally don't do this, but since im liking u so far...enjoy it" she is smiling the entire time. Then i play a game with her, "If u can't guess my major in two tries...u will have to kiss me" She says, "really?" I say, "yep " she says, "aright" she fails both times. I tell her to kiss me but she declines. I keep persisting but then her friend finds her and drags away. I tell her, "Not yet...i'm done with her" But she leaves



After the night, i went up to different girls to have one last shot of leaving with a girl but each declined since everyone had to leave. One gave me her number, she was aright looking but i have it and won't rule anything out.



As the night was over, i did feel a bit frustrated. I felt it.


I then decided to walk home and my friends wanted to meet me at the diner. I wasn't happy with this because i was tired of always leaving empty handed and just going with them, whom also leave empty handed. But as always, I will succeed. I know i will. Also, i believe i held back anyhow in terms of the girls i wanted to go for.

 

[j0n024]

Damn I want to go try night game! I wanna crash and burn but just go start dancing lol after I crash and burn haha. Good luck brother keep it up, I cant close in day game so I am in the same position as you brother.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Damn I want to go try night game! I wanna crash and burn but just go start dancing lol after I crash and burn haha. Good luck brother keep it up, I cant close in day game so I am in the same position as you brother.

Yea buddy, night game is a whole different breed. Its a whole new experience, it can be quite difficult at first to get use to...but only takes a few times to really be in tune with it. But yea, i do the same thing...after i crash and burn...i just decide to grind. But closing in day game, haven't really thought of the difficulty of it, but originally day seemed easier for me, now its seeming to prolly be more difficult. haha. But its only cuz im prepared at night, with day...im out of it half the time haha. thanks for the support dude, u'll get to try night...why not find out about "college" nights online for some of the clubs? they do it

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Week 7: One of those aright nights

Tonight was a meetup dot com event at Lotus Lounge, at DC. I meet up with a couple of guys in my local lair.
As you know, im not trying for numbers at clubs.

I see its a sausage fest, the ratio is 5 guys to 1 girl. There aren't really much good sets there. Sure there are some large sets, but i haven't really done large sets. Just going for what is easier for me.

One of the ones i'll mention was a woman who looked to be in her 30s but definitely was pretty attractive. Had a face i was drawn to, and had nice cleavage. Told her that i just had to talk to her. We had some good rapport about her being a pet trainer(Did the guessing game), had fun talk...then i try to isolate her to the nearby couch but she says she has to go to the bathroom. I tell her to find me, but she's back with her friend. The one thing here i could've done was to go right back to her. Just for persistence instead of believing she wasn't not interested anymore. Just cuz she says she's gonna check on her friend doesn't mean she's not interested at all. She prolly did have to go back to her for a little while.

After that event, the meetup people left and it was the regular night people who came.

There are a couple more sets i go up to. One of them was a bolivian girl who had a body i liked. She wasn't hooking much, so i let her go. But i could've kept plowing as she was receptive at the start...i just could've gotten deeper into the questions i asked of her and the "Go First" principle.

I did a few more but they didn't hook. Happens sometimes.

Was a tall thick blonde girl. Definitely liked what i saw. I introduce myself, she's more receptive than i thought she'd be. Only talk to her for like two minutes and then we dance. While we're dancing, in my mind i knew "Steven...go for the Kiss close" as she was pretty receptive to my touch on the dance floor but i was just afraid of that rejection and her friend being there. Soon after, she says she's gonna leave with her friend. I decide to let her go. One thing i could've done was the fact that she and her friend were taking taxi's home. I believe a close with her was more possible than i thought. Again, i didn't quite believe it at the time due to assumptions.

Last was a short haired thick latino girl with a few friends. Here again, she didn't give long responses BUT when i said something, she listened. This is where the "Go First" principle will help.


Analysis
1) I've decided to stop theorizing so much. I can theorize all i want, but i need to do whatever i want to make that theory as evidence
2) Its time that i decide to isolate a girl in each set i'm in. I mine as well try...even if i assume she won't want to.
3) As a member on the forum said, if a girl is feeling you while ur walking no where(i do that sometimes lol)...then go to her. I Just wanted to get my mind clear first before hand.
4) Next time, i will not eject in a set unless she ejects first. Just cuz a girl is not responding much at the start, does not mean she's flat out not interested. Not all girls are talkative. For the first ten minutes, i lead the interaction.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Week 8: Night 1

#1 Went to the bar tonight and this was one of the nights i don't consider that good.
First approach i just talk to a not so bad looking girl who is cute. We get introductions. I'm just talking about the bar and what not, and we're talking alittle bit till her friend comes and talks to her...but her friend(Hot by the way) doesn't realize that i was talking to her BUT i let them continue to talk

LESSON LEARNED: Hold a higher frame. I felt that their talk was more important than of what i was gaming about. When a friend interrupts u(She didn't see me)...u introduce urself.

Throughout the night im feeling tense and my mind is clouded, its all rustiness. I didn't know what i was gonna do throughout the night. But then i decide to go up to a few more girls.

#2 Was a 1/2 white, 1/2 latino girl sitting with a friend. I tell her that i wanted to meet her. She's receptive. We get introductions. Her friend says that she's with her tonight. I act that i don't care that she said that. I'm like, "Meh". So then i introduce myself to the friend. Then we get each other's ages by playing the guessing game. She guesses that i'm 28. I'm like, "28?! U serious?" A few of the friends are laughing. I tell her that she's the first girl to actually think i'm older than i really am. I tell her that i suffer from babyface syndrome. She keeps denying that i'm a student, as she's thinking i'm older than i really am. I then kid around with her and guess that she's really 18. She laughs with that too. She asks me who i came with. I tell her i came by myself. She's like, "No you didn't. Nobody goes by themself haha" I tell her, "Well...i'm the first it looks like" I then tell her that i saw people i know here. She's like "oh". Here im not thinking that i'm keeping her interest as she seems distracted, so i decide to go for deeper rapport. I ask her, I bet there is something interesting about you. She says that there wasn't really anything interesting about her. Normally, i would just keep playing the "I bet ur lying" game, but i decided to stop that. I decided to make a statement and ask her. I bet u work out ;-). She says she did gymnastics. I hilariously hold my leg up and ask her if she can still do this...and i wink. She laughs and says, "haha...not anymore" After this, she's still talking with her friends and isn't continuing the conversation so i depart.

LESSON LEARNED: I actually plowed well in this interaction i'd say. Remember, keep talking about gymnastics, don't stop there. Keep talking as long as u don't get rejected.

Tonight i'm still feeling a bit low...and there was maybe one more girl, but two guys sit with them, so that was out. But then i see a girl with glasses who are with two guys. She had a big
rack, glasses, long hair and braces. I likey! I keep looking over wanting to go up to her but i'm hesitant as i feel down.

#3 I get eye contact from her before, but it was more subtle. So then as she's walking somewhere i then go up to her and start talking with the "Ahhh...i know that i have never seen you...but am happy that i get to" She brightens up and we introduce each other. I touch her glasses and tell her that i like girls with glasses. She's pretty receptive but im holding back somewhat because she's with her brother(she introduces me to him). He's looks like a rocker/stoner, and he's MAD COOL AS ****...so i was afraid for no reason. He prolly didn't care at all that i was gaming his
older sister. She tells me she's 24 i am shocked and i tell her "No way " U can't be 24. She's like "uh huh " I'm feeling tense and nervous. She then pulls the bottom of my shirt and says that we have matching shirts. I laugh but i'm at a blank. She then smiles and says it was good to meet me.

LESSON LEARNED: I definitely learned something here but i was too in my head to capitalize on the situation

Afterwards, i'm still feeling a bit down but then the brother(he's drunk), he tells me about the two girls talking who are right to next to us. He says that the hotter girl is stuck up for no reason and that she doesn't look HOT enough to be stuck up(He and his friend were trying to talk to the both of them but they were stuck up and not giving them the time of day).

I agree, she's not smoking hot, but she is on the hotter side. I decide to go for it. Partially to go for one more approach.

So then i go direct on her, and yea...she has a shield up. But the funny thing is, i felt the most relaxed by this approach out of all of them tonight. I actually felt relaxed, on the more confident side and things were just flowing for me, despite her shield. I introduce myself to her friends and am just talking to her. As time went on, she's opening up more and more. She's responding more, despite still seeming to be stuck up. My energy is good and deep down i think she was intrigued a bit despite not facing me much initially, but as time went on...she was facing me more. At one point, where i played stupid...she waved her hand in a High Maintenance manner as if to box me out, but nah...she was like "I can't believe this guy doesn't know of the Nascar track at Bladdy Blah" I'm just like, "OH YEAH! That place...why didnt u tell me?" Everything seemed great for me. I then felt much better as the night ended. As the bar was closing, i decide to go get her number. She says that she doesn't have a phone. Me not believing she was interested, i just told her "Its ok...i know ur not interested...its fine." She then says, "oh no...my phone just aint working...its on a red light" I say "oh aright" I then leave.

As i'm walking out, i notice that they're looking at me(Just to see their reaction after i left) but funny, it was more of a look of curiosity. I felt a personal victory, that my improvement is showing.

Analysis
1) Despite feeling nervous, i still went to the bar. No excuses for not gaming. I've decided to go out 3-4 days a week to get better at this.
2) This is the start of the 8th week going out for night gaming(officially).
3) I learned a good lesson....always do that last approach...despite feeling down. Ur night might turn around.
4) I forget to mention, i went up to a big girl, but she had a cute face. She was very receptive at the start, but then i believe i tried to extract her home to quickly, hence her ASD triggered and she wanted her friend just to walk home, she was like "I don't think so" After not being able to go with her, i honestly thought my game was bad...that i couldn't even get laid by a big girl. But i realized to put ur ego away and that i don't suck...that most guys don't go up to girls even at a bar.
5) There weren't that many girls there, hence there weren't that many girls around.
6) Girls who appear stuck up are funny to me, one of them(The friend of the first girl i approached)...she was giving me eye contact...i returned it...i sticked out her tongue...and she looked away serious as if she was trying to appear high and mighty but i knew that was def not the case. Im glad im aware of that.


I'm glad at the end of the night, i felt good.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Week 8 Nights 2-3: Lower Key Nights

Friday Night

Alright, this night i'm at a bonfire. There aren't that many people there. Maybe at most 10 people. I'm talking to a few people, but more girls show up. I got too drunk tonight, so things weren't working out as planned.

So then i see one girl, the host of the party. We introduce each other. From what i can remember, i had teased her a little, had my arm around her. I wasn't sure if she was interested or not. I couldn't read her. She was drunk, so it was very hard to tell. But then, i realized something...despite not knowing about the signals, KISS HER. I was too afraid to, cuz i didn't think i could handle getting rejected, since i have quite a bit already.

The second girl was one with a lip ring. I sit down on her lap. I talk with her for a minute, and i try to have her on mine but she says, "no".

The third girl was cute, kept remembering her name. I tried to have her sit on my lap "We both can sit on here together" she said no.

The next was a redhead. This interaction went smoothly. I noticed she was a redhead and asked if she had freckles. She smiles but is confused and says, "No? " She tells me its natural, i touch her hair and play with it a little bit. She's sitting down and i notice now, i wasn't 100% confident with myself. I was so concerned with getting ****blocked, i was afraid of it...so i wasn't still talking to her. But guess what? She was talking to me somemore and said something of what i said earlier.

LESSON LEARNED: Stop always assuming a girl's not interested. They have alcohol in them, so of course they might not give the signals that ur looking for.

I talked to a few more girls, but nothing came of it.

Analysis:
1) With the girls who i wanted them to sit on my lap, i never checked if they had interest or not. I tried too early.
2) Have belief in urself. I felt down at the end of the night that i didn't do a good job...but honestly, there weren't that many girls that night.
3) I'm learning calibration, which experience can only teach you that. I've either taken too long to escalate or i've tried too early. There isn't a perfect moment.
4) Sometimes you have to realize, not all girls will like u.


Saturday

Tonight i went to an apartment party(could've done a frat party but i chose to stay in this one). It was a St. Patties day party, hence everyone was wearing green. There weren't that many girls there though.

#1 Was a small hot blonde girl and her friend. I went up to them, just said hi, they said hi back. I asked the blonde where she was from off the bat and she said so and so. I said "Oh really? u don't go here?" The two walk away while im still talking.

LESSON LEARNED: What i def could've improved on was the fact that the approach was flat out boring. It was my first for the night, so its expected.

#2 Saw a skinny brunette girl in a dress. She was on the hotter side. As she's walking away i tell her "Ur excused " She laughs and says "Hey!" But i had no idea i met her before, i couldn't recognize her. Before i could say anything, she walks away.

#3 Was a thick brunette/blonde was at the bar. I did the hit bump as she passed by. She thought it was funny. I would say this approach showed my improvement and persistence. Normally, if a girl's body language was to the side and not facing me, i'd just give up...but tonight...i knew that it wasn't the case. So then we get introductions. I pinch her and tell her, "Ur not wearing green" She says, "Of course i am. There's green on this blue shirt " I then say, "Oh well...too bad...i decided to pinch you anyways" So then after a minute of light rapport, i then tell her "Lets sit down on the couch here" She says "ok" and she sits down. From my assumptions, there was receptiveness but the interest wasn't quite there. She is facing the party and not really at me still. So then i take notice of her chest area. I say, "Ur bra might be a bit too low" She then gives a certain kind of curious look and says, "I'm not a slut" I tell her, "Who said u were?" I lightly adjust her bra a little up. I then tell her, "I lied...nothing wrong is with it" She laughs a little bit. So then afterward, she gets up...and leaves for a second. She says she'll be right back. I tell her that we'll talk somemore when she gets back. After a few minutes, she's at the bar area. I'm just saying some random things that come to mind. Plowing so to speak. I also do the cross arms, drink ur cup but avoid to spill it trick that they do in etiquette. Eventually, i then try to go for the kiss. I tell her, i want to have a good look at ur face. She laughs and says "This is kinda creepin me out " I tell her, "Nonsense...i just want to take a good look at it" I say this, because im trying to have her face me. I was hesitant to try to kiss her when she wasn't facing me. I am caressing her face and she is turning her face somewhat but her body language was still not facing me. So then she mentions stuff about a sorority and then she seems more enthusastic when i tell her of the girls i know of her. I get rapport for this. Then afterwards, believing the interaction is not going where i planned, i then tell her, "You know why i told u for me to get a good look at you?" She says, "Why?" I tell her, "Because i wanted to kiss you" She's laughing and she's playing with her hair quite a bit for a few seconds. Then the guy behind the bar, who hosted the party(Was a very cool host by the way)...I knew what he was about to tell me..."She's good(meaning: She's not interested)" But before he was about to do it, i was annoyed and tired of hearing that so i pretended not to hear him. He was tapping me on the shoulder, but i didn't respond to it as if i was distracted. I could hear him say, "Crap!" haha. Later in the night, i see her around one more time in a different shirt, she hugs me but i was not in the best mood...im thinking its more like a Drunk hug. But thats it.

Lesson Learned: ATTEMPT TO CLOSE EVEN WHEN U DON'T GOT THE SIGNALS LIKE OZZIE FROM RSD TRANSFORMATIONS SAID! The reason? Because now that i remember, when i even mentioned about kissing her, she showed IOIs. Even if she rejected it, she might've thought of me in a different light.

#4 Was a cute girl...i told her she was cute, she was receptive. Get introductions, her friends were distracting her somewhat. I was getting drunker so i let the interaction die...eventho if i was more sober i would've kept going.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Continued...

#5 Was another cute girl. I just said hi. She said hi as well. Ur irish aren't u. She says "Yeah" I do some cold reading i would say. I assumed she lives in northern virginia. She looks shocked. She's like "How did u know that?!" i tell her, im guessing. Then i tell her, "ur last name must start with a Mc" right? She looks even more shocked. She's says playfully "Your stalking me!!" Another guy who was there was nodding is head is like, "ur good dude" haha. Seemed like a cool guy. I talk to him for a few seconds.

I then tell her, "I'd say its the other way around " She brights up and then i notice her nails...im like "oh these glow in the dark eh?" She says "Yea!" I then look at them, caress them a little and then raise her hand and kiss it. She's excited. I forget what happens that seperates us...but i see her later on the night, she's sitting on the couch and she shows me her hands again enthusiastically like, "Remember these? " There's another guy on the couch drunk and his arm is fully around her. Normally i would leave, but this time i decide to stop always letting guys get the girl i want. So then i put my arm around her back. I Keep it there and talking to her, so then the guy talks to her, she's completely facing him so then i decide to end it there as i believe she liked him more BUT now that i think about it, she only faced him cuz he said something. I was drunk tho...so i made a bit too many assumptions.

Lesson Learned: Don't let a guy having his arm around a girl stop u. He was more drunk than u were. Sometimes u gotta literally lead...by u standing up....u taking her hand, pulling her towards u.

#6 Last girl of the night. I forget how this interaction went, but it was a girl i noticed while walking through other people. Eventually im at the same couch of the girl from the last approach.

NOTE: The blonde girl from the first approach kept seeing me talk to quite a few of these girls, it was a good feeling to know that i don't let one rejection like that stop me. She kept looking at me. I find it a great feeling sometimes when some girls do in fact underestimate u in terms of the game.

The last girl and me were on the couch. I'm talking with her for a few minutes. Here i could've gone for the kiss without realizing. Her body language was more facing me and she seemd pretty receptive. We then decide to grind. As we're grinding, i go for the kiss, but she turns away and says "Slick are we?" I say, "Yea " After, her friend is on the table. She says "HI!" The girl then takes her hand and goes up. The friend says, "We're lesbians" The target girl says, "Yea" I say, "Oh if u guys are lesbians...then im gay" They say, "Are u bi curious?" I say, "Well if ur lesbians...then im gay" lol. So then that interaction ended.

Afterwards, i notice a few people making out, and i felt that they were better than me. I saw a guy i def didn't like(have had tension in the past) and he was making out with a very drunk girl. I was pissed. I was like "HE DOESN'T DESERVE IT! Why make out with a guy like him?" in my head. The party then ended. I went home feeling mad. I was drunk too. I felt that i didn't do that well. But afew days later, i realized that i did do well. Im improving.

Analysis:
1) The Kiss Close i was still hesitant to do it without signals. If i had the signals, i would've went for it, BUT sometimes u can't wait for the signals and u gotta try anyways.
2) I've learned to no longer be curteous of guys gaming a girl u want. Ok, if he was talking to her first and u believe he has a good chance, let him...BUT if u believe u can get her...then i'd go for it.
3) Some of the frustration of when i was very upset at times(Literally getting very upset of not pulling) came back...but i needed to let out my frustration a little. I"m glad i did. I felt alot better.
4) It wasn't that big of a crowd, but the party become a sausage fest later on in the night.
5) I learned a good lesson. That maybe when im dealing with groups at night, to not have super direct body language with a girl. My friend tells me that it might make me seem predatorial in the mother hen/****blockers' eyes. So hence i might have to tone it down with a group at the start.
6) I use to bash indirect for a bit...but now that i think about it...some of the concepts with getting by ****blockers might help me....like not paying THAT much attention to the target after my opening line at the start AND getting in the good graces of the mother hen would be a good idea .

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Quick Summary of Week 9 Nights 1-3

Thursday:

1) Opened lots of girls
2) Did RSD's "The Claw" Which most didn't try to resist.
3) Got good social proof cuz of talking to lots of girls.
4) Almost got into a fight cuz i was competing with a guy for his gf(He never told me that they were officially seeing each other, just that they've known each other.)
5) Tried to kiss close a girl, but got rejected. I did the "I bet ur a bad kisser" line. She says, "Don't" meaning "Don't try to kiss me"


Friday:

1) Was a smaller party, was no where near as good as the party thursday night. Talked to quite a few girls. The girl from Thursday Point 4, ****blocked me. Most girls were just into the guys at the house.
2) Learned that the fatty with a friend sucks!
3) Found out that a girl i tried to eat with but when i thought she flaked on me, it turns out that she lost her phone around that time, hence she never returned my call. So im gonna go attempt to meet up with her again
4) Most of the girls weren't feeling me and were just chatting with friends.
5) I thought i didn't do too well...but in reality, just wasn't good of a party.

Saturday:

1) Was a much bigger party, was even better than Thursday

2) Made out a little with a girl i was grinding with. I improved, i turned her around...went for it and she was kissing as well. She went back to her friend, but still...it was fun.

3) I talked to lots of girls, and amazingly most of them were nice and friendly...but were somewhat distracted.

4) Talked to a hot thin blonde. She was pretty receptive. She was 4 years older than i. She did most of the talking, but she was showing interest. We talked for about ten minutes. I tried to have me and her sit in the couch nearby but she said that if she sat down that she wouldn't be able to get up. I told her that i'd just pull her up. But then i told her that "Ok...we'll still stand" Yet again, i was afraid to go for the kiss. I dunno if i got strong enough IOIs, but i still saw some. I was afraid of "Losing" wat was going good u could say. Another one of Ozzie from RSD's reasons why guys are afraid to close.

5) Enjoyed myself, had lots of fun. But also at the same time i was working on game

6) Went to another place...only about 20 people total. Talk to one small petite girl....i'd say she was pretty receptive, but even after a few minutes...she said she was gonna go back to her friends. Here i could've just told her, "U aint goin anywhere ;-)" haha.

7) Talked to a tall thick long haired girl. She was hot. I tried something funny. While i said, "I haven't met you yet" and we got introductions, i flat out obviously looked at her breasts. She says, "Don't be doing that ****" I smile and say, "haha". She goes to the bathroom, kind of walks away. After a few minutes, i notice she keeps looking my way. So then i decide to talk to the male friend she's with, until she returns...then she attempts to get rapport with me asking me my major..i just play it funny...and do the guessing game. After a bit, i can see her opening up, and it turns out...she was the same girl that i had met at the bar the week before whom had a shield but didn't remember me. Looks like i was breaking that shield. She had a great smile and was brightening up whenever we talked about the music that was playing. I then compliment saying, "Wow...u really have a great smile...its great to finally see it" I could tell she melted a bit...but afterward....i think she said the guy she was with was her boyfriend...eventho i seriously doubted it. I even asked them, "So! How'd it all start?" She tells me, "Ur interrogating..." I then tell her, well if u both are dating, the i'd see u be very proud of the "First Day" u both met. And blah blah blah. I didn't really try further, eventho i could've. She didn't resist when my arm was around her. So her interest was prolly pretty good, i just held back to take things further. But its good knowing these things.

The Analysis:
1) At the end of this weekend...i felt satisfied with myself...despite still not **** closing yet. I just felt great Saturday.
2) Friday...i felt down thinking i didn't do well...but now that i think about it...the atmosphere really that great for gaming compared to thurs and saturday...plus only a few of the girls were hot while the others were aright.
3) I learned something that helped me out...gettin the party vibe first then gaming.
4) If a party isn't that good and people are just sitting there, don't think that ur game sucks. Just realize that sometimes parties aren't good and the girls there aren't that good.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

What i've ultimately improved on in these last 9 weeks

Day Game
1) I started doing day game again 5 days ago and ever since i've gotten about 4 numbers from girls i never met and about 4 from girls i saw around before.
2) Was rusty at first but have been doin it more day time approaches more often as times goes on.
3) Partially got over a fear of talking to a girl on a bus, no one cares at all. No one cares of u gaming. I just didn't feel that fear as much as i use to, prolly because of feeling good.
4) Day Game makes me feel alive.
5) If a girl sees me coming or thinking about going up to her, don't move from the side...u just go up to her regardless.

Night Game
What i've improved on. So far, of the 9 weeks of Night Game this semester:

1) I've learned to relax more in the environment and start to improvise opening, with how i feel usually which i think is good because it comes across more natural
2) I've become overall more social with people even further.
3) My Kino has definitely improved.
4) I'm finally starting to attempt to close more. Pretty much 1/10 in terms of kiss closing so far.
5) I've attained a more abundance mentality, when one interaction doesn't work out...just move on to the next girl.
6) I'm plowing more and as a result, the girls have been still talking to me.
7) I'm attempting to isolate girls more
8) Getting a little better at group dynamics.
9) My day game sense and night game sense are both not conflicting with each other as much, they somewhat did in the past, as at night i'd approach a girl like i would at the day but would totally not feel the Night Vibe...i do more so now.
10) I've been following the One More Approach before u leave principle and its funny...the last approach of each night has always typically been the best one.


What I can improve on.

1) To flat out ride the train(Go for a make out when sometimes u don't got the signal)
2) In a group, befriend the fatty or mother hen first then give more attention to the target girl.
3) When a girl rejects u going for the kiss, if she doesn't leave...STAY...when she rejects in the manner of no, it really means, "Not Yet"
4) In some nights, not to drink as much.
5) If a girl u met, says that she's gonna go to her friends, u tell her that u'll meet them.

Got 5 weeks till the end of the semester. I say i'll def get even better, and in that time of 5 weeks that i will pull at night. Got to believe in myself tho.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

For the numbers i got:
2 were flakes.
1 girl was engaged
4 girls haven't replied yet
1 girl responded but never texted back after i was trying to set up plans for me and her to play beer pong at my place.

SOLUTION:
Meet more girls and see what i can improve on for day game!

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Week 10 mini-update

I was sick all week with the stomache virus so i didn't really do day game.
At night game, thursday i was still sick and friday i took the day off.

Saturday, me and a friend of mine went to a frat house of the frat i use to be a brother at, we are still in very good terms. Me and him just dance with a few girls to have a good time. I tried kissing one of the girls, but she declined because of Social Pressure and probably because she was drunk. Overall fun night, not that many girls to go around. Talked to another girl, but her friend tries to drag her away but then the friend sort of gives that Huge IOI look when im having fun with the group of girls i mentioned above. Im thinking part of it is jealousy.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Sticking Point

As you know, so far as some people can see....in my journal...my sticking point has been evident. I've tended to be ****blocked by the Mother Hen and improving calibration for kiss closing.

At first, this frustrated me a good deal but now that i think about it...i'm actually doing a better job with it.

Things to improve on with it.

1) To TRULY be friend the mother hen, have fun with her. Commit to talking to her despite her saying "She's mine(target)" or etc. Just a test, its all it is. Just get in the good graces. Whatever negative thing she says in the beginning, just ignore it or not even bother to answer it. Just continue being friendly and showing that im a good guy. If she's still not responsive, i still flat out go for it with the target anyways. I was being friendly, and if the mother hen still isn't...doesn't matter....i've got nothing to lose at this point. I made my good impression. I've did my part.

2) Do not be afraid of an attempted **** block. Don't hold back because of it. I'm at this stage in the game, which is good, because it shows i've progressed and i've taken the active effort of going out there.

3)Keep attempting to close. Its the only way i'll learn to calibrate and get better.