The Game Continues, my approach journal

[DonJoseCantosie]

Dec 3 Winter Sarging Mall 3:

Alright, today was alot shorter than planned. When i get to the mall, not that many people there. Also, not that many targets. So when i get into target...I do see an asian girl(my age) i give her a 7.8 due to the fact that she had a look i liked(She had brown-blonde highlights in her hair) and a petacure i like. So then i see her looking for clothes, i go up to her, she notices me, have a smile on my face.

Me: " I like you and I want to get to know you
Her: She laughs and smiles and continues to look at her clothes
<We introduce names>
Me: What are you doing at the mall today?
Her: I'm just shopping around...looking for clothes for when i go back to school
<i'm nervous still...but i decide to plow through>
Me: I'm at the mall, but im not quite sure what to buy.
Me:....Oh what school do you go to?
Her: Blah Blah
Me: Ahh...i go to Blah Blah
Her: Really?
Me: Yea....just getting prepped up during then..
Oh...wats ur major?
Her: Biology
Me: <wider smile> Ahh Biology eh? Ms. So and So's gonna be a doctor!
Her: Something like that
Me: Can never do that major.....too much to remembe...
<during the interaction...she was looking at clothes the whole time, and looked at me when i did ask or say something. I'm at a blank right after this, i unfortunately eject rather than persist>

Me: It was great talking to you. Let's hang out sometime.
Her: You have a good one...prolly see you at the mall again.
Me: <gives her phone> Put down ur number and i'll do the rest
Her: <she puts it down> do you want me to save it?
Me: Yea...sure.
Afterwards, i give her a hug and then we part ways.

Lesson Learned:
1) I'm still not relaxed enough in conversation but i did smile more compared to the previous times so that was good despite being nervous. I'm getting there again.
2)I wanted to actually tell her that we should have alone time(Which was my true intention...which i've said before) but i'm cutting myself some slack, instead of just saying hanging out.
3) Despite not knowing how interested she was, i still plowed and decided to # close.
4) Once i'm more relaxed mentally, more interesting conversation will be in my mind.
5) When direct, u go for rapport, since its congruent that after u say i want to meet you...that u do get to know her by asking about her. If she doesn't feel comfortable asking about herself at first, for example: "There's nothing interesting about me" then i just go to a lighter topic of conversation then go deeper again. Not just giving up the interaction.lol.


After this approach, i felt more relaxed....but my eye contact still needs work...when some people look at me...im thinking, "Do they think i'm up to something?" compared to what i use to have in me "I know what they're thinking and they know what i'm thinking ;-)". There were a couple more females who were walking through the mall, i could've stopped by i pussied out after the fact(for a bull**** fear that if they saw me stop and then go up to them...that they'd horribly reject me...even worser bull**** thats never happened).. Next time im at the mall, moving targets.

After 30 minutes of lack of targets, i decide to leave. Tomorrow i'm gonna go back to another mall, but do more approaches since there are more targets. I'm still doing lone girls since its easier for me for now.

 

[qstorm501]

Me: " I like you and I want to get to know you

Now thats DIRECT game. Dude i get a chuckle everytime i read one of your reports. I gotta give you credit for getting out there and the field and going for it.Your already hold a advantage over the vast majority of men out there. .I cant imagine what some of the snobby chicks around here would do if i tried that opening line but hey it just might work due to the boldness of it. Are you trying to lay some of these chicks or looking for a main squeze or just looking to improve your game?

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Definitely lays my friend. For right now, i just want to mess around(if i enjoy the sex, keep having a sexual relationship) but eventually i'd like to be at the stage where eventho im still messing around with random girls, there are certain girls i'd like to spend time with, a.k.a team of girls and each one of them know im seeing someone else(not gonna hide that fact, if one isn't down with that before we pursue further ...NEXT unless its just still full out sexual)Thats the ultimate goal! :-D

 

[Microphone Fiend]

When you went in with a smile on your face, i knew it was a wrap, lol. I'm liking the doctor line and the kino @ the end with the hug. THAT was a smooth approach, quick and to the point! :cheer:

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Jan 6 Winter Sarging Mall 4:

Today I went to sarge with Krazyboy99 and Thaiphoon. The sarge was pretty good i have to say. Krazyboy99 did pretty well doing 6 approaches, Thaiphoon did about 6 as well. Now fellas, on to the day.

I arrive at the mall about to meet up with Krazyboy99 and Thaiphoon, when i meet up with Krazy, i'm feeling nervous...since this was a big step for me again(Haven't done crowded malls in a while) After waiting for Thaiphoon(didn't show up till quite a bit later)...we decide to just sarge already.

#1-Was a girl at Abercrombie. She was hot.
Me: I find you cute and i want to meet you
her: <Receptive>
<we introduce names>
I find out that she works at abercrombie, by just asking her what she's doing at the mall. I then eject

Lesson Learned: She was pretty receptive, its just that i ejected "believing" that i was holding her off from work and that i wouldn't be able to pick her up. Which thats not the case. Most girls are bored at work. it was something new for her. She looked around 17-18


#2 A thick brunette that i liked what i saw, it was in H & M. I go up to her, turn her around. "I find you very very attractive and i want to get to know you". She thinks about it at first, but then says "Sorry im just not interested"

#3 A hot hightlights long haired asian milf looking at the mall directory. I turn her around and tell her, "I find you gorgeous, i have to talk to you" She is caught off guard and blown away by this but then she says after a few seconds, "I'm sorry" and then walks off. It was funny tho after i go back talking to krazyboy99 and Thaiphoon...they tell me she kept looking back at me 4-5 times. I also see around at the mall later, and they suggest i go up to her again. I'm hesitating since i've never done it and it wouldn't matter. But i decide, "hey..i'm feeling good...let's do this" So then as she's looking at phones, i tap on her shoulder(to be funny). I say, "Remember me? " She gives the same reaction as last time. I persist in the conversation this time, but then she's not responding as much. I eject. Funny tho, after that my friends tell me she sees me approach the next few girls.haha.

#4 One of my favorite approaches. i saw a tall skinny redhead who looked like the splitting image of the redhead i definitely want to go up to at radford, except she might've looked even hotter than her. She's walking up the stairs in the hallway, I tell her i find her stunning and that i have to get to know her. She is receptive. Asks my name, i tell her mine. i ask her what she's doing at the mall and she tells me she's about to meet up with her friends. We talk about this a little longer, but then i eject unsure of what to say.

Lesson Learned: Should've atleast gotten for the number and persisted further. She was interested. Today shocked me, each of these women were very good looking and they were receptive.


#5 There was a tied up black haired pretty faced woman exiting the mall. I rush over there and tell her to stop. She looks at me but continues walking but i then say stop again. She smiles and says that she thought i was telling the other girls behind her to stop. I smile and tell her that i found her gorgeous and i wanted to meet her. She was receptive and we introduced each others names. I decided to persist the conversation further after finding out what she was doing at the mall. I ask what i should know about her. She gives a polite smile and ejects.

Lesson Learned: This approach started off well, but then my vibe, the way i was asking her questions, was that of a car salesman...my flaw in the beginning of trying direct last summer.


#6 Another good approach. I see a very hot woman(was in a cosmetics store where there were quite a few other women) As she's looking at some cosmetics, i turn her around and do "You're gorgeous" line. She is very receptive and asks my name. We introduce each other.

Me: Wat you shopping for? Is that eye liner?
Her: Nah, its nail polish
Me: Ahh...u should try pink...its sexy
Her: Yea...i think pink looks good
Me: It really does stand out.
<after a few second>
Me: What are you doing in the area?
her: I go to school to Blah Blah
Me: Oh really?! I go to Blah Blah! Ever heard of that school?
Her: Yea!
<we go on about it for another minute, then the convo stalls>
Me: Aright...i'll let u go. Let's hang out sometime.
Her: Sure
Me: What's ur number?
<she gives it>
Me: I'm gonna call u so u have mine
Her: Aright, but my phone's not with me
Me: Aright, it was a pleasure to meet you

Lesson Learned: My best interaction of the day. I commited to the interaction a bit more and was feeling more relaxed. I wish to not say hang out but i'll get over that hurdle . A good thing i definitely did was


#7 Was a hot blonde that i wanted Krazy and Thaiphoon to approach, but they didn't want to. I then decide to go in.

Its a female clothing store(Linen)

She's looking at clothes. I turn her around...she is taken back but is pretty receptive. At first she thought i was one of the employees there(since the alarm sounded)We go into conversation about why she's there at the mall, etc. Ask about her, etc. After 2 minutes, i then try to get her number of that we should get drinks together, but she
says that although i was bold, that she was too taken back by it. I then tell her it was a pleasure, and i wave to her bye.

Lesson Learned: She was definitely dazzled by this approach, she was just very taken back by it. I think the reason why some of the women were receptive was because i was smiling...which they could feel more relaxed as other times when im not smiling...i don't get positive responses. I could've kept the interaction going and persisted more to meet up with her. But hey, i'm glad im being more committed.


#8 While me and Krazyboy are about to call it a day, he notices a Tall black haired woman with glasses. She was hot. She was looking at high heel shoes.

Me: "I find you stunning and i have to meet you"
<She is dazzled by this approach and keeps looking at Krazyboy, who was sitting down watching me, in like "Is this really happening?">
She asks my name, and i get hers
I comment on the shoes she's buying
Me: I take it you like high heels
Her: Yea
Me: In my opinion, i don't think women really need to add a few inches, they're height is perfectly fine the way it is. But they do define their legs better.
Her: <She hears me out and is smiling, but says that she still likes to look a little taller.>
Me: What else are you doing at the mall?
Her: I'm here with my friend
Me: OH, where is she?
Her: She's right over there.
Me: I don't see her
Her: There she is. But we're both taken
Me: Thats fine...i still enjoyed our interaction.
<the friend comes and i introduce myself to her, her friend is friendly to me>
I then part ways.

Lesson Learned I did much better here, but i should've addressed "her" instead of women in general. I did things better here as well, i was much more relaxed and kept a friendly and optimistic vibe. I smiled also, which relaxed her. In terms of vibe i got from her, she seemed like a high quality woman and she was(Girls who are very attractive who also wear glasses give me that feeling).

#9 This was earlier during the day.

Was a woman whom had sweatpants on and was very attractive from behind. was in the hall area. I follow her(speedwalk) and turn her around. She is taken back a bit but i smile and open her that she was very attractive. Her body language showed that she was 'about' to leave, but she stayed when i kept talking. The interaction was short(I stayed with the opening) i forgot what we talked about but then she ejected right afterward.

Lesson Learned: I learned something also here today. If a girl looks like she's about to leave, DO NOT GIVE UP THE INTERACTION, it just means that she's taken back and wants to escape that feeling, but when ur calmer, relaxed and appear happy...she'll be actually a bit more receptive to staying.


The Last approach I forgot

Analysis:
All in all, i have to be perfectly honest. The best sarging day i've ever had in my entire life. I was nervous as hell at first, but got more relaxed as time goes on. i'm happy i approached the women i only wanted to approach, which must've shown on my face. I'm glad i've stuck with direct, despite having doubts in the past when getting rejected left and right in the begging. Just the power and effect of direct is why im still with it, i truly do believe that i can succeed with it... i just got to keep going.

Next time at the mall, i'm gona do the last 9 "Effort" approaches in Gunwitch's plan. After these, i will move on to the "Relax" approaches. I persist more and more in these interactions. The hardest ones will definitely be the persistent ones where u only leave when u get a flat out no.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Jan 7 Winter Sarging Mall 5:

Went to the mall again and it wasn't as packed but still had hot targets. I joined up with Krazyboy99 again but Ic3man was here this time. On to the approaches.

#1-turn an asian woman around who was on her cell phone(I doubt i would've done it w/o them telling me to). She Said politely she was married

#2-Was a woman who i had to follow. I had to say "Stop" like 4 times before she would hear me. I open her. She smiles and says "I think not" She looked good, had midlength hair, glasses, look hispanic. Prolly late 20s, early 30s.

Lesson Learned: Rejections like these haven't bothered me as much.

#3-Was a short haired skinny blonde woman whom we met eye contact with each other. I'm not usually into short haired girls but this woman was hot. I turn her around after i get off the escalator. She smiles and we exchange names. I find out she is dutch and is only here for a little while on visa, she is a cosmetic artist...who was doing stuff with Macy's. I talked with her about 3 minutes about it, and how she likes it. I got a very good vibe from her and we both were relaxed. Had a great smile too. She said that she had to go(she had to do stuff for work at the store) I then tell her, "We can have some drinks together" She said sure, and gave me her number.

Lesson Learned: I was more relaxed this time and my eye contact was much better. I was actually taking to her eyes.

#4 A tall all gorgeous bodied Blonde with black highlights in the bottom. I see her right across from me in the hallway, and do the Stop Hand Motion. She looked like she was about to leave, BUT after 3 seconds she stayed. I tell her she's gorgeous and that i have got to meet her. She lights up and we introduce each other. I feel no resistence at all from her, and she was giving me her full attention. I find out she's German(shocked to find another foreign girl at the mall) and that she lived in the city. I wasn't sure if she could understand me the full way, but it seemed that she liked talking. During the interaction(We just talked about where we're from)...she was laughing at times and i believe i swore once just to be funny, was a good interaction. I felt pretty relaxed in it and she did too. I then after 3 minutes decide to get her contact information. But before that she asks me where CVS is, i show her, and then she asks me, "Did u still want my number?" I say sure and then we get it. We hug each other and this girl actually did a full hug(other girls do it from the side) and i depart.

lesson Learned: My eye contact was even better in this one, and i seemed more relaxed. I think, since i smile, that it gets them relaxed and shows im non-threatening. Also, she seemed pretty receptive...even shocked she is getting approached randomly.

#5-See an asian woman holding some langerie underwear she bought, in the hall. I turn her around, she is surprised. I'm about to open but she says "Not understand english " lol. She was aright looking after looking at her from the front.

The rest of the approaches were either "I'm taken" or that they didn't look as good as from the back. I did do a group approach, with ic3man. The target girl acted neutral but we could sense that she had interest, but held back due to what her friend would think. Its why i like lone girls, they don't have to hold back. But i'd definitely gonna do group in the future when i get solo girls down first.

Oh yea, i forgot to mention. When we were in Krazyboy's car about to take a break(waiting for ic3man to come back out), i see a woman walking. I'm like "DAMN!"(Thinking she had a sexy body) but then as i see her clearly, i'm like "BLAHHH!" i had no idea our window was down and i felt bad to ruin her day like that(She heard us i think). But to be honest, she wasn't UGLY its just not as hot as i thought.haha.


Analysis:
1) Today imo i did even better than the day before
2) I have officially suprassed myself from during the summer. I can now start to commit more in interactions.
3) I have completed mission 1 of gunwitch. Now on to Mission 2: Approach 25 women when ur relaxed.
4) As time and time goes on, i'm gonna stay longer in sets. My ultimate goal is not to get the number but go beyond that.
5) I'm gonna keep going. I'm gonna stay consistent.
6) Still need to experience some night game as its a different beast.
7) Glad Krazyboy99 did his first direct approach, and glad ic3man is still doing well!
9) I'm happy i only go for girls i truly want to go up to.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

The first two numbers i got weren't real(were flakes i imagine). The other two, i haven't gotten a response from yet.

Jan 9 Winter Sarging Mall 6:

Today i decided to go solo at one of the closer malls.
Today was the start of Mission 2 For Gunwitch.
Its funny...today at home i was feeling edgy and couldn't stop walking around of the excitement i felt to get out there. I was shocked i was making this good progress, blew my mind.

5 of the approaches the woman was either really on a rush, or was taken. These were the good ones.

#1-Stop a moving japanese girl whom was walking my direction. She was shocked, and shy...but was showing IOIs off the bat. Had a thickness i liked and pale skin i really love. She kept flickering her hair every now and then. I decided to talk about japanese and how my brother knows some of it. Also teased her a bit about me seeming like a salesman.lol. She was pretty receptive and was smiling, eventho shy. I talked with her about 7 minutes. She stayed talking to me, and eventho she said she was about to leave...she didn't. She stuck there. I told her that we could spend some time together before I left back to school. She said sure and gave me her number.

Lesson Learned: I def improved in this interaction. My non-verbal is getting better(I seem much more relaxed in interactions and things are coming on the fly). I'm happy i'm sweeping these girls off their feet, i never thought it was possible so long ago.


#2 Was a girl on the opposite escalator. I went down mine, and went up to hers. She was in front of me. I turn her around and tell her, "I saw you up there, and i had to come talk to you " She was taken back at it and caught off guard but was smiling. I definitely could tell she was a bit nervous, since this wasnt what she was use to. After we got off the escalator after talking with her a bit, i walked with her till we got to the store she needed to go to. I just asked her which school she went to, but i kept a warm vibe which was wat's important. She seemed a bit more relaxed as time went on, eventho she was still tense. But i got her number before she left.

Lesson Learned: I persisted a little more, and eventho she was still taken back...she was starting to relax more. She might've been concerned if her mom saw her, since I see her walking with her mom later on.


Analysis:
1) Afterwards, i felt a bit down due to lack of more hot targets.lol. The hottest one i went up to was taken unfortunately, but atleast she brought it up after 2 minutes in the interaction rather than much later on.
2) There was a very attractive black haired woman at Express i could've gone up to but she was in line and it intimidated me a little bit as i subconsciously felt it would be weird right before she was to pay for something(Which is BS. who cares)
3) I'm more relaxed in convo, but i think i could decrease telling the girl jokingly "Its ok...relax " no need to say it that much. But hey, they don't mind
4) Not really intimidated to approach milfs anymore(when i first tried direct, got rejected by them quite often) But this has passed.
5) Still got to stay consistent. I can't falter. I need to keep taking action atleast 3 times at week when i return back to school in a few days. Right now, im just doing it much more often.
6) Partially got over my subconscious fear of approaching a girl who just saw me approach another girl. Weirdly she didn't even know.


Tomorrow i'm gonna do somemore mall game once again and will be out at the club with Krazyboy99 and Ic3man and hopefully Friday Night, The club solo.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Jan 10 The Club:

I go with Krazyboy99 and Ic3man again. I see them at the club.

#1-Was a 2 set. See a quiet area of the club(entrance). Was a curly haired latino girl. I do the "I like you" approach, she's neutral but friendly. I ask her if she's from Bolivia but she says colombia. I run out of things to say after that. Was pretty much a warm up approach.

#2-Was a cute latina girl again(Had an 8 face and looked like a white girl at my school). She's walking somewhere, i turn her around...but right when im midsentence about to finish my direct line, she walks away.

#3-See another latina girl(So many of them in clubs in DC), she's dancing. I turn her around, she smiles but says she has a boyfriend before i can say something to her.

#4-Another latina girl on stage. I come up facing her, i say "hi" with a smile. But she doesn't respond to it.

LESSON LEARNED: Say you're direct line afterward. Don't give up if they don't respond after hi.

#5-Was a blonde girl who was with her friends. She was pretty cute(7.5) and was very receptive to my direct approach. We introduce ourselves and then she says that she's about to dance. I tell her, "lead the way" and she does. While we're heading over there, she looks back to see if i'm behind her and we do our thing. Unfortuantely i didn't persist further(we did have some tid bits of conversation) and after the dancing was over, she tells me she's gonna have an all girl dance with the girls. I unfortunately don't continue to persist, i just say "I'll prolly see u again tonight " She said "Ok: -)"

LESSON LEARNED: She def was receptive. When i curled my fingers with hers, she didn't resist when i let her "lead" me to the dance floor. What i could've done was just keep the interaction going but its my second time at a club ever, so im cutting myself some slack. This was a situation i should've taken things further...its wat she wanted i bet.


#6-Was a girl walking in front of her friends, i turn her around and i tell her, "You can't leave yet ;-)" I forget what her reaction was but her respond was more on the polite side and she walked away.

#7-Was a pretty faced Indian girl(Drawn to them for the weirdest reasons). She's with a latina girl. I turn her around and tell her, "I like you i want to meet you " the girl smiles and giggles. Her friend interrupts me, "Time to go/Go away :-S" I look at her friend, smile, and go facing right back at the target girl and continue talking to her. Then the convo, after 15 seconds..hits a silence. The friend again is like, "Go away :-S" I then tell her, "hey that's rude " She then says "Bye Bye", i then smile, stick my tongue out and leave. But after that both girls were looking repeatedly at me, while im back with my friends. The target girl for the most part was. I did say goodbye to her and she smiled and said bye with enthusiam.

Lesson Learned: I'm glad i persisted in there and didn't cower down to the mother hen. I could've persisted even further after the 3 seconds of silence...but meh its all good. Maybe the mother hen was jealous or something i dunno

#8-Was a HB8 white/latina mix girl. One of the best looking at the night. This was one of my first approaches. From what i see she's in the middle of a 4 person crowd and i go right up to her. I smile and say "HI! " She says "HI " We hug each other and i kiss her on the cheek. We introduce ourselves and i meet her friend. When conversation begins, she easily gets bored, cuz i lulled again.

Lesson Learned: When i approached directly in the beginning, she was very interested but then it just plummeted when convo started. I think i could've done more kino/been more dominant physically in the beginning. Thats what she wanted most likely, not much conversation.

Analysis:
1) First time at a club in DC for a while.
2) Shocked that some of these girls were stuck up and it was funny, they weren't even that hot compared to the ones in the previous club i went to, who weren't as much
3) Latina Girls flock DC Clubs!
4) Now that i realize it, i should use my surroundings at the start of the conversation. I didn't much. Thats why i faltered.
5) I hesitated some approaches as i assumed rejection(despite not feeling nervous) but im glad i tried anyway.
6) I'll definitely do better tomorrow
7) Sexual State's gotta go up
8) I didn't go for the digits because i didn't see a point in it really as i doubt i was gonna see them again even we made plans. I'm leaving very soon back to school.
9) Club was very loud so we couldn't really hear each other.


I learned a hell of alot tonight. I gotta touch a girl more and interactions, notice the environment and that way..u'll naturally be able to talk more about things. I did good openings imo, just that when the interactions began...they faltered. No worries, lets see what tomorrow day and night brings :-D

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Jan 11 The Other Club:

I decide to go to this one solo and it was much harder for me than i thought.
I decided to look in the mirror to see my

First approach i got blown out at the bar, but it was because she saw me before hand standing at the bar and after taking 3 minutes to gather the courage, i appear with a fake smile. She shakes her head. I felt hesitant to approach for a bit, cuz i thought the same thing would happen again. But good thing i told myself not to give up, despite wanting to call it a night. I decide to chat with one or two people to get in a talk mood. The next two approaches i went direct with two girls who had thick bodies i liked ;-)

1st of the two:

Me: Direct line
Her: <can't hear me>
Me: <flick her hair back...and talk in her ear>
<we get introduced>
Here's been my sticking point...
Me: Is it your first time here?
Her: Oh no!
Me: Really?! Its my first time here!
Her: I've been here quite a bit
<i let her and her friends take a picture, i could've been in the middle of it if i just went in there>
A male friend of hers shows up, excited to see her. To not be left out of the conversation, i introduce myself to him and he's cool. We talk for 30 seconds and then i shift back to her.
Me: Tell me about yourself...wat should i know about you?
Her: OH...<thinking> I don't really like talking about myself
Me: oh there's got to be something.
<The conversation stalls and i just eject>

Lesson Learned: Interacting at the club, new experience to get through. Day game im much more confident but thats how i interacted with her of. I got to adjust myself to the high energy. I want to figure out how to have a fun/party vibe for the club...but its not that easy for me. I decided not to drink alcohol tonight.

The other approach started out the same, and ended the same except that there was no male friend around.

The last two were bleh ones.

Analysis:
1) I may have set my expectations too high there
2) I looked serious in the face(it was tense) walking around and i wasn't relaxed...despite not feeling that much anxiety. But i did smile in approaches.
3) I gave up too fast. I wanted to approach ten but lost motivation after #5.
4) I couldn't feel horny or have a sexual state...which im tryin to have
5) I can't quite seem to have my usual relaxed self in this environment compared to day game. It puzzles me how guys do better in this environment than the former?
6) Funny how some girls have their shields up more at night than the day. .
7) I didn't quite observe my surroundings/her again. I could've commented on something of what she was doing, wearing, etc.


But all in all, im still glad i stuck through it today. Sure i didnt' feel as good as i wanted to, but hey...u have ur good days and ur meh days. I just got to practice, practice, practice in this environment.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

OH yea, forgot to mention. I could've gone for the closes BUT I guess i didn't care for them since i leave very shortly back to school.

I could've TRIED but hey...i'll do that more back at school in a couple of days.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Went to the two different bars(one was a sports bar, the other was Ultra Bar...a very big bar)

Here's the main summary:

Went with about 10 guys, but we each split up and did our own thing

I'm feeling lazy to right a field rapport, i'll just sum it up here:

Jan 11 The Sports Bar and Big High Energy Bar:

1) Lost count of how much i approached...but this did help me get more relaxed in the night
2) I rarely got blown out direct opening...so thats good. Only a few girls were like, "not interested"
3) My rapport has improved. I did wat Thornspawn suggested and it really did help. They contributed more to the conversation and it was more to talk about.
4) I started to see the "Party" vibe i truly had...which i definitely want to achieve at these situations.
5) Approached a hot black haired russian woman. She looked much younger. Direct went really well with her, but after a few minutes....I still kept talking to both her and her friend and should've isolated her.
6) Had a very good interaction with this good looking Pakistani girl, we both had good kino...she laughed at what i had to say most of the time...felt no resistance...but was distracted as she wanted to meet her friend. I even took her by the hand and led her to the downstairs area to look for. I did unfortunately show neediness afterwards by following her and her friend somewhat after she re-metup with her(I subconsciously didn't want the interaction to end there...so i thought i was "persisting") It was my fault for not kissing her sooner. She had enough IOIs as it was and i wanted to. I definitely have to get over that fear if i'm gonna get the sex life i want and to be able to **** girls from that environment.
7) At some moments i felt down in the dumps, but i rethought my motivation and it got me back in there.
8) Two hot persian girls i went up to, they were receptive but i thought the guy who was next to them would be an AMOG...so i introduced myself to him for a minute...but it turned out..he didn't know them...and they were gone as i talked too long.lol.
9) Some girls looked at me while i was walking(some i wanted to go up to) but i had this subconscious fear that they would see me as an "Attempt" to pathetically hit on them, so for some i just did "Excuse me" to walk past them, but did go back around to them. This was only a few of them though and it was obvious bull****....as why would they look at u for more than a second?
10) This hot blonde girl is giving me e/c as she's dancing, i decide to grind with her as well...turns out she's swedish. Wasn't easy talking to her as we were in the center of the loud music. She's receptive, I could've been more committed, but her best friend kept trying to prevent me from grinding with her after(girl dance only)...but i decided to stay in...and she eased off for a bit...but then did it again.
11) A couple of girls gave me the response when i opened them, "I'm a lesbian" but one of them admitted that she lied to due to feeling "overwhelmed" by my approach and we got to talk more but obstacles prevented it from going further...while the other didn't say she lied and was walking away( i opened her as she was walkign) but as i kept talking....she stayed and was more receptive. It was too loud for me and her to hear, the convo just died off there.
12) This black dressed short blonde girl who i stop hand motion approached. Was pretty receptive to it, and sought rapport. Ask questions about me, but it was too loud that neither of us could hear. I def could've isolated her to a quieter area.
13) So much went on this night that it was exhilitaring and fun!
14) The club was very diverse, thus all races were there...which was great because i like girls of all races! But there were quite a few persians and indian girls and they traveled in packs, but def wanted to get seduced that night.


All in all, i've done what i could this winter break to prepare for going back to school. I feel much better about gaming, and i believe i've definitely improved to where results are closer within my reach. Just got to stay consistent with this and i'll be fine.

 

[Vega(Aus)]

Your FR's are great DJC, inspiring stuff.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Thanks Vega(Aus)...i appreciate it man!

Here's an update. I've only done three day approaches these last few weeks. The first one was the first day i went back to school. Was a hot small blonde cheerleader. I directed her and her reaction was on the more receptive side, but she was waiting for her friends to eat with her. During that time, i really only had small talk with her. The last two approaches were mainly just to not get rusty.

Fear...
False Evidence Appearing Real. I know that word way too well. Ever since i've been at college, i've always had hope i would get the sex life i wanted. Its the reason i have been going so far(1 1/2 years of taking action, 3 years of trying to get laid) But one thing has stood in the way that prevented me from hooking up as much as i could've. FEAR. For the past year, i always wondered, "Why is hooking up so hard for me at parties?" For the longest time, i've wondered that. When i was in a frat and not. Then i've finally realized...im afraid to truly try to escalate.

Hell, last night there were girls "waiting" to be seduce at both parties I went to, and some gave me e/c invitations...hell one introduced herself to me and kept making flirting eye contact for me to come over when she sat down playing cards. I did come over, but i just sat next to her w/o saying a word. I was afraid to take that risk...even tho i was drunk and didn't expect there to really be girls there(Super bowl party, how did i know? haha)

I also saw a guy go game her, and i didn't want to be a ****block as i hated it when it was done to me, but then i realized sometimes u just have to be selfish....plus he did mediocre at best with her anyhow.

But what did i do? I held back and didn't full out try due to the fear of embarrasment if everyone saw me fail horribly. I asked myself, "Why can't i say something? Why am i so tense?" I already knew what to say, i was just tense and afraid to give it a full out shot.

Alcohol did worsen the situation, i was way too tense without it. Its also weird, i'm more relaxed at a club not drinking alcohol than a party where i feel i need to. I know that it has to do with my outcome orientation. At a club and day, all i care about is improving in the game....hence im not as frustrated there as a party...where all i care about is getting laid and i tend to "drink" to loosen up much more.

I always thought it was all other factors, but i have ultimately realized...its the fear of being rejected based off of escalation. Its funny...most guys are more afraid of getting rejected by an approach than escalating with a female at a party...while i'm the direct opposite. None of the fears in my head really caused harm when i faced them head on. I actually grew from it.

It really does spark something in me when i see a guy make out with a girl....and that i am too afraid to do the same...if its not hard for him why should it be for me?

I've had quite a bit of revelations of my sticking points, but this is the one hurdle i need to get through and its the only way i'll win in this. It frustrated me so much that i couldn't get over this fear and u know whats funny? I've been rejected escalating before and I was fine.

If i'm tense at a party and run out of things to say...i just need to plow and just say "anything" out of the top of my head rather than stay way into my thoughts. Hell i already know what to say...i just got to limit the alcohol in that kind of venue and just feel relaxed. I know deep down that i have a lot of potential with the game, but the only way to get there is to take a risk and not look back.

After hearing Microfiend and J0n been doing hooking up as of lately, its good hearin his progress has done well. I also can do better! Looks like i'll be updating more often. Also, at parties...i can only drink 2 beers max. I have to suck up the tense feeling.

 

[cyp6]

Hey people...here's Tuesday's approaches:

At class, there was a nice to look at blonde that gave me positive eye contact after saying hi to her one day. But every other time i was in class, the seats next to her was filled. Today I wanted to game her but once again, the seats next to hers were filled...plus when class was over...she left pretty quickly.

But here's what happens further:

#1 Was at an eating lounge and I see a cute brunette who smiles at me, in a shy way, I raise my head and give her a smile while i'm ordering food. After I get my drink, I go up to her and she seems shocked that I went up to her. I tell her, "Hi...i would like to meet you B-)" She smiles shyly again and says "hi" I ask her what she's getting, she says "Blah Blah" I tease her about not eating healthy and that everyone these days should be eating their veggies. She asks my name and I tell her Steve. After I tell it to her, theres a second of silence(Transitioning after direct is what im working on) I look at her smiling and she's smiling to but actually ejects from me. HAHA...could be she was flustered that I went up to her.

#2 As I leave the lounge...I see a group of 3 girls eating among themselves. I go up to them and eat with them. For most of the conversation, i'm just working on my social skills...groups have been a bit difficult for me to generate attraction for the girl i want. There were two girls of whom i thought were pretty cute....but i just talked with them about what they were talking about and then a guy joined us and i talked with him a bit, he was pretty cool. I actually learned partially from the guy of what i could gain from the game....talk about exciting of urself. He told the girls about how he was doing astrology stuff and what not...they seemed pretty intrigued and i learned something. He did most of the talking and I just observed. An all around cool guy. After he left, the girls stayed for another minute and left. They were pretty receptive.

I felt a good deal of confidence after those 2 approaches, that i then see a blonde with her hair tied with a brunette girl and a guy...but two people are talking to them.

#3 I see the guy thats talking to them and i ask him if he plays tennis. He laughs and says that everyone confuses him with the british guy who plays for the tennis team. I then transition over to them but they were about to leave, but i remember them...i sat and ate with them before.haha.

I go to the library and do some more approaches

#4 See a brunette girl with glasses look at me with positive eye contact, but i didn't go up to her at first....partially because there was a guy in my class that i perceived had high value than me at the library react negatively of me trying to game a chick(In reality...he didn't care) Was just in my mind. But after...i just ask her where the printer is and what she's studying.

#5 See a hot dark brunette on the computer playing solitaire. In Sosuave ratings, i give her an 8.5. Very Pretty Face with freckles, good chest and nice ass...she was a girl i remember who was on the phone giving me positive eye contact while we were on the bus months ago. I wanted to go up to her at the time, but she was on the phone. So then i walk toward her with my Body Language as if i'm about to walk somewhere and I ask her, "Wat are you playing?" She says, "Spider Solitaire" I ask her, "Is it like reverse solitaire?"

She explains to me for a minute...and all i could tell was that she had a good personality. It was pretty easy to connect with her. Had looks and personality. She had a great vibe to her. Definitely my type. It was pretty easy to talk to her. I also tell her about how we both live in the same apartment complex and how the partying isn't what it use to be. She gave me a few good IOIs...but i could tell they were genuine. I teased her for being a procastinator and how i'm the perfect distraction for her...she laughed and was acting a bit sarcastic. It was funny, she had a similar personality to myself. She tells me she's passionate about dancing, some hip hip but that she doesn't get to do much of it anymore. I tell her that she could be the perfect teacher...i always wanted to get good at Darren's Dance Grooves .haha. She is very receptive the whole time, but she says that she has to start a paper that she's held off. I ask her what her plans are during the weekend and she says she'd most likely be studying. I tease her again saying that I bet she'd wait till the last minute as usual and she says sarcastically, "Oh u read me like a book ;-)" haha. I tell her im about to go but i would like to talk to her somemore, and tell her she's a very interesting chick(maybe girl could've worked better)...and ask her if there's a way to reach her. She says facebook and i ask her, "Facebook?" She says, "Yea...its a form of contact. There's always a phone number"

I tell her, "Better yet...I WOULD like to get your phone number
I was being persistent with getting it from her(She knew i was trying to get her number)...even mentioning there was a date party for my frat coming up, but she tells me in a honest way that she has a boyfriend and that she is dedicated to him. I tell her its a shame, as we both connected real well.She says that things might change the next semester...and who knows what will go on then. So we part ways.

I got a very good vibe from this girl and is one of the few girls i've met at my university that i felt i could truly connect with at the start.

#6 See a girl on the top floor reading a book as i'm trying to find the printer in the library and i ask her what she's reading and she tells me, "Interor Design" stuff with a smile. I smile and say, "Ahhh...perfect....u can design my house for me...free of charge of course...since u know me" she laughs and says that its what she's gonna do. I also mention that it must be stressful in the labs and how Interor Design Majors are pretty mean people once they're stuck in there. She says that its true and she tries to stay away from the lab. We introduce ourselves.....she then keeps looking for the time...so i ASSUMED that she wanted to continue studying, while in reality, i just had to be more persistent and keep talking to her. I tell her that I would let her finish what she was doing. I believe i made her day as well.

#7 I go back to bottom floor where my things were and notice an asian girl looking at Que cards. She looks at me and gives me a quick smile. I go up to her and tell her, "I like you and i want to meet you" She's also very receptive...even showing me music notes...actually teaching me what they are. I get a very very good conversation with her, and are able to connect with her of how i want to play Saxophone and that it would take a lot of work. She helps me out by telling me where i can register for the class. We talk for almost 30 minutes about how we know the same person, what her passions are(Singing), how she's busy and can't party much as she wants to, what her plans are in the future, etc. I get some kino in as she shows me her sunburn on her higher back...i actually touch it and caress it for a second and she doesn't flinch or anything...lets me touch it.

She then says that she has to go to the Music Department Building to study so then I tell her, "it was great meeting you. You are easy to talk to...I would like to talk to you again" She was very friendly the whole time and was relaxed and had a great smile. She tells me, "You have to work to get my number ;-)" "Awww...c'mon babe....if u don't call this work i don't know what to call it" hahaha. She laughs and says that it'll take more time before I get her number. She says, "All guys want is just a number " I say, "Yes...i too am a guy...but I want YOUR number...because its best than AIM or facebook" She says that when we hang out...then she could give me her number. I tell her "Aright...i hold u to that ;-)"


Good day of approaches at the library, felt a good surge. Direct worked pretty well there...didn't do anything wrong in particular with the last few approaches went well. These girls were easy to talk to and wanted to talk.

What I improved on:
1) Did direct at the library
2) Am getting rid of the excuse in my head of being rude interrupting a girl studying
3) Found that there are girls that you can connect with and yes...they can be hot as well

I am very impressed, you have balls, 99% at uni dont have balls to cold approch. grats.. Heres is some thing that has helped me in the past at getting the number all the time, that might help you. Next time you ask for a number put in it a form of a command instead of request... Try whats your number? Give me your #, or put your number in! The easiest one is to hand a girl the phone its like a non verbal command... and thanks for journal support man... were about the same age... Ill keep checking on your progress.. Your FR cool to read

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Hey man thanks for the feedback. Yea...i do the "command"/hand phone thing now...my # closing def needed work at the time but i've improved it ever since. But yea, i'll check up on yours too. Good luck!

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School Again: Week 1 Night 1: Pseudo-Club

Today was the first time i went to the biggest bar near my university solo. It was officially only my 3rd time ever going to a club alone. Was a new experience for me at my uni. Also, i made a vow.."No Alcohol until near the end of the night"

Let me just say it was packed. About 1/2 the people there i've met before, just girls i never gamed before. Saw a good amount of people i met. I would have to say my interaction skills have improved. I am better able to comment on the environment after opening, which i had trouble interacting period in the past since doing direct.

I"ll just go into the main approaches:

#1 First girl i got introduced to by friends i talked with. She said her name, i couldn't hear her. She said she wouldn't acknowledge me. I just stood there dumbfounded. She looked at me as i stood still.

Lesson Learned: I could've told her straight up, hey...its loud and im trying to make sure i remember it. But i did hold my ground a bit afterward.


#2 Was a girl who went past me that i saw before, i decide to turn her around. Just open with "Do you remember me?" From what i recall she didn't. We introduced each other but her body language was in the manner of still wanting to walk away. I think it showed in my face that i wasn't confident that she stayed, hence then she left.


#3 Was a thin very good looking blonde with two black friends who were sitting next to her. I do the "stunning" opener, she's receptive...i tell her that im gonna sit next to her...and she lets some space over. After introductions, she's showing receptiveness and i go into the environment(wat i was lacking before)...and then managed to get into some kind of rapport. Yea, we talked about movies...but hey...its a start. She did say she was goin to a party later(I believe i could've went with them)...so then after 5 minutes...she says her and her friends are gonna dance. I decide to go with them, but on the dance floor....i am intimidated to dance with all 3 of them for "fear" that i'd get rejected from it or look bad.

Lesson Learned: Improved interacting in this kind of environment so thats good


#4 Was another blonde, had a hot face...slim. Did the "Stunning" opener.
Receptive as well. She was with her brunette friend. To remember her name i point on my head 3 times and say afterward, "Aright...i believe i can remember it now" haha. Was into convo with her and her friend for a couple of minutes. They then decide to do a request for a song. They ask me which one i like, "The way i are" but it was done. I "Gave up" the interaction as i believed the girl lost interest.

Lesson Learned: I didn't quite get into rapport nor i touched the girl at all.

#5 Was a girl i met two years previous...but sadly after getting introductions...a friend of mine comes up to me and talks to me. haha. I didn't want to be rude, but then the girl left. I was like, "unintentional ****block again? haha"

Later in the night was sitting and talked with one of my roommates good friends. She was a girl i tried to hook up with in the past, but due to when im drunk(i tend to be more afraid of doing things than sober weirdly)...i didn't quite escalate. She said she was tired and wanted to go home(with the friends she was with).I then told her that i would like to come with her after the friends are gone. She rejected it. I told her, "Hey....least the brother went for it.haha" She's aright looking tho.

Afterwards i ran out of steam(was tired walking around, had to piss like every 15 minutes do to drinking like 10 cups of sprite), and just decided to dance, decide to try to atleast go for a last minute chance at a hook up..tried to game a drunker girl(my philosophy is...if she's drunk...get as drunk as her) so then i decided that now it was ok to drink alcohol. She talked close to my hear, etc...i talked close to hear too and stuff. She talks about shots and im asking her and her friend, "Oh...you want me to buy them?" They're like "Yea" I tell them "But i got to like u guys first..i can't just give them away like that "

They had a shocked/disbelief face.haha. After a minute, she says she has to go to the bathroom and that she wants me to wait for her. When she came back, i saw her put her purse on her shoulder...so i thought she was just leaving and ask them. they don't really say a flat out yes, but that they'd be leaving in a little bit. I solude but it turns out they weren't going anywhere. In my mind, i was thinking that her friend would prevent me from being able to hook up with her, hence why i believe i held back in the interaction from her. Plus i gave up too fast.

But what really gave me a thought was that i saw people making out, and im wondering "Wow...is it this hard for me to do well here? Is it that much easier for people?"

But then i've realized that sure...maybe with alcohol its much easier for them than me...but then im not drinking any alcohol and just have to take that risk of escalation...which then my eyes will open and that true array of confidence will show. You could say the route im taking is more difficult than most people but i believe it'll be the most rewarding. I decide to walk home before it ended.

Analysis:
1) 1/2 the people there were people i've seen before
2) I think i got social proof when people saw me go up to girls and that i knew quite a bit of people
3) After the night, i saw a cute girl with glasses walking across campus...we had good rapport...got her number...she told me to talk to her anytime.
4) I've improved my mindset. Before, i would feel frustrated that i could've done better...but since i wasn't drunk and realized im just there to get where i need to be...im doing fine for not doing the club scene that much.
5) The more i practice, the better i'll get. If i keep doing this, at this rate...i believe i'll get there.
6) Showed Fear at the dance floor...that i'd be rejected and people would see. Hence i didn't really dance where i could've.
7) With a couple of girls i saw from last week's party...even if they rejected me dancing...they still seemed like they wanted to talk...i just had to stick i n there...rather than believe i messed, which i prolly didn't.
8) Asking the girls questions about themselves is something i'll work on next time. Including, more kino, less talking and then doing riskier convo.

One could wonder, "Jose...u've been at this for a year and a half. hasn't it been frustrating u seem to stay at the same point for that amount of time."

The answer, yea...it was for a while. I've wanted to quit now and then, due to it taking longer compared to some others on here. But i've realized that i have to keep going and to say consistent(my flaw in this journal, lack of consistency in approaching). Despite not being able to enjoy the sex life i've wanted for so long, this lesson has teached me that once i do achieve it...i'll really appreciate all that i've done. But also, im not at the same point...maybe a similar sticking point but not the exact same point.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School Again: Week 2 Night 2-3: Party Time

Friday Night

Went to a party. Was mainly a sausage fest. Did go up to one brunette girl with glasses, told her i found her cute and that it must've been the glasses and that im one of the rare cases of guys who like girls with glasses. Her body was meh. It was borderline average and maybe a couple extra pounds, but her cleavage was good. I give her around a 7. I actually managed to have rapport with her a bit here and there for ten minutes and did kino more this time. This was outside. I was cold(my hands were freezing) so i wanted to go inside. I tried to isolate...but she declined and gave the excuse "I don't want to leave my friend behind" but her friend was talking to another guy. So i took it that she either loss interest or whatever. I think i did fine. So i decided to not persist further as she wasn't budging. I don't want to have to do all the work the entire time, the girl has got to atleast say something to help keep things going, eventho she showed signs of interest by flickering her around like every minute(i'm good at sensing IOIs tho). She was visiting with her friend.

I also wanted to game other girls that came to our parties, but some were to the point that they were waaaay too drunk or were around in one million places or were meddling in drama.



Saturday Night

Went a pajama/lingerie party. My god quite a few cute girls there and quite a bit had nice cleavage at the party. I was drinking for a minute meeting people. Saw a really cute brunette girl with glasses(I'm really into them). I go up to her, introduce myself...but she believes that im just saying hi to everyone. I was able to improve the interaction(commented on her snowboots with wearing boxers and a wifebeater). She was self conscious about her outfit and said she looked like a tool.

I totally def could've talked sexual here
I could've looked down at her cleavage and looking at her eyes telling her, "Oh really...that outfit is toolish? I really dunno about that ;-)" But instead i just said it doesn't seem that toolish. I think i touched her once and i forget how else the convo went, but then she talked to one of the frat bros afterward. So i just talked to my friends again. Then when she was alone again, i decided to continue interacting with her, but it still wasn't that seductive and she left to do stuff again with the other brothers.

Lesson Learned: Since its a party, more kino and having her talk is wat you got to do Also i saw one of the pledges in the frat kiss her so i thought it was pointless but she did look at me when i was standing just watching wat everyone was doing, and talking to my buds. But we did have a good convo. We were laughing and all that

Afterwards, was a short haired, skinny blonde. I just randomly saw her around. She was pretty receptive. We were both drunk. I'm straight up talking to her(I forget what). My roommate tells me, "Dude...try to kiss her" I"m like, "What? Really?" NOTE: I was hesitant to at the time cuz i thought i had to have signals or whatever. So then i see her again, walk up to her. Say her name and tell her "Hey...i remember ur name...u owe me a kiss" We kiss each other.

After that she stops. A minute later i see her again, i tell her "Hey...that first kiss. Wat was that? " We kiss with tongue this time, but she walks way after. I'm not sure wat was going on much at the time. But then my roommate told me he was going for her the entire night. I then told him to keep talking to her since he was first. I see her around later on hugging an kissing a guy. She sees me and says to the guy, "Get that guy in the pink shirt(i wore a pink shirt) away from me" as drunk as she was. He saw me, i just smiled and shook my head like whatever. He was confused by the situation and didn't even care about it.

Lesson Learned: My first time taking the initiatve to kiss a girl at a party before she starts it w/o grinding involved. I consider it a step up and i'll get better.

Talked to this other chick that was complaining about one of the brothers having a girlfriend and not talking with her anymore.I talk with her for a bit "Convincing" so to speak that she doesn't have to worry about all that and that i wanted to talk to her. Funny, she still looked for that same guy. I was like, "Whatever"

After the party, yep...yet again i was being immature and i yelled outside crying due to my frustration of not getting laid. I actually thought of giving up but it was just alcohol as always and i broke the "2 Beer max" rule as i thought it wouldnt' matter at all for me that there was no need, but i realized that the solution to solve the problem of acting like this after a party with my hand is to just to "LET IT GO". Any frustration so far i've felt, i just have to let it go. I'm only getting better and i will succeed. I give a good amount of effort and as long as i never give up and keep progressing, i will.

Analysis
1) I seem more relaxed approaching at parties than i was before, even if i knew most of the guys at the frat house i went by but i wasn't a brother there.
2) Im progressing with touch
3) Parties, i don't feel like i really need to direct approach compared to a club or during the day where i feel it more. But the way i go up to them is still direct...just not with opening.
4) I am getting better
5) Bring the sexual vibe!
6) I had a non-chalant vibe with the brunette with glasses and snowboots, it was funny.

 

[cyp6]

hey congrats on the kiss action... be care full tough I caught the flue from a random kiss sitatuation.. Love that your staying confident and staying up on the game and your possitive attitude will def help... Its a numbers game... play o the odds, ur already a winner bro.

 

[Agent Zero]

Good to see you are still doing this Steve...let me know when you are back in DC cause I am living here now.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Gaming at School Again: Week 3 Night 1: Party Time Again...

Agent Zero said: Good to see you are still doing this Steve...let me know when you are back in DC cause I am living here now.

Hey Dave...March 8th - 17th i'll be in the area for Spring Break. We can hit the bars together chief!

cyp6 said: hey congrats on the kiss action... be care full tough I caught the flue from a random kiss sitatuation.. Love that your staying confident and staying up on the game and your possitive attitude will def help... Its a numbers game... play o the odds, ur already a winner bro.

Thanks man. I really am glad i went for it. I have been at this for quite some time...and eventho some guys might progress faster than i have...i believe that i def will reach a good point in the end. But yea man...i do got to be careful. Who knows what will happen

Aright me and a few of my roommates go to a party where i know some of the brothers there. Was a place i use to pledge. Having mad fun there. Its hard to explain what happened. I met quite a few girls.

#1 Was a redhead with a couple of friends. I'm assuming at the start, "Oh man. Will i get **** blocked?!" But you know whats funny as hell, it was the actual opposite. None of the girls tried to ****block me, it was as if they supported gaming one of their friends. So then i go up to the redhead...i think i go in high energy with high and touch their arms. They're like "HI :-D!" I flirt with the redhead girl and she's pretty excited. I notice her eyes and tell her, "Green eyes are aright...but giving ur eyes even more blue...GOD DAMN!" She gets all excited. I see that she has tatoos. I'm like so then the third must be where u know what. She says, "Yeah!" I touch that region. We grind for a bout a minute. Afterward, we're slapping each other's asses. She actually grabs mine. I was gonna escalate with her, but then i realized that she's too drunk(more than i thought). She was pretty flirty but i doubt she was being an attention *****. She had a nice slim tight body too. The convo went on pretty good...funny most of the time. She asked for my number...but she was pretty hammered so i didn't consider it much. Talked to one of the friends whom i actually wanted even more than the redhead. Put we talked here and there, and moved around. She was very very receptive...i was just so into the party that i never quite stayed to game her. Plus i kept moving around here and there and what not.

#2 Was blonde i met before. I see her around periodically. We both give each other eye contact. Tried to game her(talked here and there, tried grinding with her) but her friend was playing the "Mother Hen" Role and let me tell u, as always, they suck. My roommate is drunk as hell and i ask him to occupy her for a second...while i game the girl i want but there was only so much i could do in that situation.

Lesson Learned: Its not you personally. Sometimes the obstacle is either jealous, doesn't want to be alone or really is assuming you're just a drunk guy who can't control himself...which i def am not. Sometimes u have to convey that you are not that.

#3 Was a petite brunette sorority girl standing there near the wall. She was a cute and had a body i liked. We had some good rapport. For this one, she said her and her sorority sister are gonna visit one final frat after this. She was pretty receptive, showing interest. I thought to myself, "It would be pointless to try to isolate/escalate with her. It aint gonna matter." As i'm walking around the party, she's looking at me. Before its too late, i then realize that its what she wanted as another guy is gaming her and they make out.

HUGE Lesson Learned: Isolate/Escalate with a girl even knowing she may be at the party with someone. She was receptive to my touch, so that tells u of their interest. You'll never know, the friend prolly will support it if its what her friend wants.

#4 Meet a curly haired girl. She's not bad, on the cuter side. Her body was aright. We grind with each other and make out for 10 minutes. We're somewhat dry humping each other while kissing(did it alittle bit) After like 3 minutes, she kept trying to make sure her friend was around. After that, the kissing ensued. Yet again i was shocked that her friend did not care. It amazed me.

Lesson Learned: Don't assume u'll have lots of obstacles to deal with. If they come, they come.

#5 Afterward, and i notice people aren't caring. This is not what i experienced in the past. I then see a hot blonde sitting by herself. I'm like, "BINGO!" I tell her with a borderline arrogant smirk, "Ya bored ;-)" She says, "Yea " I say, "Well...i'm gonna spice your fun up" I then lead her to grinding...and she's dancing away(Willingly accepting my hand). After a minute, i tell her to turn around. She does. Here was key for me to "Go for it" but i didn't. After that, she stopped dancing and walked away.

HUGE lesson learned: Just go for escalation. Without looking back.

#6 I want to mention this approach as i believe its important too. See a HB8 Brunette. Looking at her, i have a "I like her" Gaze. She sees it and is returning it. She's dancing with a guy tho, so i'm like, "I'll just wait till she's done" After 5 minutes, i see by herself for now. I go up to her and tell her, "That i finally got to talk to her" but i stutter mid-sentence. She's responds neutral and at the time, i don't give it any more effort(thought it was in vain). But i've realized that this is when plowing is necessary. Don't assume she's not into you. Just cuz she doesn't respond much doesn't mean she's not into you. For all you know she's shy deep down. :-D


#7 Was another brunette girl. Was a cute girl and really down to earth. I introduce myself, she's really receptive. I tell her i want to talk to her. Most of these convos i forget what was in them. It was mainly introductions, situational stuff at party, funny topics, about them...etc. I Had really good kino in. I eventually realize that i want to kiss her. But let me tell you, i was pretty nervous. I kept thinking, "Oh...it'll be weird if i just go for it now!" At one point, my face and hers are side by side, yet neither of us are moving away. Then i tell her as she's about to go to check on a friend. "I want to take a good look at you for a second." She says, "Go for it!" I then look at her eyes for 20 seconds, she's smiling with a curious look but i'm afraid to go for it. I look at her lips and back at her eyes and she is looking me right at the eyes. The fear is getting to me, then she says she has to be right back. I don't want to feel regretful that i didn't try. So then after i see her a couple minutes later, we're pseudo-dancing to the jam band music. Then i tell her i want to take a look at her one more time. She looks at me, i go for the kiss...but she turns away. I then ask her playfully, "Why not? " She says that she's a bit drunk. But before i could try to game her any further to try again...i decide i gotta get my friend home.

At this point, my roommate is passing out on the couch for the 8th time(that occupied me half the time. It felt like a dead weight. He was sitting down on the couch passed out the entire party. I had to keep him awake. He kept asking when he regained consciousness, "So when do you wanna leave?" I'm thinking, "Hell no i aint leaving now. Today is my chance to improve more. To hell with letting him ruin my potential night." I tell him that we're leaving when i am. I felt bad that if he tried to walk home by himself, that he would get a drunk in public. So i kept the man there.


This night was lots of fun. Interacted with lots of girls. I had some alcohol in me, but it didn't really hinder me at all compared to what it use to. I've proven i can approach and interact w/o alcohol...so i don't consider it a crutch for me at times.


Analysis:

1) This weekend so far was an eye opener for me. I finally was true to myself. All i cared about at parties was just to hook up. Didn't matter how. Just to hook up as long as i was being me and i wasn't too drunk. Before, i was concerned about pickup that there were opportunities that i could've taken....yet i was so caught up in "trying to become the best and surpass mr. bob" and having my own pride issues...that i'd miss the ones that i should've taken. I've let go of that ego and i'm getting better much faster than i have before.

2) Making progress. My kino is more natural and many of the girls were receptive when i went up to them.

3) I am proud that i no longer am crying frustrated after a party if i didn't get laid. Now that i think about it, it was foolish...yet...i understand why. I've grown from that.

4) As i look back...when i see some parties...i remember that i was just like some of those guys standing there waiting to grind a girl. Back then, i couldn't even talk to girls. I just tried to hook up by grinding. Sure there were some girls i'd talk to...but i never could take it further.

5) Dominance and Leading are what is the biggest lesson thus far that im still learning.