The Game Continues, my approach journal

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Mall
Goal for the Day: Better Interactions with females


Experienced AA while i was looking around for very attractive girls to approach. Was pretty nervous, i waited 15 minutes to calm myself down(It was helping, also saw an attractive woman who worked there as i walked and she saw me. Since i couldn't tell what her face expression was, i was nervous to go up to her since another sales associate was near her)...Its weird...i am more fearful of rejection from sales clerks than i am of regular women. After about 15 min and when i was about to go walk back out to walk around...i hear a call from my mother(I was driving her car) told me to come home right then, as the car tends to stall.

I told myself to approach just one woman today, but when i saw one...she was walking way too fast...i couldn't catch quite up to her and saw her go in a store. I didn't. I used the excuse of having to get home to not approach just four women.

yep, i was being an excuser.

If i could've stayed at the mall for as long as i wanted, i believe i would've approached


Lesson Learned:
1) Still proud that despite me being nervous to go to the mall beforehand, i still went anyways
2) Too bad the mall didn't have as many very attractive females that i wanted
3) The mall felt more difficult than the Subway.
4) Try a different mall
5) Still can approach, just unforunate i couldn't today
6) It seems it's more nerve racking for me to look for targets than for when i just spot them


Next time i go to the mall, this will not happen.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Walmart
Goal for the Day: None


Went with my parents to a shopping area. They go to home depot, while i have time to kill. I decide to go walmart and i'm feeling a little on the uncomfortable side(Must be because in my mind i know i'm looking for females)
and i subconsciously feel that some of them will know.

So far, i don't see any approachable women till i see a latina woman. She's cute, but i wasn't feeling anything particular at first sight with her. She is kneeling down, looking at the shoe isle looking for something, so i tell myself, 'What the heck? Its just for practice" So i touch her arm and say, "Excuse me....I like what i see....I would like to get to know you " Her face has the expression of "Oh brother :-\" and she says, "Sorry"

I then ask, "Are you taken?" and she ignores it while she's still looking. I then say, "Ok..it was nice meeting you"
After that, i didn't have the urge to look around anymore....due to feeling down for being ignored and getting rejected...but i talked to myself afterwards and i realized that she did me a favor...that i'm getting closer to the women that are feeling me.
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Location: Subway
Goal for the Day: Just practice


Today i was feeling a bit on the nervous side again, as i wasn't sure what would come about this week. I arrive at starbucks at about 9AM before i go off to work and i see a hot ass sorority girl from my university whom I dreamed of ****ing for a while, sitting down waiting. I couldn't even breathe straight nor could i look at her directly. Totally caught off guard with her being there. I just said hi to her asking if she was so and so. She says hi and yea, she gets it all the time. She's a thick girl, but damn...i want to **** her hard. Thought about it throughout the day(Intimidated to approaching her) and that it couldn't be helped, just through me in a loop.

It was strange to me, she wasn't the hottest woman i've seen and yet i was more intimidated to approach than the other girls that looked hotter. I wonder why?

So then at about 2:30....i decide to go to starbucks again to see if there are any women i can go up to..but unfortunately there weren't really any except a woman who looked to be around 50, who had a good sized rack...but her age was :-\...eventhen deep down i wanted to go up to her...cared too much of what the people there would think, me hollarin at a middle aged woman.haha.

After work, I'm on the subway at around 6 PM.

#1-I see a woman in a sitting area waiting for the train, who's sitting next to another woman. She had black curly hair and looked to be early 30s. I don't look at her in the eye when im about to go up to her, have to walk in a 90 degree angle...when I do, I go up to her and say with a smile, "Ur cute I would like to get to know you" She gives me a weird, uncomfortable look and looks down, guarded . I just wait one second to see if she'd look up again, but she just ignored me. I say, "Ok...it was nice meeting you"

I felt a bit down...and had the feeling of "Maybe I shouldn't approach again today" again. On the train, i see a latina woman on the cute side who's looking possibly at my direction. I wanted to go up to her, but from the previous approach...i was afraid to feel "rejection again" so i just decided to talk to myself for the time being.

#2 go on another train and i see a beautiful dark skinned woman(I don't know what race she was. she looked like a dark latina) She was looking fine. I see that she was sitting next to an old man and she was at the window seat. I decide that once he's off the seat, i'll approach her. After he leaves, i go up to her...she seems me coming and looks down, i say, "You're beautiful...i would like to get to know you" She gives a neutral look...doesn't respond at first..but gives a little hint of a polite smile and says, "Sorry". I actually felt good with this approach as I proved to myself that despite being in a down mood...i was still able to do it.

#3 Outside the train i see a average build brunette with freckles waiting at the bus stop...she's wearing headphones. I go up to her, touch her arm and say, "You're cute...i would like to meet you" with a smile and she laughs and says "hi' but then puts her headphones back on. I persist a bit

me: What's your name?
Her: Sarah :-S
<puts phones back on>
Me: I'm curious...how old are you?
Her: 24

Me: I thought u looked younger ....but what you doing here at the bus stop?
Her: Waiting for my brother
Me: <Thinking of what to say next/not even wanting to interact further>

I decide to not persist further as i wasn't really interact that well, just small talk/predictable questions...plus i didn't really feel anything out of it since she wasn't really giving her undivided attention. I took that as not interested from her part. I actually felt a bit nervous walking away unannounced...but i got a call so i used that excuse to leave.

#4 See an average build indian girl who looks about my age whom i saw earlier leaving the train station. I walk about 40 feet to get to her...she notices me as i'm walking toward her and looks off to what she was doing. I touch her and say, "Excuse me....you're cute...i want to meet you" She has a joking smile on her face and says "Oh if u want to know...i'm not interested...i have a boyfriend " She didn't seem nervous or anything, more light hearted and down to earth...was pretty suprising actually haha.
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Location: Subway
Goal for the Day: Get through my nerves again.


This morning i was feeling quite sleepy and was a bit nervous since i hadn't done any train approaches in a couple of days. I was like, "Oh boy...i'm gonna be approaching again?"

#1 I get on the station and see a Dark brunette middle eastern woman(looked to be mid-20s) with a bit of red highlights. She had a pretty face, so then as she's waiting for the train....I was thinking about going up to her but my "Fear of Rejection" started to hit me again. I was debating whether I should go up to her or not, but the train arrives...but i realize i still do have a chance. So when we get on our trains, I sit right next to her, as she's reading a buck. I have a somewhat holding back smile looking at her and say "You're cute I want to get to know you " Her reaction is with a polite smirk "Ahh thanks" I then ask what her name is and she says Mary and continues reading her book. I then ask what her ethnicity is and she says Armenian and I tell her that she looked middle eastern and that it was pretty. Then i ask her another question and she says with a, is he still talking to me expression, "A book :-S" So then i decide to stop talking as i knew she wasn't interested

Lesson Learned: Should've approached right before the train came, plus I didn't look or seem calm...more nervous...eventho i wasn't moving much


#2 As I'm about to leave the next train, i see a blonde woman where i can't see her face and she's facing the opposite direction...I decide to walk all the way over to the opposite side of the train and i touch her and turn her a bit and she gives me some attention. I tell her with a 1/2 smile(i was still uneasy), "You're pretty...i want to meet you" She says, "Oh...my name is Debrah :-S" and she looks the other way again. To persist/get my interaction skills up, i then ask her where she's going...she says work and turns back again. I ask her one more question, "Where is work? " She says, "Metro Center :-\"

Lesson Learned: Seemed less nervous this time, she just wasn't interested...as she looked like she was married...plus she most likely had other things on her mind and i looked to be 1/2 her age.


#3 After I go to work, i return to the subway and spot a pretty ethiopian woman who is looking at me for a few seconds...while im up the escalator. I'm not sure if she was looking right at me, so i held eye contact. I'm still getting use to holding eye contacts with random females...want to get that spark back i once had(being able to smile after 1 second calmly and confidently) I want to go up to her, but im feeling nervous all of a sudden again, eventho i told myself, "If you don't approach today a female u find attractive who is atleast solo...ur quiting" So then while im on the train, i am conflicted to approach her(she's afew seats ahead...so she can't see me) as im making excuses in my head "Ohh...im too tired to talk to her" "She can't see that i'm this nervous" "Go up to her man..go up to her!" i check around the people on train and i tell myself, "They don't care what u do...they honestly don't" So after a few stops, I decide to go toward her seat. I touch her shoulder/upper arm...she looks at me...i tell her nervously, "I think you're pretty..." She says, "Huh?" as she can't understand me. I say, "I think you're pretty and i would like to get to know you :_-)" She looks at me for a good 2 seconds afterwards, while i not drop eye contact either and she says, "no...sorry :-\" I then smile and say, "Ok it was nice meeting you" I return to my seat and i see her leave off...as i'm day dreaming i catch her looking at me from when she's exciting the station...when i catch her looking...she immediately looks away. Atleast i did my job, "She knows she's still an attractive woman. I bet i atleast made her day"

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Afterwards, i go on another train and its packed. I spot a cute girl with freckles on her skin and is brunette. I desperately want to approach her, but i feel the huge feeling of fear of the whole train seeing me get rejected from her(I felt the rejection from the previous girl and it literally felt like my heart got heavier...happens usually when im overcoming social anxiety sometimes) I keep telling myself that u won't have to see these people again...and that she may actually be somewhat receptive ot my approach...but I don't...i felt pretty bad...the feeling of reget...it was horrible...i hated it...i didn't want to feel this feeling! The feeling of regret! i had to do something. Rejection didn't feel as bad as this!
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I see a mid-late 30s pretty faced latina looking woman with a striped gray shirt and slim body with jeans walking around outside near starbucks. So then i say loudly to her as im about 5 feet away, "hey!" She sees me. I then say, "Stop! " As i'm walking over to her, her face is "Aright...what does he want?" i go up to her and say, "You're pretty...i would like to get to know you :_)" She says, "Pleeeeeeasee" I felt down after this approach and started to doubt this journey. I was like, "Maybe...girls don't like direct..." But then i talked to myself and said, "I will never give up! If i do...what was all of this for? Who would help support Greenlake when he needs help and him vice versa if i continued the path? So I tell myself, "i'm still going! I don't care how long it takes me! I'll prove to the doubters and more importantly, myself, that direct can work, especially Mode One! And I will be the womanizer i want to be! :-D"

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Location: Shopping Center(including Starbucks)
Goal for the Day: To just approach, without having to feel regret


I drive this time to work and have an hour to spare...so I decide to sit down on the bench as tired as I was. I don't really see any targets around....until i go back in my car.

But i do see two ethiopian women seated and talking at an outside bench outside of starbucks drinking coffee. The prettier looking one notices me when i arrive for a couple a seconds and then continues to talk to her friend. I make excuses of not going up to them:

"Oh...they might be married"
"They've got atleast 10 years on me"
"Oh...they're aright looking...not that pretty'
"They wouldn't be able to understand me"

Then i see them leaving and damn...the prettier one had a nice body. I was feeling regret and i was like, "Steven...this is your lesson....no more regret for a while!"

#1 I then see an aright asian/hispanic looking girl walking by at the parking lot. I'm checking out her above average sized ass and i'm telling myself, "meh she's aright" But then i see the feeling of regret coming back and i tell myself, "I aint letting that feeling come back to me!!!!!" she's a bit of ways, so i dash over to where she is...im right behind her and i softly touch her shoulder and turn her toward me and she spots me. She is smiling a bit but taken a bit out of surprise i tell her a bit nervously and out of breathe, "I saw you all the way over there...and I didn't want to regret going up to her...so i think ur cute and I want to get to know you" She seems a bit happy, but she was still caught a bit off guard from it, so she continues to walk...she doesn't seem too guarded, but i decide to continue walking with her:

Me: So what is your name?
Her: Leanna :-S
Me: its good to meet you Leanna..my name is Steve
<I stick out my hand and she takes a second before deciding>
Me: So what you strolling around the area for?
Her: I got work
Me: Ahh...work...where?
Her: At the shopping center...
Me: oh...ur off from school?
Her: Yea...just for now...i'm thinking about going to NoVa
Me: That would make you...18?
Her: 21 ....well i'm gonna be going off now...
Me: Aright Leanna...it was nice meeting you

That nervous feeling was decreasing, i could tell it was because of the fact that i actually didn't get too negative of a reaction this time BUT i felt pretty good still trying. Also, it would've been a good idea not having to follow unless i asked if i could join her first.

I feel the surge of a bit of self assurance come back to me. In my mind i'm like, "****ING YEA!!!!!! THE FEELING IS COMING BACK TO ME!!!!!!! NICE!!!!!!! NOW LETS SHOW GREENLAKE THAT IM DOING WELL APPROACHING TOO!"

#2 I don't feel 1/2 as nervous as I was before. I see a busty asian looking older woman going into a female hair accessory store, I decide to go inside anyways. As i see her looking around at one spot, i go up to her, i softly turn her toward me and say, "You're cute....I would like to get to know you " I'm feeling less nervous at this point and i seem a bit more calm. She looks at me for a second and then politely smiles and says "Sorry" I persist a bit and ask her name. She says, "Thats ok :-S" i tell her it was nice meeting her. As i'm doing this, i can see the clerk who's walking down the isle looking at us...eventho its only us 3 in the store.

I'm feeling even less nervous now and want to keep going.


#3 I then see a Pretty faced older dark brunette woman about to pack her car outside. As she's packing in....i say loudly, "Excuse me " She sees me and I then tell her less nervous now, "You're pretty...i want to meet you" She says, "Awww...that's sweet....but i'm married " I tell her, "Ok...it was nice meeting you"

#4 I decide to go in starbucks and then sit there waiting till i have to go to work and I see an attractive looking older woman(Mostly the women i've seen are atleast 30 around...but hey...i like milfs ) As she's getting stuff in the condiments area. I walk up to her, turn her toward me and say, "You're pretty...i would like to get to know you " She says, "I'm married " I then give my farewells

#5 Afterwards, I then see two women walking toward starbucks as i'm still waiting outside. One of them i'd give almost an 8(had the body of a College Slim brunette girl) eventho she looked late 20s...the other was def mid 30s but wasn't that attractive looking. I am about to go up to them but fear hits me again a bit...i hesitate to. So then i tell myself on the bench outside, "Just wait till they leave" So I wait a bit until they leave out the store, i follow them as fast as i can at the parking lot and then yell "excuse me" since i couldn't make it turn her around in time. They both turn and the brunette sees me first, i say to her, "I Want to meet you " She says, "Aww...i have a boyfriend " I tell her, "Ohhh....when's the wedding?<turning my head a little bit with a laughing smile" "haha. no wedding" I then depart.

Lesson learned so far: I'm actually losing that nervous feeling and trying to just approach to get more comfortable with it. I am still feeling some fear but its not as bad as last time. i also tell myself, "This is just a boost for now...don't try to act overconfident...u still have got to get through the worst feelings of rejection"

As i'm on break for work, I am amped to continue.

I see a teenage latina with a black long curly hair walking down the sideway. I am about to go up to her but i notice that she may be underage...So then im debating but by the time i want to make my choice to approach her...she's too far along, plus i'd be losing minutes with my lunch break.

#6 So then im at the shopping center again at the parking lot and then i see two females walking side by side wearing sun glasses. One has a 3 year old girl with her, while the other is pretty busty(younger looking) and i was like, "Damn...i like what i see!" I would give her around atleast an 8 in my scales. So then as i'm walking toward them...the older looking one sees me while i can't tell if the other one can(She actually looked like a girl i had a thing for in the past... i have tended to like girls who look similar to that....kind of thick but def wat i like)...so as i'm about to go up to them....I go up to the one with sunglasses and do the "Badboy Stop Hand Motion" and say, "Stop!" she stops immediately. The other woman is smiling at the situation and says, "Which one are u telling to stop ?" I heard her but my focus was on the younger one. I go up to her and say, "You're gorgeous...i just had to meet you " She is FROZEN in her tracks and plays with her hair smiling shyly.

Me: What's your name?
Her: Joanna
Me: Joanna...<i shake her hand with both my hands, i can't see her eyes beneath her sunglasses but im looking deeply where they should be and she is FROZEN as if she's mesmerized....i was shocked at her reaction..no joke>
Me:<Since i'm not sure how old she is...> I'm curious...how old are you?
Her: 15
Me: Aww...man....i'm almost 21...its a shame
Her: Yea...that could be a problem
Me: Well...it was a pleasure meeting you and U are still gorgeous
Her: thanks

I take it that the woman next to her was her older sister(She didn't look old enough to be her mom) and she was smiling at us. afterwards, in my mind i was like, "DAMN! If only she was 3 years older...i could've talked to her more" Also, im glad i brightened up her day, i bet they talked about it on the ride back to wherever they were going.

I was like, "I'm def glad i stuck with it this far!" And then my nervousness was easing away even further. I didn't get to see any more targets tho.

Lesson Learned: Getting through my nervousness again and i'm appearing more calm. I still got WAYS to go before being mode one fully, but i'm glad im getting through my nerves.

I tell myself, "if i get nervous again...i'm ready...i'll approach regardless!"

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

So then, after 5: 30 PM...i drive near home and decide to approach inside a Target. I'm feeling a bit nervous since i remember at the mall i couldn't approach...but this would be good preparation for when i do it.

I walk around to see any targets and i see a few but they are with kids(I didn't want to go up to Moms...since most of the time i figure they're married...but thats excuses as if any of those moms were EXTREMELY HOT...i'd definitely want to go up to them)

So then after a bit of no luck, i see a teenage looking middle eastern girl with her mom...who's holding on to the cart. I notice and she looks around 15. I decide to not approach and decide to look at a few shirts. In my mind i'm like, "So what if she's 15? Just practice the interaction." so then i decide to go up to her, but once im about to she notices me and she looks even younger upclose...13! I'm like to myself, " Aint no hollarin at 13 year old girls for me! No suree bob! " So then i just walk around in a complete 360 angle and continue walking.

#7 I then see a reasonably attractive woman walking down the isle so i tell myself, "Aww...what the heck? Mine as well" So then i turn her around me but i scare her "OH! U scared me " I then look into her green eyes and say, "You're pretty and I want to get to know you " She smiles and says, " I'm sorry but i have a boyfriend" I depart.

After i leave target, i see this stunning latina young girl with high heel sandals with a skirt, she is slim with sunglasses, getting out of the car, and walking into Target. I see that the man who's in the car of when she got out is either her dad or her bf, so i tell myself, "Prolly her bf...i shouldn't pursue" But then aftewards i start to wonder if that could've been just her dad. If it was anyone else who dropped her off, i believe i would've approached her

#8 I pick up my mom from work, and then we got to a grocery store. I'm walking around looking for women to approach and I spot a pretty blonde with a black dress and very light long hair. She looked to be early 30s. so then i walk up to her, turn her toward me softly and say, "You're pretty...I want to get to know you " She gives me a polite smile and crosses her arms facing me and says, "Thanks"<In a manner, waiting till i'm finished> Then i ask her what she's doing in the grocery store and she says, "Just shopping about to return to MY family" with a polite smile and then i depart and she says "Thanks".

As i'm at the checkout, i see she's walking out what looks to be either her husband or boyfriend.


Lesson Learned: Felt a boost today after not having to feel regret as much, it was a good feeling

Analysis:
1) Felt pretty damn good of the reaction that the 15 year old had, kept up my faith that direct can still work for me
2) I think since im less nervous, im getting better reactions from the women...eventho im still getting rejected
3) When a girl is with a guy or guys, still intimidates me...will take time to get through that one
4) Once i can build a good callace to being rejected from the first approach...then i can be indifferent to rejection when revealin my intentions during the interactions.
5) I did feel a boost today(Eventho it came from an external force, not an internal, but i think instead of temporary it can be permanent...as long as i believe rejection will be no deal and further reduce my fear of it.
6) Once i get more comfortable going up to women, i will start doing better on my interactions and revealing my intentions
7) Gonna use different openers, based on what im feeling about the girl rather than just the regular direct ones...eventho i have been fitting some in of what i think about the girl.
8) Still got a LONG way to go and still have to face the "WORST FEELING OF REJECTION" before i can start no longer truly fearing. But hey, i felt good today improving, why not smile a bit longer about it.

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Today i felt a bit tired, so i drank some starbucks...which got me more energized. Also was hot as a ***** outside.


In the Morning:
#1-Was a blonde older woman with sunglasses on, I am sitting on a bench and see her about 20 feet away at the parking lot. I walk over to her and go up to her doing ILY. She says, "Oh" and walks away.


Lesson Learned: I had to walk a bit on the fast side to catch up to her. My voice wasn't that loud, was rather soft plus i appeared nervous eventho i wasn't. It was the caffeine i tell u! .



#2-See a fine brown skinned asian chick also walking in the parking lot toward starbucks. Im on my bench again, I don't do the "Stop Hand Motion" this time, but i yell, "STOP". She stops, and I go up to her at about a 45% degree angle but she's facing toward me...I..say, "You're sexy I want to meet you" She ignores me.


Lesson Learned: Didn't bother me to say the least. Might've been the way i said the opener, i might've not appeared calm or confident. I was feeling on the jittery side.

#3-See a skinny tied up hair brunette walking to starbucks. I'm at the bench again and I go up to her again at the 45 degree angle(Hard to reach them if i try to go from the front), she has a nice body and i do the opener, "I like what i see....I want to meet you ". She smiles but still walking, says, "I'm engaged " I tell her it was nice meeting her.

Lesson Learned: I appeared more calm with this opening this time.


#4-As i was driving at the shopping center, i notice a pretty faced light brunette haired woman. I wanted to go up to her but before i could get to her...she was opening the Ross Clothing Store...yet, the store hadn't opened yet. While i am done with the first three approaches above, i spot her walking with a female co-worker. I walk fast up to them and say, "STOP! " They stop and I tell her, "You're pretty...i want to get to know you " She looks up to the side and says, "Oh...i don't think my husband would like that :-S" Then i say, "OH!" where my voice sounded like it hit puberty. They continue walking off. As I am walking away, while they're in the store

Lesson Learned: I talked a bit too fast.


LUNCH BREAK:

#5-I see a 40ish asian woman walking through the shopping center. I am walking fast toward her(I have to approach from the back) So i speed fast and while im turning her around from the shoulder...i say, "Excuse me" "You're pretty...I want to get to know you :-S" She looks off to the side and continues walking.

Lesson Learned: I looked like i was in a hurry this time and i talked too fast

#6-See a half black girl who looks familiar but who i think looks like someone else. When im about to go right up to her(parking lot again, she's walking toward Ross), she says hi as if she's seen me before, i am too focused on opening..do the Sexy opener and she just walks off. Then it occured to me....SHE GOES TO MY SCHOOL AND I'VE MET HER BEFORE. I was like, 'Awwww...crap!"

Lesson Learned: Don't OVERLY focus on opening....it seemed TOO automatic for me to use one of the lines iv've been using. But i think that can be a good thing, not as much hesitation...just go to work on how i'm feeling.

When i went inside starbucks, the cute asian clerk who i've seen before smiles at me. I waved and smiled back. I was thinking about going up to her, but i decided "Hey...u'll see her again...u might be hesitant but thats ok" since her co-workers were right next to her and i haven't done that QUITE yet.

I was feeling a bit nervous/a bit on the doubtful side but it wasn't really hitting me as much as in the past.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Shopping Center(Right around starbucks)
Goal for the Day: Attempt Mode One just to see


Yesterday i felt lots of regret, for not approaching some girls that were in target, while i was with my mom. I felt nervous, but that was no excuse. Today, as I was driving to work, i told myself, "This aint gonna happen again!"

So then i arrive to the shopping center right near starbucks as usual.

#1-Was a wild haired brunette-blonde nice bodied latina woman opening up the Dress Barn Clothing store, im about to head over there...but im too late as she goes inside and the store isn't opened yet. But I see an indian looking woman behind her, and she seems me. she wasn't my original target but i still go up to her anyways. I do ILY opener, and she says, "I'm not interested....sorry" I smile, look at her and say "Thats ok...nice meeting you " While i do this, she gives me a perplexed/confused look.


#2-See an latino/asian woman with a thick body(i like) with shorter hair walking toward starbucks. I'm on the bench, and go up to her slowly with a warm smile and do the "Stop Motion" "STOP!" She almost stops and has a curious look until i hold it a bit longer and she finally does.

Me: You're Sexy...i want to get to know you
Her: : <walking away> I'm not intersted
Me: Ok...it was nice meeting you.


Lesson Learned: My approach here was good I would say, didn't seem nervous or anything and she told me she wasn't interested. Win win.



#3-On the bench, see a an aright looking mid-20s black woman wearing glasses but she has big tits. I'm checking her out and she notices me checking her out and continues to walk in starbucks. I had the opportunity to go up to her right then and there, but i decided after she went out of starbucks that i would go up to her. You could say i was scared to go inside to approach her, as I CARED what the workers would think(Since they've seen me approach and that i'd think they'd kick me out since im not buying anything). As she's leaving, i catch up to her and from behind i say, "Excuse me!"

Me: You're sexy....i want to meet you
Her: ...sorry but i have to go to work :-\
Me: Aright, it was nice meeting you

Lesson Learned: Should've approached her when i first saw her. She wasn't really anything to brag about but im glad i did it.

AND LADIES AND GENTLEMAN, here's a surprise.


#4 From Across the parking lot, i see a black haired woman with sunglasses with a cart. I decide to walk all the way over, since i didn't want to regret. I go over there, hesitating to turn her around since i get the feeling that some girls might freak out from it(which is nonsense, none have except one but she was caught off guard and smiled) She turns around after i say, "Excuse me!" From what i saw he, she was cute.

Me: hi...i saw you all the way over there(look at other direction pointing) and i didn't want to regret going up to you<i'm thinking that she'll walk away at this point since it happens most of the time, but im shocked she's still there> you're cute and i want to meet you

From what i could tell she was pretty receptive since she stayed there facing me. I was nervous since i wasn't quite sure of what to say(Just been focusing on opening lately)

I just ask her what she's doing in the area and she tells me she's relaxing for the summer after graduating from Texas University. We go on this for about two minutes, there are some pauses as im nervous and unsure. Then she says, "Well its nice meeting you"

At this point i'm thinking, "Why not try mode one to see what happens?"

So then i ask her, "Do you know what my intention is?"
She says, "No"
For the 15 scariest seconds of my life i say, "I want to have casual sex with you "

SHE IS FROZEN FOR ONE SECOND LIKE A REACTION AND SAYS:

"Now you need to leave! "

I tell her it was nice meeting her and leave


After it, I felt like a total creep and snake. I actually got AA right after this, since that was my greatest fear of a rejection and it hit me.

I see a couple more women that i want to go up to but right when im about to, my SHAMEFUL feeling hits me and i'm like, "Thats ok man.....i know deep down u feel horrible...just sit down and take it easy"

For a second i really wondered if i should ever be mode one again, BUT I DID IT THE WRONG WAY, but then i tell myself, "You will man. But be proud of yourself, u tried it out...you didn't die did ya? "

I then realized that i almost overcame my worst fear, and eventho i get a bad response, im still proud I did it

#6 As i'm about to head out to work, I see the girl of whom i wanted to approach from #1 that i didn't get to, getting stuff out from her car. I go up to her(a bit of space between us, i maybe should've been a bit closer) and say:

Me: "Excuse me! "
Her: <Turns and somewhat faces me>
Me: "I like what i see....I want to meet you "
Her: "I don't like what i see... :-S"
Me: "haha...aright...nice meeting you"
Her: "You too"

Afterward i go to work and start to feel nervous again, seeing my facebook of girls in school i tell myself,
"Will i get the same responses from them?" but then i motivate myself and say, "Some Will! Some wont'! Who cares for the ones that do!"


AT LUNCH TIME:

#7 I have some AA, while im eating outside starbucks and see some approacheable women. I'm starting to have regret in my mind...about not going up to some. But i do go up to a latina woman who was with a lil boy earlier, but when she's alone, sitting down on a bench outside... i go up to her. She can't understand my ILY opener, i say, "Bonita"(The only word i could remember in spanish) and she says "gracias" but continues putting on makeup. She says, "Aright...cya....bye" while interrupting what i said. I felt down since i yet again experienced rejection and missed another opportunity of approaching.... was a sista girl who held eye contact with me while i saw her while driving to park my car, who was with a friend. Also was checking out an older asian woman but i thought i would be rejected since most older women have.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Analysis:
1) Actually achieved mode one, even tho i was very nervous doing it, and that im very scared to do it again...but it'll happen again! I actually said what was in my mind...felt the need to atleast try it.

2) Dealing with rejection has been bothering me deep down a tiny bit. Sometimes i wonder, "Am i not attractive to these women?" "Do i look like a sleeze when approaching?" "Why should i approach her...im just gonna get rejected again...." this is especially with the milfs i approach, i'm like, "What's the point? She's just gonna reject me too" But i know this is emotional poision and i need to be much more optimistic. I'm rejecting myself even before i approach. But i'm glad i keep telling myself, "Shut Up! Keep goin!" haha.

3)I'm starting to work on interactions as well, but so far i've been feeling nervous when doing it since im wondering what to talk about after opening but i got a few good ideas. The basic questions is all i've come up with thus far.

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PART II
Location: Target
Goal for the Day: Get rid of some of the excessive AA I got


This is a short post but here is part II.

I'm at Target and i notice a young looking skinny girl(looked from 17-19) was in an isle. She kinda notices me, but is looking right to the left of me. As i walk past there, i'm like.."Mine as well go for it"

She is walking the opposite direction until i say, "STOP!"
She stops and im a bit of feet away from her and tell her:

Me: "You're cute...i want to meet you "
Her: <with a sarcastic smile> "ha. I think not"

I was pretty nervous due to what happened earlier but i still walked tall motivated to prove that i can still do some interactions. I spot another woman, but the "SHAMEFUL" feeling hit me again, when i see the first girl is about a few feet away...so i hesitated to approach this one.

#2 See an older blonde woman in line. She looks pretty, so i turn her around and say,

Me: You're pretty...I want to meet you "
<I am a bit nervous and position myself to calm it down, she notices me put my hand in my pocket>
and she's looking at me with a "Is he joking? smile" for about 4 seconds. I dont' look away but im a bit nervous..and she says, "I'm married" I put my hand out thinking thats her name "Mary" but then i laugh and say, "OH! Married!" haha.

So then i spot another woman in a nail polish isle. She is the most attractive out of the previous i've seen.
She has long curly hair. Got a nice body...couldn't see her face.

So then, i go up to her and say, "Excuse Me" She faces me with a normal expression

Me: I want to meet you<with a smile>
Her: Ohh...i can't hear you
Me: I want to meet you
Her: <she looks at me and played with her hair for a second...and she seems shy> hi
Me: <I'm feeling a bit nervous> what's your name?
Her: Christine
<there's a pause here and she's still looking at the polish but she seems shy>
Her: what's your name?
Me: Steve...<i shake her hand> What you getting polish for?
Her: I just ran out...tend to have to refill
Me: Ohhh...you don't have any already?
Her: nah...i use alot
Me: Oh......so why are u around the area?
Her:I work at Haymarket...selling coffee...
Me: Like Starbucks...
Her: Yea...i do that for the summer
Me: Wait...im curious...how old are you?
Her: 23
Me: OHhh...i thought u were around my age....
Her: <she is facing me with her undivided attention> how old are you?
Me: Guess..
Her: 18...
Me: nah
Her: 20...
Me: Yea
<Another pause since i couldn't think what else to say>
Me: <tapping her on the shoulder> Well it was nice meeting you...see ya
Her: See ya

Afterwards, i'm still feeling anxious and i just decide to leave since i had to pick my mom up, plus i did enough for myself.


Analysis:
1) In the 3rd approach, i was thinking about doing Mode One again but i was too nervous to even stay relaxed in a normal conversation with her.
2) I'm glad i didn't back out of going to Target, as while i was in the car going home...i was thinking of not going.
3) For the first girl, i actually asked, "why not?" after she rejected me....i kinda wondered why...since there seems to be something im not seeing that gets these women to reject me straight out...eventho its simple...they're just not interested
4) My interactions will take time to get better. I was nervous when i first did approaching, gotta get use to this feeling to where i'm relaxed interacting.
5) Think more optimistic...."I like this girl...she likes me" before approaching.
6) Glad i'm still at it...haven't done this many approaches direct ever...so its great i'm progressing...


I have a few limiting beliefs i want to share that i want to conquer and try to solve:


1) Its pointless to go for the older women, they'll just reject me. Why approach if i will?


Bull ****. You are already rejecting yourself even before going over there. Course u'll be more rejected as ur gaining experience and gaining confident, true confident shows.


2) I never got rejected this much before, why am I?


Because the girls in the past that u approach, didn't even know u were into them...hence what could they reject you for? Being friendly?


3) if another girl i want to approach sees me get rejected from a previous girl, i shouldn't approach her...she'll see me as a loser


Bull **** yet again. You are rejecting yourself before even going up to her


4) I thought girls like being approached...but it seems that they don't.


Just in ur head man. Women WANT to be approached, but confidentally and self assuredly...why else would a good portion look more than needed when a guy is approaching a different woman who's receptive to him?


5) Girls don't want upfront, straightforward(In my head today)


I believe they do want to know ur intentions, but some will take it very negatively...hey got to take the risk....but u have to be very confident and very self assured about it....without apologies.


Today i felt the "SHAMEFUL" feeling, the feeling of im inferior to people, feeling(use to have it when i had social anxiety)....but it wasn't as strong as it was in the past. I'm still motivated to Continue and will never give up! I could say i give up in words, but i never would in terms of action. I'll be upfront and straightforward with mode one the right way...you'll see!

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Subway
Goal for the day: More approaching


#1-Was a late 20s, early 30s woman sitting down. I didn't approach directly at her but i sat down next to her. I put my contacts on first, then got a good luck at her. She was playing with her cell phone. I look at her and say, "Hi " She lights up and says hi.

Me: You're pretty....i want to meet you
Her:
Me: What's your name?
Her: Diane, wats yours?
Steve: Steve

For this minute, she's playing with her cell phone and from what i could tell she was just being friendly and nice. I was so focused on opening..

Me: Ahhh, so your playing with ur phone
Her: Yea....got lots of calls
Me: Is that what u usually do in ur spare time?
Her: Yea...just messing my bf
Me: Ahh...when's the wedding? ;-)
Her: Haha. Like there'd be a wedding...
Me: But thats what he's there for....

After a bit, she hands me a paper to read...and decides to continue conversation but i think it was just to be friendly/nice...

#2 So then i see another woman, i look at her a couple of times and she sees me. I'm feeling nervous since i think its too late to approach, since she would know i want to hesitate...so i decide to walk over to her and i say with a nervous smile, "Your cute...I want to get to know you" She has her headphones on and takes them off. She looks at me for 2 seconds, I don't lose EC and she says, "Are you joking?"
and I tell her, "Does it look like i'm joking? :_)" She then says, "I don't know what to tell you" I eject considering i didn't know what to do afterwards

#3 I get off my train and go off to the next station, see a tall asian woman(I find them sexy) walking....i'm still feeling nervous so then i decide to wait a few seconds to see what she does and she's standing waiting for the train. I tell myself, "Go for it!" so then i walk up to her and while i turn her around(My hand on her upper arm), i say, "Excuse me" She gets surprised and smiles. I have a warm, pleasant smile on my face(Actually seems more genuine) and say, "You're pretty...i want to meet you " She lights up a bit, and we exchange names. From what i could tell, she was receptive. To cut it short, i just ask her what's she doing in the area...and she says she does stuff at the Pentagon area related to the news. I joke with her saying, "Awww...i could never get into the news" Then she says its related to Department of Defense, then i say, "Now that is interesting " When the train arrives, i decide to eject.

#4 On the train, i see one of the girls i saw sitting down earlier waiting for the train with sunglasses. In my mind i'm like, "She's looks aright..." But deep down i knew, "I like what i see...thats why i keep looking at her" So then i go up to her, tell her, "You're cute...i want to get to know you " I couldn't see her eyes since she had sunglasses but she faces me for a second with a joking smile and says, "Haha...i'm taken" I tell her, "Atleast i would like to know your name " She says, "Gabrielle" I eject

#5 See a short black haired tall woman with a model like body who wore glasses, a black and white skirt, and a black blouse facing the other direction. I do ILY and she gives me a polite smile and says, "No thanks"

#6 See a ligher skinned black woman with a nice rack and pretty eyes sitting down. I think she notices me a sec, but i decide to go up to her. "You're pretty...i want to get to know you "

She smiles(Has braces) and is pretty receptive.

Me:<holding on to the rail> What you around the area for?
Her: I got work at a kids store in the Springfield Mall
Me: Damn...you must be tired doing all that stuff
Her: Yea...im pretty tired from last night...had a good time though
Me: U went to the bars?
Her: Yea....around the area
Me: Which ones are good around here...for when i'm able to go
Her: How old are you?
Me: Turn 21 in a month
Her: Oh ur just a babe ;-)
Me: Nah...just have a babyface...i'll be lovin it in 20 years
Her: But ur still just a babe
Me: Haha...how old are you then?
Her: 27
Me: No your not
Her: Course
Me: I don't believe you...you look like ur around 23-24....but so then...since u have fun usually...are you single?
Her: I have a girlfriend...
Me: Does that mean ur a......a....(I was a bit nervous to say since i thought i'd get a bad reaction)
Her: lesbian?
Me: Yea...lesbian...was trying to figure out the word
Her: Yea
Me: Its rare to find them
Her: They're out there...just most don't reveal it
Me: Yea, i heard that most women tend to be bisexual
Her: most women are bisexual...even the lesbians.

NOTE: From what we were dicussing and how receptive she was, i think i could've suggested a 3 some with her...but i ran out of time plus was a bit hesitant.

So then my stop is there and i say "It was nice meeting you"

#6 I'm at starbucks now and see a tied up blonde woman in a dress who looked to be in her late 30s. She sees me for a second, i think, i decide to go up to her and say, "You're pretty...i want to meet you " She says, "Awwwwwww! That's so sweet! But i'm married....Good luck tho " I cracked up afterwards as its ironic that im on this journey.

#7 See an older woman walk out, with a big ass. I thought i saw her previously, so i decide to take the chance anyways. I can't quite catch up to her so i say:

Me: "Excuse me!"
Her: "Yes?" <Sounds foreign, from looking at her...i wasn't impressed but decided to still open regardless>
Me: I didn't want to regret not going up to you
Her: Why?
Me: Because i like what i see....and i want to meet you
Her: <She walks off>
Me: It was nice to meet you

#8 I see another older dark skinned latina woman with a big ass i like across from the parking lot. She's on the phone, but i don't care at this point. I walk all the way over...touch her arm and turn her toward me. She notices me, i say, "You're sexy...i want to meet you" She smiles and says to me, "hold on a sec " I stand for 4 seconds...i see she's walking to the grocery store not acknowledging me, so i decide to just leave.


Analysis:
1) The second approach....i could've continued with after she said, "I don't know what to say" She was probably shocked/shy/nervous when i went up to her.
2) I found my first problem in approaches is of course nervousness. I'm not fully relaxed yet, it probably shows in my body language
3) The second problem is the way i smile, i don't smile warmly...its a half smile and my eyes are wide...if my eyes aren't smiling...its not a smile
4) First time approaching girls that are at the same vicinity...never really done it before.
5) I'm becoming less fearless
6) At this point, i didn't realize what was wrong my approaches but its fine.
7) I believe some of the older women whom i approach don't believe i find them attractive...for some reason...eventho i do.
8) I have decided to not go straight to R rated Mode One quite yet. I will try to master/get skilled at PG-13 Mode One first, then R, and possibly X.
9) Had a few more opportunities but thats ok....as time goes on it, i'll take them.
10) Approached my first lesbian, haha.
11) Controlling my fear better
12) Starting to get more interactions in.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

#1 I just approached two girls. the first was a latina girl seated down on the bus, it was pretty empty and she was the only one on it. I try to say ILY in spanish, but she couldn't quite understand it because i didn't pronounce the words right, but she could understand some english. Said "You're pretty" simply to see if she understand. She was receptive...she was small and cute. i just talked with her about what she was doing in the summer, telling her she was not only cute but also intelligent...since she was an engineering major. I find out from her that she's staying in the summer for two months before she returns to her country, which turned out to be Colombia...and let me tell u..many of the colombian women i've seen have been gorgeous...so no wonder she's cute and i tell her that.

After about 2 minutes, I tell her that we should meet up together but she couldn't quite understand so i told her "Me and you, date"...and then she told me to find her at the place she worked to tell her what time we should do it...as she doesn't have a cell phone plus i couldn't think of when to do it. Who knows what will happen...i'll keep it open.

#2 The second approach, was on the train..with a thick middle eastern/latina woman who looked to be mid 20's with a black dress on. I touch her saying "Excuse me!" first...the girl looked creeped out and tried to distance herself away from me(First time thats happened to me)...1/2 the train saw it and were looking at me...but i looked a couple of other people who were looking at me dead in the eye with a pleasant face...right back at them...to ensure im not ashamed...and they looked away....i felt proud of not feeling ashamed. One woman shrugged considering the situation.haha. But i know why the woman got creeped out, i hesitated too long to approach her, and she noticed i kept looking at her before hand....so i don't blame her.
It did catch me off guard at first and I did kinda hesitate to approach again on the train, but i'm definitely over the feeling.


Here are my new plans and way i'll go about approaching:

1) I want to only approach the women I TRULY want to go up to. I tend to hesitate with the girls i don't want to as much/feel like i have to....its like im trying to prove im not afraid....yet i've proven that i can take action. I can tell, because i get a special kind of feeling inside when i see a woman who I REALLY REALLY like. You guys got a very good point, maybe i should just approach those, rather than just the women who i try to convince myself....which are the ones i tend to hesitate toward...even if i might find them attractive on some level.

2) Going to approach with a natural/warm smile and look deep into the females eyes and checking her body out right before im right up to her, while she knows...but doing it confidentally...so she understands my intentions on a physical level. Before i didn't quite do that...all i did was TRY to appear confident and just keep a smirk on my face. Why don't i instead get the feeling of "I like this girl and she like me?" which will automatically appear on my face?

3) Not going to hesitate as much....if im nervous...will take a deep breathe and bam...doing what i got to do. I am less fearless as before and know of the rejection i can get.

4) Gonna do less amount of ejecting now. If i aint sure of what to say, i think for a second what i want to find out about her and then i think that will Just stay in there for as long as i can in the initial stages, if i haven't gotten rejected.

5) The times i stopped a girl, were mostly when they were past me. If i want to stop them, i should do it to where i am able to get in front of them, of course these apply to the ones where i have enough time to get in front of. The girls who have passed by already, either let them be unless they're the girls i really really like from first glance..to which i go for.

6) Will work on being able to look and smile at a girl who meets eye contact with me from a far, confidentally. I'm not at that point yet....i meet their gaze but i tend to either forget to smile or i am hesitant to. Not sure.

7) In the interactions, i will focus on doing pg-13 behavior of mode one...letting the girl know i wanted to enjoy her company 1 on 1. I think thats Pg-13 behavior or is that PG behavior? I want to be sure.

8) I'm hella proud at what i've been doing, no more do i have to regret not going up to a solo woman i want. I have that power now. I have surpassed my original self officially.

9) Mixed groups are what im still intimidated by. I tend to hold back on that a bit, because i want to be sure that the guy is only a friend, but not a boyfriend...as i don't want to game a guy's chick in front of him...just not a fan of the idea.....but if its not the boyfriend...game on...now if the girl is with a dad, that'll take even more time.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Subway
Goal for the day: Start of interactions


#1-Aright, im at the subway ready to do some approaching but my mom is going to work with me. In my mind, i'm like, "Damn! I want to go up to the women i like what i see...BUT my mom will embarass me and she won't approve me doing this while she's around! So then, i sit down on the train and see a girl that looks to be around my age, and i like what i see ;-)
If i was by myself, i definitely would go up to her sooner...but since my mom is there...i felt loads of pressure, because i didn't want to be THAT embarassed on the bus. The girl is holding on to pole and right before she gets off her station. She looks right at me. That same look the gorgeous woman gave me of whom i regretted not approaching. It was that same look of curiousity. I could see it in her eyes. After she leaves....regret hugely hits my mind. I tell myself, 'Who cares if ur mom gives u a lecture later!" So then i see a pretty woman sitting down. As i'm getting up, my mom has been talking to me for a bit...so then as i get up...she says, "This aint ur stop yet Steven." I say, "I know. Excuse me for a second mom!"

So then i go up to a sofisticated looking light tied up haired blonde, feeling the pressure of my mom watching w/o knowing what her reaction to all of tihs was, and say to her "You're pretty...I want to meet you " I definitely wanted to say something else, but since i knew my mom was watching, i just decided to stick with pretty. She seemed a little receptive, but i could tell it was possibly because it was early in the morning, her being thinking about work, she wasn't too involved in conversation. For the interaction, just decide to start conversation what first came to mind, what she was doing in the area. I don't want to go into specifics since it wasn't anything that could relate to seducing her. Pretty much just kept persisting conversation, after every few seconds...she'd continue reading her paper....i did seem relaxed tho...so thats good. So after a minute, I eject...and I see my mom giving me a "Why'd u do that/i'm embarrased" look. I just smile and wink. She asks if i knew her and i tell her, "Nope" She whispers saying, "Why you do that? Bothering her?" I say, "Bother her...how? ;-)" So then the convo ends, but she didn't seem too too bothered about it, just embarrased that her son is going up to girls...while she is there...must be a mother thing. I've decided to respect her wishes and won't go up to any women on the train if she is around, unless i tell my mom that there is a very stunning woman i have to meet.

DESTROY BLOCKER: Having my mom know i approach. I kept thinking that my mom wouldn't approve, but in reality...she didn't mind...just not around her...as she gets embarrased


#2 Was on the bus, and i spot a latina milf who looked around 40. Had sexual clothes. I was thinking about going up to her, but i saw a ring and assumed, "oh...she's married" So she's looking at my direction every 40 seconds...so then i decide...what the heck...and im checking her out FULL ON...she notices but smiles and laughs from afar...i give her a devilish smile...and after 20 more seconds...i go up to her, with a hard on cuz damn!..."You're sexy...I want to meet you > : - )" She smiles and laughs, but shows her marriage ring. I tell her it was nice meeting her. But after she gets off the stop, me and her are still gazing at each other(Course im gazing at her goodies mostly) She is still smiling. Eventho I didn't get to game her...i still think i made her day(She still feels sexy in that outfit). Now one could think, "Oh...she's prolly an attention *****!" But I don't think so...because during the times she looked back at my direction...she didn't have a smile...UNTIL I CAUGHT HER LOOKING and was checking her out.

DESTROY BLOCKER: Can go up to a woman whom i checked out previously, while they catch me and me smile at them...when i get caught


#3 Was on the train back home...at the train station...i see a very attractive pony tailed blonde woman in black clothes waiting for the train...i wasn't able to go on the spot approach her...since i was feeling a little ancy earlier in the day...so then i decide to just rest a bit. Funny thing, is that for most of the train ride home...the train is packed...but once it no longer is....I see her sitting in a seat. I go all the way up to where she's sitting tap her on the shoulder and say, "You're pretty...I want to meet you " She lights up and is receptive to it. She had pretty brown eyes and I could've commented on why i thought she was pretty(Her brown eyes and her face)....but at the time...i just asked what she was doing in the area and she told me work...which eventually she says that she's married and i do the automatic response: "When's the wedding? " and course she says no wedding. lol. I then eject.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Subway
Goal for the day: Go up to Who i really like



#1-See an Indian Girl at the subway, i see if i like what i see...i say to myself yes and go up to her. Do I like what i see. She's receptive but says she's taken. She says it was sweet...i say, "I wouldn't quite call it sweet ;-)" She says, "Ballsy? ;-)" and then i joke with her saying it wasn't that ballsy.

#2-On the train back home and I see another indian girl who looks cute and had a nice rack i liked. Im waiting about 5 minutes, as i'm feeling a bit nervous...for some reason(Must've been i was tired from working). So then as she's sitting next to someone(A BLOCKER OF MINE ORIGINALLY)...i then go up to her..say hi...and then say,

Me: You're cute...i want to meet you...
Her: =-o :-D who? Me?!
Me: Of course
Her: :-D My name is Prisha
Me: Steve...

From what i could tell...she was very repective... and was smiling. She was very adorable. I ask her what she's doing in the area and she says she's visiting some friends...we talk for about a minute about this and where's she is at in the area...and then my stop is arriving. I regretedly, didn't ask for her number...thinking i wouldn't be able to get off my train in time. EXCUSES.


Lesson Learned: She was very interested...just that i hesitated getting a number to see her in the future.


#3-On the next station waiting for my other train, see a thick brunette about to go on the phone. I go up to her saying i like what i see. She says, she's on the phone. I took this as a rejection.


Lesson Learned: It was not a rejection...she just had to go on the phone first but she did say it in a upfront manner.


#4-So then when i walk back further in the station, it amazes me...for the first time ever...there were a good amount of girls waiting for the train..this caught me off guard to the point where i couldn't figure out which one i should in fact approach. "Her...no maybe her...she's cuter than the other girl...but i want to approach her" etc. This was more or less me hesitating. So then i see a girl who keeps repeatedly looking at my direction(Not at me though)...so i see from a far..she looks attractive...so i decided to go up to her, i do ILY, and she is recepted by it. I ask her what she's doing in the area...and she says she works for a loan firm. I figured that me asking what they are doing in the area might be Small Talk, isn't it? But as i was about to continue talking to her...the train i need to get on arrives...but is packed like hell..so i decide to not get on it. After, for the strangest reason...i lose interest in wanting to continue to talk to her...and i know exactly why...because of the next approach.

#5-See a fit looking very hot midlengthed haired blonde a few feet in the back. I Go up to her and say, "You're beautiful..." She interrupts saying Thanks , thinking im done, but then i continue with "I want to meet you" At first, im thinking she's just receptive to being friendly.

Me: So you must've jogged out here
Her: Nah
Me: Oh wait a second...<looks down on her feet>...you don't have shoes on
<I forgot to mention to you guys but i have a foot fetish...especially with the nail polish is a specific color...red and pink usually ;-)>
Her: haha...yea...i just did a pilates class
Me: Oh...u teach the class?

NOTE: I forgot to mention to you guys, for many of my approaches...on the subway..when i go up to them....im facing them...but afterwards...i go talk to them from the side....i want to know...should I still be directly in front of her during the interaction or is it fine to then be right next to her talking?

Her: No...i just do it around here...its why i go to the station
Me: Yea...i can relate...i did aerobics class...it was tough as anything...i thought i was gonna die...haha
Her: ...<She then starts to ask me questions about myself but at the time...i'm thinking she's just being friendly...but i do notice something weird...she is playing with her hair an aweful lot right at this moment...and im confused whether she is being receptive just because she's a nice person deep down or that she was more interested than i thought>
Me: Hey...u can't be the one to always ask questions ;-)
Her: Its what i usually do
Me: Such a Copycat ;-)
Her: haha.

The next train arrives...i'm telling her that this one we have to get on...and then once this one is too filled itself...i hilariously walk back to end of the train sign and i'm like, "C'mon now! :-D" Another guy who's in teh vicinity says, "I know right? haha" She thinks its funny too.

Then our train arrives and im right next to her. Now i'm unsure of what to say and there is a silence for a minute(We aren't really facing each other...and i think i could see her looking at me once or twice from the corner of my eye)..so then after the minute....i then tell her, "Ahhh...just made it in time" Then i notice, she's receptive again in the conversation....and then i ask her what she's doing that night and she says she's doing ice skating. I tell her that typically its funny how people who roller blade tend to be the fastest learners. She says that she hasn't done it much but looks fun. At this point, I want to know if she's single or not...so then i ask her if she was and she says she isn't. I ask her how long they've been together and she says its been 2 years so far. I check to see if she had a ring but she didn't...so then im thinking that its just a boyfriend. So then her stop comes and says goodbye.


Lesson Learned: She was very nice and receptive, and possibly was more interested than i had thought...just that she might've been shy about it. Words just flowed for me this time, because i think i could relate to her.I was bit hesitant to reveal my intention to her sooner...as i hadn't felt like i had that much control in the conversation...but maybe i should've gave myself more credit.


Also, I want to know...what exactly is Small Talk? Is it the questions i've been asking finding out by her or is stuff ur talking about that u don't care? The weird thing is that i do care what they're in the area for....so i can find how busy they usually are. Opinions?

#6-I see a very pretty/beatiful brunette woman sitting down across from where im at. Afew people who are standing up are blocking the view between me and her. I decide to go up to her and say, "You're beau...pretty...i want to meet you" I hesitated to say beautiful, because i thought i kinda had a fear that she would've thought it was bull**** or something i dunno...but she looked at me in the eye for a second in a caught off guard/shocked manner...and says, "But my stop is here " I then tell her, "its all good.haha. its all good.haha"


Afterwards, while im waiting for my bus...my mom is there and DAMN! I see a sexy light blonde woman with a killer rack and nice booty walking past us. She notices me looking at her and she has a curious look on her face....i want to stop her so badly...but yet..my mom was there....and it was killing me...I knew deep down I absolutely would've gone up to her if mom was not there. I just decide to check out her goods and she notices it from the corner of her eyes but tries to hold in a smile...but fails at it ;-).


Analysis:
1) During these interactions...im thinking that the girl isn't interested as she's not quite appearing as receptive or excited...but maybe they are interested...just that they just need to feel more relaxed first.
2) Now that i think about it, the blonde was interested....even if she was taken.
3) This promise is killing me...i'm telling you...it'll be at the point where im gonna crack and tell my mom, "Sorry! I can't let this go by!!!!"
4) Starting to feel more sexual with the way i look at a woman.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Subway
Goal for the day: Go up to Who i really like


#1-Was cute blonde woman whom looked just like the girl who ignored my approach on Tuesday. I went to see if there'd be any more attractive girls coming down first...but after i check....not really...so i do the you're pretty one and she says thanks. She had pretty eyes. She is wearing headphones on and i ask her if she was at the station two days previous and she says no. I asked her what she was doing in the area, but i could tell that she wasn't really receptive...just being polite.

#2-See a girl who appears to have a nice body...but i can't tell how her face looks. Its killing me not knowing what her face looks like....but unfortunately...i hesitate to go up to her(She's reading a newspaper). As the train comes and I go inside, I decide to sit away from her. Then after a few minutes of wondering if she would be attractive or not, i decide to go up to her. I say, "I like what i see...I want to meet you" When i see her face, i wasn't that impressed...and kind of felt a lack of continuing the interaction, but i could tell she was repective...but then as she exits out the train after i return to my seat...i notice is her body is better than i originally thought and i had indeed regretted.


Lesson Learned: I think a face is important to me..but sometimes if the body is nice...that can be a substitute...just got to be honest with myself.


#3-See a dark short dark haired brunette sitting down. I thought she looked cute afar so i do ILY and she looked "aright". I decide to keep the interaction going just to see how far i can go but its not really flowing that well(We just mainly talk about the stuff she does at her company)

#4-I learned a good lesson with this approach. See a brunette with sunglasses of whom she didn't look too bad. So I go up to her and say, "I like what i see....I want to meet you" She gives me a guarded look(to where i think is disinterest)" So then as i'm about to walk out, i ask her what books she's reading and she tells me its about crazy people from Florida. I ask if she's one of those crazy people, she becomes a little less guarded, laughs, and says not really....but i decide not to persist since i didn't like what i saw much. But once think i have finally realized how my body looks during the interaction, is that as I wanted to leave...my body looked that way...while im not sure if im doing well...i'll slightly face her...and when i think she's receptive...i'll completely face her.

Lesson Learned: Big Lesson Here. Learned that you're emotional state truly affects ur body language, without u realizing it...even if u try to consciously control. I think the best policy is if i'm nervous, to take a deep breathe to relax my body. If my body looks somewhat relaxed...then my nervousness won't show as much, unless i tell the girl outright i'm feeling nervous.


#5-Was an asian athletic girl with sunglasses...whom i had an opportunity to stop when she was walking toward my direction...but i hesitated not to. So then as i'm going to the bus stop home...i see she's exiting out. She is about to call someone, but i decide to go up to her anyways. I turn her, do ILY..and she smiles and says, "I'm on the phone " I could've waited till she was finished, but i decided ot just walk away...but then i notice..as she gets picked up(Prolly from her parent)....she's looking right at me and waves with a giggle in her car as its leaving from a far.

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Location: Shopping Center
Goal for the day: Go up to Who i really like and do better at interacting with women.



#1-See an older asian woman sitting down at starbucks. I think she looks "alright" when i first see her...but then as i go in starbucks..as i see her face more...i notice that i do like what i see and go up to her saying, "I like what i see...I want to meet you" She is a bit receptive and inviting, so i sit down with her.

Me: What you doin around here besides enjoying starbucks?
Her: Ohh...i'm just waiting for the stores to open
Me: Ohh...gonna buy some dresses?
Her: Yea...afew things...
Me: You should buy some sexy dresses to capture ur look more
Her: Ohhh....there's no reason for it
Me: There is....any woman...who might be a little older...can look even more amazingly sexy...they just got to find the right outfit.
Her: Haha. Ok.

From the rest of the interaction, she tells me she's married and has a few kids. I just talk with her about that.
Thus i decide to leave.

#2-I decide to go inside Ross to see if the asian woman is there, but when i do that....i see a stunning blonde woman who driving in a jeep. I decide to follow her, she really looked stunning and i wasn't going to pass up that opportunity. As she exits the car, i decide to toward as she's about to enter the grocery store...i am too late to get right in front of her, so as she's walking i walk up to her but more from 1/2 the front, 1/2 the side and open. She looked to be in her mid-30s. I do the Beautiful opener and she says she can't me at first, so then i say it again and she smiles and says that she's not interested.

#3-I'm at Burger King to get a breakfast sandwhich and i see a very hot caramel skinned black milf. My god did this women have an amazing body. Its pretty empty, except me and her. I am checking out her goods and she notices i am. She is waiting with a relaxed posture...So then i go up to her, Do the sexy opener...and she seems pretty friendly, relaxed and very receptive and calm. I didn't quit face her after the opener....but as i was talking to her, she def knew my intentions, as i would tend to check her out while she noticed...but she didn't seem to mind ;-). I ask what she's getting and she says that she isn't sure and is hesitant to get anything too fattening as she needs to watch her wait. I look at her again, up and down, and ask her what wait she needs to watch. She, unfortunately, says that her husband is pressuring her into eating healthy...which then i ask if he's an excercise freak and he isn't...but is the one that eats healthy. We decide to then part ways, after she is done ordering...but i could def tell it really made her day...she looked sexy and she got reaffirmed of it...such a shame she was married...as she was hot as hell.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: The Beach


I'm at VA beach, and i'm riding a light blue bike down a boardwalk with my best friend and brother shirtless, who happens to be riding a pink one...just to be funny. It was hella fun and it got me more relaxed around the atmosphere(I was nervous at first since i never had been in a beach area). I saw quite a few girls in bikinis and i liked what i saw for a majority of them. I lost count of how many girls i approached, it had to had been double digits. But these are the approaches I do remember.

#1 First approach, im riding my bike and notice a think girl who doesn't look bad but there was something about her look i liked in a bikini with her friend...we pass by them as there walking...i look at her turning my head from the front and she notices me looking at her. So then i tell my bro and friend that i'd be right back, so then as there walking toward the beach, i catch up to them...turn the girl and do the Sexy opener and she gives off a full out disinterested reaction, saying "no".

I felt down about this rejection, since it was a new place and i did indeed start to doubt if i should do it at the beach. I rode my bike with my pals for another hour and some chance to get me thinking about me having to for what i want today. We repeatedly see these two cute girls, one who looks 1/2 latino, 1/2 white and another cape verdian(west indies), walking on the boardwalk...who actually get approached previously by another guy...but i think indirectly. I tell my friends again that I'll be right back.

#2 They are both walking slow, i turn the 1/2 latina girl around who has sunglasses on and tell her I like what i see. She and her friend are both facing me, and her reactions are more or less(Waiting for what i have to say) I can't remember how the interaction went, but it was just about them staying at the beach for the day and how they live in the same area. With that, i could've gotten the number. I'd say for this approach, the girl must've prolly hadn't been use to being approached like that.....so it was my job to get her more relaxed, which she prolly wasn't. They didn't try to walk away at all or anything. After about a minute, i eject since i wasn't sure of what to talk about afterwards...since i wasn't getting the receptive responses i got in the past to where i was more relaxed to let the words flow. After i left, i saw the black girl whispering to the brunette girl and they are facing me...i stick out my tongue to be funny.

Miss a golden opportunity. See a wavy haired brunette with sunglasses, who's with two other dudes and another girl. I could tell that they weren't dating these guys, they both looked like partiers. I decide to sit down near them on the beach and the girl looks at me, smiles, and says hi. I say hi back, smiling...but at this time i thought she was just being friendly...but i was wanting to approach...but i didn't get the nerve to. Mixed sets still intimidate me. Damn, she had a nice body...def regret not knowing that it was a def Indications of Interest...if she looks at u for a second...then smiles and says hi. Funny tho, the other girl that was in teh group and one of the guys both get approached by a cop who seems that drinking some beer, they don't have IDs on them. Uh oh!

#3 See a very hot dark brunette milf with a big ass walking with two older women on the beach. I wasn't gonna let this opportunity pass me by. So then im following them but am walking to the side a bit a distance away...thinking about going in front of them but they were walking at a good speed and i didn't want them to see me run to go up to the front of them(BLOCKER) but i decided to walk right up behind the Very hot mlf and turn her around....from what i saw...she def was extremely sexy...i say she's beautiful and she says thanks...and lights up a tiny bit....and is still walking...im walking beside her

Her: Aww man.....im behind them
Me: Course....they're giving us one one one time
Her: haha...c'mon....ur young enough to be my son :-S
me: It doesn't matter...you're still sexy...with great wine...comes with age
Her: Well thanks for the confidence boost, Steve :-S
me: course....just remember that.

I could tell it wasn't going anywhere...since she told me she had two sons early on and she had the vibe she was married, but i couldn't quite tell. But she seemed relaxed tho and down to earth.

I'd say her reaction was on the light hearted-sarcastic side...since it was more of light conversation. My words flowed a bit better here.

#4 Saw a girl a little ways from two other girls lying down on the beach....i go up to one of them with "You're sexy...i want to meet you"
The girl say, "Did someone bet you to say that?" I say, "Yes.....me" I think i eject after 30 seconds...since it went stale afterward...but it might've gone well if i knew how to handle that situation.

#5 See another girl of a group of three, go up to the one i like and do I like what i see. One of her friends immediately tells me,

Her: You can't just say that u like her...she's a special kind of girl
Me: Sure i can ;-)
Her: What u need to do is...refine your game...then come back
Me: She probably might not be an ordinary girl but how would i know if i haven't even met her yet. U sure are funny

I never got to really speak to the girl i wanted to talk to at all, but i did sit down with them for a minute just to see how far i could get.

The rest of the approaches, i got either rejected, bf, under 18, married. It was a new environment, so its expected that im still in the beginning stages.


Lesson Learned:
1) The fear of rejection did hit me...but i got through it.
2) Wasn't fully relaxed with interacting with these girls, eventho i appeared to be...as if i was fully relaxed...words would've flowed in my head.
3) The Super Hot women really get my blood boiling and i literally ran almost 10 minutes on the beach trying to catch up to one...it was hilarious...too bad it turned out that she wasn't that hot afterall...only a far. Haha.
4) No one cares if u don't have the fittest body at the beach if ur shirtless.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Shopping Center/Subway(Yea...its the only reason why i even look forward to going to work, get to do this)
Goal: Atleast have some form of a close.


#1-Alright, i see a thick latina/asian looking woman sitting down, at first as i look at her im not impressed at her face...but then as i'm sitting down...i notice im getting a hard on as i do indeed like what i see. So i go back to her, say it, but she can't understand. So i try to say "Attract-tivo" and she says in spanish for me., and then decide to sit next to her. She can't really understand English that well but from what i could tell she was receptive. It was hard to talking to her, as she couldn't stand english that well...but after a minute...she told me that she was married. Did hug her at the end.

#2 I'm a bit tired, but i see a vuluptous black woman next to an older black woman entering starbucks. She sees me for a second while she's walking in. I decide to go inside starbucks, and i tell her she's beautiful. Her friend is smiling at us, and the black woman...from what i could tell...seemed interested as she was facing me but just the fact that she was a little caught off guard, prolly not expecting it. I ask her what she's doing in the area and she tells me that they are getting something to drink before leaving. After this, i'm frozen of what to say next...and im looking at her for a second, but can't figure out. She then says it was nice meeting me.


Lesson Learned: I felt frustrated a bit as i blew it. I just couldn't say it. I knew what i was gonna say, that I especially liked her nose piercing and found it very sexy...but i just could say those words. I definitely felt the "breaking point" feeling of feeling a big adrenaline rush when im mad about something...but it did teach me something that sometimes you know what u want to say, just that ur afraid to say them, rather than not knowing what to say.



#3 At subway, see a black haired woman, do i like what i see. She gives a not interested/ignore reaction.

#4-I'm on the train and am feeling tired. I notice this Dark Skinned skinny Asian Woman with long black hair. I notices she keeps repeatedly looking at me. From the distance, she looks alright...but when i go up to her and say, "I want to meet you" by turning her around, she's cute and nice. She was acting nervous and i liked that...as i don't think she expected me to go up to her. During this interaction, i'm feeling a bit less relaxed than usual. I ask her what she's doing in the area and she says Grad School at GMU. I light up
and ask her which program she's doing as i plan to find out that stuff. We don't get to talk for long, but she does ask me questions about me like: What do I do, etc. I then tell her that we should meet up sometime and she says that probably the next time we meet on the train, but then i tell her that i want her number and she politely declines. I tell her it was nice meeting her.


Lesson Learned: I want to ask her about which asian country she was ethnically from, since i thought her skin tone was sexy. But sometimes i'm wondering, how would you be mode one on a train where lots of people are around. Saying that we should enjoy each other's company 1 on 1, is that PG mode one?
I want to know.


#5-See a brunette with an ass i like, walking out of the station. I follow her and then say "Excuse Me!" like i use to be before. She stops, i say i like what i see. No one is around the vicinity. She is receptive by it but continues walking. I'm walking with her asking what she's doing. She tells me she's just going home. I forget what the conversation we had after was about, but then she tells me that she's taken.


Lesson Learned: Since no one was around, i could've been mode one and told her that i liked the way her ass moved.



#6-I'm feeling a bit hesitant to do the "Hand Stop Motion" again directly in the front, because of Nostrom's advice not to. But then, i realize that...if its gotten them to stop...then it must've gotten their attention atleast. I see a brunette woman with sunglasses talking on the phone. I put my arm up and face my palm toward her, but not as strong as before. She walks just about past me and sees me still holding up my hand. I say, "Stop..for a sec" She smiles and says sorry that she's on the phone.


Lesson Learned: I need to do it just as powerfully as I use to...saying "Stop" with a powerful voice rather than a soft voice like i did.



Analysis:
1) I was starting to forget about being mode one for a bit, as i figured i needed to work on the basics before.
2) I took Pastiche's advice and attempt some kind of close, its worth a shot atleast.
3) Still can't figure out exactly what vibing is...but it will take time.

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Location: Shopping Center/Subway(Yea...its the only reason why i even look forward to going to work, get to do this)
Goal: Atleast have some form of a close.


#1-I see a blonde woman with tied up hair, of whom i like what i see. When i say "Hi" she brightens up(not sure why at first) then i say "I like what i see...i want to meet you" She says that we've met before.Haha. I ask her where and she said at starbucks...then it hit me...i do remember her...shocked i couldn't remember her face. I then play it off for a second still telling her that i still like what i saw.haha. Me and her just talk for a minute before i leave.

I then see an asian woman with blonde/brunette hair with sunglasses in line. I want to go up to her, BUT i still believed the girl i last approached was still in my seduction reality and i was concerned with what she thought. This caused me to fear approaching her. I then sit down in front of starbucks and notice that same asian woman walking out, i say hi and she says hi back in a receptive voice. I was bit tired, but i just let her continue walking by. It killed me horribly to where i felt that "Breaking Point" feeling from yesterday....I tell myself that i missed a good opportunity and so i decide to approach a woman whom i thought looked aright at first...but i atleast liked what i saw.

#2 I go up to her, from the back as i tried to catch up with her. She says she got scared from it. Tell her its ok. She says she's married.

#3 I see a woman with sexy legs with a dress.... a weird feeling i had but i ignored said that the woman seemed familiar...but i decide to go up to her anyways, I say loudly "Excuse me" she seems...i'm walking next to her, say she's sexy. She gives a sarcastic smile and puts a thumbs up...and she tells me i met her before and said the same thing.


Analysis:
1) This breaking point feeling is starting to rise some more...for the inability to take action sometimes.
2) Still forgot about Mode one today
3) Reminds of back when i was at Uni, that i have had approached the same girl before.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Shopping Center/Subway(Yea...its the only reason why i even look forward to going to work, get to do this)
Goal: Atleast have some form of a close.


#1-I'm at the subway station and I see this very good looking woman. There was a guy talking to her, before i put my contacts on to approach. Inside the train where she's sitting..where there are a few people near her...i say "You're beautiful...I want to meet you" She isn't looking up and has a polite look smile on her face. I'm standing there for about 4 seconds to wait for a response and then i just walk back. As i walk back...i notice...a good looking older woman was looking at me now and then. I Wanted to go up to her but i was scared since i partly didn't want to feel shame(BLOCKER).

#2-See a 1/2 asian girl waiting for the train. I go up to her directly in the front as i was walking, noticing her, forgetting what i opened with, and she's on the receptive side. I could sense some interest from her at the beginning. She asks me some questions...reinitiates when i run out of things to say(Still not use to this and subconsciously im thinking they are just being polite...since that what happened in the past when i just did Mode 2.5 cafeteria approaches)...but i just be honest that im working during the summer...i then tell her its my turn to ask her questions...and i talk about what she does for about 3 minutes and then i ask her if she's single and she says no. I then tell her it was nice meeting her.


Lesson Learned: I wasn't quite relaxed during this approach...hence why i ran out of things to say. Also, i will no longer ask their relationship status...unless they bring it up.



#3-I see a brunette woman on the train right when it arrives. I go up to her, say she's pretty but she's looking down with a polite smile reading her book and shakes her head and says, "Not interested". I decide to talk to her for another minute.

Afterwards, i notice an older woman who has a thick body i like but it didn't quite cross my mind to go up to her since i didn't think she had one. But as she left, i then noticed it and then realized that the whole time i did like what i saw. That breaking point feeling finally got released...and then my adrenaline hit again.

#4-Spot an older latina woman that i saw previously, but then decided to go up to. I got ignored after ILY. As i'm exiting out of the station, i notice she's looking at me. Weird.

#5-At the Ross Store, im feeling the adrenaline somemore and i look for the Asian milf that worked there...but she isn't working. I then see an older latina woman clerk i had my eyes on and go up to her with, "You're pretty...i want to meet you" She cant understand english...so then one of the other co-workers...asked what i said to her and she translates for me...and the latina woman smiles...the co-worker lady laughs and says the latina woman is married.

#6-Riding the train home, see an older latina woman....i go up to her when the train arrives...she blows me off....but then after 3 seconds of standing there....i ask her name and she tells me she's married.

#7-On the train, i see an asian woman with a red shirt and black glasses with jeans. I like what i see I find Older Asian looking women, HOT! So then i tell her that i find her sexy and i want to meet her. She smiles a little bit...and says she's learning english. I'd say for most of this interaction I was finding out about her. She was mostly quiet...but i think i wasn't doing too bad keeping the conversation going for about 6 minutes. I ask about her ethnicity, being from mongolia and i found the differences between that and chinese. Then after a bit, i say we should meet up sometime, 1 on 1. She then kinda doesn't say anything after. I face her asking her if she knew what i mean. She says yes. From what i could tell, she was either embarrased about the situation or didn't know how to handle it or was uncomfortable. But i know one thing, atleast she sorta knew what my intentions were....something non-platonic.

#8 See a late 20s Blonde, whom i saw going down an escalator. I go up to her in the front and say I like what i see. She seems neutral...she says "ok" and we introduce ourselves. I ask her about what she's doing tonight and she says the bars with friends. For about two minutes, as she's contributing here and there, i could tell she wasn't really that interested...but i know why...because she didn't care for this talk and deep down neither did I...i wanted to talk more of why i like what i saw.

#9-see a curly blonde haired woman sitting down with another person. It took me about to go up to them but i did. I say, "I like what i see...I want to meet you" She lights up alot! She was very very friendly. We just talk about respected colleges for two minutes(Just getting more comfortable talking with women decreasing small talk) After about 5 minutes, i say to her "we should meet up in the future" she says, "We probably will sometime " I then say, "Give me your number" I could tell she starts to not feel comfortable with it looking away with an embarrased smile and says "that's ok" and i could tell she was nervous. I then say, "I'm glad ur being honest " Then i walk out.

i sideapproach two more woman but i get rejected.

Then....

#12-I see a cute black haired girl who seems a little ancy. i go up in front of her and say, "You're cute....I want to meet you " She lights up a bit.

I'll only go into the specifics that matter, since about 2 minutes was the situation at hand, a pass she was giving away. i was a bit more comfortable with this interaction than the others, as i wasn't expecting a good reaction/vibe from her. But after about 3 minutes, she says she needs give the ticket to someone...i tell her i'll call her...so we can enjoy each other's company...and have 1 on 1 time. She seems relaxed about it and says that she leaves in 2 weeks. I tell her that we'll meet up before then. As she leaves, i call her number....just to be funny...so she has mine...but i see that she didn't answer...but eventually checks the number.

Lesson Learned: I had no idea i'd get her number at all, i actually thought she would not give it. Maybe i under estimate the interest of some of these women.


At this point, im feeling more self conscious for the strangest reason. normally, if a guy got his first number using a method...he'd be hella joyful...but me...i felt glad but felt more self conscious than i did when i didn't even get a close.

#13-See two women walking out of the train station...i wanted to go up to the woman who looked sexy...but i assumed that it was her mom and that it'd be pointless(Hesitation) after a minute...i decide to just go up to her and i do "I like what i see" get ignored but i knew perfectly why...because i did it like a symp plus my mindset at the time was like it use to be, just approach to approach...which showed in my body language and face.


Analysis:

1) I'm starting to attempt closes now, even if the interaction wasn't that good...like the one with the cute girl...i was surprised i got it from her...guess it was good interest.

2) Numbers still don't mean ****....well i guess they kinda do when she knows u dont want her platonically...but more than that.

3) The last approach was good evidence of what i use to do and why i got rejected so much then.

4) I'm still not confident yet but i'm getting there.

5) I'm handling the feeling of embarassment/shame more from being rejected...i let it go through.

6) Starting to have a more warm vibe

7) Got to work on being relaxed when girls ask questions....which could mean they are interested in some form.


Gonna reach mode one...will take a bit more time...but its my worst fear and i'll get to that point!

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Shopping Center/Subway(Yea...its the only reason why i even look forward to going to work, get to do this)
Goal: Atleast have some form of a close.


#1-Was a black haired woman sitting on a train, asked her if she was a girl i had seen on the train afew days ago. She was receptive and friendly. I look at her in the eye and say i find her very very attractive. She is receptive to it, but says she's taken

#2-on subway, see a girl with boots who looks sexy from afar...upclose she's not as sexy as i thought but still cute. She is reading a book, and is receptive. She starts asking about me and again, i was honest telling her what i was doing for the summer(I aint trying to DHV myself if i don't want a super lifestyle...i just like taking it easy). I find out she's on vacation for two weeks and just as the train comes.....i forget to get her number. But its all good.

#3-On train home, see a stunning blonde who has shades on with a slim body. After a second, i go up to her...say to her from the heart that I find her beautiful and I want to get to know her. She is dazzled and has a pretty pleasant smile and says that she's married...i see a big rock on her finger...but it was great knowing that she felt good about being reminded that she was beatiful.

#4-This one was weird.....I see an indian girl(She looks around 18) We meet eye contact for a second when i see her go inside the train....i go up to her, just as the train was stopping to let people out. I say, "Hi" before i was opening...but she quickly moves to the next available seat. At the time, i'm thinking she got horrilby creeped out and truly avoided me. I felt embarrased a little bit, and the funny thing was that afterwards...she was looking at my way whenever i wasn't looking at her...but i somewhat didn't believe till after the fact.

#5-The feeling from the previous approach hit me and i was hesitant to go up to some women...but i def got over that feeling...so i approach a pretty indian girl. she is pretty receptive...but the funny thing about this one was that she asked me in a joking manner, "Do you do this alot?" I say in a joking, sarcastic voice: "oh me...never...why would i?" haha. I ask "Why?" She says that it seems u have words ahead of time. We get into a regular discussion for a few minutes until she tells me she's taken.
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Location: Shopping Center/Subway(Yea...its the only reason why i even look forward to going to work, get to do this)


#1-Asian milf at starbucks that i've seen at Ross. i go right up to her say, "hi" as if knew her already(this might've been the best friend vibe that Comecuca was talking about)....then she hi back...i say i've seen you before. She says her name is Amy and we introduce each other. I then tell her i find her irresistably sexy(Which was what i really thought) and she leaves. I'm telling myself, "Does she really not think she's sexy?" Wat is it with these older women? But i learned not to take it personal.

See a tall skinny woman, whom i found very very attractive....was about to go up to her...but another black guy goes up to her first, but indirectly. I was like, "Damnit!" and i didn't want to go up to her as i didn't want to ****block him till he was finished. But after he was done, i was about to go up to her but hesitated...then as i was gonna go to her, she left.

#2 But i do see a vulutpous brown haired woman but i was feeling ancy for a weird reason....and then the stop arrives and we both leave off to the same station to transfer to the next train. I see that she's waiting there....and see a fellow black guy is indirectly talking to her. Im feeling nervous so then i decide to say what i really want to say, i go up facing her and tell her "i had to gather up th ecourage to talk to you, you're very attractive " She says, "Ok my name is SoandSo" We introduce each other....and i tell her again that im nervous...she says ok. I then say to her, "what's your story?" She says, "What do you want to know?" I say, "About you...waht do u like to do?" before she can answer the train arrives....and its packed...she says that she's got to get on...i tell her that im def not going in there...so then i think she was expecting me to go in but i thought i wouldn't be able to fit in...so i let her go....


LESSON LEARNED: I was feeling very ancy on this day..for some reason...and i didn't feel regret till after the situation was done....she was interested! I should've just went in the train with her, she was more open to talk...just that i had the mindset of "Oh...im feeling very nervous right now...i won't get anywhere with her" I don't regret so much now as im cutting myself some slack, but next time...even if ur feeling nervous...interact with her.


#3 See a cute girl that i wish i had approached 2 1/2 weeks ago on the train, who was waiting for the train. I go up to her saying she's cute and that i like freckled girls....she lights up big and is very very outgoing and nice. i was very shocked but happy with this. Was feeling ancy here, and do the usual talk of what u do and such such....she was mostly talking...i hadn't felt this nervous for a while...and i was sure it wasn't her...it was from the day itself.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Hey people I haven't updated as of late, as things have been slow.

#1-Was an older asian woman whom i see waiting for a train sitting down, at first when i see her...i liked what i saw...but then as i saw her body... i was like damn...now thats a fine milf. So i go up to her when she's sitting in the train, tell her she's stunning but she can't quite understand what im saying. She puts her headphones on again, but its only because she couldn't quite understand what i was saying. So I decided to leave, eventho after i walked back to my seat...i want to persist further.


Lesson Learned: Touch the Woman, so she knows you're intentions on a physical level..even if we couldn't communicate to each other much.


#2-Was a cute redhaired girl with tired looking eyes(She looked just like a girl back in middle school but cuter) I hesitate for a few minutes but i go up to her, Say she's cute and i want to meet her. She's very receptive. I ask her what she's doing in the area and she tells me she visiting from Atlanta for the weekend, with her friend. At this point, i feel like nothing could continue between us since she's visiting her friend for the weekend and i am unable to meet up with her during then. What i really noted here is that she kept the conversation going whenever i ran out of things to say...it was if she was helping me seduce her. I think i could've gotten the number if i just asked but who knows.
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Location: Subway


Today i actually felt some AA again....but i managed to go up to two girls.
But before that, i sat and talked with a cute asian girl of whom i thought was ok at first...but changed my mind afterward. I hesitated to reveal my interest in her, as she's pretty outgoing and speaks whats on her mind....but it did teach me a lesson...to reveal ur intention. And now, i dunno if i'll ever get that chance. Oh well.

#1 The first one on the train, i hesitated for about 15 minutes to go up to as i had no idea what to say, but then i decided to go for it. Due to how nervous and anxious i was, i just played it safe and said she was pretty..eventho i wanted to tell her she was sexy. She said thanks with a polite smile looking away. I decided to persist further by asking her what she's doing later on. She says she's going to beach. To tease her, i ask her if she's gonna swim or lay around. She smiles and says, "Oh I'm swimming " I then tell her, "I dont' believe you " and the conversation dies. But i felt proud that i was able to go up to her despite having the feeling of "I shouldn't"

#2 This one was for the hell of it, at the train station exit said she was pretty..eventho as i got to see her face after tapping her...i didn't really like her face...she gave a disinterested look and said no thanks.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Shopping Center


Man as of late, anxiety has been trying to hit me again and again. But i've still been able to approach. Saw a cute girl in a 4 set, who was lebanese....was hesitating since i hadn't done one before...but as they split off in starbucks, i then eventually go up to her, I tell her she's cute and I want to meet her. She lights up alot and is very very receptive....from how the interaction went...it was if it didn't matter what i had said to her...she was still interested...and it was if she was "helping me out" seducing her....she then starts to laugh and i say, "what's so funny " She says, "I'm just not use to this :-D" i say, "Course...this will be how u remember me by...but don't be embarrased ;-)" Then i see one of the other girls comes in and puts her arm around her. This whole situation kinda confused me, since i was feeling a bit nervous...and then the other girls joined it. I was like, "Oh man...didn't expect this to happen " But after 3 minutes, i then tell to put down her number(told them i was going to so and so club on Saturday)...but then her friend tells me that they don't give out their numbers as their middle eastern. But eventually one of the friends said that to call them and they can go out.


Lesson Learned: I was nervous, but its best to keep attention with the girl ur gaming...rather than shifting from her to the friend. Also, even if i was nervous...i should've asked the girl while talking to her directly...but when i did she was facing somewhere else but was still active in the conversation...a situation i wasn't use to yet.


#2 Went up to a 3 set sitting down at a table at a mexico burrito restaurant. There were quite a few people in line and i would say it was the worse nervousness i had felt this whole summer...but i told myself that i got to...if i want to eventually be mode one. I go up to the one i like and do "You're beautiful" but didn't have that much of a smile on my face...due to me being nervous....she responded ok...and after a minute of being introduced to them, i ejected after not knowing what to say.....

Lesson Learned: I missed some good opportunities but i cared too much of what a crowd of people would think....but hey..im easing it up.


Been tough i would say...and sometimes i doubt since school is around the corner and i keep fearing that the same situation would happen again(Sarging in the summer, first day of school faint due to social anxiety then build myself back up to approach again.) But it won't happen, i've surpassed myself compared to back then. But i'll keep this going

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

#1 Was at the hookah bar during this night and saw a 18 yr. old cute blonde sitting down. It took me 30 minutes, while with my brother and best friend at the place, for me to start approaching again. After 30 minutes, i see she's sitting down watching some of her friends dancing. Since the music is loud, she couldn't hear me...i tell her she's cute and i sit down next to her. The conversation really only lasted 2 minutes, as there was a lot of high energy there and i wasn't use to it. Plus, she was pretty distracted with what was going on in front of us(People dancing).

#2 Was a brunette girl whom i had my eye on, she was about 5'1 or 5'2 but had a thick body that i really liked. She sees me touch her, i look at her and say she's cute and that i want to meet her. She lights up quite a bit and does the "play with hair" thing for a second. She was with two friends, a guy and a girl, we introduce ourselves with them. I just ask what school she's going to and she tells me JMU. I tell her i go near VA Tech(Radford)....me and them talk about the areas we are from for a few minutes. I'm still feeling a little nervous at this point...so then i eject after 2 minutes as i wasn't quite sure of where to escalate next


LESSON LEARNED: Talk to her somemore and then isolate her. Her friends were pretty chill, should've brought her back to where my hookah was.


#3 A blonde girl with her blonde friend. Had a 2 minute convo with them...one of the dudes who knew one of the girls puts his arm around her and says, "Hey bud" and then he indirectly says that she was his ex-gf. But the funny thing was that i was not talking to the target girl, whom he thought i liked.


Analysis:
1) My first time doing night related game...so it was a new experience...not quite a club...which is even higher energy
2) Interacting with girls in that kind of environment seems more difficult to me, eventho i have heard that its easier by most guys who pickup. Could it be that its more physical than non physical?

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At the mall shopping...a day full of Approach Anxiety. I felt ashamed of myself...and promised that i would come back.
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Location: Same as usual

#1 its 9 AM at a gas station and i noticed a slim, wavy black haired woman with sunglasses with a tattoo i thought was sexy. I go up to her and say, "I find you very very sexy and I want to meet you" From looking at her, she was late 20's. She is receptive and when i hold her hand and upper elbow/midarm...she's not resisting and she has a pleasant expression on her face. She asks what im doing in the area and I tell her that I plan to go to Silicon Valley, she asks what that is and i tell her in San Jose/San Fran(Funny if i made a joke of it being breasts). I then ask her what she's doing in the area...and she tells me that she does photo shoots for modeling and musicians. I ask her if she does it herself and she says, "no. Just of other people" This convo lasted about 4 minutes, to where...I then tell her, "We should get together sometime " She says, "Sure...let me get my card" After she gives it to me, i say to her, "Lets do it tomorrow " She says, while looking for something in her car..."I have plans" I then suggest the same night and she says the same thing. I knew it wouldn't work since i was leaving off to school in 2 days, so i wanted to do something within a quick timeframe. But all in all, great approach.


LESSON LEARNED: I think i did well here and we some good rapport to say the least. Too bad this didn't occur weeks previous where i had more time. I think deep down she had interest.


#2 At TJ Max, was an Asian Woman...i catch her offguard...she's a milf...she says she's flattered and smiles telling me her kids are running around.

#3 At the mall at Express Men, see a long dark haired short brunette with a thick body i liked. I go up to her with the "cute" opener. She's receptive and we introduce ourselves. I ask her how old she is(HS or College) she says that she goes to Tech. I tell her i go to Radford and that we may see each other there. During this convo, she's still looking at clothes and I'm thicking i lost her attention and i somewhat almost leave till she's still talking. I eject after 3 minutes

LESSON LEARNED: Go for the close atleast.

#4 At the Mall approach a tall, stunning woman who's in the makeup department talking to a friend. I do the "You're beautiful line" and she's very flattered but tells me she's married and has 2 kids. Definitely beautiful woman. Was feeling nervous right before doing it plus i passed by her once before.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Location: Campus
Goal for the Day: Do what i did during the summer


Today was the first day of classes and I was kind of nervous in terms of approaching again due to the fear of not getting results(The previous school year i tried very hard approaching but never got to hook up with any girls, mostly because i was mode two with the girls). But then after about a couple hours, its about 1 PM...i see a cute small blonde girl from afar.

She's walking toward me...i walk across the street and on campus

Me: Stop
Her:
Me: You're cute...I want to meet you
Her: hi. Wats ur name?
me: Steve What's urs?
Her: Jessica
Me: Its a pleasure to meet you

<during this, i can tell my eyes are fixed on her, and hers on to me>

Me: Get out of class just now?
Her: Yea...i'm tired...im headin back to the apartment
Me: Oh which one?
Her: S.M.
Me: Yea...i know which one that is...i should come over sometime...
Her: Yea

We just have normal conversation, i would say this approach things were going on more non-verbal than verbal.

Me: Hey...lets meet up...and have 1 on 1 time...
Her: Sure... You want my number?
Me: Course ;-)
She writes it down for me...I give her a hug and kiss her forehead(I tend to do this i guess to show im comfortable and warm around girls)...which makes me wonder sometimes...why are some guys scared to hug a girl?

Lesson Learned: I would say this one turned out pretty well...eventho we had some normal conversation...i'm glad i did reveal my intention of doing something non-platonic...so that was good.
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Location: Campus
Goal for the Day: Game more girls


#1-Was a cute small brunette sorority girl walking to campus, i stop her. Do the cute opener and i could tell she was very receptive. She comments on how she's never been stopped like this before...and i tell her...the more to remember me by. We walk together for about 5 minutes, on her way to her car. I just tell her that i know of people in her sorority and we both talk about names for a couple of minutes. She says she's about to go to her car, but i tell her we should meet up sometime. She gives me her number and we part.

Lesson Learned: Don't lose numbers. I lost this one and wondering where it went. Rapport was normal this time, but atleast it was something we could relate to...how we were both greek. Which is funny, as I tend to not like wearing my fraternity letters as i believe it would personally be used as a crutch and that i would rely on it too much(i tended to last school year to open the ice).


#2-Was a slender blonde girl walking. I was feeling a little nervous for this one but i went for it anyways.

Me: Stop
her: <confused>
Me: I wanted to meet you
Her: oh...my name is Christie
Me: My name is Steve...its a pleasure..........I find you very sexy(Looking deep in to her eyes)
Her: Oh ok
Me: Where are you headed to?
Her: Just the library
Me: Library...this early in the school year?
her: Yea...
<at this point...something familiar happened...when i couldn't think of anything...all i could do was look at the girl trying to think of something else>
Her: Well i gotta go...
Me: Aright..u take it easy

Lesson Learned: Asking about herself would've been the best thing to do. This situation happened quite a bit in the past, where i'll do direct...the girl show's interest but then if the girl doesn't say much or is waiting for me to say something...i tend to have a brain fart..


#3 I'm at the bookstore and as im buying books, i see a very very attractive long haired slender brunette...she notices me..and we share about a second of eye contact...while im in line...she's walking to the 2nd floor of the store. After i buy my books...i go up the stairs and she's walking toward downstairs. I stop her. I do the cute opener(Many of these college girls are cute in my book...i want to use you're beautiful when i see a very gorgeous looking girl). when interacting with her, all i can see are here eyes and all i can tell is that this girl was even hotter upclose...i was like "God Damn!" in my head. We introduced ourselves and i find out she's a freshmen. This is her first week and as i'm about to have some rapport with her/ suggest to her that we should meet up...i notice the sales clerk is waiting for her and then i say out of the blue(Kind of hinting that we walk together downstairs) "You know the register is downstairs" i say....she laughs and says, "Yeah...i know" I leave thinking, "Damnit!"

Lesson Learned: Still should've went for the number
Not bad for today at all...i would say things are going well.

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See a cute thick blonde/brunette girl sitting down on a bench. I go up to her, say i find her very attractive and she lights up. She is cute but i def liked her good sized rack. In this approach, she's mostly doing the talking and i just listen to her of how she's tired of classwork and just wants to relax. After a couple of minutes, i get her number and tell her that we'd have 1 on 1 time...she says sure and writes her number down.
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See a curly haired brunette skinny girl sitting down at the bus stop with a girl i've seen before. I go up to her and say, "You're cute and I want to meet you" . She lights up but the friend next to doesn't seem to happy. She asks me if im in so and so frat(as one of her roommates is a sweetheart in my fraternity) I say, "Yes...how did u know?" Afterwards, i then sort of ended the interaction regrettedly. After 4 minutes, they both leave and the girl i opened....was looking right at me with a "curious look". I was like, "Crap. ****block City" haha.
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Unfortunately, i held back with this approach. Saw a blonde girl sitting down waiting in the hallway for class. I just say hi to her and i could tell she was disinterested. She looked to the side every second.

LESSON LEARNED: Things might've been different if i went up to her the way i wanted to.
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Yet again, held back. Was a skinny blonde girl sitting down waiting for the bus. I knew it was time for me to go up to her directly but unfortunately i just sat right next to her and only said hi(wanted to do something different than taht). I just had irrelevant small talk with her(Express clothes as she worked in the mall)...and then the conversation died down as i wasn't interested any more by that point.
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The Update
1) The blonde girl i got a number from...i left a message saying that we should hook up with each other. Didn't get a call back. Did see her again on campus randomly one day, but it was more a hey watsup thing and that was it.

2) Lost the 2nd girl's number.

3) The girl on the bench, still setting something up with her...just unfortunate that some of the days she's not available...but she did say for me to call her again. We'll see when that happens....i won't persist any further if its getting me no where. I did call her again and she told me that she wasn't sure if she could do something the next night.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

nice to see you're back on the grind. Ignore the haters or people who dont even respond, coz I know ill read it. Good luck. I skimmed over it, but I'll read the entire update in-depth when i get some time