The Game Continues, my approach journal

[DonJoseCantosie]

Last Sunday

Hey guys, for last week i'm gonna cut it short...since my posts have tended to be long

#1-Saw a girl on the lawn at the center of the campus, actually...two girls...but had to decide which one to go up to. So i decide to go up to the one who was wearing white. She was lying down with sunglasses and I say, "Hi...I saw you over there and I wanted to meet you" She takes off her glasses and her headphones. For about that first minute, we just introduce ourselves....and then we start to have some rapport about what we did for the week, her major(Why she was passion about it)...i do tease her for being shy, "Yea...u do seem like a shy girl ;-)" and "<tap her shoulder>aright...ur turn to talk" lol and flirt with her by smiling at her when she was done talking"
I then realize the original girl i wanted to approach was the hotter one...and she saw me talking to her....and watched us. For quite a bit, she talked about what she wanted to do for her major and I related with her about that.

I tell her that I have to go to the library and that I would like to talk to her again....She gives me her number and her aim. I say her overall interest level was good.

#2-At the library and see a dark brunette middle eastern looking girl with glasses and her hair tied up and a good chest. I see her reading a book. I tell her, "I like you...i want to get to know you " She's very receptive but says she has a boyfriend. I just ask her what she's doing and she's reading psychology. From the vibe i got from her, it definitely made her day. I ended the convo after a minute since i figured it was futile that she had a boyfriend...eventho i could tell she was happy i went up to her.

#3-Was a girl i saw reading a book, i just asked her what the book was and she told me with a polite smile.

#4-Was at the lawn again, saw two girls...one was a redhead-brunette while the other was a dark brunette. I was definitely feeling the first girl. I had to sit down in the middle of the lawn since i felt a bit of a pain in my head(From the previous night drinking) Afew people chat me up while im sitting down i know plus i get a phone call from a friend. As I see the girls are about to leave, i stop them and say to them, "You guys are leaving? I wanted to sit with you guys" They are pretty easy going girls and they do most of the talking while i put in my 2 cents, and they are still standing at where they are while i'm talking with them. I'm mostly facing the girl i have my eye on, but i could not tell if she was giving IOIs or not...or just being a silly...friendly girl. Her friend was also pretty friendly. We talk for about 10 minutes, i tell them that I have to go and i invite them to eat with me but they say they're going to study. I ask the brunette-redhead wats a way i can contact her?
She says that she has facebook...one of the girls says her info is on facebook.

#5-Sat and ate with two girls who were quiet, but left while i was still sitting and eating. They didn't say much at all. It happens.

#6-Sat and ate with two more girls, but we talked about frats and what not. Thats all really.

Got myself a number...so it turned out good...i'll update with Monday-Wednesday.

 

[Agent Zero]

That's pretty good stuff, man. Very impressive that you are approaching girls who are with friends. This is kinda against DJ advice, but try taking the girl who you got her number on a date, maybe get a coffee or something.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

That Monday

Aright fellas...I did a few approaches here and there:

#1-Saw a blonde walking past me on my way to dinner, she smiles and says "hi". I say, "Hey ..."STOP" She stops and i say, 'I want to meet you' She says, We've met before. I Say, "We have...where?" She says, "The cafeteria." At the time, i was trying to remember...but from what i could tell...she seemed a bit unhappy that i couldn't remember her...she looked like 10% of the blondes that go to my school...but recently i remembered who she was.

#2-In the cafeteria.....I see a brunette girl getting some food. I'm sitting with a couple of guys i know of when we catch up. I tell them, "Excuse me guys...i brb" While she is getting food...i touch her shoulder and tell her, "Hey there...I Saw you over there and I just had to meet you" She starts to play with her hair and she asks my name. I hold her two hands when I shake them and tell her, "Steve...remember that name ;-)" She tells me her name, and she says that is impossible...she has a boyfriend...but i could tell i definitely made her day. I then tell her with a smile, "Atleast it will give you something to do when im not around? ;-)" lol...she laughs a bit...but then i couldn't come up with something else to say...so then we just parted ways....wonder how to transition after i go direct sometimes...but not bad.

#3-After i leave the cafeteria...see 2 girls at the lawn sitting down...i go up to them and say "Hey guys...wats goin on?" They say "Not much" but aren't really paying attentin to me. I Sit down with them anyways and ask them what they did during the Mardy Gras weekend. One of the girls tells me that the other girl's boyfriend came by and they hung out with him. I say, "oooo...when's the wedding?" they both laugh a bit but say, "No wedding" They then started talking amongst themselves...so I decided to cut it short and leave. I say to them it was great talking to them.

#4-At the computer lab, i spot a sista girl with braids of whom i thought was stuck up since when i gave her eye contact, she'd sometimes look away in a disinterested manner...but it was just my mind playing tricks on me. For about 15 minutes...i hesitate wondering if i should go up to her...so then I do the 3 second rule in my head...and then go up to her..behind our row of computers was hers. I say to her, "Ahhh...wat are u working?" She tells me "Just homework" I say, "Homework? Ur such a dork " She laughs and says that she's always busy with her major. I ask her what her major is and she says its nursing. I ask her if she knows a guy named So and so...she says that she doesn't really notice the guys much. It was just normal conversation...so i just tell her it was great meeting her and go back to my computer. She says hi every now and then. I think i left a bit too soon.


Today I was working on doing more direct approaches, since its what i want to do.

What I've improved on:

1) Can stop a girl who's walking by
2) Its great weather so there were more girls around

What I can improve on:

1) Still figuring out ways of having some of these conversations appear to be more than just fluff talk but actually be more on the sexual side.
2) Believe in myself a bit more....its all comes down mentally.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Hey Agent Zero......thats been one of the hard things for me to do...set something up with a girl after the approach.

 

[greenlake]

LOL at the "what i've improve on: the weather."

told you, most of them are friendly huh? even tho some look mean. i think all u got to do now is notch up a few levels and be more sexual with these girls.

btw, u touch the girl's shoulder in approach #2?i think that pretty scary, try to tap/touch her elbow. it be less intrusive.

if u and her are not in a hurry, then u should go for instant date. have lunch, take a walk around school or even sit on the bench together. give her a chance to know u a bit more. that way you won't have to deal with facebook but get real numbers.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Tuesday

Hey people...here's Tuesday's approaches:

At class, there was a nice to look at blonde that gave me positive eye contact after saying hi to her one day. But every other time i was in class, the seats next to her was filled. Today I wanted to game her but once again, the seats next to hers were filled...plus when class was over...she left pretty quickly.

But here's what happens further:

#1 Was at an eating lounge and I see a cute brunette who smiles at me, in a shy way, I raise my head and give her a smile while i'm ordering food. After I get my drink, I go up to her and she seems shocked that I went up to her. I tell her, "Hi...i would like to meet you B-)" She smiles shyly again and says "hi" I ask her what she's getting, she says "Blah Blah" I tease her about not eating healthy and that everyone these days should be eating their veggies. She asks my name and I tell her Steve. After I tell it to her, theres a second of silence(Transitioning after direct is what im working on) I look at her smiling and she's smiling to but actually ejects from me. HAHA...could be she was flustered that I went up to her.

#2 As I leave the lounge...I see a group of 3 girls eating among themselves. I go up to them and eat with them. For most of the conversation, i'm just working on my social skills...groups have been a bit difficult for me to generate attraction for the girl i want. There were two girls of whom i thought were pretty cute....but i just talked with them about what they were talking about and then a guy joined us and i talked with him a bit, he was pretty cool. I actually learned partially from the guy of what i could gain from the game....talk about exciting of urself. He told the girls about how he was doing astrology stuff and what not...they seemed pretty intrigued and i learned something. He did most of the talking and I just observed. An all around cool guy. After he left, the girls stayed for another minute and left. They were pretty receptive.

I felt a good deal of confidence after those 2 approaches, that i then see a blonde with her hair tied with a brunette girl and a guy...but two people are talking to them.

#3 I see the guy thats talking to them and i ask him if he plays tennis. He laughs and says that everyone confuses him with the british guy who plays for the tennis team. I then transition over to them but they were about to leave, but i remember them...i sat and ate with them before.haha.

I go to the library and do some more approaches

#4 See a brunette girl with glasses look at me with positive eye contact, but i didn't go up to her at first....partially because there was a guy in my class that i perceived had high value than me at the library react negatively of me trying to game a chick(In reality...he didn't care) Was just in my mind. But after...i just ask her where the printer is and what she's studying.

#5 See a hot dark brunette on the computer playing solitaire. In Sosuave ratings, i give her an 8.5. Very Pretty Face with freckles, good chest and nice ass...she was a girl i remember who was on the phone giving me positive eye contact while we were on the bus months ago. I wanted to go up to her at the time, but she was on the phone. So then i walk toward her with my Body Language as if i'm about to walk somewhere and I ask her, "Wat are you playing?" She says, "Spider Solitaire" I ask her, "Is it like reverse solitaire?"

She explains to me for a minute...and all i could tell was that she had a good personality. It was pretty easy to connect with her. Had looks and personality. She had a great vibe to her. Definitely my type. It was pretty easy to talk to her. I also tell her about how we both live in the same apartment complex and how the partying isn't what it use to be. She gave me a few good IOIs...but i could tell they were genuine. I teased her for being a procastinator and how i'm the perfect distraction for her...she laughed and was acting a bit sarcastic. It was funny, she had a similar personality to myself. She tells me she's passionate about dancing, some hip hip but that she doesn't get to do much of it anymore. I tell her that she could be the perfect teacher...i always wanted to get good at Darren's Dance Grooves .haha. She is very receptive the whole time, but she says that she has to start a paper that she's held off. I ask her what her plans are during the weekend and she says she'd most likely be studying. I tease her again saying that I bet she'd wait till the last minute as usual and she says sarcastically, "Oh u read me like a book ;-)" haha. I tell her im about to go but i would like to talk to her somemore, and tell her she's a very interesting chick(maybe girl could've worked better)...and ask her if there's a way to reach her. She says facebook and i ask her, "Facebook?" She says, "Yea...its a form of contact. There's always a phone number"

I tell her, "Better yet...I WOULD like to get your phone number
I was being persistent with getting it from her(She knew i was trying to get her number)...even mentioning there was a date party for my frat coming up, but she tells me in a honest way that she has a boyfriend and that she is dedicated to him. I tell her its a shame, as we both connected real well.She says that things might change the next semester...and who knows what will go on then. So we part ways.

I got a very good vibe from this girl and is one of the few girls i've met at my university that i felt i could truly connect with at the start.

#6 See a girl on the top floor reading a book as i'm trying to find the printer in the library and i ask her what she's reading and she tells me, "Interor Design" stuff with a smile. I smile and say, "Ahhh...perfect....u can design my house for me...free of charge of course...since u know me" she laughs and says that its what she's gonna do. I also mention that it must be stressful in the labs and how Interor Design Majors are pretty mean people once they're stuck in there. She says that its true and she tries to stay away from the lab. We introduce ourselves.....she then keeps looking for the time...so i ASSUMED that she wanted to continue studying, while in reality, i just had to be more persistent and keep talking to her. I tell her that I would let her finish what she was doing. I believe i made her day as well.

#7 I go back to bottom floor where my things were and notice an asian girl looking at Que cards. She looks at me and gives me a quick smile. I go up to her and tell her, "I like you and i want to meet you" She's also very receptive...even showing me music notes...actually teaching me what they are. I get a very very good conversation with her, and are able to connect with her of how i want to play Saxophone and that it would take a lot of work. She helps me out by telling me where i can register for the class. We talk for almost 30 minutes about how we know the same person, what her passions are(Singing), how she's busy and can't party much as she wants to, what her plans are in the future, etc. I get some kino in as she shows me her sunburn on her higher back...i actually touch it and caress it for a second and she doesn't flinch or anything...lets me touch it.

She then says that she has to go to the Music Department Building to study so then I tell her, "it was great meeting you. You are easy to talk to...I would like to talk to you again" She was very friendly the whole time and was relaxed and had a great smile. She tells me, "You have to work to get my number ;-)" "Awww...c'mon babe....if u don't call this work i don't know what to call it" hahaha. She laughs and says that it'll take more time before I get her number. She says, "All guys want is just a number " I say, "Yes...i too am a guy...but I want YOUR number...because its best than AIM or facebook" She says that when we hang out...then she could give me her number. I tell her "Aright...i hold u to that ;-)"


Good day of approaches at the library, felt a good surge. Direct worked pretty well there...didn't do anything wrong in particular with the last few approaches went well. These girls were easy to talk to and wanted to talk.

What I improved on:
1) Did direct at the library
2) Am getting rid of the excuse in my head of being rude interrupting a girl studying
3) Found that there are girls that you can connect with and yes...they can be hot as well

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Sup Greenlake,
Actually...its not scary if u do it from the side...the girl will actually be more curious....forgot to mention...it was her upper arm more so than her shoulder....now if u do from the back...that can be scary...if i got touched in the side...i wouldn't be as nervous as say the back. But yea, i feel ya man....should go for Insta-Dates. I'll work on it

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Wednesday

Aright guys,
today much didn't happen.

Not many girls were on the grass for this day. But i did feel a need to sit on a bench and to go up to girls that were walking by.

I did manage to stop one...who had glasses but a skirt and glasses with brunette hair.

Me: Hey there... B-)
Her: Hey
Me: STOP!
<She stops>
Me: I want to meet you
Her: ...But I got a final to do tho
<The class started in like 3 minutes...so i let her go>
Me: Thats a shame...it was nice meeting you.

She seems interested just sad that she couldn't stay to talk.

There were other girls who i tried to go up to but there was a building nearby and some of them immediately went in the building while others were walking pretty fast...had to observe them for a second. Still pretty good weather outside.

As i leave, since girls weren't really walking around anymore.....i spot a think dark brunette with sunglasses also walking to where i am, the bus stop. From what i observed, she looked pretty hot. Turns out she was the ex-gf of one of the frat guys i know. She and him broke him and thus she was single. We talk for a good 10 minutes about how she is, what she's been doing, where's she gonna go, etc and how she's not coming back(Possibly an easier pick up since she doesn't have to live with if something wrong happened after she transfers) She then sees my greek letters and asks me what frat I'm in, I tease her saying I stole those letters and im in no frat. She hits me and says "Shut up " I tell her, "Its the truth but i'm Phi Sig" and we have a date party. She tells me where she lives and that she'll be hanging out there during the weekend and that she might possibly be able to go. As we leave the bus, i ask her for a way to contact her, she says "Facebook" I say, "Facebook?! :-(" haha. Then I say after a pause..."Facebook it is" She prolly sensed i was a bit unhappy when she told me that...instead of getting her number...i could've just asked outright. Thats ok.

Later on about 10 PM...as im eating at the eating lounge....i see the same middle eastern girl i saw at the library days previous but couldn't recognize her as her hair was out and she didn't have glasses on...and let me tell...she was a cutie both ways...and she was eating with a guy(Who i assumed was her BF at first) but in reality...was just a dorm mate. He was cool as Sh1t and we both teased her together and it was fun. He was pretty laid back, cool, and laughed alot...like myself. I didn't talk much but at some moment since i was a bit tired...but it all worked out. She invited me to sit with her and him, and she showed some signs of interest...i just didn't persistent further with her...and kinda held back asking for her contact info since the friend was there.

Hey guys, do u have any suggestions for Doing more seductive/sexual talk? I'm a bit clueless on it.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

UPDATE(Thursday-Saturday):

Thursday

There was a date party that was suppose to be on friday, so i tried to get in contact with a few girls to be my date, but most already had plans.

I did hit up the girl that gave me a number from Sunday.
After a few minutes of talking about the last thing we did, I told her that I wanted me and her to eat with each other on Saturday, She said that she had Campus Awareness Board Stuff to do, then i told her Sunday. She tells me that she'd be more comfortable in hanging out with me in a group session, and that she has a boyfriend. I tell her that its ok, i already have friends and that it was nice meeting her and she was an easy girl to talk to. She then says that what i said was shallow. I tell her that i'm being honest, i wasn't looking into anything platonic...i thought she knew. She says, "You're Fvcking kidding me?" I say, "no" She says, "Haha...this convo is done." and we stop talking from here on it.

Atleast I was honest with her about it...thats what im proud of...i felt a bit down since its the first time i was honest with a girl about in that way...but im proud for not trying to hide what i felt honestly...that im interested in a girl in a non-platonic way. She was cute looking but nothing to brag about.

The next day, Friday, at about 5:30 PM(I woke up late...since classes don't have attendance policy)...I'm at the cafeteria and see a blonde girl in life. I go up to her...touch her upper arm...she gives me her full attention and i tell her, "I saw you over there and i wanted to meet you " She's pulls her hair back and ask me my name. I tell her Steve and she says, Monica. I ask her where she's sitting and she says she doesn't know yet. I tell her, " I'm sitting over there...join me" She says, "Ok " so then while im getting my drink...i see that she was already sitting with people...i could've just talked to her more so that then she would actually sit with me at the table. But she seemed like she showed Signs of interest, but probably cared what her friends around thought...which is why she sat with them instead.

Friday Night, i didn't do anything.

Saturday, our fraternity had a party...and i had some AA...but i did approach a couple of girls who came by our parties now and then....but they were either too drunk to hold a convo with or just talked amongst themselves. Held back in direct approaches, as i wasn't sure of what to say...after i drank a beer...ruined my judgement to social communicate efficticely yet again. Was a blonde chick i was dancing with, of whom when i was grinding with, was doing it in a sexy manner(She was drunk)...i could've kissed her but was afraid of getting rejected for the kiss plus of what her friend would think. I felt bad since this was the last weekend before I left and all year...and i still could not get some....while it was easier for others. I felt bad after i left...but i was proud for coming this far and to keep on going.
The big lesson was that I just had to take the risk and go for it.

But I've decided, at night parties...no more beer...if I want to game...i just hold a cup and thats it.

OH, I ALMOST FORGOT. The method i've been using is:

DIRECT GAME...for outer game...while using Player Supreme's teachings for inner game....

He has a great site and I think more people should listen to his podcasts.

Sunday
Today I felt down in the game...from the previous night...but now as i write this...im gonna give finals week atleast some form of a shot coming...and destroy the limiting belief of being super rude interrupting a girl who's studying for her final. Thanks Greenlake for that tip. And hey, I'm still young...20...and got a life ahead of me...just got to keep going in the game.

GOT THE WHOLE SUMMER TO GAME..and let me tell you...you all should seem quite a bit more Approaches then...But i'll give this week a shot anyways.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Come on you guys, besides the board members i know well...nobody else?

 

[Microphone Fiend]

lol.. aite i think imma start up a new journal coz of this thread.


1. As for being honest with the chick. It happens, and you can move on quickly instead of her trynig to string you on. It's happened to me before, i learned to keep my platonic partners and my potential pvssy seperate.

2. Your one liners and responses are getting better. Some textbook stuff like the bf responses, "something to do when im not around" or "whens the wedding". And some stuff that seems to be on the fly

3. With the asian chick who wouldnt give the digits up originally but wanted another meetin first. That still works in your favour. The whole point of the digits is to setup another meeting and she is doing that for you. Dont focus on the digits when you guys meet again, get them, but dont make that the main reason for seeing her again.

4. Work on your closing line. Its leaving things open to facebook when you want a phone number. Facebook can be social proof when you have 200 hotties constantly posting on your wall, but it doesnt beat actually gettin digits. Its like that whole issue of being honest you encountered earlier: facebook is akin to seeing the girl in a group setting and digits are going for something more private and personal.

5. Lol @ resarging a chick you forgot about. If i were you and i saw her again, i would do it again, and then play with her like it was a joke from the beginning.



(*clicks link in sig* HeyJose25pts = Jose Cantosie!!!! omggggwoot!!!, lol.)
Didnt know that man. I should have guessed it from your cafeteria sarging lol.

 

[Agent Zero]

Seriously I don't know why more people aren't responding. This is one of the best approach journals ever! You are approaching like 5 girls some days, ridiculous!

Okay, some of my thoughts:

1. Seems like you have no AA anymore so that is a good thing. I think you should focus on approaching solo chicks cause you know how it goes if they are with a friend, they all want to hang out as a group. Even if you just get one of their numbers you know her friends are always gonna be asking about you so there's pressure on her and she might flake. So see if you can find solo girls to approach, maybe studying on the lawn.

2. Also ditch the facebook. Ask them for their number instead of how to contact them cause then it's more of a dating scenario rather than friends. But if you just want to network and stuff then facebook is great.

3. Your convos are really good from what I can see, but I think you can improve on your # closes. Instead of saying like "better yet, can I get your number?" or something smooth sounding, just be upfront and say "can I have your number" or "what's your number". Just make it seem like it's no big deal at all and it's something you do all the time.

4. The girl who got mad at you cause you said you didn't want platonic, don't sweat it. I think she assumed you meant like one night stand or something haha. Honestly if a girl is saying she just wants to hang as friends and you can't convince her otherwise, just be like alright cool I will call you when I get a chance. Then you don't have to call her.

Overall man you are definitely on the right path. I gotta get my game up to your level. I would say just try to approach solo girls, number close, and try to follow up for a date. Don't try to be a player or anything, just be a cool guy and try to take them on dates with just you two. I wouldn't even worry about being sexual. Once she trusts you enough to watch a movie at your place, you will most likely get laid even if you haven't been sexual at all leading up to that.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Today was the day I had a huge opportunity....tons of hot girls who weren't with anybody getting food at the cafeteria(they were sitting down with people ofcourse though)...but my belief in my head was, 'I'll just wait till the summer' Part of me was literally shaking as thats how bad i wanted to go over to some of them and just say "Fvck it" to my pride....but i held back for stupid excuses of "Meh...i'll wait till the summer.

Nothing will happen this week...its too late for anything to happen" Even when i was sitting by myself, I was getting certain kinds of looks from females, as if they wanted me to approach...it was completely weird...as if they could sense what kind of guy I am. Now I just hope an opportunity like this will happen for me tomorrow...many hot girls around.

Tomorrow I'm giving my all SoSuave....I won't let any of you down, I've come to far to just call it quits for the semester. For the sake of giving it one last shot! I don't care what happens. I can't hold back who I am, especially what I want. It killed me today that I didn't do what my body wanted to do so badly. It wasn't even a full feeling of fear, it was more of me questioning, "Why should I try this week rather than the summer?"

I found the answer to my question, "Because...this is your moment of power. Right now. Be true to what you want in life. Don't let something in your head hold you back from what you truly want, even if part of you is scared. You are already the Supreme Player you want to be....you just have to vibrate at that level and bring it out"

Seeing all those hot girls today walking around actually triggered my self conscious and memories of doing all this.

I'm giving it my all till Thursday Night sosuave. Watch me. I'll be #1!

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Thanks you guys for your feedback. Microphone fiend, i learned a heck of alot from you, love those interactions on the bus! I won't let myself down tomorrow. I swear to you all. I've got 3 days left to go for what I want before the semester is over.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Today didn't go as well as planned as I woke up later than usual....was a blonde girl in my class that i've wanted to talk to all semester but i got nervous before talking to her....just said, "good luck" to her for the final after i was talking to one of my classmates.

Did sit and eat with two girls, but i didn't game them.

Man, hopefully wednesday will work out.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Hey guys, Wednesday and Today....i did do about 4 approaches in total for both days, but nothing really escalated further.

It looks like these two semesters, I wasn't able to get some....but it did teach me quite a bit:

1) How much i've improved in the game.
2) How some people looked at me differently
3) How good my social awareness is now
4) That a good portion of the girls i approached, about 40% actually seemed attracted...i just had to take things further
5) How even if u have social status...u still need to have game

I've also got the summer to game in the DC area. It will be fun.
I did good this year at school(Did something that most guys don't do on my campus during the day time), i vowed the end of the previous year...that I would be able to approach women...and I accomplished that. Sure, maybe I didn't get laid...but I came very close many times. Every party I went to, I did in fact approach atleast once. That should be enough credit for myself.

I'll update next week of more approaches back home i will be doing.

 

[danielzxc]

Man that is a LOT of approaching you're doing. A lot of them seem pretty into it, too (unless your account of it exaggerates -- intentionally or not -- their interest level). If you had done a bit a more escalating, for sure you would have laid at least ONE of them by now. There's something holding you back there man. Don't be afraid to be completely self-honest with yourself about what it might be, because the first step to dealing with it is to acknowledge it. Seriously, for that amount of approaching, you should have had a better return.

Nevertheless, hats off to you for the tireless way you go about it. MAN, if I could approach like THAT, sheesh, I don't evenwanna think how I'd be gettin' You're an approaching machine man. What's especially inspiring is that you found it so difficult at the start. Gives suckers like me hope.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Thanks for the feedback. I know exactly what holds me back from some interactions, is that i sometimes draw a blank with these females after i give the opener of what to say next/transition without losing that attractive spark....plus its mainly fear of losing a good interaction by playing it safe. That willl change my man

 

[greenlake]

bump

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

Hey everyone, its been a very long while since i've done any approaches. I'm going to be doing some on monday.

I will be focusing on day game at these places over the rest of the 8 weeks in the summer in the DC area.

Subway Station
Outside Somewhere
Mall
Coffee Shop
Happy Hour Bars(I dont' have to be 21, i can just be at the restaurant eating by myself and spot a girl there who's at the bar or at the restaurant still)

And night game i'll rarely do but it will be at:
Lounges

Not feeling clubs, eventho i will go afew times.

Here are some things i'll be working on:

1) I'll be more upfront with my intentions, in a more straightforward manner. No bull****.
2) No more situational game. Just all out direct.
3) Direct open a group, not even acknowledging the other group people unless they talk to me
4) No more small talk. I'm bored of it and will talk more of what i want to talk about.
5) Will do most of this, if not all of this.... solo
6) Even if im nervous one day, i'll do my best to still go up to that girl i want.

In my bootcamp, the reason i never got laid was because i played it safe. I will no longer do this.

Also I want to spread out the word for direct game.