The Danger Of Girls With Many Male Friends?

[BadBoy89]

None of my guy friends want to have sex with me, not because I’m unattractive either, but that’s not the nature of the interaction.

This is where men and women differ. You think they don’t have to have sex with you. But they are just waiting for a moment of weakness to swoop in and make love.

There is no guy in the history of the world, married or not, who is friends with a women and hasn’t thought about sleeping with her. It’s not in their DNA.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Thanks for sharing your peniz problems with us!

Thanks for sharing all ur falling in love with thots problems with us. When u find a girl who doesnt want to sleep with anyone and everything let us know what leaving cuckhood feels like.

 

[soulforge]

Thanks for sharing all ur falling in love with thots problems with us. When u find a girl who doesnt want to sleep with anyone and everything let us know what leaving cuckhood feels like.

Thanks for the advice, but thanks again for sharing your peniz problems with us

 

[soulforge]

This is where men and women differ. You think they don’t have to have sex with you. But they are just waiting for a moment of weakness to swoop in and make love.

There is no guy in the history of the world, married or not, who is friends with a women and hasn’t thought about sleeping with her. It’s not in their DNA.

Yeh everytime UNLESS she is super ugly and obese.. but hell some dudes will take a BJ off that type of girl during a dry spell.

 

[soulforge]

These women will stop being in contact with all the guy friends, if you tell her No more hanging out with guys and being their friends, she will disconnect from them for having a relationship to bond with just you.

But once the two of you break up she will instantaneously have the entire entourage of dudes hanging around again like old times. Like the most joyous of best friend times ever, a kind of reunion of best friend fun, without you.

This is facts.

Some chicks are just naturally inclined to have a bunch of dudes (options) around then.

Yes she may drop the dudes for the sake of her relationship, however if her natural inclination is to be very forward and comfortable around men, talking to men, online/offline, real world, then it's always going to be a source of concern.

 

[soulforge]

Whether guys are available or not is really irrelevant, it ignores the cause, a weak relationship to begin with. If a woman comes to the point she'd cheat like that, then I'd argue the relationship is fvcked either way regardless of whether she actually has that option easily available or not. It wasn't going to work out anyways if she's that weak.

Most relationships will go through a weak spot, it's inevitable in 2023.. It doesn't mean the relationship is fuked, it just means some work/effort maybe be required to fix the situation.

However throw in a bunch of dudes/freinds who are waiting for a vunerabile moment in your girl, and let's see how quickly things go from fixable to totally fuked.

 

[JusSayin]

I always considered that a red flag. It's feminine for girls to have girl friends so they can gossip and talk about girl things. When she says "she isn't good with girls" and "prefers guy company" what that is implying is that women might call her a slut or gossip about her (for a good reason) and that she ****s a lot of guys (because let's be real if she gets drunk with them they will ****). Wouldn't take for LTR, but for a ****buddy they can be great.

 

[soulforge]

I always considered that a red flag. It's feminine for girls to have girl friends so they can gossip and talk about girl things. When she says "she isn't good with girls" and "prefers guy company" what that is implying is that women might call her a slut or gossip about her (for a good reason) and that she ****s a lot of guys (because let's be real if she gets drunk with them they will ****). Wouldn't take for LTR, but for a ****buddy they can be great.

This honestly is true.

When I first met my ex, was was seeing eachother on a casual basis, no commitment at all.

My ex and her female friend went to a music event/party and they both got very very drunk by the end of the night.

How did they get home that night? A male friend picked them up in his car, and apparently took them home.

Two attractive girls, very drunk, getting inside a dudes car? Bro you know that dude is looking to fuk.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Women like men who are not insecure about other men finding her desirable.

 

[Divorced w 3]

The type of women who keep a guy around on text want emotional and sexual gratification from that guy on a purely needs basis. You need to make sure they know it’s not alrifht.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Thanks for the advice, but thanks again for sharing your peniz problems with us

Beats tasting other dudes semen and settling for fat chicks.

No offense that sht gotta suck. Viagra jus makes me better. Never seen u post texts of girls beggin to see u again. Or even pics of any girls for thst matter.

My problem is if a girl aint hot enough im not boning or i pop a pill. Your problem is falling in love with the taste of other dudes semen on your thot and being played like a fiddle lmao.

Btw since im being transparent you were always the top 5 worst posters on this site.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Advice from the old lady:

Several thoughts as a woman raised by a great father and as a woman who learned to hunt, shoot, fish, build things and fix things and who was always around capable men in the family and grew up in a neighborhood where it was 80% boys (so guess what, you grow up finding tadpoles in creeks, playing ball, ramping bikes & building forts.)

So guess which gender I was more comfortable and conversant with? Men!

I found women dramatic, fickle & fussy. And it baffled me that guys found these fussy fickle women interesting. Obviously I figured all that out years ago to my advantage, but Ive always had platonic male friends. I can’t stand orbiters however and I do not keep orbiters around. My male friends have always been desirable guys who are not interested in me and who I am not interested in. More like brothers.

And I am NOT insecure and I do NOT need male attention & validation. I genuinely like my friends as people, whether they be male or female. My husband has female friends. I don’t care. I have male friends. He doesn’t care. We’ve met each other’s opposite gender friends & gotten to know them as people.

It takes secure people to do that.

To me nothing screams insecure like a romantic interest who starts trying to dictate who I can be friends with. My attitude? F*ck off. These people were my friends when shjt went down & Ive known them for years. Who the hell are you to try to dictate my friendships. I just met you.

Hey there

Not saying you had any sort of attachment issues. Growing up around boys is different than being in semi regular contact with guys in your adult years. If that latter part is you, and I say this with no judgement, you were fcking at least a few of them and there is nothing you’re going to say to convince me otherwise. It’s just the game sis I get it.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Beats tasting other dudes semen and settling for fat chicks.

No offense that sht gotta suck. Viagra jus makes me better. Never seen u post texts of girls beggin to see u again. Or even pics of any girls for thst matter.

My problem is if a girl aint hot enough im not boning or i pop a pill. Your problem is falling in love with the taste of other dudes semen on your thot and being played like a fiddle lmao.

Btw since im being transparent you were always the top 5 worst posters on this site.

Dude I literally just took a 20mg Cialis and tore my girls shyt up. Do what you gotta do.

 

[NealIRC]

This is where men and women differ. You think they don’t have to have sex with you. But they are just waiting for a moment of weakness to swoop in and make love.

It doesn't have to be that way.

There is no guy in the history of the world, married or not, who is friends with a women and hasn’t thought about sleeping with her. It’s not in their DNA.

I research gangs, such as the Latin Kings gang. Almost 100% of people I interview are men. There is 1 Latin Queen in her 60s I interview. She gives me a lot of info about the gang in the 1970s... I don't care to sleep with her but I still be msging/texting her giving her money etc.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Im not big on female friends these days. When I was in high school, I would have banged 99% of my female "friends" if I could.

 

[soulforge]

I only had one female friend, she was kinda far and ugly. I only was freinds with her, because in her social circle, she had some hot friends.

By getting close the the fatty, I managed to get close to the hot ones.

Otherwise I have no use for female friends lol

 

[LTG71]

This is a sign of insecurity in the woman. Some need to be surrounded by a collection of men to draw attention and get validation, like a junkie. Their partner can’t provide enough to fill their dying need for validation. The attractive ones can get it easily from orbiters while the others become like a pesky little sister that men will tolerate. This is where men and women are different. Men only truly bother with women they find attractive and secretly want to fvck. Women on the other hand, see these male friends as female friends that pee standing up. Reason why they are oblivious and shocked when a male friend finally makes his move and she ”doesn’t see him that way.”

Doesn’t mean you can’t be acquaintances with the opposite gender but there is usually an underlining reason the interactions develop. What @BeExcellent is describing is the situation where kids grow up together and see each other as siblings. There is an ick factor. My wife has a friend with a daughter that is getting cuter everyday and moms talk about how great it would be if one of our boys dated her. My boys are like “hell no”, would be like dating a sister since they’ve known her for so long.

 

[soulforge]

This is a sign of insecurity in the woman. Some need to be surrounded by a collection of men to draw attention and get validation, like a junkie. Their partner can’t provide enough to fill their dying need for validation. The attractive ones can get it easily from orbiters while the others become like a pesky little sister that men will tolerate. This is where men and women are different. Men only truly bother with women they find attractive and secretly want to fvck. Women on the other hand, see these male friends as female friends that pee standing up. Reason why they are oblivious and shocked when a male friend finally makes his move and she ”doesn’t see him that way.”

Doesn’t mean you can’t be acquaintances with the opposite gender but there is usually an underlining reason the interactions develop. What @BeExcellent is describing is the situation where kids grow up together and see each other as siblings. There is an ick factor. My wife has a friend with a daughter that is getting cuter everyday and moms talk about how great it would be if one of our boys dated her. My boys are like “hell no”, would be like dating a sister since they’ve known her for so long.

Totally agree with this.

I am a firm believer, that even if she ditches her male friends, once she goes exclusive with you. The red flag still stands.

There has to be a deeper reason why a young attractive girl surrounds herself with mostly dudes.

Something I have come to realise is.. Girls who grew up without a masculine father figure in the home, raised by a single mom, tend to seek that Masculinity in random dudes instead. They often start to have sex very early & need that supply of Masculine energy, that they never received from the absent father.

I have seen first hand, how when things become a little difficult in a relationship or you have an argument with your girl over something, she immediately reaches out for those Male Friends again.

Those dudes are waiting like a fvking Hyena, for something to go wrong in her relationship, so he can manipulate her in that moment of weakness.

I think it's useless trying to get a girl to drop all the dudes she keeps around herself for validation. It's better to date someone who is naturally more inclined to keep female friends.

 

[member162951]

And what if that’s NOT the case? None of my guy friends want to have sex with me, not because I’m unattractive either, but that’s not the nature of the interaction. It’s like @Serenity said. You should be able to figure out the nature of the relationship very succinctly.

One of my close male friends read a passage at my wedding (which he attended with his serious GF).

@BeExcellent first off just want to say I believe you. But frankly, being as perceptive as you are I'm surprised this needs to be pointed out, this is NOT most men's experience.

You and your experiences, at least this particular one being able to maintain male friendships with no hassle, is NOT the norm for most women. It's just not.

Given the fact you have many good male friends, why don't you know that? Do they not share their own experiences with you? Being you're such a good friend and all?

Women have orbiters. Women have men pretending to be their friends when all the while they want to date them or at least f*ck them. And most women just love the attention too.

And it CAN become a big problem when she enters a relationship, rightfully so.

Yes we know you're not like that and I believe you! But again please understand you are not the "typical" woman, which is probably why you're able to garner the respect you have here.

Talk to your male friends. I'm shocked they haven't shared with you (as a friend) what the guys here have shared w/r/t women (their girlfriends) having male "friends."

Perhaps not in your world, but it's a BIG world other than yours and it can and has caused problems in many relationships.

 

[BeExcellent]

Hey there

Not saying you had any sort of attachment issues. Growing up around boys is different than being in semi regular contact with guys in your adult years. If that latter part is you, and I say this with no judgement, you were fcking at least a few of them and there is nothing you’re going to say to convince me otherwise. It’s just the game sis I get it.

Actually not so. I’ve always had male friends who were strictly friends. It’s called boundaries. Yes they were attractive men, yes I’m an attractive girl. I actually would often wing for these friends when we were out. I got one of my friends laid at least 2 dozen times because we’d dance together & then every woman in the nightclub (my first husband’s nightclub) wanted to dance with him. It was a riot.

This is why I love the players and playboys. They aren’t thirsty. I’m not the only pretty girl they know & Im not involved with them ever and so they have other pretty women they are involved with. Sure if we weren’t friends they’d hit on me, we would joke about that. But these men had the same kind of abundance with women that I’ve always had regarding men. Therefore the idea of crossing that boundary was weird. Total no go.

What this means is these players & I would advise each other about relationships with the dating partner and we could do that from the unique perspective of knowing the other person well, but never being sexually involved.

Never once slept or kissed or otherwise fooled around with any of these guys. I did have one or two reveal that they were orbiting along the way, and I dropped those two, because I do not entertain orbiters.

One of my player friends settled down with a gorgeous woman I set him up with. They got married recently. My husband and I had lunch with them last weekend.

I realize many men cannot wrap their brain around truly platonic friendships with hot women, but nevertheless they can exist.

Kirstie Alley & John Travolta
Sandra Bullock & Matthew McConoughey
etc.