I still don't consider myself a DJ, although Shezzler care to disagree. Thanks Shezz.
For those who have follow my journey when I join this forum. I created this nick Swoop to mean attack when I see a target. I was willing to put aside my ego and throw myself into Bootcamp training. Seriously, i thought I would fail but I wanted to at least admit I tried. I had low self esteem but I always try and look into the positive side of things. I am not young like most of you. Some people say when you are old, you probably can't do much to change or improve your being. That's a load of crap.
Anyways, I really put myself out there. I sarge 3 to 4 times a week. I did tons of approaches. In the beginning, I was horrible. I got shot down left and right. My ego was bruised. I hated clubs... cuz it was too hard. I confide in people for support, (Thanks Master Sapiens). I pick myself up. And I go out again. I re-read alot of materials. I try different methods. And finally, it starts to come together.
Through the help of some experience people, like Leviathan, Jariel and others who have guided me. I start to step back and analyze my mistakes. I start to drop all the canned materials, cuz it is sending the wrong signals to the girls. using other people material makes you come off as fake and girls can tell. You are not comfortable in your own skin and it shows in you bodylanguage. I realize that I must develop my inner game. I started doing things I enjoy and I dress better. I switch my mentality. I told myself, well, if a girl don't like me for who I am, then screw her. I approach, using my own personality as my weapon of choice. I don't care about rejection. My fear is no longer there and my insecurities about what ever I think is wrong with me, I drop it. I look myself in the mirror and I see that I am a great guy. I will be a great man one day. My attitude changed cuz my mindset changed. And all this created a different aura in me. I walked with pride and confidence. I talk to everyone I meet. I talked to hot girls like they are regular girls. And guess what? They were not *****y or walk away from me like they did in the past. They open up. I was shock. Now it's time to carry the convo... but my skill in that department was lacking and of course the girl gets turn off and leaves or if I did get the #, she flakes. I realize I can open up a girl now, any girl. Because it's all in the way you approach her. It has to be natural. The moment she looks at you, she is trying to read you. And if you are scared or insecure, she will think you are a loser. I don't have that inside me. I know I am a man. I open up a convo like a social stranger would. I talk and talk... and after doing this for a while now, I can finally grasp the concepts the seduction community was refering to. It's like driving a car, if you are not used to gas break and changing gears, you will be too focus on that to be actually thinking about where your heading and you're not gonna enjoy the ride, you can't observe what's going on in the environment. You are prone to crash and burn. It's like that in the Game. Because I have internalize some of the principles and my convo skills is up to par, I can actually analyze the girl I am talking to and decide how to guide our interaction. You can only acheive this through practice. You will also realize all girls are different... you can tell what she is looking for in a man by her actions and her responses and in what she says. I used that and demonstrate those values to her by sharing some amusing interesting stories of my past. Btw, I don't make up stories.. it makes me feel fake and feeling fake would destroy my genuine confidence. We all have interesting stories, you just have to dig deep to draw upon that to send the right message about yourself. And if you dont have any interesting stories, well go out more and do stuff you have never done before.
Anways, what success do I have to show for? I have reject sexual advances from mature women. I no longer need that. It's weird I know. Few months ago I want to get laid so bad, now that I get offers, I reject them. Why? Because I know I deserve better. I have game waitress, female bartenders, college chicks, girls with boyfriends and married women as well. I have made out with hot chicks. I got numbers that I delete cuz I lost interest. Finally, after realizing my improvements and that I finally have some game. I don't care about going after tons of girls, I am gonna go after the girls I truly desire.
And to my biggest suprised. I game the hottest girl in the club. The 10. My oneitis. I used push and pull. I tease her. Other guys shower her with attention, but I am the only one she tries and grab my attention. We finally got more intimate today. She kiss me. I act like it's normal. I didn't kiss her back. She stares into my eyes.. trying to get me to kiss her. I smile and kept the convo going. I would have never thought, a girl like this would ever pay attention to a guy like me. But with the right frame of mind and some skills. It's actually possible. We plan to hang out. She was the one who ask.
Since I am far from being a DJ, sometimes my AFCness kicks back in. I know there is a chance I could screw up everything and the girl loses interest. But you know what? It's doesn't matter. I learn not to beat myself up when i screw up. I just learn from it. I know as time pass, I'll get even better. As of right now, I am content. I know I got some skills now, I can even hook the 10s. Wow!
Again, I want to point out, I don't consider myself good or remotely a DJ. But I have made progress and I want to share this with you all to inspire you. Don't underestimate your own mind, it has the ability to adapt and learn. One day, things will make sense and it's only by subjecting yourself to approaching women over and over again that you truly understand. We all have a DJ inside of us, it is being prison by your fears, insecurities, and ego. Let him out. He'll take over.
Swoop
PS: I kept most of my field reports private. If you want to read some of them, pm me.
For those who have follow my journey when I join this forum. I created this nick Swoop to mean attack when I see a target. I was willing to put aside my ego and throw myself into Bootcamp training. Seriously, i thought I would fail but I wanted to at least admit I tried. I had low self esteem but I always try and look into the positive side of things. I am not young like most of you. Some people say when you are old, you probably can't do much to change or improve your being. That's a load of crap.
Anyways, I really put myself out there. I sarge 3 to 4 times a week. I did tons of approaches. In the beginning, I was horrible. I got shot down left and right. My ego was bruised. I hated clubs... cuz it was too hard. I confide in people for support, (Thanks Master Sapiens). I pick myself up. And I go out again. I re-read alot of materials. I try different methods. And finally, it starts to come together.
Through the help of some experience people, like Leviathan, Jariel and others who have guided me. I start to step back and analyze my mistakes. I start to drop all the canned materials, cuz it is sending the wrong signals to the girls. using other people material makes you come off as fake and girls can tell. You are not comfortable in your own skin and it shows in you bodylanguage. I realize that I must develop my inner game. I started doing things I enjoy and I dress better. I switch my mentality. I told myself, well, if a girl don't like me for who I am, then screw her. I approach, using my own personality as my weapon of choice. I don't care about rejection. My fear is no longer there and my insecurities about what ever I think is wrong with me, I drop it. I look myself in the mirror and I see that I am a great guy. I will be a great man one day. My attitude changed cuz my mindset changed. And all this created a different aura in me. I walked with pride and confidence. I talk to everyone I meet. I talked to hot girls like they are regular girls. And guess what? They were not *****y or walk away from me like they did in the past. They open up. I was shock. Now it's time to carry the convo... but my skill in that department was lacking and of course the girl gets turn off and leaves or if I did get the #, she flakes. I realize I can open up a girl now, any girl. Because it's all in the way you approach her. It has to be natural. The moment she looks at you, she is trying to read you. And if you are scared or insecure, she will think you are a loser. I don't have that inside me. I know I am a man. I open up a convo like a social stranger would. I talk and talk... and after doing this for a while now, I can finally grasp the concepts the seduction community was refering to. It's like driving a car, if you are not used to gas break and changing gears, you will be too focus on that to be actually thinking about where your heading and you're not gonna enjoy the ride, you can't observe what's going on in the environment. You are prone to crash and burn. It's like that in the Game. Because I have internalize some of the principles and my convo skills is up to par, I can actually analyze the girl I am talking to and decide how to guide our interaction. You can only acheive this through practice. You will also realize all girls are different... you can tell what she is looking for in a man by her actions and her responses and in what she says. I used that and demonstrate those values to her by sharing some amusing interesting stories of my past. Btw, I don't make up stories.. it makes me feel fake and feeling fake would destroy my genuine confidence. We all have interesting stories, you just have to dig deep to draw upon that to send the right message about yourself. And if you dont have any interesting stories, well go out more and do stuff you have never done before.
Anways, what success do I have to show for? I have reject sexual advances from mature women. I no longer need that. It's weird I know. Few months ago I want to get laid so bad, now that I get offers, I reject them. Why? Because I know I deserve better. I have game waitress, female bartenders, college chicks, girls with boyfriends and married women as well. I have made out with hot chicks. I got numbers that I delete cuz I lost interest. Finally, after realizing my improvements and that I finally have some game. I don't care about going after tons of girls, I am gonna go after the girls I truly desire.
And to my biggest suprised. I game the hottest girl in the club. The 10. My oneitis. I used push and pull. I tease her. Other guys shower her with attention, but I am the only one she tries and grab my attention. We finally got more intimate today. She kiss me. I act like it's normal. I didn't kiss her back. She stares into my eyes.. trying to get me to kiss her. I smile and kept the convo going. I would have never thought, a girl like this would ever pay attention to a guy like me. But with the right frame of mind and some skills. It's actually possible. We plan to hang out. She was the one who ask.
Since I am far from being a DJ, sometimes my AFCness kicks back in. I know there is a chance I could screw up everything and the girl loses interest. But you know what? It's doesn't matter. I learn not to beat myself up when i screw up. I just learn from it. I know as time pass, I'll get even better. As of right now, I am content. I know I got some skills now, I can even hook the 10s. Wow!
Again, I want to point out, I don't consider myself good or remotely a DJ. But I have made progress and I want to share this with you all to inspire you. Don't underestimate your own mind, it has the ability to adapt and learn. One day, things will make sense and it's only by subjecting yourself to approaching women over and over again that you truly understand. We all have a DJ inside of us, it is being prison by your fears, insecurities, and ego. Let him out. He'll take over.
Swoop
PS: I kept most of my field reports private. If you want to read some of them, pm me.
