Strategies dealing with a girl who fights for the frame.

[Divorced w 3]

Women who fight for the frame are like fish on a line. Let them run back and forth and tire themselves out, while still on your hook. Just make sure you want that fish because it’s a lot of energy.

 

[Glassguy]

This girl is insecure and has anxiety issues. That's driving a lot of her behavior.

I'd never take her serious. This one is acting too poorly, too early in the game. That never ends well.

She also seems to be very avoidant, thus after they meet and hang out she starts thinking about things and pulls away. If that is the case, it could be a constistently frustrating issue.

I think OP should just mimic her behavior. If she backs away, he backs away. Have fun when they get together and not worry so much about her behavior when they arent together. Let her wonder about him instead of the other way around. That in itself will build attraction and value on his end. If all goes well, she will stop overthinking it and want to see him more, which will eliminate the pull backs.

Age is only a thing if the man makes a big deal out of it. Dont act like its a big deal and it wont be a big deal.

Being this early on, just make the next date, see her there. No need for constant messaging and talking non stop in between dates/hanging out. That will keep her wondering and also build attraction/value.

Just my opinon.

 

[jhonny9546]

You're far better off with a 6.5 - 7.5 a woman thats more down to earth will make your life far easier in the long run

I know a down-to-earth women with strong family values and mannerisms.

She come from a perfect family and are genuinely good people.

However, She inherited borderline personality disorder from her grandmother.

It's like dealing with Gollum and Sméagol from Lord of the Rings, two personalities in one person.

 

[sevbucmash]

We have an age gap (41-28).

asks questions about me and my two children

In all honesty, she is just looking for a f-buddy and some fun. I don't see her long term going for older daddy with luggage.

 

[jhonny9546]

How can someone be a human being, come into the world, and have goals like cheating on their partner, or staying with them while having secret lovers and a double life?

I think a normal person wouldn't do these things. Instead, they would pursue normal and human aspirations, like hobbies, passions, education, and doing good.

That's why when something is said to be broken, it's truly broken and beyond repair. I know women like that.